Dec 2011 - Do that again, and you're getting sold on Ebay.....

[Aethelfleda]

Shiny new thread with no listing fees!

Good luck

Good luck zombie, hope there's not too long a wait.

Post it then seven! can't have a pregnant woman waddling, can we...

My marriage is on the rocks :(

Queenie whats up? ((((hugs))))

Feel free to talk about it here if you want to vent.

Izombie good luck

Minim get better soon

Seven post linkey pls. Before they got the right dx for dh he was told he had MD and his family did lots of stuff with a childrens charity that supported MD so im sure i can get some more people to look at the wedsite

Whats up qoc?

queen ((hug)) and . Does this have anything to do with a certain young ladies behaviour by any chance? We're all here if you need a chat (or a haddock!)

Thanks air and aethel. just giving page.

Sorry just realised how bad that read, the haddock would obviously be meant for DH, I'm certainly not saying that Darcie deserves one!

Yeah over a certain madams behaviour.. DH was broken the other day says the house is like a war zone and I'm miserable all the time and he generally hates coming home to us. I know it's not really me, it is DD1 but :( DH says he doesn't want to suffer this anymore and tbh neither do I. I'm stressed and depressed first time of admitting it because of DD1 behaviour and I can't take anymore of it and it's breaks my heart to see DH feel rejected. It's putting a very big strain on our marriage and I know that is what DD1 wants and tbh she nearly got her way today of Daddy leaving and her getting mummy & Sky to herself. I feel like I've hit rock bottom and fallen 50ft lower than that. I know I shouldn't let Darcie's behaviour get to me especially as DH & I are very consistent in dealing with her just :(

Thanks if you got that far. X

Seven I will def donate for you & DH.

DH thinks I don't love him as I seem happier when it's just the girls and me and I get on with stuff and when he is around I just snap at him for being interfering :( think I snap because I have a certain way of doing things as I do everything where he girls are concerned. Hmmm

Queen its not Darcie's fault, your dh is an Adult and needs to rise above it like most parents do. Problems with the kids should not affect the relationship between two adults. You both need to talk about bountries and stratages as a team. He needs to take responability for his reaction to Darcie playing up and you need to support him in his disapline of her.

She is trying to divide and conquer so you both need to be a team and show her that. The next time she plays up have dh tell her to go to her room and then you back him up and see what happens. Even if he carries her and hold the door shut for 3 minutes. He must not react but stay calm and firm.

You need to remind in you are a team.

I'm with air he's the adult she's the child he needs to act like it and not take things out on you!!

Thanks ladies.

Air we do that and are trying to be consistent in doing it. I know I don't always follow in agreement when I should but I think it's just for peace ...I am trying tho.

DH knows she's trying to divide us and we are trying to show her we are a united front...it's just draining :(

Just wait till she is a teenager

Don't want too. That's a very scary thought :( although she is tucked up fast asleep in bed after having a headache and is excited that she will be coming to work with me tomorrow - helps me as she can do some jobs for me

It must be strange for her in a new home new baby mum and dad got married. Its a lot ofchanges at home in a short space of time and she is trying to figur out where she fits in to it all.

Is Darcie aiming at dh only or everyone?

Its hard being parents cos you do your best and get pushed anyway. Im sure she will get over it and things will work out for you.

Its all trial and error if what you are doing doesnt work try something else like lovebombing, putting her in her room when she starts and ignore her till she calms down or kindness star chart. Have you had the talk about builling and how she can talk to you and then tell her what she is doing is bulling her dad?

Telling her wuitly and calmly that you are dissapointed in her behavioir and that she should want to be a better person than that. That you are both willing to listen to her and want her imput in your family and she is a great big sister but her behaviour is not good for sky to copy? I guess treat her like an adult and give her some responsabiliy and control?

My dh drives me nuts because he will never argue back and just ognores me till i calm down then we sit snd discuess the issue. You cant fight if its only one sided

Good luck and im sorry things are difficult right now ((((hugs))))

Thanks Air. Your right with everything you say. Just finding it very hard to deal with right now.

(((((hug)))))) queenie, vent if it helps, we're all on here. DH needs to support you with this.

No croupy coughing yet but DS has puked three times. Niiice. How's minim doing tonight, Mopsy? Hope the other thread babies (and mummies!) are doing better... Janey have you covered DM in bubblewrap yet?

Great advice Air.
Good luck QoC, you'll get there.
(((Hugs)))

Hi all, Minimopsy is still miserable. Had milk a couple of times today but no food. Mild temp this evening but not like yesterday. But miserable and spent much of the day crying or whimpering again. Still drooling like nobody's business. Think will be another long night. GP in the morning I think. my husband and I were both on antibiotics recently for bacterial tonsillitis and then he got another sore throat and went back to GP and had another swab and the tonsillitis bacteria still there. So I'm a bit worried maybe Minimopsy has it too what with the not eating and drooling. She's drinking a lot less than normal but luckily enough to stay hydrated. But I think a check by the GP would be probably the sensible thing to do.

Sorry things are hard Queen. Keep at it. It will pass I'm sure eventually. A lot of changes for her recently so she is clearly just reacting. Sounds really hard though :(

Bubble wrap is on order, only 2 new bruises today and a few knocks to the head.

No slipping down stairs (he decided against taking his push along up today apparently) he can actually walk up and down stairs without any help except hand holding going down... Not while trying to free toys though.

He's rarely out of my sight for more than a couple of seconds - he's just bloody quick! And ill admit I do sometimes pretend I'm not watching ready to grab when he's trying something clever he shouldn't, just to see what he does.

Air sounds like monkey, he walked at 10m and tried to run straight away! He's needs walking at least once a day and running around time too. Lack of freedom is the problem here, he's not used to being enclosed in one room but we're off home tomorrow. Parks here are shocking too, the easy to get to ones are hangouts for drinking and smashing bottles :( so too dangerous.

Today we visited his godmother who has a much safer garden than DF and he only got those two bruises and some bangs, not bad for 2 hours of madness.

His eczema is flaring up more and he's refluxy, hoping its not his new favourite thing - beans! Don't really need another allergy for the list. Teething too though, hoping that's why his reflux is an issue atm.

Poor poorly babies :( hope everyone feels better soon.

Janey out of curiosity what allergies does Monkey have?

I've woken up this morning with a swollen face and very red & itchy eyes :( Darcie is fast asleep in bed with a headache. We have caught Sky's virus I think. :(

Others have given great advice RE DH and Darcie queen its not something I know much about except that with parenting it's very much a case of united we stand, divided we sit on the floor and weep into our wine glasses.

Janey I've got a rather rough and tumble little dude too. I'm always worried what the nursery staff will think. Luckily he has sustained plenty of injuries there too so at least he's consistent in his attempts to induce heart attacks.

My in-laws are here and driving me quietly potty. They are desperate to take C out, but they won't change his nappy. They brought him home yesterday after a trip to the park and a long walk and he had clearly been sat in a filthy nappy for ages, he poor bum was already a bit sore and it actually bled a tiny bit when I changed him! They're off home this afternoon, phew!

Minimopsy has hand, foot and mouth.

Oh no. Hope MiniM feels better soon.