November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

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We had a Pam Ayres poem as a reading (the one where she confesses what a shit wife she's likely to be?) I walked down the aisle to Runrig's 'Every river' because it reminds me of my late Mum and dancing round the kitchen together and the lyrics are lovely "Every river I try to cross, every hill I try to climb, every ocean I try to swim, every road I try to find - all the days of my life I'd rather be with you. There's no waaaaaaay without you". So now it reminds me of DH and my Mum.

Isles just seen some pics of the Forth storm surge at t'other side of the bridge - hope you're all ok x

BP sniffle! lovely lovely lovely reading.

This one yw?
^Yes, I’ll marry you, my dear.
And here’s the reason why.
So I can push you out of bed
When the baby starts to cry.
And if we hear a knocking
And it’s creepy and it’s late,
I hand you the torch you see,
And you investigate.

Yes I’ll marry you, my dear,
You may not apprehend it,
But when the tumble-drier goes
It’s you that has to mend it.
You have to face the neighbour
Should our labrador attack him,
And if a drunkard fondles me
It’s you that has to whack him.

Yes, I’ll marry you,
You’re virile and you’re lean,
My house is like a pigsty
You can help to keep it clean.
That sexy little dinner
Which you served by candlelight,
As I do chipolatas,
You can cook it every night!!!

It’s you who has to work the drill
And put up curtain track,
And when I’ve got PMT it’s you who gets the flak,
I do see great advantages,
But none of them for you,
And so before you see the light,
I DO, I DO, I DO!!^

Love that poem! I read it to dh, and he said "hmm yes that's you".

I did mean to say AIBU but I was so upset at that moment I forgot.

Yes. I detest having to communicate with him tbh yw I get quite anxious before I have to speak with him .

It is so me and DH that it made me properly giggle when I first read it.

That brought a tear to my eye too bp

Hope you are ok isles

Chocolate peanut butter rice crispie square and a baileys.

Well I have the letter from the lawers. The part regarding the house is wonderful. The part about N well... Oh I need to know lawyer speak.

Evil

Oo baileys. Om nom. Well it is Saturday night.

Oh Sophia your comment about your playroom made me cry Big Big hugs lovely lady. The man is a sod and I would like to give him a good slapping. He is being difficult because he can, but as others have said, you are the bigger person.

I walked up the aisle to 'here comes the bride'. A bit predictable.

PR funny you say about the table and chairs. I got our Ikea set out today and put them in the lounge. J sat up on the chair for some time, then did a Del Boy and fell off. I was thinking it is too early. It is a round table, and he walked around it, holding onto it, about a dozen times, laughing with glee.

CMPI mums please talk to me about milk substitutes. I have today bought some Koko stuff, and used it to make scrambled egg for everyone, and replaced 1oz of his bottles with it also. Is this what I am meant to be doing? Is he meant to be on Nutrimigen as long as he wants a bottle, or is the aim to get him onto a substitute? I know with non CMPI babies the aim is, in the UK anyway, to get them off FF onto cows milk, but that is because of the calcium and fat in the milk. Does Koko have the same benefits or should I keep up with the formula to meet his nutritional needs? He is eating really well now so doesn't need the formula like he used to. And is there anything cheaper or better? Thank you

Oh Sophia I don't know what to say. Big big hugs

I really hate the amount of pressure put on anyone at any stage to feed their baby in a particular way. To be perfectly honest if their wasn't so much pressure and expectation, I would have quit bf long before I did and saved myself and M a lot of stress and upset. It is such an emotive subject.

Viewed house. Fell in love with house. Need 8k this month to buy the house. . Unlikely to get loan/mortgage at the same time so going to go back on Monday and potentially reserve one that hasn't been built yet off plan for a potential move at the end of Summer. By then I will of saved more than enough for deposit/fees/moving costs without borrowing a penny. my bastard landlord will be lucky if he gets a penny in that time and will have fun evicting us with a child under 5 - although I have factored rent into my calculations

sp there

YW we are fine. (D)P joked earlier about taking the dinghy out to play. Next door actually did it !

