October 2013 Bus Graduates: the one where we're not pregnant anymore

[MrsHoratioNelson]

Check in here. Do we still need the stats?

While we are in this areA so to speak has anyone else had terrible wind since giving birth. Noah and I are a comedic
Double act with our farting.

Yes bronze. I wonder if it is rushing every meal/ eating one handed and leaning over a baby.

flyer glad he's apologised properly. Maybe nows the time to laydown some ground rules. Mnippy I like your ones. Can definitely identify with the justifying what I've been doing with my time. On Friday when DH came home I was upstairs putting the kids clothes away, baby C in one arm. He laughed and said 'oh yeah, look busy for me coming home' as a joke. But TBH I had thought, the house is a tip and I need to tidy up for DH coming home, which is crap. Hmm. Not sure that makes sense. I'm using tiredness as an excuse for rambling post!

Jelly I would speak to your GP about your bladder. Maybe you need to be referred.

Orange hope you haven't got a hole. Did you have a tear? Hope you get it all checked out at your 6 week check anyway.

Good job on the increased posts ladies - I've just filled 15 minutes of the 20 upright to avoid puke time reading. Will do My bit and join in at every feed. No advice/ experience of fissures or bladder feeling issues but Orange, I also have the odd farting from the fanjo feeling ( cannot believe I have actually just written that!
Mnippy I really like your ground rules with DP. My DH has generally been brilliant but I think he presumes I spend most of the day watching day time TV and therefore gets a bit judgemental if the housework isn't done when he gets in fr work.

Jelly you should talk to your gp.

Also smiled at mnippy s revirginised! I think I might join you :)

Fissure ladies try a stool softener! You can get it OTC. It's given on discharge prescription here and really helped.

Flyer are you still going to your mums tomorrow? Hope you're ok xx

Soupqueen so sorry to hear about the hip scan results. It is difficult and I'm sure you wish it wasn't the case but it's good it has been identified early. Hope the weeks fly for you all. Hugs xx

Ana how is little J today? And when are you getting your house back?

Natalie we went to winter wonderland when ds was a similar age. Took him in a buggy all wrapped up and he slept through the whole thing bar feeds. Didn't have an issue with buggy but we went on a weekday in early december so it wasn't too busy. It seems it has got busier though!

I'm dreading tonight :(. M has slept all day pretty much. We were up from about 4am to 8am so I let her sleep and tried to wake her every 2-3 hrs for a feed. Really hope I can get some sleep. It feels so lonely when you're up at that hour with a fussy crying baby! I know this is a very short stage really but it can be hard to remember that at times :(

I tend not to post too much if I'm down or tired as don't want to bring thread down and sometimes with time difference I'm playing catch up. I think it is important though to try and keep thread going as it's been such a help to many of us xx

Hope you all get some rest tonight

And are your mn backgrounds green???

DH is generally good at helping with kids but today he has had all 3 of them all day. In return though I got the job of laying new flooring in toilet, sealing said new flooring, cooking dinner and doing the weekly ironing mountain. Not sure who got the rough end of the stick and not sure I will be repeating child care swap to give me a rest.

To anyone on fb group, how are MoN and Umlauf getting on?

40 minutes sleep and a poosplosion later and I am once again holding a baby upright for 20 minutes! Jelly Umlauf is well - baby B has his passport now so they can come back to UK for Christmas. MoNs Eliana is doing well but she developed an infection in her C Section scar. It is being treated now but another problem she has had to deal with. She is amazing to cope as she has.
Chick, A also slept a lot today. It was lovely to get some stuff done but I fear we may be awake a lot tonight!

Mnippy I love you rules! Going to try to steal a few of them - particularly no passive aggressive parenting and just letting the other person do it their way. DH and I are frequent transgressors on both counts

Chickie hope your night is going better than expected.

My evening hasn't quite gone according to plan - turns out DH was using the expressed bottle as I was posting! So baby S and I were reunited at 230am and he is currently fighting with my boob. My fault for saying I didn't want to be apart for too long...

flyer, mnippy and chickie i'm also going to join you on being revirginised - have just had no interest at all since being pregnant C was born.

flyer sorry to hear everything that's been happening with dh, hope things are improving and you can work out what's best for all of you.

