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November 2012 - The Adventure Continues

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StuntNun · 03/07/2013 05:10

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1787896-November-2012-Crawling-Already-Uh-oh

This thread's topic is what size of nappies are your babies in? And how are the cloth bum babies doing?

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MissMummy1 · 09/07/2013 18:12

Fabtastic yw , although I will need to be away by 3pm at the very latest for work Sad

TheDetective · 09/07/2013 18:40

If it makes the booby brigade feel any better, mine have now perked back up and seem as they were before (not perfect, but, ya know...!). Took about 3-4 months I seem to think. They went like empty sacks, but have refilled!

I like the sound of your wedding YW! Ice cream van... I'd of had a permanent camp by it!

I don't think I will ever marry. I have a picture of me in a wedding dress. That's enough! I did want to, but for me it feels a lot of expense and hassle.

Given I have 2 children with different fathers, and owned this house before DP came along... being unmarried is better for me and both DS's, but mostly DS1. I'd like to get married, but practically thinking, I need to think of my children. I might marry when they are all grown up and moved out!

Also it is worth remembering that DP works PT. He will technically be with O more, although in reality it probably won't actually work out that way. But in the eyes of the law, if I was married, and DP was the one to work PT, I could lose my home and children if DP was so inclined.

As much as I love and trust DP, like I say - I take no chances.

Sounds like a bitch.

ChasingDaisy · 09/07/2013 18:50

I want to come to the haggis pool party Sad

Take lots of photos please!

Lily311 · 09/07/2013 18:58

det same here. We were engaged for 4 years but never really wanted to get married, paper was not important for us. I probably won't ever get married. To protect finances. I've worked very hard for what I have and half of it is now on O's name as she inherited from Leo. It might seem selfish but I never want to find myself in a situation where I need to sell my share and possibly move O in case of divorce.

Lily311 · 09/07/2013 18:58

Me too chasing, me too...

daisychain76 · 09/07/2013 19:09

I lloved planning my weddinng. We had an Elvis impersonator at the reception, who was featured on Airline no less! It?s our 10th anniversary this year so l have suggested to dh we have another blessing, but he pretends not to hear.

Hope tthe pool party is good.

TheDetective · 09/07/2013 19:19

Oh thank goodness someone understands! I worry when I say stuff like that!

I just think I've worked damn hard to provide for my children, and no matter how much I love someone, they are not taking that from me!

Also DP is free to get a FT job if he wishes, and he is free to buy his own property and rent it out. So I won't let it be said that he has had no choice! I will always support him whatever he wishes to do.

Lily311 · 09/07/2013 19:25

I understand it very well. And if I ever meet someone but doesn't want to live in my property than we can rent something and I rent mine out. I'm not fussy. But I will not sell it or buy something with anyone. I'm done with that.

MissMummy1 · 09/07/2013 19:33

I too am very very cautious of protecting myself financially. Having lived through my parents' particularly messy divorce, I never want to find myself in the position my bastard dad put my mum in (she was a retired SAHM and he took everything, she even had to buy her own house back from him Angry ). Hence the car is in my name; if I ever get round to buying a house, regardless of his input, it will be in my name; and although we are engaged, I am in absolutely no rush to be married.

I am therefore also a heartless cow Blush

Passmethecrisps · 09/07/2013 19:48

Aaaaaargh. This is horrendous. It is over 26 degrees in the house and p's room is 29 degrees. She is currently in just a vest but she doesn't know what to do with herself. The fan is having no impact and any attempts to rock her to sleep are met with fury. I am a sweaty mess.

Pikz · 09/07/2013 19:57

I totally get it. We are getting married because we want to but we have a full financial arrangement all mapped out on paper with lawyers already done so that we both know exactly where we stand if anything went wrong.

We both come from horribly broken homes. The Mauritius wedding is a way of running away from all the family politics!

I am too very jealous of haggis meet! I want to come!

ChasingDaisy · 09/07/2013 19:59

Lily and Det, although I am a long way from buying a house, I completely understand. Everything I do from now on will be in my name only. Even things like buying furniture. I will not be in the position of being left with nothing again.

Passmethecrisps · 09/07/2013 20:28

Phew. And guess what numbnuts here did? Accidentally picked up fricking chilli pesto. I have never fancied a meal less!!

Anyway, fingers crossed P is asleep and will stay asleep. She is in a vest with a cellular blanket nearby should I feel she is cold.

Right. Wedding chat. We all have our own reasons, don't we? DH and I were pretty anti-marriage or certainly anti the sort of traditional conventional thing. Well, not anti it as such but we just didn't see how it would change what we already had. We had discussed it so many times that when DH proposed he asked than hurriedly said "but it's okay if you don't fancy it. Honestly! Just forget I mentioned it if you don't fancy it" Strangely enough I did fancy it. No idea why - I think I knew I wanted kids very soon and to be honest I wanted us to be married. Our engagement was 6 month long and we conceived P on honeymoon. As the GP said "bish, bash, bosh!"

DH and I both come from families who are still together despite some pretty tough times. I think we both felt that we had reached an age where maybe seeing us get married would be nice for them. Sort of dropping all the angry adolescent stuff

Mauritius sounds wonderful pikz!

