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November 2012 - Lots of mummies going back to work

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StuntNun · 29/05/2013 12:05

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1761048-November-2012-Weaning-is-messy-fun-what-does-your-baby-eat

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Elizadoesdolittle · 05/06/2013 23:16

When is a toddler no longer a toddler? DD1 is nearly three and a half. Does she still count as one? I think toddlers are fab and infuriating in equal measure. pr your toddler post summed up how I feel about the toddler years perfectly.

E loves the AK one pot chicken and the sweet potato with cinnamon too. The lentil one is on my to make list.

Re TV, E has "watched" more than DD1 had ever seen at this age but that's what happens when you have older siblings. At the moment Ben and Holly is the fave which I'm pleased about as I much prefer that to peppa pig. Can't remember which poster said about the sexual tent ion between nanny plum and wise old elf but that did make me giggle. I wanted to take DD1 to the theatre to see b&h but cant do the weekend that its nearest us. luckily she doesn't know but im quite gutted! Unfortunately she also likes mr tumble still who I can't stand, but not as much as DH. E prefers golf and rugby to any baby tv programme much to DH's delight. I do limit how much tv they watch. I put it on whilst I make dinner and then DD1 is allowed one programme of choice after bath. It's her calming down time, otherwise she'd still run around like a lunatic.

Found out today that we've lost the house we wanted. They accepted another offer at the weekend. Was from someone with nothing to sell at asking price so we can't compete with that. Am gutted. We are going to keep our house on the market until we get back from holiday and then reassess the situation.

On a positive note, the sun is still shining and we are starting baby sensory tomorrow so looking forward to that.

Right, enough waffle from me. Night all.

Elizadoesdolittle · 05/06/2013 23:19

Ah catbag what a lovely post. Made me go all squiffy.

izzybizzybuzzybees · 05/06/2013 23:35

Can't remember if I already posted. J has managed 3 feeds with gaviscon today. Will it make a difference? Who knows!

HV is coming tomorrow afternoon to discuss sleep... What the fucking hell she can tell me that will magically fix him I do not know!

ChasingDaisy · 05/06/2013 23:35

First wake up here.

Catbag what a lovely post. Made me weepy. I too have no RL friends and am not close to my mum. The quiche rocks.

YW not strange at all. I feel the same at the end of every weekend and it often takes until midweek for me to feel like we are fully 'connected again'

Catbag · 05/06/2013 23:45

Ok, nose blown, I am back Grin

Someone asked if I was going on to the bar course now (sorry, I forgot who it was)- unfortunately not. It was my intention to start an LLM part time over two years in October. It seemed like an ideal situation as I could maintain the education while treading water until the babies were big enough to start nursery. Once they were in nursery, I thought I could do the bar course, again part time over two years, and then they would be big enought for school. My plan unravelled in several respects- firstly, although I could have just squeaked together the tuition fees by Oct, I had not factored in childcare for two babies for six hours a week. It doesn't sound like a lot, but it mounts up and there is no room in the weekly budget for that kind of expenditure. I have put in an application to defer entry until 2014. As far as the bar course goes, that is £15000, or thereabouts, and I have always mentally relied on the possibility of a merit-based scholarship from my Inn of Court to help meet the fees.

Sadly, the fact that I am fairly sure I made a bollock of my dissertation (I actually cannot bear to look at it to check) means that I will not get a first, the scholarship will be more difficult to obtain and means that if I wanted to carry on down this route, the LLM would be almost obligatory to improve my overall qualification. The question that leaps out of course is 'should someone without outstanding marks even be thinking about this career'? And further still, 'should a woman with a family of five children be looking to spend potentially £20000 to try and start a career that she may not be clever enough to do, or never find pupillage in?' Sorry, this is turning into a bit of a stream of consciousness! I am not doing anything for this next year at least, possibly longer, but re-evaluation will be booked in for about this time next year. I shall stop bleating about it now :(

pr Are we still on for next week?

yw It's all normal stuff, but the bond doesn't go away. M (my 5 yo) has, like I predicted, become Daddy's best friend since I had the twins and I felt like our relationship had been knocked dreadfully. She's come back around now though and it's great. Remember, J's relationship with his father and others is all going toward creating a wonderful, trusting, well-grounded human being and while he needs you the most, these interactions are so important for well-rounded development. He won't feel like he is not as close to you anymore, he will feel like he is getting closer to his father, which is a separate proposition iyswim.

Balls, there were so many people I wanted to namecheck and I'm soo bliddy tired, I can't remember any of it. I shall away to bed, but endeavour to participate in dis ussions better tomorrow!

Catbag · 05/06/2013 23:47

Holy-fuckin-epic-post-Batman Blush Feel free to declare it tl:dr!

Catbag · 06/06/2013 00:03

PS I am going to bed now, but if someone wants to tap me up for a game on WWF, I shall have my tablet close to me tomorrow Grin

I had a conversation with DH the other day about what animal he thought I would be, and he rather took me back by saying 'a jackdaw or crow, something like that'. Something to do with beady eyed intelligence Hmm. I have hence changed my wwf name to reflect that and am now SesquipedalianCrow Grin

itsnotyouitsMeals · 06/06/2013 01:16

Am mealswords if anyone fancies a wwf game. Can't remember anyone's username. Catbag have started a game with you.

Fwiw, cat bag I really believe you should do it if it will make you happy/feel fulfilled. After DH's sister died he did the MA he'd wanted to for ages. I know it's not the same level of commitment though and I know also you've dealt with so much already.

