May 2004 babies - new thread

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Well, d'you think anyone will bother?
I feel like I'm having a party and waiting for people to turn up. Dorito, anyone?

Susis- I cant believe your DD is 8.5 months already! and your probably right im worrying over nothing. I just hope this LO is a contented baby and not like the unputdownable DD I had.

DD is very mumsy and even said to DH tonight' I not like daddy, go away' she wont let DH do anything for her.
Oh and she managed to say 'bloody hell' yesterday at the dinner table so ive had to have a word with MIL about her language as MIL keeps forgetting not to swear infront of DD!!!

Well it was all going well with DD until yesterday when she managed to do a huge wee in her pushchair in the school playground in front of all the mothers. It was because she took over an hour to go to sleep at naptime and so I had to wake her up to go round to school for DS and she was too grumpy to do anything with so I couldn't get her to go on the potty. Had to go in the classroom and get some paper towels to sort out the pushchair. Fortunately I had a change of clothes and so we went and hung around for an hour while DS had his first football practice. We went shopping in the morning though and she did fine although it did include an unscheduled visit to the Adams staff toilet (very nice member of staff there) and a stop in a layby on the way home. She is manipulating me though because she likes public toilets. So every time she gets bored (10 minute intervals) she decides she needs to go the toilet and I can't risk it...

DD is more of a mummy's girl but does have moments of falling out with me so that only Daddy will do. She can be very clingy and in your face though and I cope better with this than DH.

hi all. dont know if youve seen my 'living abroad' post but dh has been offered a job in singapore. i am at my wits end and cant stop crying. ANYWAY...we're alright apart from that. dd is doing well with the potty but has forgotten to tell me she needs a poo 2 nights in a row now, so has done it in her pants in the lounge. not great. oh and she wet herself on the doorstep which was q funny as i had gone inside with her following and the door closed on her. could hear a little panicky knock with 'muuuuummmyyyy, wee wee' bless

I have just posted some drivel on your thread Egypt. What a dilemma for you. At least you are getting lots of advice over there and from people with experience - although have to say that a lot of them sound quite blase about it all.

Oh Egypt, what a turnup... will go and read your thread. xxx

Egypt, im off to find your thread.

DD finally seems to be settling in nursery(you may have read the ongoing saga thread)
Theyve been giving her stars for each day shes stayed this week which shes taken greate pride in showing everyone. Today she went in with no crying and even played with the toys. Im hoping this is a good sign.

sorry kbaby, didnt realise you were having probs with dd, glad all seems to be better. am off to find your thread. x

kbaby I think that is a great sign.

Guess what DD got upto today?

She went upstairs to have a poo and called me to change her nappy which I did, then about 1hr later went upstairs again, I asked her what she was doing and she said having a poo poo and could I change her bum. Now I thought she may have been fibbing as she'd only just been, so I said yes in a minute. Then she calls down the stairs come and see. I get to the top of the stairs to find that shes taken her shorts and nappy off and is smelling the nappy and saying stinky poo poo!

I was so relieved that she hadnt taken it out of the nappy and smearerd the walls with it.

That teaches me for not going to change her bum earlier.

Everytime DS goes for a poo - DD comes running saying "see see". And if she ever does a poo in her overnight nappy she has to see that too. Then the other day we were at a friends and another friend's little girl had an accident in her bikini bottoms. As soon as DD got home the first thing she said to DH (who had been away) was "Grace - poo - bikini".

But DS took the biscuit today. I was in the bathroom bathing DD's eyes because she had got bubble mixture in them. When he came in sat himself down on the toilet (bear in mind we have 3 toilets so he didn't actually have to use that one) and said "I'm just having a poo Mummy, you can give me my medicine while I'm doing it".

There see what you've done kbaby - started me on the poo stories.

Friends visited with 12 week old baby today. DD adores him, can't keep away from him at all.

