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October 2011 - Learning to accept our babies are toddlers

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ClimbingPenguin · 18/02/2013 12:51

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I've hired someone to get all our babies to sleep while we go get sloshed in the corner

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TallyBear · 03/06/2013 22:38

Engles we use reigns on Seb too as he doesn't like holding hands and, like N, likes to head in another direction with no notice. It also helps if he falls over as he doesn't splat! He likes having them put on as it means going outside, which he loves.

He's not been well at the moment, not been himself for about a week and then sick twice on the weekend. He is so up and down. He was so upset after waking from his nap (we kept him home today) and so we watched Waybuloo on the laptop, then I made a den with a blanket over two chairs and the crunched up space blanket and he was crawling about and giggling like anything and having a whale of a time!

For those early risers we got a Gro-Clock on offer at Asda recently. Everyone we know how has one says it works. We don't need it yet but if nothing else it will make a nice clock!

TallyBear · 03/06/2013 22:40

Oo, Ips good luck with the scan

CheshireDing · 04/06/2013 19:35

Ladies, I am worried :( Has anyone else ever received the results of their NT scan and had to go back for further tests? When they did the neck measurement they said it was all fine but now they have left a voicemail asking me to call them back (and when I got the message they were closed).

Sorry worried about the poor little thing now :( :(

Engelsemama · 04/06/2013 20:03

Sorry to hear that chesh. Try not to worry.

strawberrypenguin · 04/06/2013 20:09

No experience I'm afraid chesh but I'm here for a handhold if you want/need it.

tally how's S toady?

ipswichwitch · 04/06/2013 21:37

Oh chesh, I'm hoping its nothing important or anything to worry about. Offering another hand to hold and fingers crossed all is ok.

MrsHende · 04/06/2013 21:52

Handholding here too chesh xx

MummyDuckAndDuckling · 05/06/2013 03:19

Just popping in to say hope all ok chesh x

Hope S is better tally Sad

PenelopeLane · 05/06/2013 07:54

Cheshire not heard of it before but hope you're feeling ok

CheshireDing · 05/06/2013 13:14

Thanks ladies, I am utterly fed up with the whole thing. I am sure we must have been to the hospital about 5 times now and we have to go again now tomorrow - but only to be referred by the Consultant anyway ! I wish we had just paid for a private scan at the weekend like we did last time instead of keep having time off work and being given information in piecemeal for. The sniffy woman on the phone when I rang back today about my bloods said the results said there was 1 in 55 chance of Downs and did I want to see the Consultant tomorrow? Just like that, like I have nothing else to bloody do. When I said we might want to get a private scan done first to compare she said "well it's not worth it" and then I asked what would happen at the appointment tomorrow and she said "well the Consultant will book you in for an Amnio test". So we have to take time off work just to go and be booked in for another appointment! I said we might want to get the CVS first and she got all sniffy again and said "well it's too late for that". So pissed off with them, hate them all at the hospital right now :(

CheshireDing · 05/06/2013 13:15

Sorry that was a bit me me and ranty.

I do hope S is not sick today and is feeling better Tally :)

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ClimbingPenguin · 05/06/2013 20:36

Chesire, that wasn't ranty at all, especially considering the worry and stress you must be under. Sorry you are going through this and Angry at the insensitive way the lady spoke to you on the phone

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MrsHende · 05/06/2013 21:21

Oh chesh, so often I think these people forget they are talking to someone about their most precious things!!! So frustrating.

I hope the consultant is worth seeing tomorrow and reassures you and isn't another waste of time.

PenelopeLane · 05/06/2013 21:42

What a terrible way to hear that you have a one in 55 chance of downs! That woman sounds really insensitive.

Do you think you will have the Amnio?

ipswichwitch · 05/06/2013 21:43

Oh chesh what a horrible attitude to get off a so called professional at a time like this. As if its not stressful enough. I hope the consultant is more helpful tomorrow. Feel free to rant anytime, we'll all be here Flowers

LittlePebble · 06/06/2013 07:02

Oh Cheshire Hmm what a horrible woman. If you want to go for the private test you should anyway.

