May 2004 babies - new thread

[helsy]

Well, d'you think anyone will bother?
I feel like I'm having a party and waiting for people to turn up. Dorito, anyone?

Awww Spots. I was always one to succumb to peer pressure! Plus I just haven't felt like me with a new name.

Oh dear. Sorry to hear you are not well, Kbaby. How many weeks are you now? It would be good if your MIL can take her when you are on maternity leave sometimes, too. Sounds like you need rest.

DS has also forced wee wees on purpose. When he had nappy off he told me he was going to wee on his sleeping bag and then did, pretty much straight after he'd sucessfully used the potty.

We're going for it properly very soon because he's very good at weeing in his potty or in the toilet and very keen. We've bought some "big boy's pants" in preparation and he insisted on wearing them over his nappy to go to bed tonight

Ooh -lots to catch up on! Big respect to the potty trainers - we are doing nothing on this score for a while yet. We're going to Tenby for the week on Saturday - hurray! Have been very organised and ordered Tesco vouchers to go to Folly Farm and printed other recommended stuff off the internet. Then when we get back, we are straight into the throes of moving. Bit odd really, we are basically doing a house swap with our friends, so we haven't had our house on the market at all. Should mess with the children's heads quite a bit as we are always round at each other's house anyway . It's only a couple of blocks we will be moving, but in a different school catchment area so I've been having massive dithering fits about whether to change DD over as she will start in reception in September.
DS is doing fine. Our 2 year check was a tick box affair so very painlessly done. When you suggest something to him, he will say "oh, good idea that!" He also likes to contradict you but gets it wrong and shouts "No it is!".
Right, bedtime.

No interest in potty usage here yet - she wants to go on the toilet! Might get her one of those seats that fits over the top as it worked for dd1.
We're off to Devon on Saturday and I@m not sure whether to risk her in a single bed for the first time or just stick the travel cot in the front room. It's a long journey for us, and as DH dislocated his thumb last night at football (an hour before we were due to go for a meal to celebrate our fourth wedding anniversary ) it may be an even longer one, as his thumb and palm have swelled up like a balloon.
Hello to everyone.

helsy I was planning on getting DD a bed soon. But thought I would wait for the potty training to settle down a little bit first. She managed fine in a travel cot last month but does fill it. But when we go to France I think it would be a bit much to be in a travel cot for a fortnight so she will definitely be in a bed then.

Potty training going great for wees, rubbish for poos.

Kbaby I hope your health has settled down. Is it chicken pox?

A couple of months ago, we had to lay DS very carefully in a diagonal line to get him to fit into the travel cot!

LOL judd. I think my DD is somewhat smaller than your DS. She weighs 28lbs and this morning I put her in some age 2-3 cropped trousers that she got for her birthday only to find her wandering down the landing with the trouser waistline just below the bottom of her knickers. I have had to go in the loft and get last summer's clothes out. She is currently asleep in her cot with no nappy on - where's that slightly anxious emoticon when you need it!

Luckily it wasnt chicken pox but lots of insect bites. DD's still be grumpy though and a steaming nose.

Shes got into the habit in the evenings of climbing into my bed to watch a DVD and eating toast but now shes starting taking her nappy off and surprise surprise last night weed on my matress. How do I get wee out?

Anyones LO's started to lose interest in eating. DD's appetite seems to be a few mouthfulls of food and nothing else.

DD's appetite is either fine or she jsut can't be bothered. It doesn't worry me unduly. Not really sure how to get wee out other than the usual cleaning stuff. TBH when DD has weed on the carpet (only 2 or 3 times during potty training so not bad really) I have just cleaned it with baby wipes.

Took the kids to the seaside (St Annes) yesterday with my sister. They loved it and DD was much more independent playing on the beach. We took a picnic (which got very sanded up!), had a few hours on the beach. Then moved the car and the kids went in a paddling pool on the sea front, then we went on the pier and to a pub for tea, then put the kids in their pjs and came home. And DD maanged all this without an accident and even did her first wee on the pub toilet. Big deal for me because it took me months to get DS to use a toilet.

Unfortunately though I am full of cold.

Bozza I cant believe your DD is almost dry. DD wanted to wear knickers yesterday but just weed constantly and only sat on the potty to do a pretend wee!

