November 2012 - Teeth? Don't talk to us about teeth.

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1826507-November-2012-To-sterilise-or-not-to-sterilise-bottles-that-is

MM there is no excuse for violence.

Stop listening to bull shit patriarchal victim blamers. If you were raped, would it be your fault for having cracking norks and wearing a v neck top?

MM glad to hear you have a plan. Just don't stay because he's marginally less of a twat than your Dad - as that way your Dad wins and gets to dictate your life still xxx. And I don't care how shouty you are - no one has a right to lay a finger on you without permission m'okay? .When is Aulay fully jagged? - I can't wait to meet him and pick your brains about puppy training. Grapefruit juice anecdote made me laugh - wee bizzum!!! J crawled over to the coffee table I was eating my tea off tonight and pulled himself up onto his knees and slapped his hands in my dinner. Then licked it off.... Pepperpot and rice and peas with DH's evil hot home grown home made chilli sauce. He luffed it!!!!

MM maybes try the plain old copper coil? I'm a sociopath on artificial hormones... the copper coil worked for us for 2 years and I only bled heavily for the first three weeks. My periods were heavier on it and sometimes I got a bloaty belly and backache but the least worst side effects I've had from contraception.

And what Pass said.... consistency is so important for you but also for Tilly and Aulay. Tell him to shove the rose petals up his arse and you'll do it for him if he ever lays his hands on you again. You know I worry a line has been crossed - and I hate hearing you victim blame as PP says. Lots of love to you hen xxx

Sorry, that was a bit ranty please take it how i meant it not how it sounds

YW his last jab is next Tuesday and he is allowed out a week after that. But purleeeease visit before then!!! (we are going a bit mad being house-bounded) I am going to a baby group on Friday morning in DBay but free between 11ish and 3ish if you fancy a cuppa?

Oh and thank you. I do appreciate you all so much. But I am not victim blaming, I am a bollocks. And I have suitably unimpressive norks.

Also, don't know if it is too far for you and Betsy, but there is a cracking puppy socialisation class in NQF on a Monday night we took Bails to that I am planning on going to with Aulay if you fancy it?

MM I can do Friday pm! Your place? Is your P going to be there as I may be tempted to shove rose petals where I shouldn't!!! Not sure the NQF class would work for us with bedtime unless Ads goes but as I'm going to be the one out most with Betsy that's not ideal. Will ask our vets to see if there's anything local.

Friday PM is fab! Like I said, I need to leave for work about 2.45 but any time before that is grand.

I will suggest he makes himself scarce...

From memory, the NQF class also do one on a Thursday morning?

Paaaaassssss waaaaZzzz upppp!!

Stunt huge hugs.

Am I total shock LO self settled to sleep with no crying for the first time in what feels like Months. If he sleeps through I might faint from being overjoyed.

I could be a real bitch of a girlfriend. That's why him and his family blamed me. I don't blame myself anymore.

nice to hear from you Pass Glad all is ok, though that must have been scary. Hopefully it was a one off, and,if not, that the docs have a solution.

Glad the day went ok madam That level of pressure can't be good for you, but you are coping well. have a well earned

Sorry C is still not well apple He will be well looked after at his grandparents. Hope you're ok.

fingers crossed for the cheese challenge YW :)

Good for you Chasing my love. How's your new pad? The pics are gorgeous

oops - forgot to refresh before I posted again

nice to hear from you MM Good to have a plan, but just to reiterate what several quichesters (?) have already said - There is no excuse for violence and it was not your fault.

yay for self settling pikz :)

I am off for a shower and then bed. goodnight all.

It's good thanks YW. I won't be able to relax until it is how I want it though so got some long days ahead but it is keeping me busy. Plus, for a baby who can't yet crawl, Oscar is suddenly very mobile...

Evening all. I am behind and then some with quiche news! Going to be brief and epic all at once, need to get some sleep soon, I wonder if E will wake early having not finished his bottle this evening. He has eaten in his actual highchair all weekend though, and that is much more stable, he can't tip it so i'm pleased with that if nothing else

Anyway, i'm way back on page 18 so expect this to be a big un and scroll through it all, lol

Fruit that's good to know :) It's much easier for me to do that at least some days.

det sorry about your bad day, I know it was a couple of days ago but it sounds awful!

glad your hair was sorted in the end izzy sorry to read it's still shitty re: sleep for you :( hope you have a lovely holiday though

thanks kirrin Since starting SW (I joined Thursday) I have managed to be pretty good, I am really craving sugar but trying my best to ignore it stuff myself full of fruit and similar. I'm really hacked off that i'm on a period when I haven't had one in months, and I just happen to have that to deal with, and usually I comfort eat, so it's been a tricky week for me!

oh mm :( I know how difficult shit like this is, do what you need to do, for you, tilly and aulay. I know you could be told until we're blue in the face to leave him but YOU have to decide when enough is enough. huge hugs x

thanks vq I am definitely getting more confident, largely thanks to the quiche :) Thankyou x

aww yw puppyness!!! nom!

sorry to hear of all the shitty nights had and the lack of sleep :( We've had a couple of not-so-great ones but I won't complain about them as i've still had sleep, I don't feel I can complain really. Dp i could complain about until the cows come home, but that's for another post.

hi madam nice to see you :) Had been wondering where you were! Sounds like you're having a crappy time of it at the moment :( Glad the work thing is ok now but sorry to hear dd isn't well - hope she's better soon and I Hope you get some more sleep soon, sounds tough

det I'd have slapped your dp for that one, the silly boy! No wonder he pissed you off royally!

