October 2013 Bus Graduates - Routines?! Our babies clearly haven't read the manual.

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Apologies for the x-posting that meant there's no thread link in the last thread .
I'll start this one and hope people find it.

Jelly that sounds like a really positive visit and things that can be fixed hopefully.
Have a great time mnippy.

jelly that's so interesting. J looks mostly to the right. HV and GP said he was fine but if anything it's getting worse. How much did the chiropractor cost, if you don't mind me asking?

mnippy have fun in France!

I don't know if you guys remember when I ordered the breast pump on eBay then freaked out about it. Well it came badly packaged in a very thin, ripped bin bag, with parts exposed through the rips. I've now opened a dispute about it which feels weird because I've never done that. DH has sold a lot of stuff online and insisted I pursue a refund because it's unacceptable. So the saga continues. I had been planning to actually try using it.

Anna don't worry my ds1 also looked mostly one way. Things I did include getting a cot mobile to encourage him to look up. Rotate the way he sleeps, so head on left side of cot one night, on right side of cot the nxt. This was so if he was looking at something in the room, in my sons case the window, the way he was looking kept changing. Also holding him on alternate arms as he tended to snuggle towards me, and because I ff I always fed him with the same hand iykwim.

So its not a sign anything is majorly wrong. Hope that helps.

Ana I second what GT says, we only went to chiropractor as he was failing development checks and we couldn't physically turn his head to other side. All babies prefer to look one way but try all things GT says to encourage head movement. All Jellybabies toys, mobile etc were at his other side and he would lie looking at the wall.

Chiropractor is not cheap £45 for first session and £33 for follow ups. We going to a practice in a town, not sure where you are in country but it could be a lot dearer

Have a lovely trip mnippy

Jelly I hope things start to improve for jelly baby that sounds like a v worthwhile visit to the chiropractor.

Meant to say thanks to Chickeno1 for reassurance re flannel, seems to have worked with no ill effects. Am thinking the sensitivity of his skin depends on other factors. Like the day of the week... Much clearer now despite doing the same things?

Very unsettled baby. Begrudgingly co sleeping. Bed really not big enough for 3 of us, and I always end up with least space. Baby with starfish arms and gro bag takes up lots of room... Please let wonder week/vacc aftermath get better soon!

Thanks GT and Jelly. In real life no one I know has any experience with this. We're already trying to encourage him to switch sides.

Chiro sounds great jelly. Hope improvements continue.
feminist we co sleep and I just have baby stars in his best and sleepsuit, he's always toasty warm next to me and takes up less room than if he's in a bag.

I have a very unsettled baby here. On my 6th or 7th feed of the day which can't be right but nothing else I try seems to satisfy her.

The physio that we're seeing for G's hip dysplasia noticed that she favours the left side. Apparently it's really common to favour one side or the other and it could be due to positioning in the womb. We've been advised to encourage her to use the other side more but not to worry too much.

purple, that does sound a lot, but maybe that's what she needs today for some reason? How old is she? Could it be a growth spurt?

I've had to cancel meeting my nct buddies for coffee and cake as G doesn't fit in her car seat with the harness and it's somewhere I can't get to on public transport. I was feeling really glum about it but then realised how lucky I am that I live somewhere that not being able to travel by car is such a minor thing. If we lived somewhere more rural, I would be totally isolated for 12 weeks and would be going nuts! As it is, she has had the harness for 4 weeks before I even had to try her in the car seat so really shouldn't complain.

Still frustrating though I can imagine Soup. Yes she is 9 weeks tomorrow and has not been very happy so I am hoping it is just that. She always feeds alot in the morning, making it hard to make it out the door, just not that much.

Oh no soup what a pain. So glad you are not completely housebound but still disappointing today and annoying for the next couple of months. I wouldn't have thought of that.

Went for lunch with an ex colleague today. She said "so what else is new with you?" Uuuh just the baby! I suppose until you have one you don't realise how massive it is. Though some of you have been busy getting qualifications and all sorts. Thomas has been my only focus and that's plenty for me! Nice to see her and get out for lunch though.

Sorry Soup that's rubbish. You probably already know this, but just on case you don't, there's a charity called steps who can advise you re carseats. I think my friend hired one either through them or the hospital.

Jelly hoped the chiro helps.

Orange it's amazing how all-consuming a new baby is, isn't it. :) I sometimes wonder what I used to do with all my time - sleep probably!

