November 2012 - The Adventure Continues

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1787896-November-2012-Crawling-Already-Uh-oh

This thread's topic is what size of nappies are your babies in? And how are the cloth bum babies doing?

GT The only way for a more urgent scan to be done is as an inpatient, and even that can take 1-2 days to be done.

You should get an appt with in the next week or so I would have thought.

If she was concerned (ie. there were any other signs of a problem, such as high BP, protein in your urine, oedema etc) she would have referred you straight up to whatever day assessment they have at your hospital.

If any concerns between now and the appt, just ring up the unit and ask to be seen. :)

GT, det has given you could advice. But just for some reassurance, I measured at least 4 weeks behind throughout my entire pregnancy. I had growth scans every two weeks but there were no problems at all

good advice*

I'm v of the Scotland meet.

Our wedding was lovely but I think if I did it again now I might do it a bit differently.

Having a bit of a stress over finances today, it's fine and doable but when I'm having a lower day I stress about things like money and struggle to see the bigger picture. Once I get back to work and a few months of better pay it'll all be fine. Bloody redundancy and boiler breaking messing up our plans.

It's because I need new clothes, nothing fits me and I'm stressing about affording them. But then I think how much I've been making selling old ones on eBay. And then I get annoyed at DH because he doesn't stress about affording cigs every day or having a few pints after cricket

On another note, M's weaning seems to be going to pot. She was doing good at finger food, loved feeding herself, but now she doesn't seems to be eating much. She's fab with breakfast and yogurts and stuff but lunch and tea she's not really having much. Unless she has stuff spoon fed off our plates. Feels like a bit of a step backwards

I measured myself behind. It was only once my colleagues demanded I was scanned that my community midwives decided I was measuring small. Even though I told them.

O was small, 2nd centile small. He was completely fine beyond that though!

I still believe it was the stress levels I was under at work (both the stress I put myself under, and the stress work/management piled on top) that was the cause.

3 midwives, all pregnant together in the same work place. 2 of us with previous average sized babies. All 3 of us measured small for dates. O was the smallest of all, the other two a few ounces bigger.

I don't think it was coincidence...

I measured massive the whole way through and no extra scans after 20 weeks. Turned out it was because he was a V shape with his bum engaged!

Bp I hope cake baking melts the ice.

Love the wedding stories.

Kyz we still have 4 bottles a day and sometimes 5 if he cries for it. 4oz at brekie as he has 2oz in his weetabix. 5/6oz about 10am lunch at 12ish 5/6oz about 2ish dinner at 5ish and then 9/10oz at bedtime

Thanks all, I think it probably makes sense to keep offering it for now to avoid myself panicking especially as he does still completely refuse his solids sometimes! Also when he's eating just finger foods/blw style he does eat less which makes me worry he isn't getting enough. I can't remember the last time he woke in the night, he has woken at 5am ish a couple of times but goes straight back off with his dummy so cannot be that hungry. He only drank 24oz the other day when it was really hot but was drinking 28-30 in general otherwise. It's just he still wants three naps because of when food times are I have to wake him for the 3pm bottle more often than not and he cannot stay up 3-8 and if he did would have a meltdown at tea time. If I squish it all up and do bed time earlier that might work but I know he won't eat tea if its after a bottle at 3, he just wouldn't bother unless it was fruit or something. Feels a bit much though to put two solid meals before bottles, in case he then doesn't take enough milk. Argh!!!

det I hadn't even thought of formula in a sippy cup! I'm not sure if he'd go for that though, unless it was just for that lunchtime bottle. But my sippy cup only holds erm... I dunno. It doesn't say :/ wank! I don't think he would do the sippy cup cos a fave game is to pour the contents of said cup onto tray... Ah fuck it, as you said!

gt mum measured small with elyza iirc and she was all fine, others have actual proper advice for you but wanted to say try not to worry :)

fatima I know that feeling, dp doesn't realise how much the odds and sods he buys add up to! Could it just be a phase with m?

L has been having 3x7oz and 1x5oz bottles per day but rarely finishes the last, it's just a bedtime thing. He's now not finishing the bigger ones as he eats more so I'm going to decrease to 3x6oz and 1x3oz.

Food in the heat has been hit & miss but I'm not too worried. E.g. Sometimes lunch is just a banana.

He seems to have given up bf in the last couple of weeks & now I'm on abs and pks for my tooth so I think that's it... Kind of but it's ok.

mm I had the coil in Feb and haven't had a period since - I assumed the same as you.
And BPLP with DD1 I didn't have a period til I stopped feeding completely - and for the last month or so she was only having 1 feed a day.

With stair gates, I thought the advice was not to have pressure gates at the top of the stairs, it should be wall mounted?

Some lovely wedding stories :)
I hate the girls having a different name to me too. Other than that I am happy not being married.

Those involved in the haggis meet tomorrow - have a lovely time :)

Fatima I completely synpathise. As DP is on sick pay for the forseeable we are well and truly fucked. He has gone from earning £150 a day to £86 a week I have calculated we have enough savings to last us 2-3 months. After that we are fucked. Really fucked. So much so I have cut down on EVERYTHING. He has not

I also applied for no less than 12 jobs today. Including a nursery teaching one. Surely some school wants me!!

