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November 2012 - The last few first birthdays then we're on to Christmas

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StuntNun · 20/11/2013 23:33

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Passmethecrisps · 21/11/2013 21:54

Did I tell you all about potty lady at work?

No?

Well ok then!

Lovely lady at work was telling me all about her grandson and all the wonderful things he does. She added that he does get constipated though. I commiserated and said that was miserable. She said she had no idea as hers were never bunged up because she put them on the potty as soon as they could sit unaided. That was where they were. All the time. Then she said "you'll put wee p on the potty, aye?" I said "no! She isn't even a year yet" (old news - Soz).

Poor lady looked deflated. "Well, ah suppose the rules change, eh?" I felt bad because I could have blathered on about elimination communication and so on to make her feel better but all I could think was p rampaging around with the potty on her head, widdling like a mouse

Kyz · 21/11/2013 21:55

I took e to his great grandads and he was asking does he this and that and his great grandads lady friend made it no secret that she though he wasn't doing so fab. When I put him on the floor she said 'but surely he can walk, a boy of his age?' And when I fed him she said 'he'll do it himself if you leave him to it, he should manage well enough at his age' and she kept holding items up and repeating what they were very slowly and when he didn't copy the words she said oh well at least he is a happy soul, it doesn't matter to him if he's behind, my nephew has a backwards son, he's quite the same. As long as they're happy. This all made me quite upset :( dp wasn't there, mil was and she said to take no notice and great grandad is deaf as a post and was taken with e pointing at his buttons.

Then when I took him to get his new shoes (a size six!!!!!!) the lady kept talking to him like he should understand every word. She seemed quite annoyed when I said he could pick his own shoes (she gave me the softest ones to choose from and I said I let him pick his own as I always do let him choose his clothes, always have since he has been able to) and she said I wouldn't bother I'm sure he won't mind he seems quite happy just sitting there. And that upset me too and probably shouldn't. Feels like people expect more from him?

Then sis is poisonous, last week she rang me to tell me my DN had learned how to put washing in the machine and could do little peg jigsaws and I said I was really busy (on a ladder at the time) and could she show me when I next see her and she said 'I thought you'd appreciate the news, it must be so frustrating having e'

Makes me really sad, and I feel a bit lost when people ask me what he says and can he walk etc. I keep saying when he wants to because he does, he is capable when he wants to get somewhere or something

Anyway :(

evil hope you're ok?

Sophiathesnowfairy · 21/11/2013 21:56

I know pass but some people might think is kinky so I keep it to myself!

Passmethecrisps · 21/11/2013 21:56

My MIL is convinced that my DH said the following at 10 months old

"Look at the lovely snow flakes mam. They are like jewels falling from the sky"

Sophiathesnowfairy · 21/11/2013 21:58

Hahahahahahahaha Grin

Passmethecrisps · 21/11/2013 22:01

kyz I would like to punch all of their faces. I am sorry you have to hear such ignorance. Because that is what it is. The shoe lady was probably closest to the truth - p would dress herself in aging pussy if I let her. But feeding themselves and so on? Meh. If they do then that is wonderful but if not then also fab.

I know lots and lots of children who don't perform to 'the norm' but are exceptional. And I don't at all mean in a head-patty "look how happy he is" kind of a way. Just that we are all wired differently and preconceived notions of intellect are nonsensical.

I couldn't tell the time or tie my shoelaces until I was 11.

ChasingDaisy · 21/11/2013 22:05

Yes to wet shower trays Sophia. When I have finished my morning shower, O clambers in and pulls my hair out of the plug hole Envy

He loves being chased also. Complete with squealing and checking to make sure I am still chasing him.

PetiteRaleuse · 21/11/2013 22:11

'It must be so frustrating having e' wtf Angry

I'd have been very sweary in your shoes kyz at that comment Angry your E is fab, and you are fab too.

Elizadoesdolittle · 21/11/2013 22:13

kyz WHo the fuck in their right mind thought E was behind. Have you read the list of things you wrote that E can do. Jeez!!

And putting things into perspective, when was the last time somebody asked you how old you were when YOU crawled, walked, first said a word etc etc. It means shit. Sorry for mini rant Grin.

vq That's fab news on the sickness. Long may it continue. Was just thinking today that E hasn't been sick for a while either. Bet I've bloody jinxed that now.

Hmmm if it's noisy and annoying jj that means E will love it. Me and DH in particular will not!

E's fave things at the moment:
Emptying packets of wipes
Throwing all the bath toys out of the bath (and there are a lot)
Climbing into the dishwasher whilst I'm trying to load/unload it
Standing by DD1'S table and sweeping everything on it onto the floor

Hmm yep, just generally being destructive. Luckily she's cute with it.

FatimaLovesBread · 21/11/2013 22:15

Marking place

Quick fish slap for kyz E is not behind at all! He sounds fab. I agree that people remember things differently from when there's were little. It must make you feel shit but try to just smile and nod. Twats Grin

I've never cleaned so much, house is almost spotless, just a few more jobs to do. Bloody first birthdays

Some twats fallen against the car tonight and broken our wing mirror off, he said it wasn't him but our neighbour says differently. That's money and time we don't have that we'll need to get it fixed Angry

Happy birthday pr, O and anyone I've missed.

Welcome lydie

Loves the FB photo in the drawer! M once got in the dishwasher and today at my parents was trying to sit in the tiny DVD cupboard of the tv stand Grin

M's new word this week is boobie although it sounds more like bubby, then she tries to lift my top up. She walks, in fact I can't remember the last time is saw her crawl, says 10-15 words and is obsessed by woof-woofs.