Hope you're ok xx

strawberrypenguin · 06/06/2013 10:47

Oh chesh how horrible. Hope today goes ok and the consultant is helpful.

CheshireDing · 06/06/2013 13:27

It was shit, I ranted at the Consultant and she said it's basically you have the amnio or do nothing because it is too late for the CVS and soft tests (like checking the nasal bone etc). Plus the hospital don't offer any of those any-bloody-way!

We now have to wait TWO WEEKS for the amnio and then have to wait for the results of that and take more time off work.

Bunch of arses :(

Anyone got anything chirpy to report :)

LittlePebble · 06/06/2013 13:36

Oh Cheshire I'm sorry how tough to have to wait for two weeks Hmm

Sending big hugs x

strawberrypenguin · 06/06/2013 18:15

Aww chesh I remember with W's bad scans the wait to see someone who could tell us what was going on was horrible. I hope the next two weeks pass quickly for you

TallyBear · 06/06/2013 22:11

Cheshire Sending big hugs your way. How unprofessional.
Oh and stuff work, your bump is more important. There are laws to protect you. (That doesn't excuse their attitude though)

TallyBear · 06/06/2013 22:13

Oh and thanks everyone, Seb is now fine but dh and I are feeling grotty!

Engelsemama · 07/06/2013 07:42

chesh Vent away

get well soon Tally

I?m struggling with a decision at the moment.

Am considering putting M in nursery for one more day a week next school year and taking on a few extra hours. Would be an extra class than this year but Beginner's English so low on marking (and a tiny class - probably no more than 6 students). Would still be a way off 0.8 though so even though I would be in work for another day I would have at least half of that day free at school (though maybe spread out over my four days). It would give me some more time when I'm at school and can focus on getting work done. I've struggled with doing marking and planning at home this year. Plus, and I know this sounds awful, it would also mean that if I did get pregnant next year, I would get paid for all those hours through my stat maternity pay and would qualify for more paid and unpaid parental leave.

DH says he doesn?t want me to be more stressed out than I was this year as it makes him more stressed out, but he?ll support my decision. This year has been a lot more settled at school and I?m so much happier being in the international school. I feel like school is where everything is stable and I?m in control. I don?t spend the day wishing I?m at home or missing M, though I do enjoy my days with him (most of the time ? sometimes he drives me crazy!).

But I love my job right now ? great kids, great colleagues ? and really feel that I want to make the most of opportunities. DH doesn?t even really like his job ? it?s something to pay the bills not something he feels passionate about and yet HE is working 4 days and I?m working 3 (I get paid more than him as well Grin ).

Nothing is set in stone so I can always reduce my hours the year after if I want.

I am weighing it up and just wondered what you all think.

PenelopeLane · 07/06/2013 08:18

Engels I think you should do it! I am biased though as I was struggling a lot with the work/mum balance when I first went back, and found that increasing my hours by a few hours a week made things better, not worse. I think it was due to having more time at work to feel like I was achieving something there, whereas before I just felt like I was doing both motherhood and work badly. Then, I felt less stressed, and think it made me a better mum. That's just my experience anyway! Working longer hours to feel like a better parent for me was counter-intuitive at first, but did really work for me. And now I have more time during the work day for appointments and so on as well!

(Sorry about the lengthy tome in response to your question)

Engelsemama · 07/06/2013 13:07

I am wanting to do it mroe and more pen. JUst had an email back from nuresery to say they would have a place for him from mid-Aug till the end of January but then they're full at the mo so he;d have to go on a waiting list ( always a chance that someone drops out). If it were to stay the same then we could ask MIL or look for an alternative such as a childminder. Most nurseries here won't take a child if it's only for one day.

Have just bought an amazing 50s style dress Smile (in size 14 Sad ) for this evening (school prom!). I was going to wear a pre-DC dress I've worn to a few weddings and popped into town this morning to get some better underwear to smooth my lumps and bumps, but this dress is so much more flattering and I feel very very glam in it Grin