November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

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Passed with merit.

Will catch up later, off to get my girl . From skim reading though, pr you are well rid. I hope dh stands by you on that decision. Give dd1 a big quiche cuddle, poor wee soul xx

That sounds awful pr.

I had a row with my brother on Xmas day which really out me in the mood for the rest of the year. I've thought very hard and decided to change my will, him and his wife are named as guardians for Olivia but actually I want my parents to have her if anything happens. We fundamentally do not agree on parenting with my brother and he sees me as a bad parent just because I do not do certain things their way. I know I am a very good mum of O, not perfect but the best in this situation. So will call lawyer on Monday and get it changed.

Where is gt?

Have been wondering about gt too Lily

I get your point about being happy with how you are raising O. I often have doubts about my parenting skills, but MIL has, despite her best efforts to the contrary, given me huge confidence that I am doing the right thing by them.

Very well done Isles

Well done Isles

Lily, from what you have told me about your brother and also about your parents, that sounds very sensible. This is also something that I need to think about. I actually don't know what would happen to O if anything happened to me and that is a scary thought.

PR I am just speechless. To say the things she did was bad enough. But in front of your children? I am so glad you are hopefully rid of her now.

isles well done!

Hope all ok gt

Congratulations isles

chasing i assume O would go to your ex as you both have parental responsibilities. You need to agree on who would raise O if something happens to the two of you.

Well done isles.

I have done a chilli for dinner tonight, I've just tasted it and wonder if it might be a bit hot for S (it's not particularly hot as I don't like things too hot) the only things I have in that I can think would cool it are double cream or Philadelphia, would either of those work?

I think the cream would do it, or butter. Was it you who was asking for advice on tartiflette btw?

Congratulations isles

R would go to bil if anything happens, they have a ds a month older and i know they don't have a big enough cupboard under the stairs

That was fatima

Sour cream? Natural yoghurt.

I am back from my low tech day. Has been lovely. Classic Fm and colouring, a bit of wind (outside play I thank you)

I did just briefly check the too tires of waves raging over over the harbour wall but that was it.

Hope your day has been good pr calm AFTER the storm and all that.

Feeling a bit worried re gt now is anyone lr friends with her on fb?

GT liked a picture of mine on Wednesday so she is lurking.

Work was wonderful and I am not being sarcastic. It was great to have just a bit of space and peace. Only one client turned up so I got loads of stuff done The kids had a lovely day too.

PR that is just awful. Big hugs x

She played on wwf with me earlier today also.

Sorry fatima for not getting back to you on that. If you use the good food recipe as a base, with any combination of cheese you like melted, adding creme fraiche instead of cream but little by little to get the right texture iyswim. Cook it slowly. It can be reheated but slowly and covered in foil.

I haven't made it in ages but if you follow a basic frame with the key ingredients you can't go wrong.

Am doing fondu tomorrow night.

I tried her with it as it was, she's obviously not as much of a wimp as me and had nearly all of it.
Yes it was fatima that was asking about the other thing.

My two have both surprised me with how much spice they can take. I credit the curry I ate right through pregnancy. Have felt so calm today it's been lovely. LO has been chilled out, had two great naps, DD1 has been good since our little chat this morning. Keeps asking where her grandad has gone but evidently unimpressed by her gran, who she keeps referring to as angry. And every time I say she was angry with mummy and that's ok. And she thinks for a few minutes.

If it had been even six months later I think long term damage could have been done, but out of sight out of mind will take over now and forever

PR I'd have buried her and her peeler under the patio. Bitch!!!!! Obviously it's not ideal for either DD to witness an epic row like that even once but it wasn't your doing and it was a one off so I'm sure they'll forget it with help from you. It's not like living in a house where Mum and Dad are always having screaming fights we all know that can scar kids badly making them withdrawn and unsettled. The fact that you were being a voice of reason and trying to end it will also have been noticed - they know you are the 'good guys' and MIL the unhinged one.

Isles well done!

VQ glad you had a lovely day.

Cross post - the fact she calls MIL "angry" says it all!

Jonas loves chilli and curry made to the same spice we eat (rogan Josh, madras). Sick of seeing him as a pudding deprived dairy freer - his auntie gave him a meringue nest today and it was like he'd died and gone to heaven! The sugar rush and crash was a sight to behold!

I know you probably can't do it yet but watching LO eat a jaffa cake and get the high and low was masses of fun. I love giving them occasional treats like that, but dd1 hates choxolate so it is easy to not give them that rush iyswim too often.

However I let both of them have one of my pickled onion flavoured monster munch today. Watching their little faces was hilarious. I don't think they liked them but they were certainly intrigued :o

DH just got an sms from FIL. We got home ok, we love you (plural)

From what you say PR, I feel a bit sorry for FIL caught up in MIL's issues.

Another first here.
A proper tantrum at the suprermaket, and people were looking. I even had to pull him along on his bum. Cause he stopped right in the middle of the self checkout blocking everything. Yes, I got the stamping of feet too.

The weather has been awful, we both got caught in a hail storm. N hated it, and cried. We both got soaked.

I think the cat has thrown up, but I can't find anything. Can't smell anything too.

Evil

Me too to an extent. But DHgoes back well over 40 years of issues with her and he never once strapped on a pair and stood up to her. I HATE the term henpecked, as it is used in such a misogynistic way but she bullies him too.

DH answered: it's such a shame, your (singular) granddaughter was asking after you (singular) all day.

Which is true.
I wanted him to add you (singular) are welcome to come back any time. But Dh is even more conciliatory than I am.

If she ever wants to see her granddaughters again it is under supervision, for an hour, and she has to come here but not stay here or eat with us. Tough shit if fil doesn't dare come on his own.

It 's nice to know they are over 1000 km away right now.

Evil this is the age of the tantrums. First rule: forget what other people may think. Tantrums can be funny as long as you detach yourself and don't let on to toddler that it is funny. They hate that :o