November 2012 - More group hugs and moral support please

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1676013-November-2012-We-want-rattles-and-we-want-them-now

I would YW. Even 4 hours would be such a boost.

Evil, I getcha on the whining. DP made me go for a walk as I told LO to give it a rest.

Jing Jonas does a fine line in BM brie in his neck creases too - we've been told to carefully apply talc into the creases with a dry finger until the moisture is gone - we do it each night to prevent thrush. You have to be careful with talc so close to their faces as it can be inhaled if applied too liberally; but if done carefully it seems to be the lesser of two evils. His neck isn't red and shiny anymore. We use Johnsons Bedtime Powder. I find milk drunk comatose (about now!) the best time to do it.

I even told N off in a motherly tone, which set him off again. I know it's not his fault, but there is only so much I can take.

decective- wow a collapsed fridge!

Oh and we really need a new oven as I almost got smoke inhalation from the grill (I knew there was a reason why we never used it)

Evil

Evil ear plugs, and sing at the top of your voice. It can help keep you sane the same can't be said for anyone subjected to my tuneless singing

Sorry for those who are having a crap time - swings and roundabouts I'm sure as just as your LOs sort themselves out, the rest of them will turn into baby terrorists.

Am trying to type this whilst fending off the cats amorous advances.

Aaaaaand now I've been puked on again. Basically, any slight movement forward (so lying on my chest, cuddles, tummy time) and boom. Vomtastic. Doesn't matter how long ago he fed.

I am . The dentinox helped for 2 days but he is just the same now. Tried size 2 teats and he just went apeshit.

Tired. Just put both dc to bed one as DH on a course. Going downstairs to watch more west wing & cry with exhaustion in the face of all the laundry to be hung out & stuff to sort out for the morning but...

detective that sucks.

& good luck pidj

Good luck with that task catbag will see what comes to mind.

mm stunt glenda wishing you overnight transformations of DPs or at least some thought on Valentines

Oh and no, I will not be getting a Valentines derived BFP although really really strangely I'm a bit broody. I know my marriage & sanity as it stands wouldn't survive another :(

jing you can also buy liquid talc, but I swear by Lanosil. I clean his creases with baby lotion and apply a thin layer of Lanosil if red or cheesy.

cat I think babysitting may be asking a bit much with 5 to sit on already. Sorry I cannot think of anything non-smutty.

pikz J seems more like himself today, and was asleep by 8.45. I am also feeling a lot happier.

PR

horsey I am hoping my boss feels the same.

evil hope you have a reasonable night and little evil settles.

I was feeling a bit broody today. Thankfully that door is now shut. I spoke with a dear friend of mine who was due at the same time as me but did not have the same happy outcome. I asked (sensitively) if she wanted all my baby kit and she does. She was so chuffed, it was lovely. She is hoping for a BFP next week, but is expecting it to be negative. She lives not far from where YW was, so will be a while before she can collect it, so I can get it all sorted out lovely for her. I had offered it to a friend who lives nearer and is actually up duffed, but she is getting everything new.

Off to bed soon, but have an eclair to wrestle first. Dairy free-ish from tomorrow.

Has anyone used the colic granules?

No Valentines BFP for me thanks .... unless the pill were to fail

Evening everyone. Haven't had time to read all of the posts, dd1 and DH have both got a vomiting virus so I've been mopping up sick all day and trying to keep Bronwen away from it all. She seems fine so far luckily

Good luck tomorrow purple, you'll be fine.

Can't think of any money making scheme's cat, but if anyone has healthcare in work like axa ppp you can claim £200 maternity benefit. DH was told about it, he just had to send a copy of the birth certificate and a cheque arrived a few days later.

yw that sucks about the house. The place we are buying accepted £18k off of their asking price, but we in turn accepted £13k less than our asking price. It's the way of the world at the moment. Gone are the days that places are snapped up at full asking price, or like when I last sold more than the asking price. These sellers are being unrealistic. Any chance that your offer could stay on the table and they may change their mind in a couple of weeks? House buying sucks!

vq glad you had a successful visit with the HV. I hope things continue to improve for you and J.

I watched the dispatches documentary about nurseries. It's tragic what happened I the children in the documentary but it didn't change my view of putting my DD into nursery. I'm sure there are awful nurseries out there but equally there are great ones. Same with CM's.

Thanks Eliza I'm hoping they come back to us - they sound a bit shocked that we're walking away. Fingers crossed.

Sorry I havnt mentioned everyone.

To those going back to school or getting a better job, congratulations.
For all those grumpy, grizzly babies, I wish you all a good night.
For those with house worries and P/H problems, I know it's not easy.
And for the classic mumsnet saying
"This too shall pass"

Nite all.
Evil

I bet they will come back YW and I have to say if they do, if you could risk it, offer lower because they have been greedy and clearly turned you down in the hope you would up your offer!

I've used my judgement and decided to get some Karvol capsules. He is 12 wks on Friday. I've just put one on a muslin cloth tied to the handle of the basket. He caught whiff of it and after a couple of sniffs he just gave the biggest gummiest smile I've ever seen from him! He seems grateful! I think I'll just use it in small doses and take it off once he is asleep. His breathing seems much better since I've put it there.

Talking about muslins, I had 9 muslin cloths. I do his washing every 2/3 days and have always had enough cloths. Well since last week I've been washing all 9 almost every day. I've had to go out and I've bought 2 packs of 5. That shows me just how much his possetting/vomiting has increased.

