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December 2012: This too shall pass, this too shall pass

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HoneyMumandSon · 10/03/2013 05:10

keep repeating the mantra...

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2blessed · 23/03/2013 09:03

Wow! This thread is moving fast.

Think ds is teething, shoves fist in his mouth, has had small bouts of nappy rash and very dribbly over last few weeks. Sophie to the rescue here too!
He decided to have a lie in this morning (went to bed at 11.30) only woke up a little after 8 for his feed.
Its a proper nasty weatherwise, just want to stay snuggled up in the warm.

SleeplessInGarforth · 23/03/2013 09:52

hales You are a genius. I dug out the miracle blanket last night and swaddled dd up before bed. She protested a little bit but then settled about 7pm. I woke up at 1 and she was still asleep... I woke up at 3 and she was still asleep but I was so worried that there was something wrong with her that I think I woke her up by creeping around and checking her! That's 8 flipping hours in a row! 8!!!

I thought she'd outgrown the whole swaddling thing - but obviously not.

Thanks for the idea Thanks

Stacks · 23/03/2013 11:02

Morning all. Another quite bad night here, I tried our first early bedtime (8 instead of 10pm) and it sort of worked. He fed to sleep at 8, but it took me till 9:30 to successfully get him in his crib. He then woke up at 9:45 distraught and wanting boob (I was brushing my teeth) so we went into our bed at about 10pm anyway. Hoping crib transfer will get easier over time. I bought a swaddle thing (zips up the front) to try, as I think it's startle reflex + bashing hands on side of crib that wakes him when he's not in our bed. He tolerated it well (first time swaddled since he was just a couple of days old) however when he did wake he tried to get his hands to mouth and became frustrated. Then about 5 am he woke me up struggling so I let him free and he kicked about a load farting, then settled himself back to sleep!

Daydream, hope your toe gets better quick. Remember, all this "should" of childcare is just opinion. One persons miracle is another persons bane, ones ideal is another's nightmare. You don't have to enjoy being home with your baby everyday. There are plenty of people who don't enjoy it, and choose instead to use a nursery so the time they do spend together is happy, fulfilling and enjoyable! Why spend a day trying to enjoy your DC when you could spend the evening after nursery actually enjoying it? My sister put my nephew into nursery quite early as she had to go back to work. He loves it, and complains now when she doesn't send him there. The nursery staff have so much more energy with the kids as they've had an evening to themselves and a full night of sleep :)

Quick WWYD my FIL was over for the day yesterday, and told DS a few times to "shut up" when he was shouting/crying. He's a precious first grandchild and much loved, and it didn't sound like anger.. I was very taken aback though, and want to discourage this now so it doesn't happen when he's old enough to understand.

Secondsop · 23/03/2013 12:02

stacks re your WWYD, perhaps a gentle word is in order? Along the lines of how even babies that young will pick up on the mood of what is said to them. My husband doesn't even let me call our CAT "mr fat" as a joke, saying he'll pick up on it! I was tempted to address the same issue with my MIL as when she holds him she nearly always speaks in a "telling off" tone, if you see what I mean, and says things like "you're not going to be sick on me again are you now". Just now as she gave him his bottle for me she said "shove that in your gob" and when he struggled to get onto it she said "its not my fault, yoire the one that threw it away" and "what's your problem". And earlier when he was being a bit sick on the playmat she kept saying "you slag, you're all slaggy" which may be an australian term meaning messy but I would rather she wouldn't always be speaking to him like this! He can't tell that she doesn't really mean it! But we're only here for another couple of days so I'll let
It go for now.

halesball · 23/03/2013 12:14

Ispy i live in Skelmersdale. Where do you live?

Yay Sleepless, Envy i am very jealous of all that sleep.

Stacks we had a bad night also. With the swaddling could you not use a blanket instead? That way he could kick it off and hopefully still stay asleep. I don't really know what to suggest about your FIL, could you ask DP to have a word with him?

Look at me giving advice and my own DD will occasionally let me sleep for 4 hoursSad, but thats a special occasion. Can i ask has anyone found that their LO is feeding more? H seems to be having really long feeds off my breast from the early hours till about 11 it feels like shes on me constantly. Her latch is fine and my supply is fine as i i take her off and check and can spray it quite a distance ha.

HoneyMumandSon · 23/03/2013 12:31

hales D is feeding like that too. I seem to remember in the dim and distant past being told around 4-5months they'll have up to a fortnight of feeding like a newborn again. How old is your dd now?

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halesball · 23/03/2013 12:38

Honey shes 15 weeks old but shes been doing it for about 2 weeks already. I don't know how i'll cope if it gets worse.

