Jan 2013: Part 5 - Food is for fun - Sleep is for wimps...

[Pascha]

Here we go again

Oh Glorious how awful for you. I was awake at 1am but that was more to do with the frankly disgusting stinky poo Daniel woke up and did. Glad she's better now.

Birdies DS1 said dada and very little else til about 15 months, then he aquired some animal sounds and by 2 we could count 6 words (mummy, daddy, dar (car), da-dar (tractor), cup and cakey )and 4 animal sounds. He was referred for 1:1 play therapy which started just before his 3rd birthday which also coincided with him starting nursery. In the last 6 weeks his speech has come on leaps and bounds and he now puts 3-4 words together in a sentence, he is getting clearer by the day and starting to have proto-conversations wih me. I think he'll be more or less caught up by age 4.

Dans babbling isn't great but he does say a recognisable mummmm and dadada in context to each of us. He's not especially vocal otherwise.

Angielka teething is shit really isn't it? We have a bit of it again this last couple of days. I think it must be the two outer front lower teeth next. We've only had a couple of weeks respite from the last couple. Hope she's feeling better soon.

Poly With mine its the cats water bowl. He just seems to think its hilarious to scoot over there the first moment he can. I'm sure he has some basic understanding of "No" because he has a mischievous glint in his eye whenever he's caught. When he will start taking notice I have no idea. Ds1 aged 3 isn't much better at listening to me

Hehe Meringue Dan is falling over everything he can pull up on. No banged heads yet but it can't be far away. We took refuge at soft play this morning - can't come to much harm in the babies section there! Its full of hungover/sleep deprived parents desperately trying to stay awake while their children crawl and bump and flail happily at each other (this mum included)

Dexter shakes his head if we say no no no.. but he just thinks its fun he's no idea we mean no :( im trying 'errmmm' next accompanied with the look.

katolla we tried a dream feed with dd but it didn't make much difference so we only did it a few times.

bunty another vote for ignoring your dh. I don't think there's any evidence that formula makes babies s sleep any better than breast milk. Dd's sleep finally got better once she was eating plenty of solids and we finally put her in her own room. I loved her being with us and only moved her out because she rolled out of our bed, and there's no space in our room for her cot, but her sleep improved dramatically so I think we must have disturbed her in the night. She still comes in with us for a couple of hours in the morning so we still get our fill of baby cuddles.

Pascha dd now babbles mama, Dada, baba etc. She suddenly started a week or so ago, just as I was starting to worry. She's still not a very chatty baby but I'm not worried now I know she can do it. She seems to put all of her energy into trying to move about instead.

poly Ivy loves shoes! And the kitchen bin too. We are using the ironing board over the doorway to keep her out until a new stairgate can be put up. Worked fine til she started using it to stand And pascha my 10 year old still doesn't listen....

Ivy laughs when we say no, then carries on.

She has discovered cruising..

Not so much babbling here. Planty of mamas and lots of noise. For anyone worried there wasn't much babbling from my older dc and no probs with speech.

meringue IME (with ds2 a nutter) if you go to a+e etc often enough a HV will eventually contact you to check all ok. (2 black eyes,.fell through a table, fractured wrist...) I have several grey hairs that i blame him for :)

Hope poorly babies are ok and all are in for a good nights sleep :)

Hope all the poorly babas are feeling better soon!

Katola we gave up the dream feed a while ago, she stopped taking it so didn't bother one night and she slept so stopped it after that

Poly my DS1 (3) still doesn't listen when I say no so I'm not getting my hopes up, DD just smiles at me when I say no and does it anyway

Pascha great news on your DS speech!

DD has not been herself this afternoon, really sleepy and was sick a couple of times, off to ed now just incase I'm in for a bad night!

Oh and Bunty, another vote for sticking with bf, your boobs your choice! How gutted would you be if you gave it up an ff made no difference
DD is ff and sleeps well, my friends DS is ff and is up 4/5 times a night

Thanks everyone. She's still pretty miserable but not like yesterday. Desperate for some sleep now.

angielka it must've been even scarier at 3 months, they seem so much more vulnerable when they're tiny don't they. Sorry about the teething.

pascha sorry you were up too, midnight nappies are grim. Well done DS1

bunty I am of the exact same opinion as you. Fingers crossed for some sleep x

meringue I love your video! He's gorgeous :)

We have bababa, and sometimes dadada. I love the way she pulls her lips in for bababa. And in the morning when she wakes up, she whispers it like she's practising.

It is crazy how much we love these little people isn't it? They're just incredible.