Had asked mw at 6 week check re. exercise after c section also. She was happy for me to start swimming but suggested a few more weeks before running and to be v careful when restarting (more because all ligaments/ tendons including ankles/ achilles etc remain more susceptible to injury with hormones whilst breastfeeding than any c section reason). Was thinking I might restart with C25k next week as a sensible way of getting back in to it.

chickie I also read/ post at strange times due to time difference (though now everyone's up bf in the night it's less obvious!)

At 5 weeks my bleeding is tailing off now thankfully and I'm actually really looking forward to DTD again

Is anybody else suffering from sore joints? My hips, knees and wrists are really painful and I'm constantly re-positioning myself as they're very stiff and sore. Although may just be a result of the cold weather and lengthy breastfeeds in more or less the same position.

Do not skip two feeds before bed. Lo will sleep longer then ever before. You will wake up covered in milk. Your boobs will feel ready to explode. Lo will feed, but not enough to ease pain. Annoyed at sleep lost due to expressing.

My joints hurt particularly hands. Wonder if its a post natal thing.
I ache all over today. Prob due to pushing buggy around yesterday. Double is hard work. Must do it more.
Was my bday yesterday and looked at the days pictures last night. I look awful. DC tracky bottoms are tight must walk more.

chickie and everyone else I hope you're getting some sleep.

My parents and nephew have just left for the airport. It was so sad to see them say goodbye and know J will now go six months without seeing them. I know but was time for them to go but I always miss them most just after they've left.

flyer glad your DP has apologised. Re: exercise, the guidelines for running are 6 weeks after a natural delivery and 12 weeks after a c-section, so your HV was right I am afraid. I am waiting for the 6 week check, will ask them to check my stomach muscle separation before starting running again.

ana sorry you are feeling sad now they have gone! big

flyer just read what has been happening! whether you go to your mums today or not! he needs to commit to some ground rules. (Maybe mnippy should print out a copy of hers for the whole thread so we can all sign them with our dh's)

So, reading here and FB I'm feeling that everyone else's sleep is improving when mine is getting worse. H will do a few hours in the evening 9-12, then on average wakes every hour crying. Immediately stops crying when bf, feeds for 2 mins and sleeps another hour again. My mum has now realised I'm exhausted (DS is 3.4) so has been up last few days to help more. I just would love her to do 2 hours at a time.

I can't bloody believe it! A just slept from 1am-7am! 6 hours unbroken sleep. She did wake up, have a little feed, fall back asleep and then have a poosplosion that has taken me 30 minutes to clean up, but after 6 hours sleep I think I might be a bit delirious.

Sorry your missing your family ana. If what everyone says about having a young baby is true then the next 6 months should fly by! However I go 6 weeks between seeing my parents, and that's definitely long enough so can't imagine how you must feel

GT and untitled sorry you're achey. Could it be to do with this suddenly freezing weather?

flyer, mnippy, chickie and kiwee I am joining the revirginised group. At this point I feel that I would be quite happy with a lifetime membership.

My DH is good. Always offering to help. I can tell he gets a bit frustrated that it takes us so much longer to leave the house at the weekends, but this weekend he seemed much more accepting of it than he has done before. A is very clingy to me at the minute, so most of the time he spends with her seems to be him trying to calm her down and hold off the inevitable (back to mummy). Bless him, he's desperate for some quality time with her.

Yes my background has gone green too, thought I pressed something.

I couldn't sleep last night, stayed awake even when Thomas was asleep, how ridiculous. I also stated cuddling him for a long time after one feed because I didn't hold him much in the day with visitors and I needed my fix! Shattered this morning and needn't have been the case grrr silly me.

Going to breastfeeding drop in today, hope it is useful. I've always found going to new places, meeting new people and driving and parking in new places stressful but am getting used to it as doing do much with Thomas.

I definitely think the hormones/relaxin stay for a while - when I fell over the other day and did the splits I thought I couldn't have done that before without breaking something.

