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November 2012 - Poor sleep-deprived mummies (and daddy)

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StuntNun · 06/04/2013 22:25

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1721864-November-2012-GTbaby-is-back-Hooray-hooray

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Pikz · 08/04/2013 16:34

One baby for sale... Shall put him up for auction on Facebook page...

ValiumQueen · 08/04/2013 16:37

I cannot recall who it was who asked about weaning whilst on holiday in hotels - you could take frozen stuff in an insulated bag for the first couple of days and then have fruits like papaya, banana, or avocado. The amounts at this age will be small and are just tastes. Any warming can be done by hotel staff or even using a kettle and bowl combo. There are of course jars or pouches of first foods.

TryingtobelessChunkyChick · 08/04/2013 16:43

I know a few of you are sling-experts... I think it might be worth getting a more structured baby carrier, particularly one my DH can wear. I have a Close Carrier but now DS is at least 15lb, it feels a bit too "flimsy" and as a just-in-case one to use on hols in the summer, I wondered about an Ergo? Any thoughts? Thanks. :) Bear

Clarella · 08/04/2013 17:27

I love the boba 3g chunky

MaMaPo · 08/04/2013 17:42

Chunky, I really love the ergo. Fits me and my 6foot2 husband easily and we can both carry our daughter, who is 16lb+ already, for hours at a time. We use it every weekend.

YellowWellies · 08/04/2013 17:43

VQ I'm in the market for 4 new sleeping bags - neutral or boyish. Could you bring them to IKEA tomorrow so I can choose. (indecisive cow emoticon) Blush . Sorry to hear about the CMPI, given how rare true lactose intolerance is in babies it was my first choice diagnosis (but it always is!!!!) - CMPI is a bugger but long term much more likely to resolve itself than LI.

Pass we're going to do both types of weaning too. Got the dietician on Friday - been waiting for that then will get on with it.

We've had a lovely day round at the new house trying to measure up whilst carrying a nosy baby!!! Didn't get a lot done Hmm Envy

TryingtobelessChunkyChick · 08/04/2013 18:00

Thanks mamapo & Clarella. Going to do some more research but its good to know it fits both of you ma - I'm 5'3" on a good day and DH is 6' & a half inch, don't forget that but we're also v diff builds, he's brick shithouse territory & I'm slimmer. I need something that alters a LOT!! What type do you have mamapo?

YellowWellies · 08/04/2013 18:03

Chunky I've got the original Ergo and love it

PurplePidjin · 08/04/2013 18:20

I have a woven, and dp uses a borrowed Beco Gemini. I didn't get on with the library Ergo, had clips in my armpits Hmm so would suggest you try a few on first :)

StuntNun · 08/04/2013 18:38

DH is off to Tesco to change the Kindle Fire for a Paperwhite AND he says he'll buy me something else with the £50 difference hope it's lots of wine!

Reflux sufferers, my J hasn't been diagnosed with anything but he's still being sick all the time, about half the time just in his mouth yuk half the time possetting but occasional big pukes. I'm wondering whether weaning might help. He's 21 weeks this week so it's not exactly early weaning. Is it likely to help or am I grasping at straws? I'm going to see the GP on Wednesday but I wanted to assay the collective wisdom of the quiche.

Lily I think if you're prepared for an emotional floodgate about your DP then it will be easier to handle. I'm a big believer in giving vent to these emotions, it isn't pleasant but there's a catharsis to it that helps you to remember the person you've lost positively rather than trying not to think about it. It can be hard to talk about grief in RL but remember here is a safe place for you to write thoughts that you don't feel able to say. We'll be here for you.

Kirrin I just let J have formula the one time (when I was unexpectedly delayed in collecting him from the ILs). He probably won't have it again for a while but now he's had it once (and glugged it gleefully) I won't be so worried the next time he has it. I also took it to mean that he doesn't have CMPI since he was absolutely fine afterwards. Also remember one you start introducing solids the virgin gut is lost so there's no real reason not to introduce formula (assuming no CMPI).

BigPig my DS2 wouldn't take a bottle when I went back to work at 5 months so I reverse cycled him by feeding him through the night and immediately before and after nursery so he didn't need much milk during the day. He was weaned at four months due to lactose overload so he was just getting water and solids at nursery. He loved the dried spaghetti bolognese baby food and had that every day for lunch couldn't get him to eat real food!

Btw waking in the night after sleeping through is not a sign that baby needs solids, this is an old belief and many HVs will still follow it. When you introduce solids your baby will take less milk so they will still be taking the same amount of calories. The current belief on readiness for weaning is when baby is showing an interest in food, can sit up and can put things in their mouth. Note that all these things are just theories, no one seems to have any evidence so you're best to follow your instinct. For example I tried J on some baby rice and he wasn't that fussed about it so I left it for another couple of weeks. If he had gobbled it down I probably would have continued. In the end you should do what feels right to you.