Lol at 'grace - poo - bikini'. Brilliant little miniature story in one sentence.

But it was obviously the most important event of the last two days to DD.

I LOVE my parents! They are taking both DSs for the whole day tomorrow, on condition that I go shopping for some clothes in town . They are giving me some money to buy something with, too, on condition that I don't spend it on anyone else but me! What kind of conditions are they! I am so lucky! I've not left DS2 anywhere for long before really but who'd miss a golden opportunity like that.

Bozza, So its not just DD whose obsessed with poo then. Its quite ofputting when she follows you into the toilet and asks you to get off so she can see urgh..

Ponka, I hope you have a fab day and dont worry about DS. Make the most of the free time.

I actually have a very bad confession to make. I finished work yesterday and im panicking about what DD and I can do. I dont know if I even know how to spend proper time with her. Normally I only get the weekends where were busy anyway or the evenings to spend with her but now thinking that I have the full day fills me with dread. What do you all do to fill the time?

I know that feeling, kbaby. I found it hard. I try to get out of the house. I find playgroups, music/singing groups (there's singing at our library), people with other toddlers for them to play together, indoor play centres, parks and even Mumsnet meetups! If I stay in we play in the garden. He helps me with household chores. He loves putting the powder in the washing machine and does the washing up alongside me. We do drawing, painting, baking, playing with flour and water, reading. He watches a bit of TV. God that makes me sound like a supermum, doesn't it? I'm not. We don't do all of that all of the time. DS is a hard one to entertain though and soon starts whinging. What you should be doing is sitting with your feet up as much as possible now! Can your MIL look after DD a bit still?

I'm in trouble tonight Been on a massive shopping trip and spent close to £300 . We don't really have that! I've never spent that much before. Something in me just flipped and I went mad!

Want to know what you bought Ponka!

Kbaby, it's a handy fact that it's very healthy for toddlers to learn the value of entertaining themselves. It's a fantastic life skill. So although you will undoubtedly have lots of fun doing stuff together don't underestimate the value of just getting on with household stuff while DD buzzes around pretending to give biscuits to her toys or whatever.

I often put on children-friendly music as wallpaper; find it makes pottering around the house feel more focussed somehow and gives DD something to think about when (and if) she stands still for a minute. (Good for breastfeeding times as well, for your future reference!)

Egypt, how's your state of mind re. Singapore?

2 pairs of jeans, trainers, haircut, a belt, 5 tops (mostly brown and green from next cos brown and green suit my slightly strawberry blonde hair), about 5 bras and some knickers (including some Bridget Jones magic ones because I still look about 4 months pregnant, have problems with my muscles going back and my skin on my stomach looks like a scrotum - sorry tmi!). I justify it to myself because I can count on 1 hand the amount of clothes I've bought in the last 2 years. DH was kind to me. He says it's O.K. as long as I don't make a habit of it

Agree about kids entertaining themselves. I wish I'd have done more of that with DS right from the beginning. It's an important skill that DS needs to learn and it's kind of my fault he's so clingy.

How's it going with 2, Spots? It's hard work, isn't it? I'm knackered.

Yes Ponka, totally hard work. But it's going ok actually. Just love having two healthy cheery girls in my life. And I am enjoying DD2's babyness so much... she is delicious. She is just learning to laugh!

How are you getting on?

(Shame the thread I'm supposed to post on about this is so quiet... feel much more comfortable here!)

(meaning the April 2006 thread )

Ponka lol at your stomach description.

Yesterday we went to playgroup and out in the afternoon but the playgroups all close soon for the summer. Today we went and fed the ducks and now shes in nursery.
Now my next dilema is what do I do for food! DH and I normally eat late and mil used to cook proper home cooked meals twice a day. I can give her a light lunch and then she can have dinner with dh and i in the evening as ill just cook it earlier btbh our dinner tends to consist of jarred casseroles with potatoes/rice and veg, stir fries, asda chicken ready meals with mango sauce etc is this really suitable for DD I never tend to make anything from scratch as I hate cooking.