BP! DH thinks I am a nutter as I keep bursting into tears on here

VQ I have found oatly to be the most palatable for cooking. The dietitian told me that she should be on nutramigen til 1, then try soya formulas, but if still intolerant to continue to age 2. Presumably to do with nutrients/calcium?

I would be very surprised if he managed to evict you in that time isles. Not sure if you are serious But as tenants with a child you have a very strong position.

The weather has been atrocious here. Not on the coast here but the river has been really high.

Are you feeling better yw? I had a relapse today and have felt absolutely awful. Combine that with a nasty case of cystitis and I have been very sorry for myself. Thankfully granny and grampa were on hand for Pentertainment and DH has been grand. P is definitely on the mend.

Can you explain any of it evil? Maybe someone on the Facebook quiche would be able to help a bit

I read that article and cried because I don't have a single sign that I carried my girl . I knoe, I know, no pleasing some of us.

Fecking hormones.

Isles awesome plan and as he's a chancer not fond of paperwork and other such formalities he risks having exactly zero leg to stand on. Glad to hear you're all safe. Hawes pier and the front at SQ looked submerged!

We had no music or special words at our wedding. Us and our 8 guests, and my awful hair just walked in, sat down, said what we had to and left. The mayoress said some lovely words about having children, which I silently snorted at as, tbh, I wasn't all that into having kids then. When we walked out MIL said something along the lines of oh yes, have one child, but not two, two is a pita. Which must have been lovely for sil to hear.

But it was a lovely day. pass that poem suits us too :o

vq DD1 loves the table and chairs (round table here too). LO had great fun upturning the chairs. They make a lovely noise on the wooden floors.

Lol. I saw someone on the sea here in a canoe this afternoon! Lunatic.

Very open honest moment before I go back to trucking along.

My life is two complete opposites. I am so so so happy with my
DH and my two gorgeous wonderful boys. I DO live in a a wonderful home in a beautiful location with family support around. My day to day is pretty perfect. BUT always in my mind is my gorgeous girls who I love so much and miss every day. I talk to the boys about them and I write to them and call them once or twice a week dreading their father going, " oh we are v busy it will have to be a quick one" every time I call. When I was in England I travelled 300 miles most weeks to collect them from school and return them to just over half way (so less travel for their dad) . He owes me a lot of money from the house which I have not had, at the moment I have halved what I give every month to give him a half from savings and half off what he owes me. My savings will only last till April or May I think. I give over double what CSa said, for when I was working, I am now not working. But they are my daughters. And again, if I stand up to him he cOuld sop me seeing my girls. So I pray and I put up with it and I smile and I count the blessings I have and make the most of every moment with everyone of my children.

As you were.

Sounds like it's just about power and control Sophia. You're doing the right thing by maintaining peace with him, your girls will respect you for that when they're older. It can't be easy for a child when one parent is bad mouthing the other. You're doing your best by your girls and your time will come.

sophia your girls may well decide they want to live with you when they are old enough. I think the French courts say 10 is an appropriate age to decide for themselves but I'd have to check that. Would that ever be a viable option wrt to DH?

Oh and vq we have been given no direction whatso ever. No one has expressed an opinion re moving on from formula. Every time we get a repeat prescription I expect someone to query it but no. Last time we saw the paed he just said that it would be daft to change anything so we would wait until the next app which is in feb.

P is now comfortably eating cheese but she has never had unadulterated milk. I rarely cook with milk but when I have I use calcium enriched oatley.

You had mentioned aaaaages ago YW about the possibility of avoiding dairy in the third trimester of future pregnancies to prevent CMPI. Has there been much research on this? Hindsight is a wonderful thing and makes me wonder whether DS1's 'colic' and DS2's bowel and sleep problems could have been due to undiagnosed egg intolerance.