November 2012 - Babies going trick or treating

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1870430-November-2012-Babies-are-getting-busy-busy-busy

GT the amount you express doesn't always represent how much is in the boob and babies don't always suckle because they are hungry, sometimes it's for comfort too. Also boobs start to regulate once babies get a little bit older so will produce what's needed and babies will feed more to produce more. Trust your body. Look at the amount of wet nappies and poo he's producing rather than the amount of time or how much you express.

GT the fussiness could also be a growth spurt rather than the formula. Either way your idea to ebf for a few days will help as if its a growth spurt A will be fussing to up your supply and the fussing will continue (especially in the evening) whereas if the fussing stops you know its the formula and could think about comfort milk.

Thinking I was reading to much into his fussiness last night. Maybe he was just having a bad day. Will test formula out again in a few days.

Thinking I'd rather not express but give formula if needed. As expressing is stressful.

With being alone ill have two pinch points. Morning and bedtime. In my ideal world I'd wake up at 79 ff A then feed H. Then bf at 10 while H has his morning nap. Bf for rest of the day. Ff at 6 so I can do meal time and put H to sleep. Then bf over night.
If I did this every day wouldn't my supply adjust accordingly.

I'm over thinking it. I know I am. But sitting here feeding gives me little time to do anything else!

Yep GT your supply would adjust. And as you're BF at night your supply should still be strong

Haven’t caught up but just wanted to write a quick post to see if IBU.

MIL has M one day a week. She has two car seats in her car as she often looks after another relative who’s a year or so older than M.
For M she has a Britax First Class which I put in rear facing as it does it up to 13kg. The other car seat was the same but forward facing (which she’s recently changed to a stage 2 which i don’t think she should have done but that’s a whole different issue).

We picked M up from MILs the other day and I noticed that both car seats were facing forward. They had been out in the car that day. I’ve told DH and neither of us are happy with this. DH is going to mention it.

M is quite dinky, weighs between 25th and 50th percentile, probably closer to the 25th now. We haven’t had her weighed since 9 months when she was 8kg. But previous to that she only put on 1 kg in 3 months and she’s more active now. When she had croup the doctor did a rough weight (weighed DH holding her and then DH on his own) and said she weighed 8kg still and that was a month ago. So I don’t think she’s anywhere near 9kg. I think she’d be 8.5kg at the most. And the thing is, it’s 9kg MINIMUM for FF, she can rear face until 13kg and she’s no where near that.

So AIBU to not be happy with her being FF and to get DH to say something. As far as I’m concerned, she can’t go in the car unless she’s RF. In our car she’s still in her Cabriofix and has plenty of room left before her head reaches the top.

Tis MadameG here with a NC I'm trying out.

fatima no, YANBU. It's a fundamental safety issue plus it's your baby, your rules. Unless MIL has form for disregarding requests, then I would go in gently but firmly and explain why you're saying this and say it really must be done your way. If you will hit sensitivities or encounter anything other than an "I'm sorry, I get it now, won't happen again", then I'd be changing childcare options. As a people pleaser who until recently had no balls, I don't say this lightly as I would find the prospect of fall out or unpleasantness awful. But being able to say "do this or don't do that" and have an unquestioning response is one of the reasons nursery fees are worth it . Prob no need to sack her as a babysitter just yet, but a convo definitely needed. Good luck!

Agree with zamboni 100%

Thank goodness I copied my lost post.

U are not being unreasonable at all. See I would go "oh the seat is the wrong way round, ill fix it" but I'm a wimp with confrontation.

I keep wanting to name change. I put no thought into it when I signed up to MN at 1am almost 2years ago.

Thanks YW.

I think what's putting me off formula is the night time faff. It would be nice to ff in day and bf at night. But I do enjoy the day time rest bf gives me. Lol I want to be selfish. Get the best off ff and bf.

So my nxt goal. To get through the 6 week wall. Which I think is achievable as I'm staying at my mums another week, and sis has that week off.

i know that's cheating. And putting off the inevitable of having to deal with this alone. But if it gets me bf for a lil while longer then can't be bad.