Your wedding days all sound lovely.

Yes, re: stairgates. Should be wall mounted at the top.

I ordered a pressure fit one for the living room, and a wall mounted for the top of the stairs.

When the pressure fit one was put up, DP said, here Detective, test it. So I pulled on it, not even with my full weight.

I pulled it off.

He had to re-fit the entire thing!

I wouldn't fancy that at the top of the stairs, just in case.

Also, the bar on the bottom is a trip risk.

Oh yes, stair gates. I plan to have one fitted at the bottom of the stairs, just as they start to go up (ie leaving the 2 big corner steps at the bottom accessible).

Upstairs in our house we have the spare room to the left of the stairs then our room, M's room and the bathroom to the right. I plan to put a stairgate along that corridor basically blocking M's access to the stairs and the spare room/office.

I'm having a nightmare of a night. Have had no sleep and a screaming James most of it. I just screamed and shouted at him, poor thing. DH eventually woke the Fuck up and has taken him to try calm him down again. He's quiet now but I just want to cry. I cannot cope with this much longer.

I knew your stop my stressing det.

Haggis dont have to much fun today.

I'm going to have some mummy friends soon! Two of FH friends wives are having their first babies this and next month. And they are the wives I happen to like the most lol.

Izzy hope you are managing some sleep now x

Argh it's getting light outside. I can't sleep. Feel a bit hungry. But CBA to get up.

Oh izzy. Big hugs. Are you seeing the paeds again soon?

Gt - I say go grab a banana or something then fet back to bed.

gt I was measuring 3 cm behind all the way through. Had scans every 4 weeks, they predicted a tiny baby. O was 3.67kgs. Don't worry pls.

I met a lady with her 5 year old daughter the day before yesterday. They live in the same building as we do. The girl was very chatty and yest they stopped us on the street and had a chat. Progress I say.

izzy huge hugs.
mm good luck with job applications
No need for stair gates here, we are in a flat.

O loves newspapers. Tearing them apart. She even uses her teeth just to make sure she rips it into tiny pieces.

Kyz J loves his sippy cup and drinks loads of water but when I put milk in it yesterday he took a big gulp then opened his mouth so it could all drain out again.

J was up three times again last night although I'm hopeful I'll be able to get him into his cot for one last snooze. Knackered does not begin to describe how I feel. He's definitely better now his food issues have been identified, we no longer have the hourly awakenings and the screaming in pain in the night. But he's still feeding like a newborn at night - every three hours for 40 minutes. I look utterly shit with huge bags under my eyes. People keep looking at me and doing a double fake before telling me how tired I look.

I'm loving the wedding talk. I loved our wedding. It might have been a bit too rough round the edges for some but I thought it was perfect. My mum and aunt cooked, dh and others decorated the venue. We got lots of help from family. I'm not usually good with being the centre of attention either but on the day I loved it. But planning was so stressful and dh did as much as I did. My mum just drove me crazy, she bought another wedding cake because she didn't like the flavour of the one we had was one thing that came to mind.

I don't have a proper routine with Holden and eating. His eating is dependent on his naps and they are still a bit all over the place. He's bf so feeding whenever he asks for it, usually about every 3 or 4 hours breakfast between 8 and 11. Lunch between 1 and 3 and dinner at 6. It's also dependent on where we are. We go out every day. It works for us.

Dp and i are waiting for life to calm down before we get engaged. We've been waiting 2 1/2 years so far.

Leg is killing me. Haven't slept well in the breaks R has given me - wakes at 12:30 and 3, chatting in bed from 5:15, up with dp at 5:45 which prompted outrage. Should have boobed him but was too tired to move.

Dp off to work shortly

Chick that sounds like us - it seems easier to fit 3 meals in with BF somehow. I guess cos his milk feeds aren't 'formal' at set times / quantities i.e i whip a boob out if he chunters... Though I think he snacks on BM rather than solids at this stage... but that's not bad is it?

QQ to those with different surnames to their babies - well err why (if you don't mind me being a cheeky cow and asking)? I think if we'd have been unmarried J would have had my name as I'd be the one taking him to appointments, doing the primary care, ultimately be the single parent if we split up and I'd want the same name (and the Daddy would have to marry me if he wanted us to have his name ). Was it done to bond babies to Daddies, is it a legal thing - or because the Dad's insisted?

Slept through again til 7.15! We are so due another regression to knock us on our arses.....

GT Jonas measured average all the way at our monthly scans - he was 95th centile for his prematurity - so don't panic

Morning all.

Sorry not read much again been so busy but cc is now sorted thankfully!! I think I've seen and met everyone in the area. I had brain ache. Anyway, gone with cm. popped his name on the preschool waiting list or at least I'm going to!! Was so hard!!!

Finance wise, everything is joint. I can't be arsed with seperate accounts etc. though we both have slightly seperate saving accounts. In fact view my savings as my horses :) lol house is in both our names, were married (though have different surnames ds has dh surname)