October 2011 - Learning to accept our babies are toddlers

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I've hired someone to get all our babies to sleep while we go get sloshed in the corner

Fx you get what you asked for climbing the way I look at it is if you don't ask you don't get!

Funny you should ask that pen I actually have no idea! DH and I keep having half talks around the idea of DC2 but we can't really afford 2 yet what with childcare costs, DH isn't sure how he feels about a second and while I always thought I'd have 2 I can't imagine having a second yet either but equally I don't want a massive age gap or to be too far into my thirties when I'm pg. We've decided to talk about again in 6 months! That rambling answer means no I don't know I guess! Hope this week goes quickly for you and you have a nice straightforward scan x

strawberry sorry about the job.

pen i think i'm done! I was still broody for a while, but i think it's gone now. I've stopped watching obem and i went to my friends to see her baby, and had a hold and even though she is a cutie pie, i was a little 'meh'

i'm glad cos i was beginning to think i would just want another forever!

I'm thinking i can wait a good few years and then enjoy more babies as a grand parent.

Good luck for the scan. x

Well we chickened out of the CC last night. We decided it would be easier on us, neighbours and DD if we start doing it for daytime naps and I still feed him at night. But I am leaving him to grizzle longer at night to give him more chance to settle himself. He grizzled a lot in the night, but kept going quiet. I finally fed him at 1:30 which is great, he almost always wakes between 10 & midnight, so getting to 1:30 was an acheivement. Then I had to go in at 2:30. It took a couple of attempts to settle him, but then he slept till 6:50. HUGE improvement.

We did CC at nap time today. After a delayed start (DD went in to keep him company because he was crying) Then I went in 3 times a and it took about 30 minutes for him to settle. Easier than we thought.

Pen No more kids here. I'd have loved a brood... but I should have started younger. We can't afford anymore really either. DH kept putting off having a 2nd, but once DD started nursery he gave in, so she was at school full time when S arrived. If we did that again I'd be 38. I'd just started socialising more before S arrived, and I miss it.

I think my Mum would kill me too. There were complications when DD was born, then major complications when S was born, so I've been told no more!

Happy Mothers Day ladies x

Happy mothers' day everyone!

So far, I got to get up with L at 4.30, have been puked on and then got a present of a bag to keep bread in?!? And now he's off to watch the football with his pals (not even a team he supports) and I get to spend the day with HIS mum!! How did all that happen?

@ mrsh!!!

mrsh

present for father's day

I was going to suggest this for Father's Day
www.google.co.uk/search?q=potato+sack&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-gb&client=safari#miuv=1

lol. and this for you mrsh on father's day itself

spa day

MrsH think you need to "have a word" Did you want said bread bag ?!

Sorry about the job Strawb. It's a funny one isn't it, I now do understand when people say babies/work don't really mix too well. The more money you get the more time you would be expected to spend at work really - which I can only ever see would work :(

Good luck Climbing, fx for you. Would 4 days not be good so you could do chores scratch about at home whilst E & L are at nursery?

Good luck with the scan Pene :) Have you got names ? (won't be offended if you want to keep them secret)

Poor P has a terrible cold, she wakes up all crusty nosed and gungey eyed and her hair is stuck to the snot :( Think she has given it to me too I feel achy and snotty. Typical, why couldn't she have done it whilst I was not at work. I hate the cold/sore throat/hot/cold thing whilst stuck in a 1970's crumbling tower block trying to read paperwork and show willing 'cos I'm new

Pene I think I would like 3/4 tiddlers < awaits Sassy confirming I am mad > (but she already knows that).

FYI the Dr the other day told me they recommend dtd ever 3rd day when trying to conceive, DH reckons that's not enough (unsurprisingly)

That sounds better though Annie so fx crossed for tonight too.

Ooh meant to ask those of you with older children :-

When did they stop daytime naps?
When did you take the sides off the cot/transfer to a bed?

Just to give me a vague idea. I have just read a thread where people seemed to say roughly 2 years old they drop their naps.

DH has a colleague at work who was trying to tell him that we should take the side off the cot but P shows no indication of climbing out and it's a cot bed so she has not outgrown it or anything. I am sure she would just fall out if we took the sides off she's a major wriggler. I don't see the point (maybe am misunderstanding something though about psycholoicalness of toddler in cot or something) ?

Mad as a mad hatter cheshire

You know i could cure you. Come here and babysit for a weekend

I dropped twins nap at about 2, but a lot haven't, and tbh if we go anywhere in the car they always fall asleep, so i think they could prob still have one, but it would cut into the night time sleep.

Jacob has been up since 2.30am (which means i have) no word of a lie. i'm waiting for him to fall asleep, but he's showing no signs. He'll probably do about 2 hrs before bed. grrrrr. He has a bad cold and a temp.
See it's the weekend again and it seems to be obligatory.........