It's not cheating at all. Make the most of every bit of help available to you. It can be horrible being on your own with a newborn and toddler (though not all of the time, don't worry) so cheat as much as you can :)

gt that's what I did at the end. Ff during the day, bf during the night.

fatima I agree! you need to talk to her. O is still in rear facing seat and have no intention changing it just yet. She is 11kg and her current seat is until 13.

Ok, what do I do? O woke at 4.30 3rd night in a row. Yesterday she napped in the morning for 1.5 hours and 1 hour in the afternoon. Today I let her sleep for 45 min in the morning and has been asleep for 1.5 hours. Shall I wake her in 30 min? Or shall I let her sleep longer? She is pretty miserable so it doesn't make any difference to day time.

I am back. With a namechange. Clue, I'm the sulky MNetter who also needs to grow a set of balls and be more confrontational when people upset or annoy me

YANBU regarding the carseat. Not sure how to handle it though. We are having a whole carseat drama of our own trying to choose one that can be changed between 3 different cars.

Welcome back pumpkin. Love the new name.

Welcome back Pumpkin

hia pumpkin!

YANBU re the car seat. For defo

Lily how did you phase it in and how did your boobs react?

I'm fucking fuming. Mum cut Hs hair. Then comes to me, while I'm feeding A "I've cut Hs hair, do u want to finish it off" it's finally grown after last hack job n then she fucked it up again. With a Pair of big fabric scissors. I've tried to tidy it up. And it looks ok now. But it's not how I wanted it.
Gone ballistic at her throwing the f bomb all over the shop. So I think she's realised how pissed off I really am. And to avoid any confusion I told her quite adamantly to never cut his hair, and I didn't care what she thought about it.

Hi pumpkin
fatima yanbu I'd definitely be getting dh to have a word, at the end of the day M's safety is the most important thing.
lily I am struggling with S getting up at stupid o clock through the night too, it's actually since she has dropped her afternoon nap that it's gotten like this, so I'd be inclined to say let her sleep. I can't get her to sleep in the afternoon now.
gt I'd be fuming! Hopefully she will have got the message now.

Well I thought S's diahorrea had cleared up, but I've just had to shower her after her latest episode
On a good note though, I've just had a letter to say I'll be getting just over 2k back in ppi on a loan I had 10 years ago

Fruit yay to money and poo to poo.

Fatima you do not want M to break her neck, which is what could happen. She is safer, indeed legally should be, rear facing. Be strong.

Hi Pumpkin. Welcome back x

And hi Zucchini x (deliberate mistake)

Hi buds

Meeting went ok. Channelled the inner quiche. She now has a clear picture of how fucking awesome I am. She suggested I took a career break or reduced my hours or got a nanny or got my husband or my elderly parents to look after my sick child. I said that if I felt I would best meet the needs of my child then I would do so, and explained why her suggestions were inappropriate. I also said that considering I am surviving on broken sleep since I returned to work I am actually doing very well. She agreed reluctantly. She was actually quite decent about it all. She has a service to run.

vq decent?! She sounds vile and patronising. At least she now knows how awesome you are though. At least after today she will probably back off a bit now.

VQ does she also have a clear picture of how grossly inappropriate it is to phone you at home regarding work trivia?

Hello NCers

GT that sounds like an excellent plan :)

I'm actually feeling somewhat in control today

Very sight name change here thought I would join the craze, and make myself a bit less identifiable.
GT I would be fuming too
VQ Well done, it sounds like you did fab!
Fatima def not unreasonable - there is no reason why it can't be F still so why isn't it? I would ask if she can turn it around and explain why and say you are not happy with her going on any journeys at all with it FF.

Go VQ. U r awesome

Fruit. Doing a lil dance for you.

VQ go you!

Love the name changes! Fab to have you back pumpkin.

Fatima YANBU going into a seat before they're the min weight risks neck and spinal injuries according to the halfords car seat fitter we chatted to last weekend. So Jonas will have to put up with his for as long as it takes for him to put on 800g and pass the golden 9kg mark.

QQ what are opinions on using nursery AND a childminder? Our chosen nursery doesn't have space for all of our requirements. In particular we are stuck all day Monday. There is a vvv part time childminder in the village - do you think we would be wasting our time approaching her about one day a week? And would it be feesible using a childminder one day a week and nursery 3, or would this unsettle lo?