October 2013 Bus Graduates - Routines?! Our babies clearly haven't read the manual.

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Apologies for the x-posting that meant there's no thread link in the last thread .
I'll start this one and hope people find it.

Nat don't feel like you should suffer in silence if you are low. The best thing you can do is tell people. Still depression and PND carries a stigma but so many people have it, but few ever admit to it for fear of being judged.
I've suffered with anxiety in the past and recent stresses have triggered what I believe to be PND, as you know I was prescribed anti D's, I took one but in my heart felt it wasn't the right choice as I've been on anti d before and I don't think they work a great deal, probably more of a placebo effect. It's time for me, I don't deal with stress very well I've come to find.
H most def loves you. You are after all his mummy. All the health care professionals have been most understanding when I've told them how I've been feeling recently and actually reassured me that I'm normal for experiencing these feelings and anxieties, so done feel that you can't speak to them, they see this day in day out.

So A has been awake since 9am wtf, I thought babies liked to sleep. It made for an interesting trip to the hairdressers especially when she wanted to feed for over an hour whilst I was having my foils done, so needs must and I whapped my boob out in the middle of the salon. Then she decided to scream so I had to call for help and Mary our cleaner lives just around the corner so she came and nursed her whilst I had my hair cut and blow dried ! Thank god for Mary...

sorry lots of you seem to be struggling. this motherhood business really isn't easy!
I'm just sat playing with my Christmas present from do, a hudl!, haha. so naughty but I knew I was getting it so we agreed there was no point in it sitting in the box till Xmas!

Nat I missed that you had been feeling low

We have the Uppababy Vista and the Maxi-Cosi Pebble. I've just looked at the manual and you're supposed to push both buttons down on the car seat and lift the seat off. But you need two pairs of hands! Besides, it wouldn't budge when I did that - I even tried hooking the car seat handle round my neck... I ended up taking the adapters off the frame.

Ana enjoy the Xmas markets I'm very jealous. I was going to meet Dp in town after work and we were going to go but as A won't settle I thought it best not too.

Not only has she not slept all day she cries when I sit down with her or try and put her in the sling. She just wants to be walked around constantly it's quite draining and she's getting heavy now!

Orange enjoy your dinner with dh friends, as someone said babies and pg mums to be are a great topic of conversation.

MrsHN - we have the same pram and car seat and the same issue! I find it a bit easier if I try take the car seat off the frame from the head side of the car seat, if that makes sense?

flyer do u mean Mary the cleaner breast fed A?

mrshn I laughed out loud about u hooking the seat round your next lol we had to ring my friend who has the same seat and base when we were discharged from hospital as we couldn't figure out how to get the seat off the isofix base lol

I have been refreshing the old thread for a couple of hours, wondering why there were no new posts - baby brain!

mrshn i once drove home from a friends with carseat securely in car but without baby strapped in as i had undone straps to get him out then just sat him back in and put a blanket over him whilst he slept then picked up whole thing and put in car without noticing. you only do it once!

nat i echo the others - do speak to someone if you're feeling down but you are the whole world to H, he loves you.

Babies are so random aren't they? yesterday T was awake all day and only settled at 10pm. today he has slept all day bar about 30 mins, no idea what he's doing...

I love xmas but no idea when i'm going to get any shopping done. i need to go for a day and blitz it, but doesnt appeal with having to stop for feeds and changes etc. i really need to express some milk and see if T will take a bottle so i can leave him for a few hours with somebody but just can't get round to even digging out my pump.

6 week check for both of us tomorrow. hoping no checks done as hair removal is somewhat lacking, but maybe will try and sort it out just in case.
will stop rambling now

Haha Nat Mary the cleaner is 67 I doubt her boobies have any milk supplies. I breast fed A then called on Mary to nurse her (walk around the salon with her on her shoulder)

A feeding query: baby feeds normally during the day but like he's been starved in the evening. Can go on for an hour +. Is this normal?. Also I feed to sleep at bedtime (now), do others or am I making an awful habit here? Not sure what you're meant to do otherwise.

Dp has just taken baby A and lulu the dog for a walk, I'm sat in my pyjamas drinking a large glass of Shiraz....Bliss

Haha flyeri thought the word nurse meant 'to feed' I thought it was very strange that's y I asked haha x

Ready A is exactly the same, snacks by day and has a mega appetite come evening time and feeds for much longer and much more frequent. I also nurse her to sleep with breast feeding.