I wouldn't be getting rid of the side of a cot at 16 months it's usually about 2 ish that they move into beds or when they learn to climb out. Whichever comes first. No psychological crap that i'm aware of about cots. Just dangerous if they can climb out, in case they fall. Unless you have my two little beggers, who can climb out and in and over stair gates........

i did doze a lot on the couch though

I've just had the best mothers day gift: a nap

the problem would be chesire is the same nursery fees for less money. Poor P :(

DS has fracture clinic tomorrow, but I don't foresee any problems.

DD had a bed at 19 months but she was on the early side. She has just turned 3. I think nearly all her fellow thread toddlers are now in beds, but a lot of them moved in the past couple of months. Most of them don't have naps everyday although a lot have a nap here and there in the week. DD still has a nap but was one of the last to drop her second nap around 19 months. (It all happened just after DS was born). Like sassy says, normally a reason presents itself for moving them into beds.

I'm roughly aiming for moving S into a bed this time next year so she will be aprox 2.6 years. She still has plenty room in her cot for 'growing' . I might try just after her birthday though removing the cot side and just using bed guard to see how it works out. I'm planning just to buy a normal single bed rather than a low toddler bed so I want to be sure she will be ok in it first. Def in no rush! I love her cot

I think my niece was in a bed at about 20 months, but she was early. As someone said upthread, I've heard it depends on whether or not they climb.

Thanks for all your nice words about my final scan! Cheshire we're not really talking about names yet, apart from reviving the old lists. My top boy's name is Oliver but am aware is really popular and that A has an unusual name. But really, I'm not sure. This time with A's pregnancy we'd talked names a lot, but this time most of our conversations are practical ie should we buy a double buggy etc. Much less fun conversations

Have a lovely mothers' day those of you who have it!

Mrs H I hope your DH was sufficiently grateful!

I'm ill again Have spent the last 2 days shivering and sneezing on the sofa. Just putting DS to bed so BBL.

Oh Engels, nightmare! Lots of paracetamol and fluids .

Ladies, thank you so much for your sympathy and great Fathers' Day gift ideas! I did say to him this morning that I'd be getting him dettol wipes for Fathers' Day...! (They were clearly in eyeshot after the puking!!)

I just turned the laptop round to show him the lovely Mothers' Day gift a friend proudly posted on FB and he looked sad and said 'You always make me feel bad about things, like on Valentines Day'. I'd normally be gutted that he's upset but frankly, I'm not! He forgot Valentines Day altogether!

I can't decide between getting him back with the Fathers' Day gift or modelling the behaviour I'm expecting (and therefore making him feel guilty...!). I hope I'm not sounding spoilt, I really didn't want a huge fuss or a lot of money spent, but a lie in, a cup of tea and a bar of chocolate surely isn't asking too much? (There's no way I'd be putting this on AIBU though !)

He is now doing school work for me so I think he's feeling guilty...!

Hope you all had lovely Mother's Day. mrs H!!!
I got a lie in, a card signed by N and a "mum rules" mug (too right!)
N has been clingy all weekend and rather hard work (teething), and the only time today he wasn't whingey was when we went swimming. He had a great time splashing us - and the lifeguard! He's so snotty that when DH was settling him for bed he tried to cough up some phlegm and threw up :( hope we're not in for a long night- DH is up at 4 to drive to Cambridge for a 5 day training course

-cp hope fracture clinic goes ok

DS stood up today :) ignore the fact next time he tried he fell over

Lots of illness. I'm keeping fingers crossed we have another good week. I know it's hard when you have had a long run of illness but do remember it will clear up. I think I was ill every week from Sept to New year but have had a good run. I admit it is draining. Next year will be great and I refuse to allow any other situation.

I managed to get out and do a run today for the first time after DS breaking his leg. I have a very busy week coming up so not sure if I can do my other two this week (well DH does which means I have four mornings and evenings to do by myself plus one overnight).

I wrote a long post last night then deleted it because all I had done was moan I am determnined to be a more positive person even though I am constantly ill and DH is being a lazy arse

Still a snot bag but past the shivering/temperature stage so took M out for a runaround at the playground for half an hour earlier.

Well done DS climbing and good work on the run.

MrsH - MrH was doing your schoolwork I would love to see the day I make DH feel sufficiently guilty for him to do the same

Hope you managed to get some sleep sassy

Well, mother's day here isn't till May - and I will be leaving some strategic hints for DH!

M is a snot bag too chesh. It saves on hair gel in the morning

Keep forgetting to ask, how was W after the pox sp? Did it clear quick?

And climbing, anymore from social services about L and his leg?

You both just randomly came into my head!