November 2012 - Teeth? Don't talk to us about teeth.

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1826507-November-2012-To-sterilise-or-not-to-sterilise-bottles-that-is

[PetiteRaleuse]

Thanks btw stunt for remembering I wanted to end the thread. :)

[RoLoh]

Glad to catch the thread in it's early stages for once! I never make it to the end

L is super clingy and I can't wait for it to be over though I'm sure I'll miss the cuddles when she doesn't want them any more.

At our health visit we got a lecture about feeding lumpy fiord to work her jaw muscles! Tbh I still mostly spoon feed as I'm too tired to be bothered with the mess of finger foods.

Exciting developments with activities though as she's walking with help and climbed all the stairs unassisted today. (not quite as excited about that one! Must remember to shut the gate)

Sorry to those with sick babies. Hope they get better quickly x

[Elizadoesdolittle]

Phew I can post now pr has finished the last thread.

E was weighed again yesterday and again is exactly the same weight. She's been 6.8kg for about 2 months now. She has started to take a bit more food and she was very sick for at least 2 days between the last weigh ins so we are giving it another 2 weeks tube free before another review. I think he's going to need to have put on at least a little weight next time otherwise I fear the ng tube will rear its ugly head again. Still no point in worrying about that now.

I was all primed to do a long post but E has just woken. DH is out tonight so I can mn then to my hearts content. Laterz quiche.

Oh and quick hand squeeze for chasing.

[PetiteRaleuse]

It's spider season. They're all coming inside.

Eliza I hope that you don't have to go back to the tube. Other than the weight non gain she is healthy?

[Kirrin]

Measles pennie ? Hope she's feeling better soon.

Just been looking at the Volvo, thanks JJ and VQ - won't be buying a full price one but will keep an eye for a cheapy.

There was the biggest spider in the world on my kitchen wall last night but in the time it took me to get something to deal with it the Hoover it vanished Luckily I found it floating in the dogs' water bowl this morning.

[PetiteRaleuse]

I hate it when they vanish

i found a squashed one in my garage earlier. I think I must have squashed it during the night when I went in to get a twix something from the fridge. Soooo glad I didn't see it alive it was a big one.

[MissMummy1]

Hope M is better soon pennie xxx

No spiders here (thank fuck) but the next worst thing in the form of long legs. Ick . Luckily Aulay dog seems to be quite good at catching them.

M has been awake since 4am - she better go down better tonight than she did last night (10.30ish after a long drive in the car..)

[Lily311]

Completely off topic but can I ask you to do me a favour? I really want a dishwasher but I think my kitchen cupboards are not standard size. Can you measure me the length, width and height of your cupboards and also your dishwasher? The height is the most important, I need to find a machine which is less than 82 cm(height). and the depth might be a problem too as I have some pipes going in the back so can't really be deeper than 57cm. The pages I'm looking at list the machines as 85cm high and 60 deep. Grrr.

[ChasingDaisy]

Will update about 'date' later. All good. I just need to get my head around what I want and what is best and am feeling a bit jumbled at the moment.

On the topic of living alone, I think if it was just me I would actually enjoy it. But living alone as a parent is fucking hard and I don't actually think the two are comparable. Living with just Oscar I feel very trapped. I feel trapped by being a parent at the moment and regretting some of my life decisions, which I know is awful of me as each one has led me to having Oscar.

[PetiteRaleuse]

lily mine would be too big -depth 70cm. I know it is possible to get quite narrow ones - almost every Parisian kitchen I have ever been in was tiny - galley kitchens - so they do make very compact ones. Having big kitchens and appliances is an anglo-saxon thing I think. There is a sub brand of Whirlpool called Laden, they do quite small ones.

[PetiteRaleuse]

chasing it is very normal to momentarily regret decisions. Don't feel guilty. Yes it IS very different, which is why you need to build yourself a support network. We are a start, but your childrens' centre wil help, your local MN group even the local Netmums group? You are not alone, there are thousands of mums just like you, going through the same feelings, regrets and hopes.

[TheDetective]

Chasing Yep, exactly. That is how I felt too. The two can't be compared. The responsibility and the loneliness can be overwhelming at times all the time.

[PetiteRaleuse]

And yes, in a sense, you are trapped. But look at it as constrained. But even with a DP you would still have constraints as the result of having children, especially if you don't have babysitters on tap. It is much harder for you, but try to look on the positive sides. You are possibly constrained by a lovely bubbly baby, but you are not trapped in an unhappy relationship with an abusive arsehole.

[PetiteRaleuse]

That sounded a bit harsh. It was not my intention.

[TheDetective]

You would - but you would hopefully have a happy family life. A loving relationship, friendship and company. So you are happy for those constraints.

[ChasingDaisy]

Yep detective I would happily be constrained in a relationship with the loving father of my child.

[Lily311]

I hate living alone. I'm good at it but I fucking hate it. I so wish to be with someone.

[PetiteRaleuse]

Ideally yes, of course. But reality is a long way from ideal. And no-one is suggesting that what you've done is easy. It's not. It was a very hard decision that a lot, most?, of us woukdn't have had the balls to take. Settling in to your new life, new flat is your last major hurdle. You are very capable of it.

[Passmethecrisps]

Evening beautiful ladies.

Lovely evening here in central haggis land after a dreich day. Family passme have had a fairly chillaxed day popping out for a curry lunch then a wander round town before back home. Now sitting at the kitchen table with ageing pussy on my knee and a glass of red. P was shattered so went down earlier than usual. Fingers crossed she stays that way.

Lots to comment on as usual and I know I will miss something and feel like an arse later.

I really hope that wee E puts some weight on eliza. It would be pretty demoralising I imaging to go back to the tube after things seemed to be going so well.

Measles is a bastard thing pennie. Have our babies not been immunised? I thought they had. Glad the wee one is on the mend though.

Hi roloh! I love it when people pop back to say hello. Nice to see you and it sounds like you are being kept busy!

How's the weekend going pr? Is Dd1 any more mellow?

I have sore ears. Ouch.

Ah chasing. I can't wait to hear about your date but I am not at all surprised to hear that you feel like you have a head filled with mince. I also completely sympathise with the feeling of being trapped. Even with a DH I was genuinely starting to doubt my wellness in the last month or so of mat leave. We have no good friends to really speak of here and our families are a long way away. Any time alone means one at a time and time alone together is a long way off. I can only imagine how much more isolating your situation must feel. I second that, when you are ready, you should basically throw yourself to the mercy of the HV and get yourself to every group and support network that you can. It doesn't matter if you don't really like the activity or whatever but getting out the house every single day will make getting up feel less bleak. Please please take advantage of the offer of Pm's or similar just for a blether.

[TheDetective]

And you will be Lily. :)

[PetiteRaleuse]

I think with a baby it must be hard. That baby will become an interactive communicative toddler. Who will then have school friends and their parents. And very soon you'll be aibu'ing about the worst ever childrens' parties (v entertaining reading on aibu right now!)

[PetiteRaleuse]

No friends or family here too pass. A blessing and a curse.

[PetiteRaleuse]

And get yourselves landlines. I get unlimited free calls to both Hungary and the UK. And am almost always awake. Well, Two nights of three.

[PurplePidjin]

[Passmethecrisps]

Oh I hear ya, PR! Lovely to have them visit. For a wee while

lily you have such guts. I actually find myself getting ragey at how unfair life has been to you and O.