Dec 2011: Running around after our Cybermidgets...

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Roll up, roll up, it's the Dec 11 new thread.
Prepare to be upgraded (if you can catch them!)

Oi are you going to try and talk to DH again tonight?

Wrt the needle & cleaning?? Dunno & not gonna ask lol.

Although I haven't hoovered today. So that's progress right?

Qoc my mil has fybromyalgia and she swears by acupuncture so maybe there is something in it?!?

That's trampiness! progress!!
(The first bit was a joke. My Hoover comes out once a week.)
Yes, probably will try to talk.

Oi the way my hair is I look trampy scruffy so not hoovering tops it off lol.

Figgy - ahh out of curiosity how does it benefit her/make her feel better & more energetic?

Early night for me as I'm shattered. Back to work tomorrow and I'm working 9-6 :(

Dh and his gang are off at a wedding in Chelmsford today/tonight us wags been left at home on child care duty which is what happens when you have three weeks notice of a Thursday wedding of course that means I am sat in my dressing down eating Battenberg and watching all of my non-DH approved crap American TV

Am supposed to be going out with my friends Saturday night for a few drinks just tried on my night out clothes in the wardrobe and nothing fits well but even that is not stopping me from eating

Enjoy the TV and cake figgy; you'll have fun out with your friends whatever! That is weird about 38 being too old ; my Dad was 53 ish when my youngest sibling was born, and it's no problem. Do you think it's just a really crap excuse to cover up the fact that he doesn't want another, or do you genuinely think he does feel it's elderly?!

Do, do try to take it relatively easy Queenie, please don't completely knacker yourself out. If it makes you ill again, get signed off again. Will you have the weekend to recover?
ps folks we are going to have to go round there and tie her to the sofa
On the acupuncture stuff, I don't bother either, but... the PiLs (and DFiL is a GP) used to get it done to their dog, and it worked wonders, absolute wonders. Went in creaking, came out like a puppy with a sugar rush, mad

Good luck with Relate Oi, does sound like it's just put the wind up him...but maybe it'll make him confront the problems once he's got his head round it...

Great weekend planned, cleaning tomorrow night as we have a random viewing on Saturday (most people are being shoved towards the open day, 'priority buyers' -urgh- are allowed round before) and then most of the day in the office on Saturday, doing interviews and catching up with HR

Good luck oi, keep an open mind and see what DH comes up with, this is a decision you need to make as jointly as you can, I really hope you guys can have a frank and open discussion about where to go next.

queenie acupuncture is actually one of the least woo alternative therapies, there's some interesting science behind how it might work and it's especially effective for pain syndromes as it is thought to act on the brain's pain pathways to reduce pain signals: believe it or not I was shown a video once (pre Youtube but it might be on there now!) of a woman having a baby with acupuncture instead of an epidural... It was a C-section!!!!.... The vid was from China but was definitely a real procedure. Blimey.

Met with xiao and we raided a garden centre with great success apart from DS falling off both the slide and the trolley, parenting fail . Now just need to put the plants in my border before they all die!

Figgy: step away from the cake! Tell your DH that my DH had DS at thirty-eight and he's still in one piece.....

figgy my DH is 41. He's coping with a newborn but knackered, though he is working 50 hour weeks whilst still trying to fit the new kitchen in all fairness. Enjoy your crap American TV.

oi hope DH is talking now, I imagine it must have come as a shock. FWIW my parents had a relatively unhappy marriage when I was growing up. Dad was always angry and shouty, often for no good reason, and mum would always moan to me about him being horrible. If you can make it work and be happy again then that's fantastic, but I'd have rather had two happy seperate parents. PS they don't do the government scheme for solar panels anymore, they changed the tariff so the companies couldn't make as much money on what they were selling back to the grid. It wasn't just for those on benefits, we have them :)

northern hope the viewing goes ok.

