November 2012 - In which the babies start to reach their first birthdays

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I'm here. Just seem to have less and less time to post, but I am skim reading every night!

Sorry to hear about your horse kirrin

Izzy I am so so sorry night times are disastrous. Are you sticking with sleep training for now in the hope he will improve?

Sophia we also sacked sky and got Netflix. I have cancelled it at the moment after a tricky few months over summer but it is great in so far as you aren't stuck in a contract and can take out a month whenever!

Ginger (sorry I can't help myself!) I have caught myself the last few nights staying up worrying about all sorts of things happening to M. It is horrible. Go easy on yourself. x

After reading of izzy's sleep issues I feel really guilty typing this, but bedtime routine and a little sleep training has worked real miracles here. So, our bedtime routine is going like this (it starts anywhere between 6.30pm and 7.30pm)

Dog walk, bath, teeth jammies and sleep pod, 15 mins of stories, bottle and sleep.

The latter bit is a bit tricksy as she has a habit of falling asleep on her bottle then waking screaming when we put her in her cot. DP's attitude to this was to take her downstairs and let her play until we go to bed but I have persevered the past 3 nights, with lots of rocking/shushing/etc - and last night leaving her to cry for literally 3 minutes - and she has gone down.

Now this is the really miraculous bit. She has stayed down!! Until 8.15am, 8.30am and 9am respectively!! I have not, paranoidly watching her on the monitor every hour, but she can sleep! Adding further weight to my theory that DP imagines her waking.

Last night my sister babysat while I worked. I wrote the routine out for her and she stuck to it, I only had to finish the rock/shushing - and this was when I left her to self settle - when I got home at 8.30pm. Amazing.

Can someone please stop L trying to fly continuously. It's exhausting.

I hate having nobody to spend my Saturdays with. It's depressing.

I got half way. Toe v sore indeed. Could have continued but toe and fitness pace would have made it extremely slow and we had a safety related deadline which I couldn't have met. I would have liked to have tried but this was the safer, sensible option.

Am gutted but ok. Still higher than I have been, and the way down showed me what I had managed. Toe doesn't look too horrific but I can't bear anything touching it.

Waiting for my amazing friends now. Overall a fantastic day and I will be back, better prepared and in better shape and not with a shitty infected toe.

Will catch up properly when I can.

Much love quiche.

I hate XP. Hate him. He was here 2 mins dropping O off and managed to make me cry. I hate him.

hugs Chasing try not to let him get to you. What did he do? have a and remember how much better off you are without him.

Fucker chasing what has he done?!

madame - you bloody well should be proud of yourself, you've done amazingly!! Oh and get that toe sorted!

He was just snappy and argumentative. My whole life used to be like that.

Evening all

I have skimmed but got nowt useful to say as always

Well done Madane

Got R some lovely clothes in h+m, gap and next sales today. 4 next tee shirts £4.50 in plain green, yellow, turquoise and pink. Tbh I'd have paid the £9 if I'd ever actually seen them in store

try to focus on the fact that you can now shut the door on him and get on with the rest of your evening. And your Saturdays won't always be lonely.

Good attempt madam!

Lunch went well in the end. P was her usual self. She has been very off food and milk today. She has hardly eaten or drank anything. Generally though she seems fine. I took a vid of her walking this evening. At lunch she was full on showing off and I caught her walking the full lengthy of her bedroom after the vid

I don't want to tempt fate, but we have just had the most successful bedtime to date. Asleep in under an hour with no tears, hoorah!

izzy I just wanted to suggest, is there anyway your DH can take over bedtime for a while? P has been doing it here for the past 3/4 months and it has been an utter disaster. Every night is a massive fight - never in bed before 10.30pm and always followed by multiple wakenings. He went onto nights at work for the first time since June on Thursday and I have done solo bedtimes since then, with a very strict routine. A small amount of CC when needed but mainly just sticking to a new routine and not giving in like P does. I wondered tonight if having someone other than you would help J? Like M with her dad, she has been used to playing up for so long that fighting sleep and getting back up to play was a routine for her. I am rambling, but what I am trying to say is can he take over and give you a break? And give J a fresh, new, no nonsense routine for a few nights to break the cycle? And give you a much needed rest!!

PS Hope your sale went well today and you made lots of moneys

OK, we are very fortunate in that this is Oscar's first cold, but I have just realised that I have no idea how to deal with it... He has just woken himself up sneezing and needed cuddling back to sleep. He sounds really snotty bless him. So, what can I expect and what do I need to do to help him get better? I'm actually clueless.

chasing I have a menthol vaporiser thing which plugs in. It gives 8 hours of menthol and seemed to make a massive difference. Also snuffle babes on her chest and or feet. He might need a wee drink of water in the night. Does he use a dummy? I found the dummy a real help actually as it helps them breathe

Awake again...this is going to be a long night...

