December 2012 - the fourth trimester is nearly over

[MaMaPo]

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Dp often phones me before he leaves work which is usually when ds is screaming so poor dp usually just gets 'I can't bloody here you!' From a very grumpy me!

Ds slept four hours woo! Glad I went to bed at 8:15 I was so tired that dp came in from training at 9:30 and came to bed and I didn't even here him!

Well ds2 went down at 7. He woke briefly at 7.45 for a feed then stayed asleep until 10.30 when I came to bed. He's just up for his 2nd feed since then.

I leave Yunior with Dh on mondays when I work. Yunior sleeps most of the day and when i get home he feeds nonstop until bed time. I think they don't act up because they know Mom is nowhere to be found, so they just sleep.

Argh he won't go back to sleep! And there's a stupid cat outside making stupid noises

Yay for felix! I can't sleep, stewing over friends who don't seem to understand that I really don't want to leave my baby to go out on the piss all the time. One childless friend said "You need to get him used to staying at grandparents, and the younger the better" Not at 9 weeks FFS! Another friend told me it's much harder for her to leave her 2 kids than me as they're older and know that she's gone. I may become a hermit until J's 18!

Ooh 4 more messages popped up. Evening all!

Yay asleep! Don't worry WillYou it just make it even more fun when you do go out. Then the morning after you remember why you wanted to stay in....!

This is going to be a long night - C was terrible going down and I had to feed her around half ten so no point my husband doing a dream feed. Of course, her internal alarm clock is set to 'no longer than 3 hours, are you kidding?!' so here we are again.

Pretty poor night here too, I'm sure it's tummy related though-she doesn't normally scream for that long. She's snoring away now and I'm obviously wide awake .

I second the dh's wanting to 'help' which turns into a hindrance, then when I decide it's easier to do stuff myself I get accused of mollycoddling and being overprotective.

I also second the not quite ready to go out. I have an overnight hen do coming up in the next few weeks which I really thought I'd look forward to but after Friday night's sofa sleeping dh fiasco I am dreading it. I so so hope he goes back to his mums, I keep dropping hints but can't come right out and say it as he's so stubborn he would not go to prove a point. He is generally very capable and was brilliant with ds but perhaps that's because emotionally I was a wreck with ds and am not this time so have taken much more control, possibly leaving him a bit stranded.

willyou don't feel pressured to go out and leave ds - out will always be there, ds will only be 9 weeks once. Felt pressured by mil to go out without dd1, but since then have politely ignored such things. You'll know when your ready. I wish I was a bit more relaxed about leaving dd but I'm not ready and won't be for a goodly while yet and that's that!

Glad you got a decent stretch spotty.

Yunior has been sleeping all day, I'm a bit worried he's not going to sleep tonight. We'll see. (We're in the States, so a bit early here yet).

He has also had a longer crying jag than usual, but it could be the green chile stew I had for lunch yesterday!

My poor friend let her mum have her 10 week old overnight when she really didn't want to just because her mum wanted him and she felt like she should. If you want to then that's great, go for it and have a good time! Bugger what anyone else thinks, though. If you don't want to go out until their ten then don't

Spotty i agree! As the parent you get to make those decisions, and you may as well start practicing saying "because I said so" as you'll be using it a lot when they are 10!

Dd won't go back to sleep

This must be payback for the 9-3 stretch she did. I know 5 hours is considered sleeping through the night (not ny me) but 3 am is not morning.

Just had her asleep, q massive snore from DH, she's now awake. Bloody men.

She's asleep! Better stay that way and DH better bloody get up with dcs when they wake at 6.30. Grump!

Can someone explain to this child that 4am is not playtime? Also just had to explain that to DH who seems to tho k encouraging 4am playing is fine. It's absolutely find if you're going to get up for it every morning dear...

Ds has been doing that after his first stretch of sleep- being wide awake. It's really annoying he always used to go straight back down.

Ds has been doing that after his first stretch of sleep- being wide awake. It's really annoying he always used to go straight back down.

wl is 5 hours really considered sleeping through? I was hoping for nearer 10... Or 12... Or 15...

By 'sleep professionals' honey. Not by the normal people who have to do the night feeds I consider it to be staying asleep from when you put them to bed until its time to get up!

2nd night feed.

Sorry to those who's babies want to play. When people ask about ds2s sleeping I say it's fine as he's up 2-4 times but its only to eat so I can cope with that. He doesn't try and stay up, which is more frustrating than just feeding and putting back to bed.

We must be having a growth spurt he's feeding non stop and making my nipples sore!

So I finally got to sleep at 2:30am. Annoyingly this is the first night J decided to sleep from 10-6! So I kept thinking no point going to sleep, he'll be up any minute and he never was.

I think I may end up driving home on the first night and staying the second. It's Mother's Day weekend too, so I'm driving and if people aren't up and ready to go when I am I'm leaving them.

As soon as D got cuddles from DH he calmed down. DH hashes really seen him for a couple of days as has been leaving fit work at 5.45 and not getting home till nearly 9pm after I've put D to bed so I think he was just missing daddy!