Perhaps it will settle soon. Maybe it's rhe cold on top of new teats. Either way, stop it already!

catbag have you thought about bursaries in your area? sometimes trusts give out monies once a year to assist with peoples studied. often you have to have a local connection but it may be one avenue to go down? your uni may know of some.

just been super sensitive about something and gone overboard I think. aunt posted a "joke" on FB with a by line that was v offensive to Muslims. my DH and DC's are Muslim and I saw red and told her to keep her racist jokes to herself. she has now apologized as she didn't see the by line but she had put similar things in before that I have bitten my tongue about. she wad so apologetic that I feel awful now. the thing is that when I see or read something like that I just see my little boys faces and get upset that they will have to deal with that crap all their lives despite doing nothing wrong. it makes me sad and afraid for them . I have thought of quitting FB for this reason a couple of times before but it is great for sharing the boys pics with PILs abroad. I know this is trivial what witheverything you ladies are going through but it makes me sad. thrush in both breasts doesn't help either. sorry for vent

Am I mad considering going back to work full time when M is 4 months? Yes. But sod it, I don't know if there will be work for me in August so I'll apply. Probably won't get it.

YW fucker house sellers. As for freelance, I'm going to start doing 2/3 hours tutoring as of next week. I think it's doable. If it turns into a nighmare I'll stop and withdraw ft job application . You up for baby massage tomorrow if the littlies are in good form (ie Matilda returns from whatever grumpy planet she was on today!) ??

No suggestions other than eBay cat .

Detective I've had a fucker of a day with baby vom. No collapsing fridges mind!

brockle the fact you feel bad shows your character. Your aunt will feel bad for a while but she will think more carefully about what she posts from now on. You did the right thing for your family!

YW they may well come back to you. Surely a sale is worth a prove lower than you hoped. I have friends who sold at the very height of the crash if that makes sense? Accepted £100,000 less than the original valuation. Something is only worth what is being paid for it.

I am with you on the grateful look detective. P has learned to accept (if not necessarily enjoy) the snot sucker and really did seem pleased when I rubbed her checked with vix type stuff I bought. It is called Snuffle Babes. I have no idea why it is different to vix but you can't use vix until 6 months and this can be used at 3.

detective you could use that passpic website I linked to? Would save you a trip to max spielman
M is very sicky as well. Been soaked through to my knickers twice today

cat what about transcription work at your uni? Boring but should pay reasonably well. Or proof reading? Offer your services via the student union perhaps?

MM yep hissy fits aside we're on for massage - will pushchair him into a nap first to avoid his screaming about dabs!!!

Cat are you keeping an eye on jobs.ac.uk for funding opps? Have you thought about changing focus a bit and trying to find a firm to fund you through the LPC? Might also be worth asking about sessional teaching work at uni or advertising as a private tutor.

PR my scar is prickly also seems to be getting more sore, not less. Have stopped using slings for the moment but even low waisted jeans seem to make it worse.

YW hope things work out with the house.

Pikz, Evil and anyone else with unsettled LOs, hope they sleep well. H is not himself at the moment. Can?t decide if its teething, wind or hunger. Another one here who thought l?d have it sussed with 3rd and don?t have a clue at the moment!

before I read the rest of the posts and forget welldone baby Sophia were there any signs it might happen.
sorry to hear that Glenda I was so morose yesterday I feel so much better today think it may be baby hormone ... cross the bridge? where do you hail? you getting uni loan too?
the thought that all babies are like snowflakes is very sweet but also puts me off number 2 I thought I would be an old hand next time and really know what I'm doing... but provably not and then not only do you get to grips with a newborn and how they work but have a toddler on your hands too! ... I don't know how you others with 2&3 cope! I had wanted 3 and dh 2 thinking now I could be more content with 2!

cat when I was at uni my laptop imploded one day and as I was feeling cheecky I applied for emergency hardship fund to replace it. Didn't think I would get it in a million years, but a check for a grand turned up
As someone else has said, the universities have a pot of cash they have to spend, in order to receive the same amount the following year. It's well worth applying to as you never know (plus it's about time you had some good luck).

detective your day sucks There have been a few occasions when I've considered covering myself in a bath towel, but thankfully they are few and far between. Daily vom must be rubbish.

Brockle I get myself all worked up over less than that on fb sometimes, and not even on behalf of my family. People can put some really insensitive stuff up sometimes (or maybe it's hormones making me more sensitive )

Just had a bath - way too hot and accidentally fell asleep so feel a bit weird. Didn't get round to shaving my legs so still hairy as a bear. Gross.

I saw the snuffle baby stuff! I guess it's probably got less than whatever the active ingredients are in Vicks. Not as strong basically.

I so love Karvol though. I'm excited to go to bed just to smell it!

Fatima I keep looking at that site, and getting my head in a pickle. I don't have anything light to use as a background! Have just arranged lunch with SIL in town tomorrow so I'll have to go! Plus I need to get the form from the PO seen as I have no fucking internet. Oh. Yeah. I can't use the website at the minute as ive no Internet! How could I forget! I need to get them tomorrow so I can get them to school and get them countersigned. Need to get application off by the weekend.

Sophia well done O! Clever boy! No signs of rolling here. Unlesshou count rolling in his own vomit . I love it when they get to the active stage! Not too active though!!