Sorry racheld33, cross post... This is the first night that A has gone 6 hours (7 weeks, 2/3 days). Have you tried keeping your LO awake during her night feeds so she takes on more milk and will then hopefully sleep longer? Also, white noise really seems to help us.

Also rachel, I'm no expert on cot sleeping as we co-sleep through necessity. Whenever I put A in her cot she wakes up after an hour or less crying, and then I have to feed her to calm her down. Suggestions from the midwife were to put her in the cot when she was drowsy (not completely out of it) as otherwise she'll wake up in a different place to where she fell asleep and it will shock her into crying. This didn't work for us though and so I co-sleep with A and get usually 2-3 hour stints of sleep.

I really feel for u ladies with babies who are tricky at night even though that's what we signed up for when we all got BFPs baby H either goes down about 10-30 then has one feed somewhere between 4-6 am and that's if and he's ff so its quite a quick process and even then I sometimes feel sleep deprived lol

Thanks for the advice re:winter wonderland

flysr how r u today?

Dd just started talking to H when he was drinking his bottle and he spat his bottle out to smile at her :-)

Rachel we are also on hourly wake ups. Have been for last 4 nights. A has never slept longer than 2.5 hours but like you said. I did presume things would be getting better and not worse ( she was 9 weeks yesterday). A has her first jabs this afternoon - I'm dreading it and I think I might have Thrush in my nipples ( stabby pains) so need to try and get a docs appointment for that!
Ana sorry your patents have gone. GT and Orange and Rachel hope you get some test today and well done Baby ARox.

4 weeks today and had our first smiles yesterday evening! 5 in a row. Very excited and proud!
Do you gripe water users think 4 wks is ok to start using it or do I have to wait til thurs when he's 1 month?! I'm not sure infacol is helping much and looks like he's got trapped wind quite a bit.
Sorry to those having horrible nights. I'm struggling to sleep when he's sleeping despite the use of ear plugs. He makes a lot of noise and it makes me tense and I'm a very light sleeper. So annoying. OH thinks we should put him in his own room now but I'm very reluctant to. He can't understand why as we have the baby sense resp monitor etc. think I would be even more anxious though.
Flyer hope you're ok today.x

Thanks Sanji I guess it's 12 weeks then!

Not a bad nights sleep here either although A woke 3 times for feeds she slept in the spare room with dp as I'm too a light sleeper and she's very nosy, so our routine has been dp brings her to me when she wakes for a feed, I feed her wind her and keep her upright for 30 mins then take her back through to dp in the spare room where she sleeps in the cot off her bugaboo (hates the Moses basket) this way I'm getting at least 5 hours sleep a night and can function.

DP has promised to help more he literally begged me not to take A to my parents and as much as a twat he has been part of me felt sorry for him such a soft touch he said that he was pissed off at my mum offering him advice and with the alcohol inside him made him argumentative. I told him he must never say that A isn't his, he apologised and said it was an awful thing to say.

A is going into her own bedroom in January when she will be 3 months. She makes so many noises and movements in her sleep that it keeps me awake and as much as I'm happy with the current sleeping arrangement with dp in the spare room I don't want this for the next 6 months.
I'm starting to see a routine with her now she sleeps from around 1230am-730am with wake ups in between for food.

Sympathies to those with non sleeping babies, up until last week that was me every night.

Ana I feel for you with missing your family, my family are only an hour away and I see them every week but I wished my mum lived just around the corner so I could see her everyday. To me having a baby has highlighted just how important family and especially mums are, she's been my rock and is a doting nana.

It's lovely and frosty here this morning, I do love winter in England it's my favourite season, getting dresses up warm and snuggly.

Thanks all for the good sleep wishes! I slept from 11 till 2.30 but we re still awake now at 4. I think she's falling asleep now though fingers crossed. I think I'll try the dummy as we seem to be comfort sucking and then getting bothered by wind.

Ana I know how it feels when family leave. Big hugs xx

Sparkleigh how do you use the canesten? Even though nappy rash much better I think there might be fungal component. Dh also thought so and as he's not doing too many nappies I think he spots changes etc more than I do. I'll go to the pharmacy later this am.

Well done on the sleep rox xx