We're still getting there with the new kitchen. The worktops have all been fitted this week and the cupboard handles, plus the sink is half-done. Then just tiling and painting left, though it'll probably still be a few weeks as we just have so little time at the moment. DD2 had an awful day yesterday, colic is definitely worse at night but daytime isn't always much better. Anyway, we've switched bottles, still on dentinox and started tummy massage, and today something seems to be working though I'll inevitably regret saying that tomorrow

DS still asleep I've been awake since 6 why can't I sleep Anymore grr?? Today it's shopping swimming in morning and then Bristol aquarium this PM with friend and her 12mo ahead of dh returning from wedding.

The remaining mini cakes have gone in bin need to break this sugar dependency I've acquired

Battenburg in a dressing gown? Figgy - You floozy! Ha ha! Sounded fab!
Good luck with the open day, northern!
Well, we had the BIG chat. It was really difficult. At first I had to force it, and he was pretty closed, as though he'd already given in. (Which underlines how he doesn't motivate himself about anything!) But, I got past that, I told him that we were in real trouble, but that I hadn't already made up my mind. (...move to laptop...)

We spoke about our feelings, about what we wanted - obviously, both of us wanted the happy, loving family. And it was really good.
It was a wake up call that we both needed.
We are now going to really put in the effort to fix things. He is going to work out his issues and put the effort in to winning back my trust and respect, and I'm going to work on being open to that.
We both felt a lot better after the chat. It was obviously very tough and emotional. My eyes look rather puffy this morning!
But now we'll see what happens. He's really got to up his game.
I also think that our relationship will be healthier if I feel that I can get on and get stuff done - rather than feel stifled. So I said that we will be spending more time apart, but that it will be positive for us. I've encouraged him to get back into sport as well - for the same reason.
Of course, he needs his hernia op first.
Anyway, in summary, we've got some way to go to make things right, but I'm actually quite hopeful. I am going to make the effort and commit, but I also need to see him really making the effort too.
With this, and Relate, we'll give our marriage the best chance. And if it doesn't work out, we at least would have tried.

In other news, our new tv is rather fabulous. But it looks massive. We've gone from a 32 to a 46".
We wanted something bigger (our lounge is a whopping great 8.5m x 4m), but didn't want a tv that dominated. So we agreed on 40". But then we started looking at 3d, and because I am slightly short-sighted and wear low prescription glasses to watch tv, we thought about wearing 3d glasses over my glasses - and i thought if we got a bigger telly, I wouldn't have to wear my glasses!
It's true! The picture is super clear anyway (the latest Sony Bravia - stunning!) but I can read the TV guide text without my glasses. I will still wear my glasses for normal viewing.
the picture is amazing. With our last tv, even though ist was HD ready, we could not perceive any difference between BBC1 and BBC1HD (for example). Well, oh my bob, we can now!
(Listen to me talking about a tv! It's ridiculous!)
My weekend: catch up with the ladies and babies this afternoon (Hopalong, benniebenbear, kri5ty). Tonight, I am going out for copious amounts of wine with my best friend - something I have not done for years.
Tomorrow, we are going to visit my parents' new static caravan. (!)
Sunday, my best friend from Friday and her hubby are coming over for dinner, and we'll probably check out a 3D Hobbit, or Life of Pi.
Also, the ladies on the FB group are talking about a get together/spa day in Birmingham/somewhere central. No dates yet, but I'll keep those of you not on FB informed if you're interested in coming along.

"my best friend from friday" ??? You know what I mean!
Figgy - I can almost taste the Battenburg - Must resist from buying and eating cake - at least until this afternoon with the ladies!

Glad things are sounding a bit more positive today oi. Doesn't sound like you'll be having much time to enjoy your fabulous TV over the weekend.

I should get dressed and do some housework but there's a very cute baby snoozing on my shoulder ...

