That is strange Willyou, particularly as the HV I saw today told me to "get the boy fed" and to just basically give him whatever we're eating. Admittedly, he is almost 6 months but she didn't balk at the range of fruit and veg he's been having in slices/sticks/florets ie decidedly lumpy formats! It's so random how advice varies between HVs, even those based in the same area.
Tbh, I think N was always just going to take matters into his own hands irrespective of guidelines. I'd been determined to wait until 6 months before introducing gluten, but he decided to grab some bread from DH earlier and he ate it. Oh well, it's only two days early.
Ski - enjoy the new house.
Spotty - hope you are ok. I think these things have a way of working themselves out, and hopefully when the right opportunity comes up, you'll find that he does settle more readily than you're anticipating. Also, with willy issues I'd second sudocrem then metanium if that doesn't work.