December 2012: This too shall pass, this too shall pass

[HoneyMumandSon]

keep repeating the mantra...

X post WL, i think the only solution is a take away haha

oh no WL - you didn't eat any?!

btw we are teething - even red cheek teething

Oh, WL that's no good!

We're having the Waitrose Indian meal deal. Smells good, just need DH to bring it through.

A has been chewing his sleeves today. DD keeps telling him not to, that it's dirty and he drinks milk, and pushing his face towards my breasts! Not so good when we're out.

We're currently awaiting delivery of a Sophie too - apparently she has been dispatched which is just as well due to increase in hand chewing over last few days.

Indian here tonight as well, has become a bit of a Friday night tradition since it kick-started N's arrival - 16 weeks ago .

No clarella I didn't - just a bit of pastry which revealed the contents! Left over pasta bake for the third meal in a row! Therefore I deserve ice cream!

Love it barbeasty! 2yo dd sat bfing her doll this aft while I fed dd - she looked at me like I was crazy when I suggested getting the bottle (its a swanky doll that 'drinks' then burps when the long teat is pushed in its mouth. Guess that's a function we won't be seeing much of!

Honey, sorry to hear you had your plans ruined, your DPs boss sounds like my DPs old one.
We seem to be starting teething, MIL said both her sons started around this time. Lots of crying and fist sucking. He's also suddenly turned into the drooliest creature ever its quite hard to keep up with sometimes and were handing him over to relatives for cuddles with Muslins.
We're thinking about nurseries although I just can't quite make the call to put him in. We've found one who I'm happy with who can take him now but I can't stop thinking I'm supposed to be enjoying being home with him but I'm really not. I'm a wreck by the end of the week because the only time he'll sleep not on me is in the pram, I ache from the walking and now I've broken my toe I can't actually do the miles of walking so will be worse next week. I'm also really resenting DP for being able to go to work everyday and its causing silly disagreements. I just feel bad because I'm supposed to want to take as much time as possible and devote my life to him for that time. But it's making me miserable.

seconds I hope you're feeling better soon. What a lovely moment with little Z!

Honey that's rubbish, I would be crying too. I hope the cava and dippy egg helped!

pmgkt great news that DS has the all clear! I am of your 10 hour stretch, we are still getting 3 at the most!!

pidj good luck with the room move. Let us know how it goes. I think we need to do it soon, DS has started lifting his legs and banging them down very loudly over and over while he's drifting off!

I could have made the Guildford meet up before we left the UK

We've got a Sophie giraffe, it's been getting a lot of gummy bites and sucking recently, when he's crying at full pelt the squeaking it makes is the only thing that will distract him!

spotty I hope DS is on the mend very soon. DS1 got so many bugs in the first 6 months, just because DD was bringing them all home from nursery!

WL In my fog I thought he'd served you up a 25 year old vegetable pie, mmm! I hope he's made up for it with a delicious take away!

GP appointment went well, he doesn't think I have PND but I've been referred for an assessment and been given lots of info on services for socially isolated families. Which sounds really embarrassing but is technically correct I suppose. I'm not sure if I'll give them a try, I just need DH to stop working 13 hour days and going away all the bloody time! He got back last night and because I've come down with the bug that the DCs had I just got DS to bed and sat on the sofa while he put the other 2 in the bath and did all the bedtime stuff. Bliss.

MyDaydream Oh no, how did you break your toe? Ouch. I think you need to do what feels best to you. DD started nursery full time when I went back to work 4 months after she was born, it was hard at first but she was absolutely fine.

Guildford good for me too, if easier than Woking. It's going to feel odd because I grew up around there but haven't been back for a while as my parents left after I went to uni..

Seymour glad the appointment went well, I think we underestimate the importance of social network support these days - in the traditional, RL sense.

spotty poor ds - hope he gets better soon, and daydream ouch for your toe.
wl argh for pie but for dd bfing her doll with you!

Dh went for drinks after work which I think he badly needed as a bit of a break from the new baby-centered lifestyle, although he never complains or says anything negative. . He came back very soppy and full of how happy he is with ds and me and our family and a bit tiddly I now have two happily sleeping boys (doubt this will last beyond 1.30) but can't get to sleep for some reason!

Probably not helped by the wind sounding like it's prepping to blow a window in. Is the weather nuts all over the country? willyou where are you?

Utopian i'm between Liverpool and Wigan and we're having strong winds which is making the snow look like a snow blizzard.

Seymore i'm glad your appointment went well, and glad that you got the referrals which will be useful to you.

