November 2012 - The birthdays are coming thick and fast

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1884788-November-2012-Babies-going-trick-or-treating

gt mil sounds like very hard work. You are more patient than I would be. Can't you move into your house and then they move in with you at a later date when they need your help more?

pumpkin I would have been livid too. I'm cross on your behalf!

chasing We are doing London for C's birthday and it has been planned for a while but the other day I suddenly thought "shit. How am I going to do London with a buggy?!" I'm taking an umbrella fold one and a sling in case it's too much hassle on the tube. We are doing the Christmas lights, Harrod's grotto, British Museum, Iranian restaurant and maybe the Emirates cable car.

C is a lot better in himself today but still doing the most horrendous green runny nappies. We have cut out all lactose completely so I don't know what's causing it or if it's just the tail end of his gastroenteritis.

Not looking forward to work tomorrow after what happened on Friday. I have made a decision over the weekend to look for another job and leave. I've seen a few finance positions in schools that I'm going to apply for. Less money than I'm on now but we will then qualify for tax credits so it will even itself out and I don't think we'll be much worse off. Plus it means more time with C so it will be worth it.

Chasing I live in london and pop to central london every now and again. It's fine with the pram as long as you are using the overground train or bus and its not during rush hour. There's only selected tubes that have step free access but if you look on the tube map it shows which ones they are. I would recommend going to John Lewis for changing O and for a quick sit down and a cup of tea. Food places that are child friendly, wagamamas, nandos, basabaethai and they are quick too so no messing around. That's all I can think of for now.

J has had a good day. It is really odd seeing him well. It should not be like that. DD2 has had short-lived moments of activity. Poor wee poppet. My tummy feels like I may be the next one to be talking to God on the big white telephone. Great.

Off to bed soon hopefully, night night quiche, sweet dreams to one and all x

Thank you all for London tips

GT, I have been meaning to write you a proper reply about your IL issue. I can empathise to a certain degree as I lived with my XILs for 6 months and it quite literally made me depressed. It was the catalyst for my depression. You sound like you cope with it remarkably well but it must be so difficult for you. Does FH know how you feel about the situation?

VQ, I have been thinking of you a lot lately. When I have been having my wobbles about being a mummy I think of you and ask What Would VQ do? You are the epitomy of what a mother should be. J and your girls are very lucky.

I've only had one tonight, honest.

chasing I go to central a lot with the DD's. Is fine with a pram, but the smaller the better. I take the bjcm as opposed to the huge quinny with buggy borad attached. Hamleys however is a bit of a mare with the pram. They do have lifts but be prepared to be packed in. Selfridges has a good toy dept and is much more calm but I do think it's worth going to hamleys as a one of thing. The southbank has loads of child friendly places to eat so if you're going there anyway (which I would do as is great for kids) then you could factor it in round eating time. I tend to go to giraffe but there's also wagammas, strada, and pizza express. The cafe in the royal festival hall is very kid friendly too there and is a massive hall that kids run round in which is good for a bit of shelter if it starts to piss it down. Rainforest cafe just off piccadilly is a fun place for kids but quite expensive for what it is really but good for a one off treat. There are loads of pizza expresses around which is always my child friendly fall back. Sorry, I'm writing an essay. You'll have great fun

zambino (still can't get used to calling you that) Glad S had a good day. Sounds fun. I have wolf hall in hard back, started reading it yonks a go but just didn't get that into it as I never got the time to read big chunks and the book was too heavy. So I downloaded it to my kindle and still not got round to reading it. I really want to read bring up the bodies but feel like I should get through wolf hall first. The thing is I know I'd really enjoy it once I got stuck in.

vq Very glad to read J is better. I hope the rest of you all recover too.

Took the DD's to the circus today. E was transfixed. I was really surprised. DD1 was her usual fidget self but seemed to have fun. I thought it was a bit shit myself. Still I've never been into circus's and I've done it now so can move on to other fun things. couldn't help thinking it would have been much better with an elephant or 2 in it but glad there's no animal cruelty involved now.