DD has had loads of fun today playing with my 2 cousins. She seems to prefer older children ie 5-9yrs rather than children her own age and had them out the garden ant hunting.

dd loves girls that age too. our neighbour's dd is 9 and dd loves her so much. which is great as i can have her round to play and know that i dont need to be with them so much as she's old enough to look after her like the 2 year old she is rather than argue with her like those that are around her age. only thing is they are moving soon :(

dd is doing great at toilet/potty training although had a bit of bad luck today. didnt put her on the loo before we left playgroup - where she had drank q a bit, so we had another accident in the car. then another as soon as we were home in her high chair! gutted. apart from that she is using the loo, going to the potty by herself ( when she is naked - can't pull her clothes down) and asking to go. she even held on for a while when we were out shopping until i could find a pub loo!

i found i just had to go for it kbaby. she had only ever done one wee on the pot and like your dd just used to do pretend ones on it. i waited for a warm day and just had her with pants on in the garden. she weed herself loads but i tried to quickly sit her on it when it happened. after a couple of days of doing this and having wet carpets, loads of changes of clothes and just about ready to give up she suddenly got it. the next morning she called me to say 'MY DONE A WEE WEE' and it was in the potty. then 10 mins later 'ME DONE A POO POO!' and it was in the potyt!! miracle. think maybe i've told you that before, sorry. but what i'm saying is i think you have to just make up your mind to go for it. eventually their brains learn that they need to be sat on the potty/loo to do it and now dd even asks for the loo when she's wearing pull-ups. i'm am totally amazed that it has seemed to be that easy. touch wood.

I agree with Egypt. They are still quite young. So I think you either have the choice of going for it like we have done or leaving it for 6-12 months and they might take the initiative themselves. DD has not had an accident since last Thursday - but this may be a case of famous last words. She has also been dry through all of her naps since then too and I have stopped putting her a nappy on for naptime although I do lay her on a Pampers care sheet - not that brave!

Think I will wait until september. The baby and a new room will probably cause enough upheaval for her. Plus itll probably be easier to bend and clean the floor by then without a huge belly in the way.

thats very good bozza. i feel like we've taken a backwards step. another accident today. in the garden. she was not pleased. a great big wee!......oo, viewer for house......

hmm, they seemed interested.

anyway, and then we went for a pub meal with my neighbour so put a nappy on and she weed in it without even saying anything, as though it was back to those days.

thats very good bozza. i feel like we've taken a backwards step. another accident today. in the garden. she was not pleased. a great big wee!......oo, viewer for house......

hmm, they seemed interested.

anyway, and then we went for a pub meal with my neighbour so put a nappy on and she weed in it without even saying anything, as though it was back to those days.

Ah you see egypt I am brave and do not put nappies on at all. I had one very stressful week culminating in a big row with DH who was being "unsupportive" but then very next day it seemed to click with DD. Kbaby I really wouldn't contemplate it in your position. I left DS in nighttime nappies for longer than was necessary because I was pregnant, exhausted and couldn't face the idea of changing wet sheets in the middle of the night. I have a friend who has a 2yo and a 12 week old baby and she has just trained her DD at the same time. Her DD is 2.3. DD still not so happy with poos and managed to slip one into her nighttime nappy this morning.

DD is very funny though. Everytime the phrase "big girl" is mentioned in any context she whips up her dress and shows off her knickers. She wacked DS with a plastic cup in the bath last night right on the bridge of his nose (we were worried he might end up with black eyes) and then really cried because I took the cup away. So they were both sat there wailing.

hmm, i think you are right. i went for it big time at first with no nappies, then on occassions when we were looking round houses for sale there was just no way i could do it! then, last night we went for a long walk with the back pack and couldnt bear the thought of her weeing on me or me trying to get her out in time for one.....but there's always excuses isnt there. have left her at my friend's house just now whilt i show a prospective buyer round and she is wearing just pants. but i think the novelty has really worn off with her. oh well. i shall perservere.

kbaby, i agree with bozza, i wouldnt contemplate it just yet.

I'd leave it too, kbaby. It's harder work than I thought it was. What is your due date, btw?

Today was another first for us. First time of whining for something he saw on TV! There was some pink polly pocket thing which looked like a house and he kept whinging for it all morning ("Want pink house"). It can only get worse from here.

Sounds like you are doing pretty well though Egypt, with the training.