And p'a colds last two days or so. It will totally depend on the cold bug and wee O's ability to fight it off. As he has had no illness he should be fighting fit in no time

Thanks pass, I'll keep him cosy at home for the next few days. He settled himself back to sleep this time, bless him. I'll try and get hold of some rub and a vaporiser tomorrow. He doesn't use a dummy.

chasing if you shove a rolled up towel under his mattress so his head is lifted slightly it will help him breathe more easily. Saline solution squirted up the nostrils will help keep it clean too. Good luck. We've all still got colds too.

If you don't have a vaporiser and he is struggling tonight, a bowl of hot water with some Vicks or olbas oil in helps.

Even just a bowl of hot water will help a bit due to the steam. Just don't tread in it!

Thanks everyone. He's a trooper. I'm not. I hate being ill. Next wake up I'll pop a towel under his mattress and I've got a bottle of water in the fridge for him.

An old flame from uni has been messaging me tonight, asking if I'm ok. I know he just wants to try and sleep with me again but it has been nice to have the conversation.

Chasing what a total cunt. I hope you can take a small amount of positivity though in knowing that that was a mere 2 minutes of your day. As opposed to weeks and months. I do poos that take longer tmi?? As to the cold, yes to propping cot. F has to sleep sat up when she's at her snottiest. And don't worry about food too much if he's off it - a few days of milk and minimal grub won't matter in the grand scheme of things.

MM glad you have bedtime cracked, what a relief!

Well done madam - I tried to climb up one of the New Zealand glaciers with an ingrown toenail. Had paid so battled on, but bloody hell it was sore. Definitely something I would not be in a hurry to repeat! But well done, hope you had some clear weather so you could appreciate the views.

VQ sorry to hear J is poorly again - although evidently well enough to gnaw on some flesh!? Wee bugger.

Loved seeing the video of wee P - I still can't believe some of the babies are walking.

We've had an exhausting but lovely lovely day. It was dsds 6th birthday - so all the excitement of presents over breakfast, trying out the new roller skates (hairy, dicey, heart-in-mouth etc etc), lunch with my parents & brother, walk in the woods with a napping baby, BBQ birthday tea with my family plus the ILs. And F has been a total superstar. She has smiled and cooed and cuddled and kissed all day long. We played crawling catch - much hilarity and chuckles as she scuttles away. And she tried melted marshmallows - what A Treat. Her face basically said "mummy, why have you kept these delicious things from me for 10 months? and fed me things like spaghetti bolognese, and sandwiches, and tomatoes? when there are marshmallows in the world?!" And at bedtime, she was so pooped that she literally flaked out with a genteel sigh when her head hit the pillow.

Currently crashed out myself on the sofa whilst dsd and her "bf" are watching Elf!?

Ginger does your lo sleep in same spot all night. Was just thinking I should have elevated LOs bed when he was sick. Then thought about which side his head is usually on... He moves all night, at times side ways as well as length ways.

Question. Do contractions start off short and far apart. Then end up short and closer together. Not having any. Just wondering.
Also. If my waters break "gush style" would I have time for a shower first ? Contractions n pain allowing? Realising how clueless I am.

Chasing am so glad you're out of that shit. A few months ago he was making you feel that shit full time - well done you on getting free.

MM amazing news on bedtimes and kick your DP and his confidence undermining 'I'm a better parent and Tilly loves me more' ways when he gets in from work. Do a proud dance who can get her to sleep? Her Mumma

Having an amazing time in the lakes. DH and I missing living in the boonies. though next time it'll be in the mountains not on a windswept rock Bear has been amazing and did 12 hours between the car and a strange cot last night. The cottage is open plan and he's been zooming around like a crawly giggling Ferrari. More weekends away please.

Madame you kick ass love - half way up Ben Nevis injured? Amazeballs! Pour yourself a and feel rightly proud.

Pass lovely video!

Oh gosh GT what things to have to consider! My waters breaking was the first thing of labour I knew. And there were, erm, many hours between that and F. I think if your contractions are still fairly spaced apart then you should be fine. I would be guided by that probably. And as time goes on, the contractions get longer and stronger and closer together unless your me when the fuckers virtually stopped but that was because of the bowling ball bladder I needed to empty So yes, remember also to pee Eeeep it's so close!

GT my contractions broke gush style and I had time for a cuppa and breakfast. Had to head to the hospital early as I was only 35+6 and I was told I might need to be air ambulanced. Don't feel you'd need to rush for a shower though - I actually had one at about 6-7cm dilated in the hospital it was lovely pain relief.