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November 2012 - Guess what we were doing this time last year

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StuntNun · 13/02/2013 21:30

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1680077-November-2012-More-group-hugs-and-moral-support-please

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

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kirrinIsland · 15/02/2013 07:55

It's interview day - I'm having to get up and dressed whilst N is still snoring! The temptation to wake her is overwhelming - just so she knows what it feels like

PetiteRaleuse · 15/02/2013 07:55

Better night here once DD1 calmed down. Her fever woke her again at 5 but she also asked for milk which is great. Didn't drink much but anyway. LO has gone back to sleeping through til 6. For now.

16 years since The Full Monty came out. I feel old.

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StuntNun · 15/02/2013 07:56

It's worse than that Kirren because we are expected to visit them every weekend and we have to try and keep the older boys quiet so they can have a conversation. So we go and visit and DS1 and DS2 are relegated to another room with the TV on so they won't disturb MIL and FIL. Sometimes I think they spend more actual time with their DGCs in Scotland and England than with the ones nearest to them. They will come and take them out in the summer or collect them from school/babysit occasionally but we have to ask every time. And then we have to sit through being told what bad parents we are. Rather than thinking if we had some support maybe we would be able to manage better. Whereas DBIL and DSIL are such great parents. Um I suspect it's easier when you only have one child who doesn't have SN. The ILs have four children, one had trouble at school, one was hyperactive, one had a totally unsuitable boyfriend when she was a teenager, DH was the good one. They had money troubles and all the rest, you would think they would be sympathetic and supportive.

Sorry for the rant, got a bit carried away there. At least they're close and will help out in an emergency not like asking who was going to look after DS1 and DS2 when I went into labour with J. Er, we thought you were.

Sophia my 6yo DS2 doesn't like I've cream. I mean WTAF? That's not normal!

Promise me Contra, no guilt. This is a rational well-thought out decision that's going to make things a little easier for you all.

Today I will mostly be in a bad mood as if you couldn't tell already. Normal service will be resumed after some decent sleep.

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horseylady · 15/02/2013 07:58

Vq - depends on his mood!!!! He feeds pretty well to schedule give or take half an hour. I make bottles up fresh but I probably will stop this at some point. Maybe :)

I use premade overnight and quickly heat it in the microwave and give it a good shake.

I got in slightly Late yesterday and he cried a bit then but I used ready made so it was a minute tops he cried for!!!

Contradictionincarnate · 15/02/2013 08:07

aw pig feel worse now as dd does sleep usually 5-6 hours after long cluster feeds then goes again for another 4 ... I haven't had any problems of the sort I have read and felt sympathy for on here the thrust mastitis etc I just would like to have a break and go out next Sat and Thursday after.
think mine and dh relationship could do with it just went down to check he was ok and tell him to be careful driving and I love him he slagged off the cats me and I am now crying!!
had such a good day yesterday with mil too! one of those days when it seems easy because some one else is pushing the pram (apt metaphor)
jumping very easily to the conclusion we should split think that's just so I don't have to have a second and can meet a millionaire

fruitpastilles · 15/02/2013 08:23

Good luck kirrin x

BigPigLittlePig · 15/02/2013 08:26

contra it is really tricky with a newborn to make your relationship work. I naively thought I knew how it woould affect things as we have dsd - so wrong! I think, particularly with a 1st baby (although may be wrong here) the dp can go from being the centre of your attention to being slightly more peripheral. Add in to that sleep deprivation, hormones etc and things can seem a bit hopeless. Things will start to improve, as her feeding settles and she becomes a bit happier to be left alone for a few minutes whilst you have a cuddle and a snog (no euphemisms!)

Evilwater · 15/02/2013 08:27

Detective I need your help, (well anyone)!
I have a mystery fluid that was found in N bed. It's bright yellow, surrounded by some sort of fluid. It's not poo.

Evil

PetiteRaleuse · 15/02/2013 08:31

One of my cats hasn't been home since last night. This is very very unusual for him. Normally he comes home overnight and the goes out first thing. I saw him last night just before going to bed. Crap. If one of my cats were to disappear why could't it be the vicious one who sicks all over everything?

Evilwater · 15/02/2013 08:32

Pr, the cat might have found something nice to eat/roll in. I'm sure he's fine, just check all your out buildings.

Contradictionincarnate · 15/02/2013 08:39

evil which part of the bed? could it be ear wax. dd just woke for what is usually the 6am feed!
decided that her hand movements when and after she feeds are that of a harpest ...will put harp lessons on the to do list for 6 years time.

horseylady · 15/02/2013 08:39

Evil - vom?

Pr - hope cat arrives home safely!!!

