October 2011 - Learning to accept our babies are toddlers

[ClimbingPenguin]

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I've hired someone to get all our babies to sleep while we go get sloshed in the corner

[Engelsemama]

poo poo poo

[Engelsemama]

and yet more poo - stinky, slimy, runny, oozing down trouser legs and over socks. Yuck yuck yuck.

And now DH and I are both starting to feel ill I would like just ONE week where one of us is not ill!

Total pity post

It will pass, it will pass

[TallyBear]

Oh no Sassy and Engles

[PenelopeLane]

Engels that first line of your last post is so poetic it could be the first line of your next NaNoWriMo

Sympathy to the sick kids and those who have to clean it up! We have no poo here (or more than usual) but terrible terrible nappy rash

[sassy34264]

Argh, wrote post and then windows decided to close down to configurate!

engs i agreed with you, that i'd like one week where no-one is ill. Jacob did one of those mild yellow, bad belly poos this morning that went down is leg- didn't quite reach his sock though. No one was sick again after i posted yesterday- hooray.

pene nappy rash is a bugger once it takes hold. Some swear by sudocreme, others bepth something or other.

Well we have put an offer in for a house. We negotiated mon and tues. They wanted £5,000 more than our best offer. We have said we will go half way-2,500 and then we haven't heard from them since! Hate this. I'd rather have a no, than 24 hours of nothing. grrrrr

[ClimbingPenguin]

Only metanium works on DS. Bepth I find more of a barrier, not a healer. Sudocreme for DD when she had mild rash. Then again we still have to use metanium at every nappy change otherwise his skin flares up.

The drowsy antihistamines we have for him does seem to help his sleep a bit, we still get at least two night wakings/feeds but we does back down quickly and sleeps well. His skin a few days was starting to flare up again but we're back to our normal steady state.

[sassy34264]

I would like just one week where one of us is not ill

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Jacob did one of those bad belly light yellow poos this morning, that was all down one leg. It hadn't reached his sock though. So you win.

We are waiting on an offer we have put in for an house. We negotiated mon and tues and then they didn't get back to us yesterday- grrrrrr.

They want £5,000 higher than we are prepared to pay, so we have offered half way. 2,500. But they're not getting back to us!!!!!!

Just gotta hold your nerve i suppose.

pene ouch to nappy rash- it's a bugger once it gets hold. I,m a sudocreme/own brand cream person, but some swear by (can't spell it) bepth something or other.

[sassy34264]

tally Forgot to answer you. We have a dimmer switch in the kids bedroom and we used to always put it on the lowest setting, after a story. When isobel started off with the night terrors, she would cry differently than a hurt cry, or an angry cry. It was like she was terrified.
We tried various different things- putting her back to bed and trying to soothe her, giving her soft toys in bed to cuddle, a drink, etc but nothing really worked only laying on the floor next to her cot and holding her hand until she fell asleep.

She eventually stopped getting upset and i stopped laying on the floor, but the light has stayed on. We have tried turning it down when we go to bed and they are fully asleep, but if one of them wakes in the night, they just get upset at the light not being on. So it's always on.

I think it is a common stage that the majority of children go through.

straw yes my leg is healing now. It's a black bruise now.

climbing your poor ds is going through the mill a bit. Hope he has a run of good health soon.

I wanted to ask you a question actually climbing Feel free to pm me if it's too personal, or tell me you'd rather not answer. I just wanted to know about your half brother. Well not know about him, but why you refer to him as an half brother and not just brother. Does he have the same mum or dad and did he grow up with you?

I know it sounds quite personal, but it's just because i wanted a perspective on it, because obviously chloe is technically the half sisiter of her 3 siblings, but i would go mad if anyone (including them) refer to her as that. I really don't want her or them seeing her as a half sibling.

i thought that maybe if you didn't grow up with him that would be different. It's not a slight on you at all- or a judgement, i just wondered the circumstances. iyswim?

[sassy34264]

Ha, it's posted the message i lost!!!!!

[ClimbingPenguin]

sassy All my siblings are half brother/sisters. My mum was only 14 when she had me so naturally my parents didn't stick together.

My mum had another four children who I count as my true brothers and sisters.

My dad also had another four but I saw them very infrequently and really only properly for a few years when I was 15-18. I kept in touch while I was at uni and then we drifted apart as I decided to cut of contact with our 'father'. My half brother was also left my our dad but as I didn't see that side of the family I didn't get to really meet him proper until my teens. As I didn't grow up with them and to be honest have seemingly lost the small connection we did have, I have always viewed them as half siblings.

When he got stabbed, my neighbour did not know of the connection between us. Although on our estate there is a lot of drug crime (mostly run by the house next door) we have always been left out of it and there is a unspoken agreement that no-one is to do anything to us.

Unfortunately for my brother he did not have the good mum I did. I did offer for him to come live with my during my PhD to do a course but he got talked out of it. My 3 sisters did grow up in stable house with their dad though. The family still like to blame me though. when I met with the grandparents during the years I was talking to him, they told me it was my fault he didn't go to Uni (I was due to start uni soon)

[ClimbingPenguin]

oh meant to say we had a poo and a few seconds later there is a big puddle of it on the floor, does that win

[sassy34264]

God climbing very complicated. I have/had a very boring family/childhood (in the nicest possible way) I always joke that no-one would ever make a reality show of us, as no one would watch.

14! She can't be much older than me then- 42?