Cute!
I don't think I'll have much time for the Tv either. Long term. On another thread I've just listed the things I'd do if I have time in the evenings, and then I realised that I have to make time and not just sit with DH,watching tv - feeling stifled. Here's my to do list:

• get on with decorating the house
• have a really good clear out, and then organise what's left
• ebay all those things that I no longer need
• sort out my wardrobe (clear out/fix up/put outfits together)
• have "spa" nights, lovely bubble bath, scrub up, exfoliate, soothe, false tan, paint nails
• put some time into the garden - veggie patch, etc

oi, well done for giving things a good discussion, I think it's far better in the long run to know you really have tried, and now it's a case of seeing how things go.
Also, that sounds just like my to-do list!
(apart from the false tan: I am a slattern )
If you fancy a support thread there's a little DIY support thread I'm on over in Property. It's quiet at the mo but a great motivator...

Ooh I think DS has decided he might nap. Where to start with the house?Plants into Borders ahoy!

DS has had a busy (and wet) day today we went swimming, to the aquarium and then he jumped in the water features at Bristol harbour side it's on multi levels And has dancing fountains every 10mins of so he was sodden I had spare trousers but no shirt or towel had to sacrifice my cardie as a towel and he had to wear his zip up hoodie which doesn't zip for some reason. Of course I had to "rescue him" from it thank god I was wearing cropped trousers..... such a monster

Oi good to see you had a good talk and things seem more positive.

I've been at work all day 8:30-6pm and shattered now...meant no time for cleaning today...will make up for it tomorrow

Darcie at her nanny's tonight and just settling Sky then early night for me.

My cakes went down a treat at work.

Today was hard. Supporting mum through the funeral of her younger sibling. Dad doesn't deal well in these situations. Tense because half expected uninvited people to show. If I was a drinker it would have been a wine night.

I sincerely hope that we all have a better weekend. Hug your family :(

Octo that must of been hard. Thinking of you all at this hard time.

(((((((big hug)))))) octo, and many condolences. it's awful when younger siblings/children go first, just adds another level of unfair on top of the grief.

School fair today: be still, my beating heart. DDs will enjoy it lots especially as there are four bouncy castles planned...

Another super busy day today last min bday present shipping for a 4yr old, friends round for rugby and bacon, aforementioned 4yr olds bday party, lunch with Sil, Bil and DN, park with Sil and her lo which turned into a local music festival which was on at park today and now on bus to town in my best (most forgiving) maxi dress and sparkly sandals to meet friends for wine housework what's that??

Oi hope your girly wine sesh went well!

Peaceful evening Chez Queen...Darcie out at a sleepover, Sky I'm bed under the weather with her teeth, DH up the pub so I'm having an early night in bed with Star Wars.

Am going to YouTube cake decorating tips...always like to improve myself. Was told my cakes at work yesterday had a hallmark as iced to perfection!

Busy today today; my cousin and get husband came over for a lovely catch up, stressful trip to b&q where ds decided to lay on the ground screaming and had to be carried out roll of carpet style. Now painting a sandbox. Not sure if I'm tired of just high on paint fines.

Hope figgy and Oi have enjoyed their sessions!

Sorry to hear about your Auntie Octo, and all the other tensions around the funeral. I take it your Mum and her sister were close?

Although nothing like that, it's been all shades of pants here. I've been getting worse and worse with whatever's going on in the side of my head. At first I thought I just had a sore throat and my wisdom tooth had rubbed up my gums, but I now have a killer, red bubbly throat, and swelling and pain all over my cheek/jaw. I spent a hideously feverish night, and have no appetite- today I've eaten one piece of bread. Just wondering if I should call the out of hours GP or dentist tomorrow?

I had to drag myself all the way into work this morning on public transport, to interview, and only two of the six turned up, the first and last ones....

On top of all of that, the radiator came off the wall in the bedroom last night; our wonderful plumber came and re-attached it, but there's now a damp patch on the ceiling- we've marked it to see if it's getting bigger, and then we'll call him back.

And we then, after all that, had to exit the house asap for the viewing!!

So am lying on the sofa, in pain and feeling crap because I can't enjoy or be a good parent to DS