November 2012 - Next stage car seats and yet more teething

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1808232-November-2012-Summertime-and-the-babies-are-sleeping-mostly-with-a-few-notable-exceptions

Thanks to those for advice re antihistamines. fatima I'm taking the first one you mentioned. Just took another one, my insect bites are soooo itchy.

A grey miserable day here. DD1 has tennis this morning then might wander up to the library.

Morning fellow cunt-wearers

Thank you for the info about Nannies Cacacaz. Thankfully tax credits help ease the burden otherwise I simply could not afford to go to work as that is more than my take home pay. We are just waiting for news of our review. It is horrible waiting as you never know if they are going to give you a nice lump sum or cut your payments.

Cetirizine should be fine Eliza as it's one of the older antihistamines so breastfeeding women have been taking it for decades.

Fruit the book about low carbing is £2.99 on Kindle or available in print. There's no calorie counting or carb counting, and you're supposed to eat when you're hungry so there's no need to starve yourself. I have lost weight but been able to maintain my supply of breastmilk, which I wouldn't have been able to do if I cut my calorie intake. The MN support group is outstanding and there's a lot of support. It's an unconventional way of eating so it's probably best suited to someone that does a lot of the cooking in the household. I tend to cook two vegetables with each meal so DH and I just have meat and veggies while the kids have their spuds, rice, etc. as well. But there are adaptions for vegetarians and advice on eating out and takeaways on the support thread.

Morning all! Have reached a compromise, couldn't not be me! Felt really odd. Anyway this is less obvious.

E had a very restless night and was crying at 5:30, which was shortly followed by a poosplosion so I'm guessing that's why. It couldn't have been hunger as when I did feed him at 6:50 he didn't drain it, odd. His poo is getting better in consistency but I still don't know whether I should take him doctors

Hope all goes well at the CM's pass

chasing E has had ready brek and baby porridge, but I've not bothered giving normal porridge yet cos he doesn't eat breakfast still anyway!

That is beginning to concern me now actually. Breakfast is supposed to be important and yet he refuses more than a few mouthfuls :( of everything. Will try normal porridge and see what happens.

Fucking wanking arse geese pr (not the kids)

Woohoo pidj and bplp and fatima!!

Hey cacacaz :) glad you enjoyed the meet up!

Well, my attempts to not eat chocolate last night worked! I had a small portion of what was left from tea, which admittedly wasn't the healthiest of foods but it wasn't chocolate and that is a success for me! . Unfortunately dp will offer to go to tesco 5 mins away day or night if I ask for something so it's all too easy to eat crap :( I must tell him to refuse in future. It's all his fault. Bastard. lol!

Thanks stunt I'll check it out.

Haha kyz I blame dp for me being fat too, he is a fantastic cook and when we first got together he used to cook me amazing meals and would always give me the same portion size as his. I was a nice healthy weight before him lol. He has put weight on too, we got fat together and joke that we are both feeders haha. But it's got to a point now where we both need to do something about it.

Agh just spent fucking ages tidying away lego and associated crap and DD1 has just tipped the box on the floor again. And is kicking the pieces in every direction.

Has to be tidied as we are going to the hospital this afternoon for my appointment and if I don't tidy the dog will chew it all up. Agh.

Fuckety fuckety fuckety bollocks and merde.

My life pr, my life. Pick up Lego. Someone tips it out. Pick it up. Tip it out. And it goes on.

I can donate some wobbly tummy and bing wings.

Stunt I've downloaded that - thanks. I also quite like the idea of the 5:2 fasting diet. Both would be kinda long term lifestyle changes rather than short term point counting diets I guess which works better for me. I've only dieted once before to lose weight for our wedding and that involved cutting out bread, cheese and junk food and just substituting with loads of fruit and veg. Gah I didn't know how lucky I was in my 20s when I never put weight on and ate like a hog yet was always size 8-10. My Mum warned me my super fast metabolism would slow down after having kids. I've lost 30 lb this year thanks to dairy free - would like to lose another 12 but if we try for number 2 this autumn I'm just going to gorge, balloon, bloom in the first trimester again no doubt

Morning all, will do my best to catch up!

I can donate a fine pair of saddlebags and a Buddha belly - one careful lady owner.

sp sleeping babies

Hugs mm is what I was saying on fb, some people just have weird logic, and then seem to be able to twist it round to make themselves the victim and you the victimiser. Is bizarre. You will never win. So in true Mumsnet style SMILE AND NOD.

(Disclaimer, I have tried and tried and tried but it has taken me till this year -aged 40-- to be able to smile and nod and not get worked up, but if you can make it that you don't get worked up and they are the only person who gets worked up then is a silent victory!)

MM I'm not a fan of ultimatums (generally true meaningful behaviour change never results from them and the other person feels all martyrish and resentful and it tends to stop the other person from using their own empathy) but his family sound like weapons of the highest order. I don't think you were being unreasonable in not sending an invite after you'd already checked WTF??? I can't see how she'd get mad about that? I bet the sisters have been bitching - I hope your DP has been standing up for you. As for the hissy fit - I'm the same, I can take so much but eventually I let rip and bystanders beware!