Ooops. Inadvertently typed gin emocion instead of grin emocion . Actually, thinking about it, a gin one would be more appropriate if there were one! I could do with lots of that this week! I'll stop rambling now.

Gin, oh yes please Ponka.

DD's now started with the no's. Everything you ask her gets answered with a no and each nappy change or change of clothes etc has become a chase around the house. I wonder how long this lasts for?

Im 35 weeks now so not long to go. Im dreading it. Not quite sure how ill cope with 2 children and have a feeling that the baby may not be given the same attention DD had.

I noticed, Kbaby, that about 3 or 4 weeks before I had DS2, DS1 became a nightmare. It was like he could sense that we were getting ready for something big and was unsettled. He was really negative and unco-oprative. A couple of my real life friends have noticed the same thing. I wonder if this is now happening to you? Or is it just being two ? If it is the same thing, I can tell you it doesn't last long. Whatever the reason, it's bad timing. Just when you are at your most tired. Perhaps that is why. Not long now before you can have a glass of gin or two yourself, eh?

I read your nursery thread but didn't have anything of value to add. I don't really have any experience but I hope things work out.

Oh yes and... You'll cope just fine with two but it will take you a while to adjust, if you are anything like me. Just don't be afraid to ask others for help. That's how I got by those first few weeks.

I worry constantly that DS2 is getting a lot less attention than DS1 did but at the end of the day, he is happy and this happens to everyone. I think you have to remember that. Anyway, I'm going to stop waffling now. Can you tell I've had 2 very small glasses of wine and am as drunk as I used to be after a night on the town? A combination of that newborn tiredness and not drinking for nine months recently has made me very cheap to run!

oh wow, i can't believe it's your turn already kbaby!!! another one

and just like ponka said - you'll be fine!!!
true it's quite hard work the first few weeks (untill they are settled into a feeding/sleeping routine) but then it gets easier by the day - promised!!

i also had periods of feeling hugly guilty of 'neglecting' dd but you can't expect ds to 'understand' and just hold back. and he got the lion share of attention for good 6 months.
but then again dd is a very content baby and didn't mind lying (now sitting) on her own for a while and playing. - also now it's a completly different story and dd wants lots (!) of attention and will scream if she doesn't get enough - so ds has learnt now that he has to wait ... and he's ok with it.

ooops - waffle waffle waffle waffle

i remember the last few weeks have been very tough. huge bump and a very active boy - i tried to do all the games where i could sit with him and sent dp out to do all the rough and tumble and running around - sort of like a 'getting used to our new life with 2' event
don't know who struggled more - dp or ds??

oh, and ds also does the numbers now. can almost count correctly 1-10 ... well, almost

we intend to do start potty training this friday IF the weather is allright - plan is to chuck him into the garden all day (just throw food and water outside once in a while) - so fingers crossed!

dd is fab too! she's 8.5 months now and sitting really nicely for quite some time. but no sign of moving whatsoever! well, fine with me
the only thing she does love atm is 'to walk' - offer your fingers and she'll pull herself up and off she is. and with quite some speed
she might just skip the crawling!

lovely to hear from you susi. cant believe that your dd is 8.5 months. where on earth has the time gone?

ponka, i cant add anything of much use but 2 of my real life friends that i see almost daily have just had their second children. now 8-14 weeks old. they are both fine! it was knackering at first but had family to support them and have pulled through. you'll be fine!

we have reached the terrible twos here. with a total of 4 huge ones in the last 5 days. one even made her sick. they've all been associated with the car seat or wanting mummy to carry her NOT daddy. (and daddy doing the annoying and making the situation worse thing of 'she's not getting her own way by crying' thing. ) where he could have diffused the situation before it even began by handing her to me in the first place. but anyway.....

4 huge ones meaning 4 huge tantrums that is

egypt that sounds familiar!! we are sort of over the tantrums but ds is very 'mummy' orientated atm! and he sometimes even pushes dp away - but he too doesn't want to 'give in' and handles him anyways - so lots of tears which could have been prevented 'sigh' - but we talk about it and he tried to take things on board ...

ponka you will be fine!!! i know it's hard work (very hard work with another toddler) but it does get easier by the day. you'll get into a better routine every day and the kids will adapt too. and once your little one can sit up or even move around half the battle is won (and of course once the demand feeding is out of the way and the sleeping through is established ... but that's about it )