Thanks Eliza Pizza Express was going to be my back up plan. Hadn't thought about Hamleys with the pram. Bugger! But I'm definitely going there so will just cope. I have my Graco Evo Mini stroller which is fairly compact.

Aww Chasing, you have made my day :-)

I've done Hamleys with the buggy chasing. It is doable, just be prepared to have to wait a while for the lift. Oscars going to have a whale of a time.

I'm glad

Chasing I am so of your London trip!!

I am literally pulling my hair out here. Bedtimes have gone to total shit again. She managed 20 mins in the car tonight, woke immediately on transfer to cot and has whinged at me ever since. Screamed since 7.30 everytime we attempt to go near her room. She is choked with the cold and properly snotty but this is getting ridiculous. Right now she is ripping pages out of the vertbaudet catalogue one by one and feeding them to the dog. I give up. DP ashore in 3 hours; she is his problem then. Today I hate being a mummy.

(As an aside, he has promised to help me tackle bedtime again on his week's leave starting Thursday. For now we are struggling between us..)

Pumpkin remember you are in sleep regression territory and also she is not well. With those two things any bedtime routine will be affected, and likely result in what you are describing. Maybe it is a case of just riding out this storm. This too shall pass x

I really must sleep. I really must. Tum feels a bit better after eating something.

Wow, looks like a quiet night was had in the end.

vq so glad J is seeming more himself. Hope you don't catch the tail end of the bug yourself.

Watched another trashy action film last night, somethihg about White house benng attacked and the Prez being taken hostage. It was enjoyable enough. I can't watch anything challenging at the moment, normally I hate action, war, sci fi and disney, but am finding myself pulled towards all that. Real fluff that requires zero use of mental energy. I also find myself planning my weekdays around 12 o'clock, when repeats of Friends are on.

Blowing a gale here, and rainy. Not looking forward to getting the girls out to nursery. Lots of bits and pieces for me to do today. I hope you all have good days, especially Detective whose birthday it is. Any quiche babies? Who's turning one this week?

Hello all,
Yesterday p was the the nicest guy around! he even put on the he washing after I told him how to do it, of course I had to do the rest. Yes, he spent some time with N, but it was only for a hour. All this wonderful, nice behaviour is making me doubt my self.

I have to put the deposit in today, oh so
Evil

Eliza I loved Wolf Hall at first but as it went on I got annoyed with it. I hate reading in the present tense and normally wouldn't touch a book written in it. It being Hilary Mantel you kind of have to try and get used to it. I want to reread before BUTB though, and my reading list is about 200 books long right now.

After my film last night I had half an hour to read the kindle. You'd think I'd hav taken the opportunity to finish one of the books I have started, or pick a new one? Nope. I re-read the beginning of 50 shades of grey, a book i quite enjoyed the first time round but I recognise it is trash and vile misogynist trash at that. I can't focus on anything other than fluff though

Poor O woke in a sea of his own vomit at midnight Which has never happened before. He seems a bit brighter this morning and has kept down 2oz of milk so fingers crossed it was just a one off.

Poor O. Fx tis a one off.

He's crawling round like a mad thing now so I think he's fine. Dry toast for breakfast though.

Fanks PR.

I shall be having an awesome day no matter what just as DP yells at O, oh dear!.

Off to Manchester soon, for a day of shopping and nomming mostly nomming . I've already had 5 lindt balls for breakfast .

I am still shocked at O last night. I am pretty strict with sleep. I was at my mums last night for a birthday tea/fireworks. I was planning to give O his meds, bottle, and in to babygrow just before we left, so that if he fell asleep in the car on the way home, we could just try and lift him out in to the cot. Except O had other ideas. He fell asleep on my lap with the bottle. He woke up thanks to mums fecking husband being worse than a kid on E numbers after 90 minutes. We took him home thinking there would be no way he would sleep for ages now.