Elizadoesdolittle · 21/11/2013 22:16

Cross posts kyz. Fucking mentalists, the lot of them. Angry on your behalf.

FatimaLovesBread · 21/11/2013 22:19

Marking place

Quick fish slap for kyz E is not behind at all! He sounds fab. I agree that people remember things differently from when there's were little. It must make you feel shit but try to just smile and nod. Twats Grin

I've never cleaned so much, house is almost spotless, just a few more jobs to do. Bloody first birthdays

Some twats fallen against the car tonight and broken our wing mirror off, he said it wasn't him but our neighbour says differently. That's money and time we don't have that we'll need to get it fixed Angry

Happy birthday pr, O and anyone I've missed.

Welcome lydie

Loves the FB photo in the drawer! M once got in the dishwasher and today at my parents was trying to sit in the tiny DVD cupboard of the tv stand Grin

M's new word this week is boobie although it sounds more like bubby, then she tries to lift my top up. She walks, in fact I can't remember the last time is saw her crawl, says 10-15 words and is obsessed by woof-woofs.

FatimaLovesBread · 21/11/2013 22:19

Oops Blush

Kyz · 21/11/2013 22:24

Thanks guys :) I think he's fab, he's unique, quirky and his own special little person :) they all are :) I hate how it is turned into a competition. I put the phone down on my sis, I didn't know what to say. I think shoe lady only got to me because of great grandads lady friend the day before tbh.

My mum says e is not your typical baby but I said what's a typical baby? She said very good point.

Fatima, booby is a brilliant word to be saying!

E keeps meowing at people :/

MsJupiterJones · 21/11/2013 22:27

Kyz that is shitballs. E sounds amazing and definitely not behind. It is hard sometimes when you feel like other babies are doing things yours can't, sometimes people say that thing about being a walker or talker and L is neither, but I have come to realise that every baby has some things they are 'ahead' on and some they are 'behind' on in the great early learning goals of life! I always say, oh well he has excellent fine motor skills Smile

My mum is convinced L is a genius and I find myself saying no he's just average (of course I think he's brilliant but she gets a bit too carried away) - if I tell her he's done something she makes out like he's been doing it for weeks with her. Funnily enough both DM and DMIL think they taught him to clap... Grin

Lydiejo · 21/11/2013 22:49

Oh my, this convo had me really laughing. I finally understand it Pass Smile I was about to ask isn't quiche some kind of egg pie?

Fatima, I was so looking forward to extended breastfeeding. I thought it would be so cute if L could say boobie and lift up my shirt haha I don't know why. Then she up and quit on me a month ago, right before a year too. It was so sad I cried and cried.

I'm still laughing about the "Look at the lovely snow flakes mam. They are like jewels falling from the sky" Sophia. That is too funny.

It is sad how moms get caught up in the competition. I have 4 sisters and I think it would be so lovely to be pregnant at the same time and have close cousins. But then again I know they would always be compared. That is the downfall.

Evilwater · 21/11/2013 22:51

Well I'm exhausted, all my stuff is out, but the cat.
I'm so tired......
Sleep

Evil

Lydiejo · 21/11/2013 22:55

I'm so sorry for what you must be going through Evil. I hope you sleep well.

FlouncingIsles · 21/11/2013 23:00

kyz big hugs. They all sound vile, frankly I think e is wonderful!

YW I remember that storm so clearly, I was on the tail end of it living in the middle of nowhere in Angus totally alone. I too remember drinking a lot and hiding out in the windowless bathroom Blush. My journey to school (normally a 20 min drive) took nearly 2 hours the next morning thanks to all of the blocked roads and fallen trees.

M can't really do as much as the rest on here, but then I need to keep reminding myself she is a lot younger than most of your babies. She can, however:

  • Eat like a pro. I am very impressed with her eating skillz.
  • Crawl.
  • Stand unaided and skirt round furniture. I am sure she would be walking by now if it wasn't for the furry shark...
  • Say a handful of words (dad, mumumum, A (aulay), grandad, rara/laura, ta
  • wave goodbye to anyone and everyone. Except me.
  • Pull out my changing pouch from my handbag and presenting me with it when she needs changed.
  • Seek out anything expensive (iPhones, jewellery, tablets...) from anywhere. Particularly guests' handbags. And hide them. Hmm

Actually written down like that she can do quite a lot. I feel slightly better seeing it like that.

Pass my pencil case is the best. thing. ever. as far as M is concerned!!

I've just wrapped all of her birthday presents except our mummy/daughter diary. I still haven't finished writing this year's entry in it. Her birthday isn't for a couple of weeks yet but I'm unlikely to have time nearer the date.

PennieLane · 21/11/2013 23:46

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YellowWellies · 22/11/2013 05:10

Isles aye it was the infamous 'Hurricane Bawbag"! M is over 6 weeks younger than J but pretty much doing exactly the same stuff and much better on two feet than him.

PetiteRaleuse · 22/11/2013 05:54

Good morning all. Why this week has LO decided to go to bed at 9 then have 2-3 naps at creche instead of 7.30-7 then 2 short naps? I don't like it. I'm not a 6 am person.

PetiteRaleuse · 22/11/2013 05:55

And where did that bruise on her forehead come from? She didn't have that at bedtime Hmm

Lily311 · 22/11/2013 05:59

O can do:

-whining and whinging all day long, she is actually quite a pro at it
-wave, clap, row
-sing but not in tune and she only knows one word per song which she keeps repeating over and over
-throw a ball than make me go after it
-untidy
-open and shut cupboard doors

She woke me at 5.30, thanks for that.
I need to sort out one year of her pictures, got a photobook voucher but need to use it till the 3rd of December.

Pikz · 22/11/2013 06:19

Tardis til I can catch up!