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GTbaby · 08/04/2013 18:40

Wish I'd got a sling for LO. Hmm Now he is to big.

Clarella · 08/04/2013 18:50

have to say, the boba is dhs, I'm really into meI tais - have a baby hawk but will eventually get a better one I think with a wider waist. the boba lasts till quite old and dh loves it.

Clarella · 08/04/2013 18:50

mei tai

Clarella · 08/04/2013 18:51

I'm Angry a post I did at 3 is not here Angry Angry

Clarella · 08/04/2013 18:51

I'm Angry a post I did at 3 is not here Angry Angry

Clarella · 08/04/2013 18:51

I'm Angry a post I did at 3 is not here Angry Angry

PurplePidjin · 08/04/2013 18:56

GT, i imagine R will still be carried well into the 3s. Certainly for most of his 2s. A woven, appropriately sized mei tai or decent ssc will easily last that long - and you might find it useful to wrap the new baby while you scamper round after a 1yo Wink

Lily311 · 08/04/2013 19:03

Thank you for the support, you are all awesome. I am ok but getting teary easily in the past few days, haven't had a good cry though yet. I am giving back the flat to landlord on his birthday and stay with friends for another 2 days. We are flying on the 3rd May and visit his grave and his family for the first time since his funeral, he is buried in a 3rd country where he originally was from. My parents will drive there and pick us up, I wouldn't be able to do this on my own. Than a 13 hour drive to Hungary. So yes, it will be hard but a must.

As for weaning, I introduce purees with small lumps and lots of finger food. My girl is ready, she had a bit of my apple again and went histerical when I took it away from her. She is such a monkey, smiling now all the time.

We had two poonamies today. Both on tube while I was holding her. White tights became yellow very quickly, the people must have had a good giggle after we left. We had a physio app today and she screamed all the way through. Poor little monkey.

GTbaby · 08/04/2013 19:07

Yes PP planning on getting one for this new baby.

got to look at new car seat for LO as well. He is getting to tall for the cabrio fix.
QQ. If I follow rule of 1 hour gap between eating n sleeping. Is that ok for LO?

ChasingDaisy · 08/04/2013 19:15

Lily you always come across as so strong. Please feel free to cry to us if you need to. Are you looking forward to moving back to Hungary?

Just gave O his first successful bath since his screaming fits last week. I waited until his eczema had healed and that seems to have made the difference. He was probably screaming in pain bless him Sad

Have earmarked 25th May as the day for weaning to start, just a few days before his 6 month birthday. I think he is ready for weaning in the sense that I think he would like New tastes. He really doesn't seem to like the taste of milk much and I think he would really love it, but my instinct tells me he isn't ready digestively. He still takes very small feeds etc so will be waiting until 6 months.

YellowWellies · 08/04/2013 19:28

Stunt the dietician advised we wean late but think that was largely to do with the CMPI rather than reflux per se. Having a consultation on Thurs as apparently weaning needs to be done a bit more carefully - so will share any tips. If anyone has any questions you'd like me to ask - just shout Smile

BigPigLittlePig · 08/04/2013 19:28

Stunt how often did you find you were up feeding in the night? That is the only thing that concerns me, as I need to be rested enough to perform well and safely at work. I can't really plan, as things change so much anyway.

Clarella - so Angry you had to say it thrice Wink
GT I may be wrong, but I think someone said on here before that, even if LO looks too long for the seat, you should go by weight alone? He may of course be heavy enough for the next stage seat anyway so I'll shut up now

Forgot to say, F managed to roll from her front onto her side today. And then got stuck. Halfway to rolling properly though [proud emoticon]

Lily311 · 08/04/2013 19:38

chasing no, not really. But it has to be done. I am not ready to go back to work and I Can't support ourselves in the UK. We have a flat in Hungary and the cost of living is significantly less. I can carry on with the property business part time and have a decent life with O for the next 3 years. I won't say I am strong, I just tend not to let my emotions take over. I am a mess really.

Good news on bath! I have had a bath with O in the past couple of days, she absolutely loves it. It also helped with breastfeeding, she has been pulling away. So anyone struggling, I suggest bathing together and let her latch on.

ChasingDaisy · 08/04/2013 19:43

Lily I would say that not letting your emotions take over requires strength. You can always let your guard down with us here so that you aren't keeping things bottled up.

If I remember rightly you have family in Hungary? I feel better knowing you will have a support network out there Smile

Clarella · 08/04/2013 19:44

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