Spots you should just post here about DD2 Ponka and Bozza both have 2 and im soon to have 2. At least it gives me an idea of what its like.

Well done on the shopping Ponka. Kbaby I think you will settle into a bit of a routine with DD. I only have two days at home with my DD a week. And unfortunately a fair amount of that is spent on housework. DD very much follows me around - she is not very good at entertaining herself. In fact sometimes it is easier when DS is here because they play together. And if they are on their own together they play really well. But if I am there DD is incredibly jealous. Last night I was trying to do DS's reading book with him and DD was doing her level best to scrabble onto my knee. I said that she could sit on the settee next to me but that wasn't good enough. And DH tried to distract her but that also wouldn't do. Although tbh I think the heat ahs affected her sleep (well actually know as she has been waking up shouting "mummy" at regular intervals) and so at the end of the day she is pretty grumpy.

So I'm kidding myself that the sibling rivalry will disappear when they become a bit older then, Bozza. I'm such an optimist.

Yeah, the new April 2006 thread is so quiet. It's a shame. It's going well here, too. It's very tiring but it is nice. DS1 has forgotten that there was a time when DS2 wasn't there and that makes things a lot easier. DS2 is the most chatty baby ever. He comes out with some strange noises and DS1 likes helping to look after him and blowing raspberries on his tummy. Sorry guys for talking about the littlest ones. I know it's not a thread for them.

We've cracked the first bit of potty training now. DS has been dry and clean for a week and 2 days but only because I remind him every hour or so. He has asked to go for a wee a couple of times and to poo a fair few times but, on the whole, he doesn't ask. I'm thinking of stopping asking and possibly regressing a bit because if I'm constantly taking him, he'll never learn when he needs to ask.

I don't know how anyone has the time to cook everything from scratch, Kbaby. I couldn't find it. I've found a happy middle ground with some convenience and some nice quick home made recipes and I freeze any leftovers as little portions for DS so that if we fancy a late tea or takeaway occasionally, I can pull something out. Like Bozza said, you'll find your way.

Ponka it the sibling rivalry swaps over. Just now your DS2 is not really capable of it but DS1 is at a prime age. Whereas for me DS displays a bit of it but mainly when he is provoked by DD who really is dreadful. So eventually after she has shoved him out of the way half a dozen times and said "my mummy" repeatedly he will respond with a "my mummy" and DD bursts into tears and hits him.

I am actually quite good at cooking from scratch although I am a big believer in cooking for the freezer. Today I cooked triple chilli while DD was asleep. I think it is one of my good points. I have bad points too though.

Hello! Some lovely, funny stuff to read here - glad everybody is doing OK. We are doing fine, although we are due a hectic time at the end of the month as we are house swapping with our friends! They gain a downstairs toilet and a conservatory and we get an extra bedroom (of which I think DH will kiss the floor, he is SO desperate for an office to work in!). Luckily the houses are only a road apart so DD is still destined to start the same school in September and I can trudge the same path into the village and pre school...........
DD and DS are either best friends or deadly rivals. Sometimes DD will say something whilst I'm in the kitchen and I say "pardon?" only to be told "I'm not talking to you, mummy, I'm talking to DS". Which is lovely to hear. However, we also have intensely annoying rivalry along the lines of "I am Barney the dinosaur, RAAAAAAA", "NO, I am Barney the dinosaur, RAAAAA", "WAAAAA, mummy, DS says he's Barney and I am Barney". At this point I wearily step in and suggest that one of them is a different dinosaur or Barney The Honey. I don't have a CLUE who Barney The Honey is, but it seems to do the trick!
Aaaaah, I love my children! I might get them up and play with them!

Hello Judd! You are the hundredth poster on this thread. you win a poo in your bikini.

House swap sounds very resourceful! Will you admit to hating each other's decor?