pikz you weren't overreacting, I also think he was taking the piss!

oh apple poor C, hope he's better soon, bless him, high temps are scary scary things, and he sounds like such a poorly little boy :(

glad you're having a good holiday eliza

crumpet lily? E likes fruit/yoghurt, and also is loving cheerios and such at the moment! Still hates weetabix!

sorry the dairy trying isn't going so great yw :(

glad your dh helped vq and actually realised what you deal with some nights, finally. I hope he is of more help to you from now on :) and wooohooooo for the shortlisting!!!

stunt massive hugs, I don't know how you've coped for as long as you have, you've had some fab advice from other quichesters, I don't feel i can add to it but i'm thinking of you and hope things get better from here. You are amazing and you are doing brilliantly, you really are.

pass sorry you felt like that but i'm glad it's gone now, I hate anxiety. It plagues me most of the time and I hate hate hate it. I hope you keep being smiley smiley pass now :) Hope docs goes ok tomorrow

sounds good pikz hope he sleeps well

glad you're settling in ok chasing :) Pics on fb are great!!

Wow I think i've caught up, I skimmed but did read and will try to keep on top of the fred again from now on. In between moping and feeling sorry for myself that is

I am getting no time to keep up these days.

Chasing sent me a text earlier as she had no tinternetzzzz. However, she has beaten me to it and said what she asked me to say!! D'oh!

Stunt I can only empathise with your post last night. I was at breaking point at the 6 month mark, and threatened DP that I was going to walk out on the road and let myself be run over with a car. Sleep deprivation does crazy shit to us all. I don't know how you do it. I really don't . Your mum gave you good advice. Sadly.

There really is fuck all out there to help parents before things get to crisis point. It is shit. Shit shit shit.

I can't do CC or CIO either, because like J and J (!) O also cries 'up'.

I hope tonight is more settled for you all.

Thank fuck pass is back. I missed you!

O must have been a very tired baby today . Admittedly he went to bed late last night at 8.30, but then he managed a sleep through til 8.30! Then he went down for a nap at 10.20, and slept til 1.45 . Unheard of!

So I figured he wouldn't have another nap. I was wrong. He fell asleep in the car seat in the 5 minute car journey from town to Aldi to do a food shop . I haven't successfully got him out the car without waking him up since he was about 3 months old. So imagine my shock when not only did I get the car seat out with him in, but on to the pram frame, and did the whole shop with him asleep!

It's weird. Some days he is sleeping very little, some days he is sleeping a lot.

I had to go to Asda after that, with DP. So I put him in the sling as DP hasn't been with me when I've had him in it before. DP had to admit that O was much easier to handle round the shop when in the sling. He said he will use a structured carrier if he must . I win .

DS1's first day at high school tomorrow. Emotions seem to be running very high in the house tonight.

I hope he enjoys it. I gave him a key to the house tonight. My baby just keeps growing up. :(

I've made him a list of rules. Who to contact in an emergency, what to do, what he is and isn't allowed to do etc. He isn't happy though. He had a full on strop because he thought he would be allowed to freely go out whenever he wanted. I'm the worlds worst mother because I won't allow him to roam the streets. He wants to know when he can. The answer was never. He wasn't happy.

Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh. It's a long battle ahead, isn't it?

Blown away by the love and support of the quiche once again. stunt I think you are amazing and I hope that some support comes through for you, you deserve it. And I hope DH realises what is going on and that you need support.

Congratulations vq, knew you could do it! When are you due back?

Welcome back pass, anxiety is a nightmare, glad you've been to the docs.

And MM, so sad to see the latest. It was not your fault. We are here for you.

Something for u to laugh at

So today I had the biggest stupid pregnancy rage out burst.

It's hot, when in bed and its hot I like to keep duvet off my feet. Unreasonable? No! Fh comes in and complains about extra duvet on his side and puts it back on me. So I throw the whole duvet off In rage. I have to put up with ur snoring. U want to have the fan on all bloody night. U always put ur arm under my pillow. U insist on facing me an I have to put up with ur alcohol breath all night. And literally end up in tears.
He was cleaver enough to switch on his nice mode quickly and got up and put duvet back on me and made sure duvet was not on my feet.
I know he will take the mic out of me eventually.

Why would he take the mick for his own inconsiderate behaviour, GT? Is he still drinking then?

Oooooo pennie are you excited?

mm I never really got on with hormonal contraception, like you I just bleed all the time, hence the sterilisation, but I am not suggesting you go down that route as yet. Would be a touch drastic maybe the copper coil is worth a try.

pass sorry you had a bit of a funny turn. That does sound a bit scary. I am glad you are ok now.

All good in the fairy house. We are trying to get the boys onto Northern
Ireland time but not doing a great job, pushed Os bedtime back from 6:45 to 7:15 but he still woke at 6. I lefthim to it for 30 mins or so as he was gurling happily, I think if I can get them used to lying in their cot for a bit rather than screaming to be let out a soon a they wake up it helps. Didn't work with DCs 1 & 3 , worked with 2, and suspect 4 is more similar to 2 than 3 or 1!!!

He has a a nice back of head injury from falling over onto an train yesterday and DS1 has a massive bruise on his cheek from falling out of bed. And mummy has a massive, massive bruise on her leg from slamming, when in full on pottering mode, into the corner of the bed. I guess we all have to get used to our new space.

How's things today stunt ?

how are you feeling today stunt ?