Elizadoesdolittle · 15/02/2013 08:46

chunky it's normally quite easy for me to get someone to have DD1 but next week my in laws are on holiday, DH is in Singapore and its half term! My sister is around a lot too but not on Monday, they've picked the worst morning ever! The in laws will be having her for my march appt.

So after a fairly sleepless night, I've decided to get a dr appointment and see if they will refer her privately. DH has private health care through work which should cover E, he's going to check. It may take a little while to come through so may not happen much before march but will hopefully get her checked over more thoroughly and do blood tests etc rather than just listening to her chest and poking her tummy. Am also going to phone the LL for some breast feeding advice to see if they can tell me how to get more milk into E. so feeling much better this morning and thanks to you all for your support.

And on another positive note I'm getting my hair cut this morning and then this afternoon meeting my nct friends at a place called kidSpace in Croydon. Not been there before but sounds ace so looking forward to that.

My posts have been quite self obsessed of late so will get back to being more cheery and sympathetic to others

Contradictionincarnate · 15/02/2013 08:52

thanks pig its been ups and downs think we could really do with some time just us two...particularly as dd is not a napper and does not sleep at all in the evening.

PetiteRaleuse · 15/02/2013 08:55

Don't you just love how easy it can be to make the babies laugh. LO thinks me wiggling my fingers in her general direction is hilarious.

Titsalinabumsquash · 15/02/2013 09:00

Horrible morning, I've just screamed like a banshee at my 8yo and practically thrown him up the stairs, he just won't take his medication again (so far 20 minutes for a 3 min neb and he has 4 to do) he KNOWS what to do but he just won't. I'm on my fucking knees and I don't know how to deal with it anymore.

capedcrusader25 · 15/02/2013 09:04

I won't tell you what we so re nighttime bottles... but O ha never had warm milk all the time. She will take it warm, room temp or cooler.

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StuntNun · 15/02/2013 09:10

Oh Tits I'm sorry to hear that. An you go out anywhere just to get out of the house? Take them to a playground or something? Or go and punch a pillow to work off some of the emotion.

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TheTiger · 15/02/2013 09:11

kirrin good luck!

PR yesterday DS was having a mini tantrum, so I pretended to cry and he burst into laughter, kept it up for ages! I love when he laughs.

tits have no advice, I'm sure you have tried all the usual, star charts, rewards etc. It must be hard for you both having to deal with illness. Can you mix the nebs together or do they have to be separate? Eg, salbutamol and atrovent can be mixed together.

WRT to bottles, I do it all wrong according to the guidelines. I make them up in advance and store in fridge, then microwave when needed.

Evilwater · 15/02/2013 09:16

Oh no tits!
It was at the head end, on both sides of his shoulders. Looks at bit much for ear wax, but I'm not worried as he is fine. I'm thinking vom too, or snot.

Evil

PetiteRaleuse · 15/02/2013 09:23

DD1 still asleep. Amazing. Hoping she's sleeping this flu off.

The cat was asleep under a bed normally he is out and about trying to trip me up in the morning so I assumed he was outside somewhere. Phew.

Re bottles. The guidelines are different here. I'm not going to say how I make them up as someone will flame me. If needed during the night though I take LO out into the living room with me. We live in a bungalow and other than the bedrooms and bathroom it is open plan, and very small anyway. We moved here a few months ago as I got sick of stairs and stair gates. It's small enough to keep housework manageable too. Unfortunately small enough so that crying will wake up the whole house so she is never left to cry when DD1 is sleeping.

YellowWellies · 15/02/2013 09:24

contradiction don't feel mean about unlatching - after an hour I know my LO is full - he still gets cuddles from either me or DH after and seems to be soothed enough by this to fall deeply asleep.

wellieboots · 15/02/2013 09:25

oh tits hope you are ok. desperately trying to catch up but not quite there yet! Hugs to anyone who needs them. I won't repeat my evil MIL story here but if anyone has time to jump over to Relationships (can't link on phone) and answer my evil MIL thread (why doesn't MIL love her GC?) I would much appreciate it. off to catch up now with all the news...

gardenpixie32 · 15/02/2013 09:57

It is such a lovely sunny day here with big blue skies. I can't wait to take the girls out into the warm sunshine, only a month or so to go, then they can sit out in the garden.

Titsalinabumsquash · 15/02/2013 10:02

No, no mixing together he has a specialised system, it should take 3-4 mins each and he's had months of doing it perfectly, but the last few weeks he will do anything he can not to do it, DP has just had the ££££££ worth of hospital equipment thrown at his head and DS is literally destroying the upstairs rooms. It's getting to the point of having to get him removed from the house for everyone else's safety.

I've tried star charts, rewards, discipline, bribery but to no avail, it's making the whole family miserable.

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