My Daydream, i hope your ok, have you spoke to anyone about how your feeling. Your not the only person who feels that way. I would love to go to work sometimes for a break ha. But i know when it comes to it i'll feel much different.

seymour that sounds good - better than pnd! Hope it's the start of feeling generally more positive.

daysream it's ok to not feel totally fulfilled by motherhood. Being at home all day with a baby is hard and its fine of you need a bit more of a balance. You are making plans to have lo well looked after in your temporary absence - doing what's best for all of you will ultimately be best for ds. You're not the only one otherwise nurseries wouldn't take babies from 6 weeks.

Smile well wiped off my face, we are up 2 hours earlier than usual and the cold I thought I'd shaken seems to be back. I'm hearing this from lots of people on here and in rl.

Oh, here's DH home, bet he's tiddly and annoying!

25 year old pie - tasty!

seymore I had something similar with ds1 (although on a different scale) with dd I was 17 too bloody young but I lived at home with my parents (and my then dp now XH) so had lots of help and support, whenever I needed it. With ds1 I was still very young (19) but I suddenly had my own house, a toddler and a newborn and was newly wed . I also had no friends with babies as they all went off to uni. The docs didn't know if what I had was PND or just a depression caused by circumstance that happened to be postnatally. It's rough whatever it is though. Well done you for seeking help. I really hope they're able to get you the right treatment.

DS just finished his first night feed, I really should out him down in his crib but snuggles are sooo much nicer!

Yep he's snoring and she won't settle. Upside down smile here!

Eugh not even 3.5 hours from when I put him down after dream feed.

We haven't got wind or rain here, not that I can hear anyway, although heavy rain is forecast.

Seymore I'm glad you got to the drs and your GP is taking things seriously

WL sorry about the pie good job you realised it probably would have made you ill after all this time!

I need a drink but can't be bothered to go and get one plus there's monsters

He woke up at 2 in the end, so not too bad for us though not impressive by other people's standards..
spotty I'd get you a virtual drink if i could- the monsters in our house are white/ginger fluffy ones who lurk on the landing taking midnight swipes at unsuspecting passing ankles...
[Hmm]

Let's try that emoticon again

utopian I miss my fluffy ankle-swiper... Can't wait to see him when we get home next week.

Yay another four hours! Although I've been awake for the last hour listening to him coughing and sniffling

Utopian that's good by our standards hope you got some sleep too!

Wigan Utopian we have had silly amounts of snow for us. DP's dug out my car and gone to work in it as his is too heavy and just slides in the snow. Hope he's okay, it looks scary put there but I'm sure it's just the estate and the main roads are fine.

First night in travel cot went well. J slept 9-5:45 again. Hoping he'll have another hour or so after this feed. I don't do 6am...

6am is normal get up time here WillYou dd always woke at seven when she was a baby....not anymore!

Ds's gone back to sleep but is coughing so much I think I might have to get him back up.

Dd's been going on that now she feels better can she got macdonalds it's a big treat for her so I think that's where we'll be going today

It's snowing we weren't forecast any until tonight

Morning all! Glorious crappy weather here - more snow. Rain and gales last night. We have friends staying from France - when they left home yesterday it was 20°!

Took C to the pub last night - worked well, she slept beautifully. Woke at 10.45 when we got in so she fed (usually shed get a dream feed st midnight). I wonder if an earlier feed is better, as then she slept until 5.15! Then noisy half sleep until 7.15. I might experiment with the timing of that feed - worth it for a 7 hour stretch!

Ouch, broken toe daydream - good excuse to sit on sofa. Hope you feel brighter soon.

Seymore, sounds like your gp has a decent measure of the situation. It can be v tough. I'm lonely a lot if the time but have some great support from work friends who have babies, and my husband is v supportive. Still difficult though.

We've got snow too, but not too much so far. My work forecast says we should get 2-5cm, and I'm hoping we are closer to the lower end! Lots of bits to get done this weekend.

Daydream we booked A's start at nursery this week, for the start of June. Or rather I filled in the forms and forgot to take them back, but they've put him down anyway (it's where DD goes). It's only 9 weeks until he starts- feels far too soon!

It's difficult, but I think the time away can make you appreciate time together a bit more. It's so unrelenting otherwise. Although if I won the lottery I'd give up work and keep the nursery sessions

Seymore at least you have the option of the groups, and maybe the phrase "isolated people" will make your DH take note of how you feel.

Mydaydream - hope your toe is better soon, sounds painful!
I remember the anxiety about nursery well, but two and a half years on I really think it has benefited DS1 enormously. So many people comment on how confident he is and how he just gets on with playing with other children even if he's not met them before eg at a new group. It's great that you've found a nursery that you're happy with, I think instinct counts for a lot with these things.

Seymore - glad the appointment went well. As others have said, the groups sound positive and could be well worth exploring.

Hales - where is it you live? I'm in Wigan now, but grew up a bit nearer to Liverpool.