I did his teeth, put him in his sleeping bag, in to the cot, where he promptly rolled over and knocked out some zzzz's. Til 7.10 when DS1 woke him.

I am actually in shock. I guess this means we can now have late evenings out, as we can put him to sleep where we are, and bring him home to sleep when we leave. Fab! Was fed up at always leaving everywhere at 8!

Hope everyone else has a nice day. Must go and get some clothes on. But not nice ones. I ordered some, which arrived saturday. They fit, but look shit on. Awesome.

Ps. Stunt I giggled when you said you remember O's birthday - would that have anything to do with the bloody length of my pregnancy! Also, I don't remember lots of birthdays, but I know we have some most days now. I remember L and M for sharing O's birthday. I remember chasings O even if she doesn't! because I have met her IRL, and I guess when you 'know' someone, you remember more things. I am one of the worst offenders for forgetting to reply to things. I don't do it on purpose - I am like this IRL. My memory is shit hot for some things, but not others. I don't know why. It's as if my brain can only cope with certain things?! Sorry Izzy I wouldn't want anyone to feel ignored. I think the easiest thing to do is a little reminder. Or could we do a stats thread update? Stunt? How do I find it now? :)

evil that's not nice it's lazy-arsed shite what kind of numpty needs the washing machine in his own house explained? Fwiw, dp often puts a wash on - yes complicated nappy ones too - before work, fetches it in off the line when he gets home from work. Ditto the dishwasher - all off his own bat. He gets up with R every day so they can have time together and does bath time at least partially if he's home in time. I'm not trying to brag, i just think your perspective is skewed on what respectful behaviour from a partner is

I'm fairly sure people remember lo's birthday because I bombarded fb with photos and mentioned it on the thread about 10 time a day up to and including the day itself. I know I have noticed birthdays and not necessarily remembered to wish the baby a happy birthday when I have got round to posting. I think it is really something that we shouldn't take personally.

I have well proper experience of having my birthday forgotten. By everyone one year, but by people who are supposed to care several years. I tend to ignore my birthday as much as i can now, which is fortunate as last year I spent mine in hospital with lo and what the interns suspected to be bronchiolitis despite her not coughing and what I thought was a bit of a cold and temperature and fortunately, when he came round, the consultant agreed. After two horrible nights. Ugh. And that was just the beginning of last year's bollocks.

Really need to go out and about this morning, got some shopping to do and have to put my copper haul into my bank account but it is so windy and rainy :(

And on the birthday note, I've missed some. I think I have missed Zamboni's S. Happy birthday .

Happy birthday Lily for last week for you for when the IL's visit. Bloody inlaws....

Happy birthday to J Izzy. Well done for getting through the first year! I hope he wished on his candles for more sleep for mummy!.

Praying I haven't missed anyone, but probably have.

I still think evil your dp is sensing a certain loss of control. That's why he is being nice. Twat.

Evil I don't understand that attitude from men. He can't work his own washing machine?

DS1 is 11, and he regularly sorts loads of washing out, puts them on, puts his own clothes away, irons them etc. His mum should have taught him - shame on her. Or maybe she did, and he has just grown in to a lazy toad. Like Pidj said. It's not nice behaviour, it shows him up for being a lazy arse.

Much love, and don't let his games fool you.

Morning,

Illness has buggered off and O slept through. I am happy, happy and rested.

Happy birthday det!!

And evil, even my little brother knew it at the age of ten how to set up the washing machine. I hope you find the strength to put down the deposit. You will never look back once you are out.

Spoke too soon. He took 3oz of milk and vommed it back up. He doesn't seem too bad in himself - unlike last time when he was obviously poorly - so I'm hoping it is just a tummy bug which passes quickly. He has been drinking water so will keep him off solids today and alternate sips of water and milk.