Can I ask how much your babies sleep? JellyBaby seems to sleep all the time here's his routine

8am : wake for bottle
8.45 : fall asleep on school run
10am: wake up
11:30 : fall asleep
12:30 : wake for bottle
14:00 : sleep
16:30 : wake for bottle
18:30: fall asleep
19:30 : wake for bottle
20:30 : another bottle
21:00 : bed
04:00 : bottle and bed for 04:30

Think I counted he sleeps for about 16.5 to 17 hours a day, sometimes more. Is this normal for 12 weeks?

I'd say completely normal. Most newborns can only stay awake for an hour or so at a time, max two hours. If they are awake longer they become overtired. Having said that B is often awake for longer but he's definitely overtired and 'wired' looking- takes longer to get him to sleep when he's like that too.

Good luck slippy

I just need to let off steam after one of my friends described N as bad we went to a party on Saturday and ended up leaving early as N was unsettled and was sick on the settee. Whilst other friends of ours also took a baby who slept through it. He described them as being 'bad baby' and good baby. He is essentially a nice guy and known for saying stupid things but still, my poor little N

Grr bronze. Not his fault he was sick, poor little thing. I've had a few people ask me if he is good. I don't even know what that means. I always say yes, very.

Jelly I have found the book 'your baby week by week' helpful. It says a 12 week old baby is expected to sleep for 14-16 hours a day but all babies slightly different, so sounds about right.

DH has been a total prick to me and really upset me :(

I posted recently about being constipated and whilst it has gotten better, occasionally I might still get caught out...like tonight. I fed LO before I went and he was fine until about 10 mins later when he starts screaming.

Obviously I'm trying to hurry up anyway but particularly when he's screaming only to have DH snap at me for taking a while and 'why do I have to when LO is screaming' and 'you could have gone earlier'

ARE YOU FOR REAL YOU WANKBADGER!!

Firstly, he wasn't screaming when I went and what free time do I have these days?!

Such a prick :( I stress so much trying to get stuff done in the day like cleaning, cooking, Christmas stuff, admin-y bits (so he doesn't have to when he gets home) and I prioritise all of that stuff over doing things for me and he has the balls to make comments like that.

As if I don't feel bad enough as it is.

Sorry, not a nice subject to rant about :(

J only sleeps ( if I am lucky) maximum 12 hours a day....and still quite happy. Ds was the same but I mentioned to gp who was happy about it...

Untitled...give yourself priority over the other things, because you already put LO first. If a could smack dh/dps here that say/ do the selfish thing I would!!!poor you hun! X

J had first vaccinations today....very grumpy !! My check up was today and I complained about a hv that treats me like I am an idiot. She discards that is my 3dc... Gp said I wasn't the only one to complain....felt better after that!

Untitled he is mean for saying those things. Try to make some me time for yourself.
Tomorrow during lo nap watch Tv or read a book. Half hour even. Today I had a nap with lo. Should so it every day.

Untitled it is so difficult to go to the loo with a screaming baby, doesn't help things relax. I try to go each morning when T is happy to look at his toy rabbit for a few minutes but have often shuffled back into the bedroom with my trousers round my ankles... And not going makes it worse. Grrr at Dh. A constipated uncomfortable wife is not going to want to dtd with him... And in fact will probably get piles or fissures making it even less likely...

Last night was a "step back" night after nearly 6 solid hours of sleep the night before for the first time ever, Thomas decided to wake at 2, then at 4 and stayed awake since then pretty much. Not crying all the time just noisy but if I closed my eyes, turned off the light he cried and all the wingeing/smiling/kicking/playing made him hungry at last every hour. Bleugh tired mummy today.

What is going on with all these cranky babies?! I'm starting to think it's the full moon!! fgrin
N slept half 10 til half 1 then nothing til 5am! Did an hour, woke up hungry, fed again, slept 40 mins, now feeding again!!
I'm exhausted.
untitled so sorry you're having a bad time of it, I hope your dh sees the error of his ways this morning. Definitely make a little time for you today.

Untitled when you have a baby you are not allowed to shit in peace!
Seriously though just tell dh that O Is as much his son as he is yours and he NEEDS to learn to soothe him too, it's not all heaped on you here.

A defo does not sleep for even 12 hours a day. I'd say 8-10 hrs max. Maybe that's why she's constantly cranky. The poor madam is overtired.
She still won't be put down in the daytime just loves being on the shoulder walking around, it's so tiring!

Thanks all - I got an apology this morning before he went to work and I reminded him of everything I'm doing to keep the house running and keep LO happy so I think I'm entitled to go to the loo in peace and not be reprimanded for being off duty!!

I'm thinking I might start expressing again so one night over the Christmas hols when DH is off work he can do a full night and I'll go and sleep for 8 hours...