June 2013 (3) - teething & not sleeping!

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I broke the old thread! Step this way, step this way.

Sorry pinkbear, I forgot to ask how you are. I suppose small mercies but at least you are on mat leave with all this going on so have the time to help your Mum and Dad.

Hope things are ok, pinkbear. Sounds like you are giving lots of support to your parents - I'm sure they appreciated having you and LO around

Ah bless you all. I'm doing ok, got Violet's christening on Sunday, so focusing on that now! It really is all go. I am sure at some point I will stop and it will all hit me.

The nice thing about being an only child is I can support mum and dad while sort of still getting support and being able to be me with them. If that makes sense.

The funeral was perfect, if you can say that about a funeral. We managed to meet all of Gran's simple requests. I managed to read through the tears and do my tribute and dd was a star.
Gran had asked for no wake after. So just really close friends and us went to a quiet pub just for a drink and kind of re group after. I actually think it was much needed, and even my Dad who was unsure, said it was nice.

Now just have to get Dad in an emotionally ready state for his op. I think he is dead frightened he won't come home again. So have to get him out of that mind set!

Sunday first, which I am dreading in a way because it's the first family event which Gran won't be at. I think I might find that really hard. But, I have to find a dress first, or the fact I'll be in me birthday suit might well scare everyone else off any way

Sorry, turned into a bit of an epic post! Dd asleep and first time I've been on my own since Tuesday! Thank you all for your kind words.

Hope your all having a good day x

PinkBear - good you were able to give her a nice send off in a way that helped you all.

YY to the "ahhh, I need a dress to wear to the baptism!" angst. Not sure what to get. I've got until the first sunday of March and it's in the family service, so most people will be there in their normal clothes, so jeans and casual clothes (not a 'Sunday best' sort of church). I want to look smarter, but not dressed up, stylish, but nothing that's tight across the mummy tummy... (I feel a thread in Style and Beauty coming on, some of the ladies on there are fabulous)

hello ladies i have decided to bump into you for some advice) im due in june this year, and as im way too organised i have a question for you- im trying to think of first aid syrups, drops etc i would need for the first few months after baby born, From you experience what these first aid things would be?

crikey you're organised!

Congrats on your pregnancy, I hope all is going well.

We used Infacol and Calpol within the first 2-3 months (plus other stuff that's on prescription). I think if you have a fairly normal first aid box at home with things like savlon then you'll have everything you need anyway. I think the only thing I got in advance was Lansinoh nipple cream (for me, not ds!!). But maybe we we've missed a trick...someone else might have other ideas.

Hi mylittle. My small list would be: thermometer, Calpol, nipple cream, sudocrem, metanium, infacol. We just bought these as and when we needed them though (you may not need all of them).

thanks you))) hope your lo are all doing well and you of course not too tired) a lot of sleepless nights for us to come this time next year))

I'd go with:
thermometer (ear or forehead for preference)
lansinoh if BFing
calpol (or own brand version of it) - can't be given straight away though
nurofen (as above)
metanium for nappy rash (the yellow one)
barrier cream - zinc and castor oil/sudocrem/bepanthen - pick whichever you prefer, I just get the cheapest :o
a dummy
a teething ring (cos they start teething about 10 minutes after the shops close on a Saturday night, IME)
breast pads
emergency carton of ready made formula & bottle (for when you can't stand the thought of letting them anywhere near you again...)
more muslins than you thought possible :o

I would say spend as much as you can on a thermometer. I used forty quids worth of boots points to get a non contact one which is ace. Remember to establish what a normal temp is for your baby to avoid panic later!

Oh nipple shields. Saved my life!

thanks, ladies. From your experience did you buy all these bits and pieces yourselves or gp's prescribed them or you asked for prescription?

There is very little you can give to baby in the first few months. So anything she needs would be prescribed. Calpol is from two months onwards and worth having in the house. If you are a general worrier then I'd recommend a paediatric first aid course. On ours they talked us through a first aid box but before they are mobile you don't really need it. Most of us on this thread have had coughs, colds etc. my DD needed antibiotics and an inhaler for a nasty cold, they were prescribed.

Sarah thanks. when babies have a cold did you tend to find your own remedies, call doctor or ask those who are experienced?