Haggisers - I have an hour or so with the childminder tomorrow morning from 9. Should probably be in the Lang toon by about 12ish. What should I bring?

Passmethecrisps · 09/07/2013 20:29

I think I am delirious. Watching a cookery programme and was drooling at the pork roast. Only to realise it is apple.

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2013 20:36

We did our wedding on the cheap. Wore a hot pink dress, 8 guests (no-one from my family could make it) got nice food delivered to our flat where we held the reception for the ten of us. I did manage to do the housework but only just. Oh, and it was the middle of January. We live in the coldest area of France. We drank some strong drinks before walking to the village mairie for the ceremony. The mayoress had to ask who the bride was as I didn't look like one. I did put some lippy on though

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2013 20:38

Oh, and DH proposed in the supermarket queue.

YellowWellies · 09/07/2013 20:43

Pass I was going to make some dairy free sarnies, and buy some cakes etc - we've got loads of baby food (courtesy of Ella's kitchen cough cough) spoons, weaning bowls, 2 high chairs and a bumbo etc and have heaps of finger foods for wee folks including dairy free ice cream (not finger food Hmm ) which even the dairy babies will like! We can just feed them outside under the sunshade and let the sea gulls eat the dregs - my trick to avoid cleaning my floors Wink .I've got towels, size 4 swim nappies etc so just bring yerselves and cozzies for the wee ones unless they are happy just in their nappies. I might even get some becks blue!

Passmethecrisps · 09/07/2013 20:59

Huzzah!

Looking forward to it.

fruitpastilles · 09/07/2013 21:03

V jealous of the haggis pool party Hmm

Haven't posted in a few days, but have read all that's been going on, can't believe how quiet it was on here last night.

Wedding chat - I have no desire to get married at the mo, neither does dp. I however would be royally screwed if we split up, everything and I mean EVERYTHING is in his name, the house (due to my bad credit Blush) and everything in it. The only thing that I hate about not being married is that S has a different name to me, I joked to dp that I was going to change my name by deed poll and he gave me a weird look.

I have had a lovely day today, my cousin bought all of her bridesmaids a voucher for a spa day at the hotel she was married in and we all went today, my auntie had S for the day and said she as an absolute delight Smile

PetiteRaleuse · 09/07/2013 21:07

Envy of tomorrow's meet up Envy

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StuntNun · 09/07/2013 21:11

Hello gang. I'm in the middle of nowhere (Portsoy) and have no Internet connection so can't keep up. SIL is doing well and has had a cuddle with J Smile plus we have managed to look after DNephew adequately - all it took was a trip to the aquarium, three new toys and an ice cream TAKE NOTE MM's SIL. Will check in properly when I have a signal again.

Re our wedding it was done for £2100 in 1998 and a third of that was for the photographer. We were just out of university and poor as church mice. I cried during my vows and made all the other ladies present cry as a result. It was a fabulous day! Maybe I'll put a pic on FB when I get home.

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TheDetective · 09/07/2013 21:20

Envy Envy Envy too. Waaaaaah! I would LOVE to be there tomorrow!

So. I checked trains. Detective can be in Edinburgh with no changes in less than 3 hours! For £35 each way.

You have NO idea how tempted I am haha! Except O, on a train, for 3 hours. Fuck no!

But.... it sounds so good!!! :(

Fruit I thought about that too. I may do it one day. Both my children have different surnames to me. Because I hate mine! I prefer theirs!

Passmethecrisps · 09/07/2013 21:24

Change all your names! Choose something you like and make it that.

Like Crisp or Cake or Pudding or Giraffe

fruitpastilles · 09/07/2013 21:26

detective I was actually talking to my cousin about it today (the one who has just got married) and she couldn't understand that I had no interest in getting married. When I told her about the name change she thought I secretly did want to get married if I wanted his name. So now I think that's way everyone would think which has put me off. All I ever wanted was a baby, and now I have my lovely S so I am more than happy with my lot.

Kyzordz · 09/07/2013 21:26

Evening guys! Eric has only just gone to sleep at 8:45 think its the heat, poor lad. He wasn't crying just shuffling and moaning for a good 45 mins till he dropped off.

vq excellent that you got sleep and j is almost better. And check him out, mr moves! Brill :)

chasing I'd marry you so there! Hugs, hope you feel a bit happier soon, maybe it is taking Oscar to xp tomorrow? Or just that you're still slowly dealing with what was pretty life changing!

pikz your wedding sounds like it will be wonderful :) I am not sure ill ever get married, but maybe one day. I'm not sure I'd manage a full on church wedding, me and dp joke about fancy dress lol

Very jealous of the haggis meet, hope you all have fun!

stunt glad you're having a good time :)

It's been very quiet on here for a few days, hoping everyone is just enjoying dying in the hot weather. Today was another good weaning day so expecting tomorrow to be double crap as this is two good days in a row! He also gave me a proper kiss today when I asked for one, melted my heart it did! He put a hand on either cheek and planted one right on my lips and then grinned like an idiot, so cute