Had a bit of a break down at my mums today because I'm feeling like DH isn't that interested in Nancy and I'm just feeling shit about everything again. Absolutely no sleep last night doesn't help (not because of Nancy, but because of possible haunted hotel room )

Sorry, pretty much a mememe post

Oh glorious how scary, I hope she's better soon. And all other unwell/teething babies and older siblings are back to themselves ASAP

Ooh bunty my friends ff baby is 11 months and still fed at night. I think bugsy is right that being in a diff room helps as there is more chance for them settling back down. Ivy still in with us and will be until i feel i can trust dd1 Sometimes when they are teething or just not feeling well they want comfort and bf gives that. If you want to carry on then do. FWIW all have slept through eventually ans none were ff.

Fingers crossef for beter sleep :)

Thanks pascha, that has made me feel better. DD1 has quite a few words but she doesn't use them very much and hasn't said more than one word at a time yet. But it sounds like by 3 that could suddenly improve :)

to creepy, sleep deprivation makes things feel so much worse too.

I can hardly change X's nappy now - she just won't keep still and she's really strong. It's so tricky - does anyone have any tips or advice?! She gets really upset if I try to pin her down!

I have the same problem birdies and dd hates being on her back now and screams if I put her there for a nappy change. I give her a toy to distract her which works about half of the time. I used to have a wind chime above her baby change which kept her amused but now I change her on the floor.

Birdies, I give him something to hold and play with usually the babywipes or sudocreme! It helps. Failing that I put my leg out so he cant roll... or I just give up and let him go off nappyless for a min then try again. He screams the house down putting his clothes on or lying him down. Nightmare.

Same problem here birdies, I wish they would realise that if they kept still then it would get done so much faster!

Creepy hope you had a better night, sleep deprivation makes everything seem so much worse, have you spoke to DH about it?

Off to a play centre today with my SIL and niece and nephew, hoping to tire them out so they both have a sleep this afternoon not getting my hopes up

Oh nappy changing is tough for us now too... I got one of those little baby gym things from ikea for DD1 when we got to this stage and put it over the changing mat. It's actually quite effective for Molly too.

Just remember it's another phase that will pass .

Sorry you're feeling down creepy. Anyone around who can give you a break to do something just for you? Have you spoken to DH about it? I always find it helps to put things in perspective when I've spoken about it. I suddenly realise there are thousands, millions of us struggling to deal with the responsibility of a young family and that it is the hardest job in the world and it's not surprising we find it tough sometimes!

Bunty tell DH to piss off. It must just be a phase. I'm still 100% BFing so you can definitely do it! Mine eats about the same as yours re solids.

Poly I hear you on the bin front. Mine does it with the recycling bag....

I do not have a talking baby :(

Morning all.

Btw, I'm so sorry my posts are all me me me. :( this is really the only place I have to talk about things. My RL friends are useless. One has just told me "haha she'll sleep when she's a teenager!"

Is it acceptable to kill her?

Last night was an all time low. She was up every hour from 7:30, we brought her down from 9:30 until 10:30 hoping to tire her out, and then at 2:30 she was fully awake and playing until 5:30. She woke at 9 this morning and has slept 15 mins.

I cracked and got an emergency dr appt. who started to tell me it wasn't an emergency until I started crying and told her how bad things are. I've got piriton for dd in the hope it will slightly sedate her, and have been prescribed citroplam for me.

I suppose I must be a bit depressed. I thought I was just tired.

That's what we're here for bunty Hoping this works for you x

Haven't really spoken to DH about it because he doesn't really listen. My parents have noticed a change in him too which adds to the shittyness. Had FILs birthday party at the weekend so all his family from away were there. I thought he'd spend most of the time with us/showing nancy off. But he was outside 'not smoking' for most of the night. Which is a whole other argument.

Not paying me much attention a lot of the time I can just about deal with, not giving Nancy attention I can't. I told him off last week cos he'd enter a room and not speak to her, and she gets all excited when he comes in :(

Aw Bunty hope that works, last night sounds terrible, will she take a bottle of expressed so DH can do a feed?

Creepy time to have serious words I think, maybe sit down tonight after tea and tell him what an arse he is being how you feel

bunty hope piriton works. Lack of sleep can make you feel so awful i would assume the ads are a short term help until sleep inproves and you feel better.i certainly find that lack of sleep really affects my mh.

Ivy looks so funny cruising as her legs just don't look big enough to carry her weight.

Tried her with a boild egg yesterday. Just dropped bits on the floor then later found her eating the bits shed dropped after i'd given up on feeding her

creepy that sucks. Seconding lollis advice to try to talk to him. for you too.

Oh bunty and creepy I'm so sorry.

bunty DD has piriton when she has an allergic reaction and it does make her sleepier than normal. Just so you know though it doesn't last all that long for her. But it may be different for you. I just wanted you to know you might not get all night because I'd hate it to be a nasty shock

creepy I'm sorry you're low and that DH isn't being great. Could there be any reason he's behaving that way?

angiel you are a genius, I have one of those baby gyms but had put it in the loft once dd was sitting. I got it back down and it kept her amused while I changed her nappy.

bunty definitely kill her . Glad you have some meds, hope t they will improve things for you.

creepy that sounds rubbish