In the first few months, if ds was under the weather, then he was likely to just be a bit grumpy, feed a bit more and sleep a bit more. I'd second getting a rough idea of what your baby's normal temperature is. As to seeking advice, I found my hv quite useful, likewise a pharmacist. GPs have been great, and when ds got oral thrush in first few weeks they were happy to do appt via phone once diagnosis had taken place at breastfeeding clinic.

If it helps you feel more prepared, a baby-specific first aid course might be worthwhile. But please try not to worry too much about it in advance. We've all worried about different things at different points with our littlies and all our babies are so v different. It sounds like you'll have the essentials covered and that's all you can do at this stage.

(plus a summer baby = fewer cold germs knocking about when they're tiny )

Congrats mylittel. You could get saline drops and a suction bulb ready for colds, though you can make saline drops at home.

Glad the funeral went well pinkbear.

Good news on the childcare don'tmind. Do you have to get the car seat out for nursery or can you just take baby out? We've got a big estate but never had a car seat that comes out of the car. I do find myself choosing big spaces or car parks with more room though as I have to get kids out two sides. You'll soon get the hang of parallel parking you just have to learn to get your eye in on how long your car is. I,m still trying to get the hang of that with our new car 3 months on!

So after initial success ds now is ignoring his gro clock. And crying when I put him back in his room, which then wakes the baby. Back to early mornings again :( I can't wait till she sleeps all night she keeps teasing by going a couple of nights from 6pm till 6:30am then going back to waking at 2-3 again. Which I know isn't bad compared to some but after ds sleeping all night from 3 months I'm ready for a night of unbroken sleep.

Thank you all, much appreciate your advice

Hi all.

Back after a horrid week at work. It's really shaken my confidence that I can do this juggling a small child with my job. I had a heavy 2 day meeting this week. It's a stressful meeting that I have to do every year but I hadn't accounted for a change over of personnel in my client.

Put it this way if there is love at first sight then clearly there must be hate at first sight. Boy does she hate me. I have never NEVER been spoken to in a professional setting like that before. Clearly she has decided she wants to do things differently than have been done before but she completely failed to mention that until after I had apparently done things wrong. It's totally fucking floored me. I'm used to people having bad first impressions of me (blonde, big boobs, likes to wear makeup and do my hair - in the environmental sector that's a sign of an airhead) but normally when I open my mouth people realise very quickly that I'm very capable and good at my job. She's now said I need to develop a series of protocols of how we are going to operate. Except she hasn't told me how she does want me to work. Which makes me think it is one of those exercises bullies get you to do just so they can smack you down in public again. Fucking glad I'm part time.

Aloha, I think I'll have to start leaving the carseat in the car then...

Sunny - that's shit. Some people delight in feeling important.

Sunny that's crap, the last thing you need. The only bright side is that once you have kids, crap at work doesn't like the most important thing in the world anymore, but its still painful having to get through the day.

Definitely agree with the recommendation for a non contact thermometer. We invested when they were on offer in Boots and they are brilliant - so much easier to use than the usual ones.

As others have said, there isn't much you can use when they're tiny, but it's worth having it all there ready. Being a June baby, DD didn't get ill for a while (so far she's only been properly ill once, at 5-6 mths - thank goodness).

Saline nasal spray and Snuffle Babe vapour rub were the best things we tried, we also gave some Calpol but it didn't seem to have much effect.

Lansinoh was a lifesaver in the early weeks of bf, but I haven't felt it necessary to use it since bf has been well established. I bought breast pads in advance but didn't need any!

I agree with lots of muslins; we have them all over the house!

Sorry you've had a horrid week Sunny.

I think tooth number two is on its way. One grizzly baby here. Currently gnawing on a cold whole carrot to try and soothe his gums but I think calpol might be required for tonight.

I'm on the mini pill so no period here. But with DS1 I didn't get one until around 14mo when he self-weaned.

We had the weekend from hell. I got a stomach bug on Thursday, then both kids got it, plus my childcare, then DH got it on Saturday. Back at work today. Don't feel like I've had any time to properly recover! I know it's to be expected but it sucks.

Sunny wow that sounds so frustrating.

Well I have been super silly!! Me and dh managed 5 minutes to ourselves yesterday on the front room floor and after dtd I remembered that my pill ran out on Friday bugger. Long story short, thr pharmacist refused me the morning after pill because of bf'ing and I couldn't get to see my gp so I am gonna just have to hope I'm lucky this time, I feel so stupid :-(

Ekk Madame! I'd be tempted to go to another pharmacist, lie your not BFing and just pump and dump for a couple of days...