MM I'd have done the same - a verbal decline in the planning stages means no official invite iirc this is likely to be a back-breaking straw for the camel otherwise known as your relationship?

R is asleep on my back. I bought pounds and pounds of veg at the market this morning. My shoulders hurt

I haven't seen the n word written down in a while. It was a bit weird to see. My granny is a bit racist too. I blame the crap she had to go through when she first came to this country still being ingrained but she does try not to be. H stares at everyone, it's all new for them and I'm sure they see a smiley face or laughing eyes before they see colour at ths age. I think sometimes we might over think things when it comes to race especially when there aren't a mix of people in your area. We know as adults it's rude to stare but babies are just being babies. I was on the train with dh and H yesterday and a little girl looked at all of us and said dh couldn't have been H's daddy because dh was pink. The mother shushed her but I thought it would have been the perfect time to have a conversation. And Chasing you can definitely see the Chinese in O, which is lovely, it's who he is. It's funny I didn't really think about the bonding and looking different to me but I did about ds1.

Morning all,
chasing and big I've got plently of fat if you want it!

We had a baby that slept through! from 8- 530 I never thought it possiable!

pass I'm the same with N. he has a massive black rucksack, where all the other children have small kiddy ones.

Evil

mm I'm with you on this one, why on earth would you send an invite when you already know they aren't going. Your SIL sounds to me like she was just looking to stir things up. I hope your dp stuck up for you.

mm YANBU and tbh I would have given him the same choice. Your husband or partner has chosen you to spend his life with, and therefore should always stand up for you, even against his family.

chick I agree that would have been a great time to have a conversation. When I broke my back I had to wear a brace for quite a while. When it was cold I could kind lf hide it under a jumper, but on the warm days I wore it over a tee shirt and everyone stared. I remember walking through the village and caught a child's eye and smiled. The kid was pointing me out to his mum, who, when she realised I had seen them, looked mortified and shhed him. So I wandered over and said hello and explained the weird thing I was wearing to the kid and told him to knock on it as hard as he could to see that it was protecting me like a tortoise is protected by its shell etc etc.

People don't like being pointed and stared at (though babies excepted of course) but it can be turned into an opportunity for discussion.

Two very bad tempered little girls here. I'm staying calm though, am quite chuffed. The fact that I know I will be able to take something to help me calm down is helping me calm down iyswim.

I think that's the great thing about living in london. I never feel like an outsider but going out of london I've felt uncomfortable at times because of people looking at me, I'm sure it's mostly due to curiosity rather than any malice.

I'm sure it is curiosity, natural I guess. Most people aren't malicious.

Though I can think of one person in particular who absolutely is (you see how I can turn any conversation into one about my work? This is why I need the xanax)

DD1 and I have just been feeding ill bumble bees on the terrace. There were a couple on the ground and I read on here a few weeks ago that a sugar water mixture makes them better. She loved it, though I had to stop her trying to stroke them. "Poor bee, poor bee, cuddle bee"

Yay, my book order has just arrived, I'm overly excited to read the snail and the whale!!

one of them died :(

Poor bee

Fruit That's the same scenario here!

DP was 10st when we met. Underweight! 19, and skinny as fuck. To be fair he could have done with putting a stone and a half on. I was 11st4. I could have done with losing a stone and a half! But I was happy where I was (lightest I'd been for several years).

Then he moved in. He put over 5st on in 6 months. I put on 3 stone, but over a longer period of time.

Then after O I put on over a stone and a half.

So we both bit the bullet and did our first diet! As of today, I have lost 2 stone, and DP has lost 2st 6lb in a shade over 3 months.

DP is nearly where he wants to be bastard he wants to lose 5 more lb. I've told him to bugger off he can lose another stone so I'm not doing this alone!! I've got another 3 stone to go to my first target. And then if I can lose that, and maintain for a while, I may try and go for another stone and a half off.

That would put me at around a size 10, and I'm not sure I can keep that up.... we'll see!

No advice on putting weight on, other than eat too much shit - which is clearly what we had been doing here! Though for some people it isn't that simple is it?

Chasing DS1 is eating SW at dinner time. He lost 7lb in the first month. He was very slim before at 6st 12 (he's 5ft2)! So I have been careful to add extra fats to his foods in the form of whole milk, plenty of cheese, full fat yoghurts, nuts, bread, cream etc.

O had a very late night last night thanks to falling asleep in the car coming home at 6pm . I didn't even try putting him to bed til almost 9.30.

He woke at 5. Fed, back to sleep.

I fully expected him to wake up between 6 and 7 regardless of what time he went to bed as it hasn't seemed to have an effect before.

8.45.

8.45

8.45!!!!!!!

And you know what? I went to bed after he did last night! And DP did the feed. So I've had a shit load of sleep makes up for the night before grrrr!.

I'm still in shock here!