Dec 11: Not tonight dear, I've got a haddock.

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I liked this one. :)

Clocks change next wkend, time to start puttung bedtimes back .

They'll all be turning two in the next 12wks or so

Seven. That's flown by! Where are you off to on hols?

Faffin, hope you all have a peaceful night

Nothing to report here; ds1 has discovered how far he can push his finger up his nose, 2nd knuckle, so proud!
Ds1 is a great baby, and is starting to look like Fred Astaire, poor bubbie.

Oh my, I am soooo pg.
(Actually I do not have a clue. Yet. No idea. I'll keep you posted.)
I don't know why I expect it to happen so easily. Ah well, we'll see.
Fingers crossed, faffin. Hope LO is soon better.
Seven - 6 months!!? Unbelievable! (Glad you've got a holiday booked. I bet you'll be glad to get away from it all for a while.)
I bought the Boi a pirate outfit at the weekend. There was a fancy dress shop at the soft play centre. I couldn't resist the big hat. It's age 3-4 but fits him ok so he may get a few yrs out of it - and not just for hallowe'en.

I feel a bit queasy.
= MUST be pg!
Ha ha ha!
Every little possible symptom will be jumped upon to confirm my absolute upduffery.

Is it bedtime yet?!

Just call me the mum who cried pox Still no spots, but he still had a high temp this morning, along with lots of snot and a nasty cough, so I've kept him off nursery today. Temp now back to normal and he's perked up a bit so fingers crossed he's now over the worst of it

oi when can you test?
We went to gymnastics today, was fun but chasing after him has left me knackered!

Greetings from over here!

DS is STILL obsessed with ice lollies, which is getting funny looks in this weather! I'm still working out the whole back-to-work thing, it's really important to balance out what will work best on the childcare/balance front, it's great being back but at the same time I am feeling like a juggling act now I'm not a SAHM! and trying very very hard not to spend on storage, sofabeds and extras for the DC! We are still on a budget!

Seven - huge hugs.

I got confirmation in writing Darcie is entitled to DLA. If anyone claims anything like that how do you use it?

I want to make DH a hamper for Xmas so any ideas what to put in it would be great.

Holy fucking fuck. Took DS to library earlier. Worst. Idea. Ever. Have had two glasses of wine since and am feeling very warm and fuzzy.

queen id check the specifics but I guess it would bet for things that she needs to help her with day to day life, that you wouldn't have to buy or pay for otherwise.

Havet had a conversation with DH and since neither of ust want anything specific for Christmas, we're going to aplurge on a veryt posh night out in Jan I think. Don't want to buy stuff for the sake of buying something.

Hop - what happened at the library?

I've said I'd use it to pay for her activities like singing & brownies & then any groups she may attend for kids who have ASD. I am going to get her the Asperger adventure books as I think a good story but also help her understand why she's different. Also going to get a calming basket as listening to parents at the support groups I go to they really work so will try and build one of them now.

Ooh Hop, what area of the country are you in?

Yes hop spill what happened at library? I stopped taking DS to rhyme time at library when he stopped paying attention/learnt how to run as I just kept having to chase him screaming through the library.

Qoc can't help with dh Xmas either as don't think we bothering with gifts this year as nothing either of us really have any ideas.

Good idea about the posh night out Hop. I may steal that. :) However, that'd be more for me than DH...
Ha ha! Just completely lost my train if thought - they just played Shanua Twain on university challenge!

Who's Shanua?!
C'mon hop, which library did he trash?!

He just ran around like a nutter taking ALL the books off all the shelves. He followed the librarians around as theyt were tidying up, taking all the books off that they had just reshelved and handing them back to them. Then threw a fit on the floor when I stopped him from launching a copy of the Hobbit across the desk at the librarians. Screaming child plus dead quiet library brings many stares and tuts. The librarians were lovely though and kept saying 'he's so excited by books!' And commenting on all thet words he knows. It was just hard work. Hard hard work.

aethal I'm in North Manchester.

Sky not very well :( was sick at 5am - only a little bit and brought up some juice she drank at 8:35 just now :( got docs appointment at 10:20 as this is how Darcie gets when she get a chesty problem :( Sky had croup so not having a good couple of weeks at moment.

She's in bed watching Simba with towels everywhere!

DH told me last night that he does not want more children, he never wanted kids really he admits himself he is too selfish and finds children frustrating but he was willing to have a child because i wanted one, now that i want 2 he thinks i have changed the goalposts and doesn’t want to go along with it. He doesn’t want another regardless of his health, his job situation and feels too old (at 38) to spend the next 20 years raising 2 children with all the sacrifices that will mean. I know it is a valid choice he is making but we are both now in an impossible position – I dont want to make him have a baby he doesn’t want and will resent me for but i dont want to not have another child, I dont want to spend what could be the next 10 years of my life actively trying not to get PG and then spending the rest of my life regretting that i didn’t have another.

He has told me twice over the summer we can have another once his issues are sorted but he has admitted that it was a delay tactic. I have told him he needs to tell me once and for all whether he is saying NEVER EVER as if he is i then need to decide whether i can accept that or whether i am someone who can split up her family which would mean me moving home to my parents in Scotland with nothing and no job, taking DS hundreds of miles away from his dad. I dont want to think i would do it for the chance of another with someone else assuming i am lucky enough to meet someone else but because i don’t want to stay with someone who wants such different things to me. I am so angry i think the mutual guilt and opposing positions will finish us in the end. So maddening as cant talk to people about this In RL. We were supposed to have a DS free night away at the weekend in london, seeing a band, natural history museum, hamleys shop for DS cant be bothered now!!! Dont even want to go home.

Oh Lady Sorry to hear that. It's a very big decision to make. I speak for everyone here when I say get things off your chest to us.

Sky has got an ear infection :( on Anti-B's.

Brought some more xmas presents today - love online shopping

Oh LG I'm sorry, that's a tough situation. Does he know how you feel about possibly leaving? Sorry I don't have any good advice (am in a similar, though not as bad, situation, and it's just so hard to think about). Big hugs. x

Shame to hear that lady, life is so complicated sometimes (and DH maybe needs to mum up a little. Kids are knackering and a huge responsibility, but don't let him guilt you that it's your fault if he spends the next 20 years whinging, he is a big boy too and had some say in the matter! Do you think he's claiming inability to do it cos he is low/tired out rather than that's his genuine immutable position?)

Sorry about the ear infection queen you've really had a run of bad luck health-wise.

God that's a bit of a shock LG. On the positive side, at least he is being honest now (although at the beginning would've been better). Is there anyway you would consider stopping at one DC at all? There are benefits to having just one DC, e.g more time to spend with them, more money for the family.

I don't know, these are things that are just coming into my head first.

What a horrible position to be in :(

Another thing that comes to mind is if you DH will enjoy parenthood more with an older child as opposed to the baby/toddler stage?

Some people just aren't good at all the stages. Like when he can share his hobbies with DS? Maybe the thought of having two close together scares him?

Hope that Sky gets better soon QoC!