SpottyTeacakes · 23/03/2013 12:55

Stacks I would start off by just saying 'don't be so mean! Poor ds' and see if he gets the message. If it doesn't work I would have to have proper words

IsThatTrue · 23/03/2013 13:31

hales DS is 14 weeks and has been feeding every 1-1.5 hours during the day, cluster feeding in the evenings and feeding every 2-2.5 hrs at night, for over a week. I hope it ends soon!

SpottyTeacakes · 23/03/2013 14:45

I can't get ds to feed. I'm really engorged (going to have to express) he just fusses and cries and coughs and now he's asleep again after being asleep for over two hours Sad

halesball · 23/03/2013 14:46

Isthat, H is like that but the cluster feeding is starting about 4-5am. Do you think its a developmental spurt?Heidi seems to be doing alot more now, she grabs and passes her toys from hand to hand, and also trys to pull her shoulders and head up off her bouncer and me while shes lay down.

IsThatTrue · 23/03/2013 14:47

Oh spotty, def hand express some off so he can latch better. Has he been having a growth spurt? I end up engorged after them.

IsThatTrue · 23/03/2013 14:49

hales DS has just learnt to grab toys, get them to his mouth, grab his feet, get them to his mouth Grin, and trying to roll. So maybe it is developmental.

halesball · 23/03/2013 14:49

Oh spotty engorgment is horrible but look on the plus side, you'll have enough for a bottle so maybe DP can do a nightfeed Grin

halesball · 23/03/2013 14:51

Ha its lovely watching them learn new things Grin H isn't even slightly interested in her feet, shes looked at them but in disgust haha.

SpottyTeacakes · 23/03/2013 14:52

He's got a really bad cough he's latching fine but after a few mouthfuls doesn't want anymore Sad

I've got some milk out the freezer so dp can give a bottle Grin not sure ds will want it though which will make me cross, I hate wasting it!

Stacks · 23/03/2013 15:11

Spotty, just read on Facebook about Vicks vapour rub 'curing' coughs, even in babies (use the baby version). Put it on the doles of their feet, then put socks on. I'm intrigued to see if if works, are you?

I really hope he feels better soon, must be so hard feeling ill as a baby. The bottle will maybe be easier for him to drink from though?

I bought a nice Mam changing bag for myself yesterday ( making up for no Mother's Day gift) and a Mam breast pump kit (has a few extras included). Both are half price direct from Mam site just now (£25 and £15 respectively).

Thanks for advice about FIL. I had a word with DH and he'll say something if he witnesses it, I'm sure MIL would tell him off too actually.

SpottyTeacakes · 23/03/2013 15:18

Yes stacks we do that with dd. it honestly works but you have to wonder who found that out and what on earth they were doing?! It clears their blocked nose.

I've given in and given him some calpol (first time ever!) because he was crying after each cough Sad

Barbeasty · 23/03/2013 15:29

Spotty- maybe he's got your DD's sore throat? Hope she's better by the way. If it is that calpol might help him feed.

Stacks · 23/03/2013 15:29

I wish DH had breasts. Nuff said.

SpottyTeacakes · 23/03/2013 15:34

I wish dp wasn't a nob.

We've had an argument because I told him he never wipes his crumbs off the side in the morning so I have to do it and it annoys me Hmm apparently I'm unreasonable and I'm untidy because I leave my cups/glasses on the side (he says pointing to my full glass of water). Dick.

WillYouDoTheBunnyHop · 23/03/2013 15:49

Ah Spotty he's using the tactic of "offence is the best defence". Best to ignore.

This little monkey is refusing to eat more than 4oz every 3 hours again Sad he's going to waste away!

SpottyTeacakes · 23/03/2013 15:57

Grr I know I can't have a conversation with him about it because he always turns it into an argument and says I'm just having a go at him Hmm

Ds is drinking now must have been sore throat?

He'll be ok WillYou Smile what if you try and get him to go 3.5 hours would he drink more or would he just get fraught?

IsThatTrue · 23/03/2013 16:13

Sorry to hear of poorly and little monkey babies making their mummies worry!

We put DS in his door bouncer for the first time today and it was a resounding success! :) not much bouncing but some spinning, lots if talking and smiling, daddy got some great pictures too! :)

Oh and after much shouting when DH tried to give him a bottle I got round to fishing out the tommy tippee ones we bought rather than the cheapi ones a friend gave me that we're just in the cupboard and DS is much happier to take a bottle of formula. Does this mean he's not ebf if he has a bottle if I'm out (once a week at most)?

SpottyTeacakes · 23/03/2013 16:22

Hmm I suppose technically he isn't but I would still say he is if it's only once a week...