I'm glad you refer to the ones who lived with you as your real siblings- i would be heartbroke if my 4 didn't. Hence my wondering.

Ignore the family, if you know it wasn't your fault- then sod um.

Your estate sounds awful- can you not move? I wouldn't be able to sleep!!!! But then i am a over-the-top worrier.

[ClimbingPenguin]

sorry I don't live there, but most of the family still does. She was born in '69.

[sassy34264]

4/5 years older than me, with a 28yr old and grandkids...........

makes me feel oooooooooooooooooooold

where's that biscuit tin??????

[sassy34264]

Hooorayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

Good news at last- They have accepted our offer. I'm estatic.

It has a garden! and a garage and a utility, a loft and a glory hole- all places to put stuff!!!!!!! Instead of constantly being surrounding by shit

[sassy34264]

No i win- Jacob has just leaked watery poo all over the dining room floor

It must be bad because he hasn't touched his sandwiches.

[strawberrypenguin]

Yay for the house sassy it's so nerve wracking isn't it! Hope everyone is feeling better soon.

eng how is everyone today?

[Engelsemama]

fx I think M is finally okay. No vomit yesterday or today and no poop today (though maybe that means he's just saving it up for tomorrow because he knew I wasn't here to clean it today!).

climbing and sassy you both win today

I was feeling really rough yesterday but today have been fine (went to work which was bliss...first time out of house since Friday, grown ups, teenagers, NO POO!) but DH has had the runs all day and is currently doing his impression of a dying swan on the sofa.

Great news on house sassy

Am so ready for the weekend now!

[PenelopeLane]

I'm from a fairly normal family too if you could call a family of 4 girls 'normal'. Let's just say, there was a lot of estrogen growing up and a time of the month when life was hard!

[sassy34264]

pene

Chloe has puked all over her bed and now I can't get back to sleep. Might also be something to do with needing the toilet 5 times in the last hour! Sorry if tmi.

I don't tend to get the v in d+v- I just get the d.

Dp is off tomorrow, but will be at the rental sorting out the big hole I put in the ceiling so no help for me.
Best try and sleep-night.

[Engelsemama]

hoping it passes soon sassy

pen I shared a bedroom with both of my younger sisters until I was 15 which was interesting! (and btw, will definitely save that poo line as a writing prompt!)

DH has gone to work today so have the shithole not literally anymore to myself.

M has woken 2 nights this week at around 4am crying. had to go in to check he hadn't thrown up/wasn't lying in his own filth, but he was wide awake just wanted attention. I ended up bring him in with is but then I can't sleep (and he doesn't sleep) so after an hour put him back. he screamed blue murder for 5 mins (at 5am) and then went to sleep. No idea what's up with him

[sassy34264]

Well, it's a lovely day here- i've turned the heating off!

No one was sick last night, or even woke up! Hooray

Chloe has gone shopping with her lovely auntie and is staying the night at her paternal grandparents and my mum is coming at 1pm to watch the babies.

Dp and I are going out to the yearly beer festival- not been for about 5 years!

Hope everyone has a nice saturday. x

[strawberrypenguin]

Have fun sassy sounds great!

[ClimbingPenguin]

I am drained but also OK. DS is doing OK too. Having some coffee before getting on with some work.

sassy have fun

[AwkwardAnnie]

Hello, coming back in after a Looooong abscence (and I name changed, I'll remind people on the fb page)

sassy hurrah for the house. It sounds fab. I'd love a garage, and a better garden, ours is very steep so on 3 small levels, not child friendly. You can never have enough glory holes. :) Hope your clan are beginning to feel better.

tally hope work is improving and getting less stressful.

Sorry, very tired, so just read, but can't remember to do a full catch-up. Lots of sympathy for the tired people. I'm permanently tired. S wakes up about 2 or 3 times a night, some nights he doesn't settle till 10. He's happy as larry.... once you stop trying to get him to sleep. I usually take him upstairs between 7 or 8, try feeding him to sleep, if he won't settle I bring him back down and he plays quietly, until about 10 when he'll normally fall asleep. But some night's he still won't so DH takes over and I go to bed.... then often DH will bring him back to me between 12 & 1 to see if he'll feed to sleep... and if he doesn't we end up coming back down and sleeping on the settee.... That's what he's done for 3 nights now.

He sleeps for between 1-2 hours in the afternoon, but sometimes will skip a nap, and he still doesn't sleep at night! I'm on the verge of trying controlled crying. We did that with DD at 20 months to get her to sleep, but once she was asleep she stayed asleep. S goes to sleep, but wakes frequently. (we're having issues with buses shaking the house and waking us up too, but that's a post for another day.)

At the moment he's teething again, but these are the last 2 teeth! Hurrah!!!
He's been properly walking for about a month too, I hoped that would make him sleep, but nope.

He is lovely though, really funny, pleasant, incredibly cute at times and great at entertaining himself (when he's not ill) He's not really speaking yet, his favourite word is "Mama" which he says almost constantly... it's rather irritating. It means "mama", (DD called me Mama till she was 3) or "I want".

In other news, I got a new job in the new year. It was one my manager asked if I'd be interested in while I was on Mat leave, then when I said I was they wrote the Job Spec. It just took another 7 months to get organised. I'm really enjoying it, I'm very busy, and still working out what I'm meant to do. It's a new role and I'm largely unsupervised, but I like that. Working mon-fri 9-5 is hard, especially with the sleep deprivation, but the money is lovely

Right, off to bed now, while I can!