Please please don't worry about nursing to sleep or any of the rod for your own back nonsense! It's the best way to get babies to sleep and at this age, you can't stop them falling asleep on the boob. I only stopped feeding to sleep when I weaned DD and she had no probs falling asleep by herself when I weaned her. Honestly, if you've got it, use it!

Hugs Nat. As others have said, I do think its probably all totally normal feelings, but if it is PND it's just one of those horrid random things and nothing at all to be ashamed of. There is also no way SS would be involved for PND alone so please don't let that be a factor.

Also, H and V are the opposite to Flyer's A etc... They take on good amounts in the day but are so sleepy at night they often feed for five mins only and can't stay awake for longer. I'm sure that's stopping them going longer than 3/4 hours. Upside is we're all asleep again within 20 mins. Downside is we are then awake three hours later!

Oh and Apperly, I did the not strapped in thing once with DD

I'm on the Shiraz, too Flyer as Al has just gone to sleep for the first time properly since 7am! He's quite content while awake, so I'm not worried, and he banked about 2hrs of 5-10min catnaps during the day, but it is a bit full on. He likes to be held, but has rejected two different slings, so today I raided Netflix and was dancing and singing around the living room with him to Mary Poppins.

nat where I'm from nurse means breastfeed. I gave DH's grandmother a very strange look when she talked about nursing him, then he explained what she meant by it.

J screamed as we we getting him ready to leave then suddenly fell asleep when the pram started moving. He was so quiet that we got lots of comments about how good he is. Then, all if a sudden he started screaming again. I'm now feeding him in the ultra-glamorous Arndale centre food court. We really need a better plan for feeds when out and about. It's just hard because his demand is so unpredictable.

And legally I agree. I think the rod for my back would be trying to figure out how to get j to sleep without feeding him.

Ok so baby A is still going nearly 12 hours after being awake, she is like a blimin Duracell bunny!

She's fussy on the boobs and crying non stop, mucus sick I wonder if it's the 6 week growth spurt or her cold making her like this.

Oh no poor A flyer. Is her nose blocked maybe that's why she's fussy? Try saline drops or steam?? It's horrible when they're like that. Maybe a bit of white noise might help calm her down? I've been playing it on my phone at night time feeds, not sure if it helps but makes me feel like I'm doing something?

nat sorry you're still feeling bad. Baby H loves you so much and you're a great mum to him and dd. please talk to your hv/gp about how you're feeling. They hopefully will be able to reassure you that all is well and if not they can help you. It's been somewhat overwhelming with two and I think that has affected the initial enjoyment of a new baby for me. It's getting better but some days I want to run away from my life too! Hugs xx

Chick thanks for the white noise tip I've just put the beloved vacuum cleaner sound on. She had all mucus up her nose so we've just put saline drops up there. She's really sad tonight

mrshn dh almost did same thing last weekend and I was there thinking something isn't right but couldn't figure out what . As others said we won't do it again!

Ana hope you're enjoying the markets now after your feed. We went to toronto Santa parade and I had to feed M on a bench cos of course she woke up shouting like ten mins before Santa due to arrive!! It was fine, but a little chilly :)

I feed to sleep here too. Not worrying about it at the moment! Was fine with ds and they are this little for such a short time. Enjoy the cuddles and ignore any rod for backs advice xx

Thanks for thread shire!

And mrs, anything how's the uppababy vista? I was tempted by it big time but I use a lot of public transport so think a bit big?

Aww poor thing flyer. Hope she settles for you soon xx

nat, speak to your HV or GP. Seriously, don't worry about social services. They're massively under resourced and won't be remotely interested in a good mother who is struggling a wee bit.

G has been cluster feeding all evening and my nipples are killing me. Was hoping to try out the breast pump tonight but no way. Might try tomorrow. It looks awkward though - do you hold the bottles in front of you/ sit in front of a table? How to hold it onto both boobs and also hit the power button? I don't think I have enough hands!

She's awake again, my poor nipples!!

Chickie its good so far. It's quite wide and the back wheels are wider than the front so I keep catching them. It's tricky to get into the basket with the bassinet on, but it will be great with the seat - the basket is huuuuge, I can almost get my weekly shop in there and it's so nice not to have to have the change bag hanging off the handle bar. It's heavy, which is not a massive problem for me, but I can see that it would be a pain on public transport if you have to fold it.

Here for those with the more expensive prams its all bugaboos and icandy so I'm quite pleased to have something different, plus mine is a rare colour - the main stockist (John Lewis) never sold this colour so I like being different!