PurplePidjin · 06/06/2013 02:41

I'm up for the 4th time since 10:30. He's not in pain. He's feeding now because dp tried something that didn't work and woke him up more but he's not hungry either. He doesn't even cry, just sort of whimpers/shouts for help going back to sleep. Room is cool enough, he's in a 1 tog bag, tee shirt and wool soaker. I've turned the monitor right down, might try ignoring the next time until he's actually crying Sad

LuisGarcia · 06/06/2013 03:05

Going to repeat this, but this time I want more hi 5's from you lot and less sympathy, thanks in advance.

"tumbleweed.

Good quiche babies."

Except RPidgin. Go to and stay asleep, you.

PurplePidjin · 06/06/2013 03:18

Nappy changed. Self settling in crib with hand hold anddummy.

He wanted his longies. In this weather Hmm

ChasingDaisy · 06/06/2013 03:29

What is it about 3am that O loves so much? And why can't he sleep longer than 3 hours? Sad

Yep Luis high five for all of the sleeping quiche babies. It shows how far we have come.

Bryzoan · 06/06/2013 03:41

Am shattered so will keep this short even though there are loads of people I wanted to reply too.

Main thing is though - catbag - how can you think for a moment that you are not outstanding? If you were to get a 2 1 in the same academic yr as having twins that would be a phenomenal achievement. Give yourself a break and have some faith in yourself girl! You clearly have very high expectations of yourself, which is great, but you need to take your current context into account more when assessing your progress against them. Of course you can do it. You may have to compromise re costs and timings... But you will find a way to make it work I am sure. please feel proud of yourself and keep charging on.

Stunt - you keep going too! And good luck.

Good day here on a few counts. We found a really lovely possible school for r who is due to start in sept 14. They don't have much sen experience but are very keen to learn and do what they can for her. Still looking at other schools but is great to have somewhere dh and I were both excited by.

Also - we've now settled for sure on me staying at home for a few years to really focus on the kids. I feel I dropped the ball slightly with r when I went back last time. I just wasn't as focussed on how delayed she was as I should have been. This mat leave has been a godsend in terms of having time to correct that and get what she needs in place, but she now has so many appts etc that tracking them and following through with the therapy homework is pretty much a full time job. And I am so pleased I'm going to get to do it for her and enjoy g's youngest years at the same time.

Smaller successes - g had pureed bolognese sauce with finger food pasta today and loved it. He is another meat fan I think. The mess was unreal though. Also as dh was off work for school visits we started building the kids a playhouse in the garden. Is looking great and it was so nice to get some time together doing something fun in the sunshine. He has been working so hard we've barely any time to see eachother recently. It reminded me what our marriage is about.

Big day tomorrow - seeing geneticists to start trying to get a handle on what is going on for dd.

Am very pleased with g as he has slept for 7 hrs for the first time in ages. Time for me to sleep again too now. Nite all.

Bryzoan · 06/06/2013 03:45

Ps high fives luis, pidge, meals, and anyone else who has a hand up Wink

PurplePidjin · 06/06/2013 04:22

An hour and three quarters he's been awake. Gets to the edge then screams again. Calgel deployed. Now feeding afuckinggain.

YellowWellies · 06/06/2013 05:01

Thanks all - glad to hear I'm not alone on that one. I'm not jealous as his daddy is so lovely and works so hard to care for us I'm thrilled they've had the chance to share time. I just felt odd - not quite 'pre baby' but less 'intimately connected'. I've also noticed the less time we spend together in the day - the more I see him at night!

Lily311 · 06/06/2013 05:03

bryzoan I so understand why you want to stay at home. O has physical problems which can be corrected at this age but requires me to take her to dr, physio, do exercises several times a day. I wouldn't be able to do all this if I were to go back to work.

Another sleep through. Antibiotics finishing today. She is better but still not 100%.

fruitpastilles · 06/06/2013 06:23

chasing I saw the adverts for the call centre but didn't realise it had started, I'll definitely be watching it now though, hopefully whatever I've missed will be on I player, can't see it making me miss work though Grin
eliza sorry about the house Hmm

I think S has finally got the hang of this sleeping lark! 6:30-5:30 with no wake ups, that'll do me, I get up mega early anyway!

PetiteRaleuse · 06/06/2013 06:31

catbag yes am still on for next week. Shall br bringing a mouldy fish to slap you with if you make any more remarks about disappointment a 2:1 in a very tough subject the same year as having twins on top of the other children. I am a perfectionist too. I am worried about doing the qualification I was talking about with you as have a fear of failure. So I kind of get you absolutely wanting a first.

However, put it into context and try and see it for what it is: a massive achievement most of us could only dream about.

Evilwater · 06/06/2013 07:30

Only a quick post, as N is watching postman pat.
I use ready break, as its full of extra vitamins and stuff. I have tried real porridge but he gagged on it loads.

Nice to see big
Evil

PetiteRaleuse · 06/06/2013 07:37

Oops. DD1 just put DH's iphone into a potty full of piss. What a lovely start to the day Hmm

ValiumQueen · 06/06/2013 07:40

Oh dear PR.

StuntNun · 06/06/2013 07:42

We had a rotten night here, J was awake multiple times between midnight and morning, crying in pain and refusing to be comforted. I'm assuming it's teething but it could be because he wouldn't sleep yesterday. I was annoyed at about 1 a.m. telling him if I knew he was going to be awake I would have stayed up to watch Dexter! I'm right at the end of series 4 and I can't wait to find out what happens but simultaneously don't want to know iykwim because I know it's going to be something awful. Oh well, another tired day for me today. I'll catch up properly later so for now (((squeezy hugs))) to everyone and a high-5 for Luis.

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PetiteRaleuse · 06/06/2013 07:51
fruitpastilles · 06/06/2013 08:17

pr that's exactly what I would be thinking, I wouldn't whisper it though Grin

stunt poor you and j, I hope he sleeps today for you.