November 2012 - More group hugs and moral support please

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1676013-November-2012-We-want-rattles-and-we-want-them-now

Good luck for tomorrow pidjin Sounds like you've got it all covered so you'll be fine. And to you horsey - hope your meeting goes well. Shame it takes your absence to be truly appreciated, but at least they know now!

MM i'd apply and worry about the details later. Especially as you can test out working part time in the meantime. Good luck.

evil hope N sleeps well, despite his drop in milk.

detective I've cracked open the karvol too. N is 12 weeks tomorrow. A few days can't hurt, right?!

YW give it a couple of days and I reckon the house people will be back in touch.

I've struggled to keep up today everyday so hugs to everyone who needs them and apologies to anyone I've missed.

Just been to official work do for a retiring Board member, thought it was good to show my face. They are not the most friendly bunch. I became pg just after being promoted and I'm not sure if some of them were pissed off about that. But as I thought I was never going to get pg I put myself forward. Of course the next month it happened. Can't exactly explain that though!

Meeting my boss in a few days as she is also on mat leave & we are going to work out a job share proposal. Really hope it is accepted as I only want to go back 3 days a week, as does she.

I'm not going to get valentines bfp unless I'm having the next messiah no sex since dd though it doesn't seem that long for us (before the doing it every other day TTC). I also haven't shaved my legs since either! so definitely hairy as a bear! out on the town next sat and dd with dm so will have to start hacking away soon!!
detective what a horrendous day! ... how do you always manage to see the funny side of things your an inspiration and a force of nature!!

Like they say zcos if you don't laugh, you'll cry!

Besides, I've had far far far worse days in my time. A few spring to mind. :( I definitely cried those days!

I'm at those who feel ready for work! If you are up for it, why not! No one says how long you should or shouldn't stay off for! Needs must... Oscar will be 5 mths 5 days. I'm still very :( at the thought. I don't know why. I felt fine about it with DS1.

I've just about managed to get a valentines card for DP. That's all we are doing this year. Might try and get Oscar in bed early and have a nice meal.

The days are just flying by. Where is time going? What was I doing before with my time?!

Sloopooooooow down!

Sorry, I just realised I did not say happy anniversary Mrs and Mr Penis. I mean Crisps .

Is anyone using lenor fabric softener? It has a warning on the side about not using it on children's bedclothes. Something to do with it reduces the flame retardant stuff in them. I was when I saw this. Is it common knowledge? I did not know it.

detective had no idea!! Didn't know bed clothes were that flame retardant either though... Think we use comfort sensitive.

Trying a dream feed now, as DS did 7hrs last night, so hoping for the same tonight. But then, best laid plans & so on.

detective I've resorted to the olbas oil for DS recently. Only 1 drop on a hanky well above his head, then dug out the karvol, but I can't see a little bit would hurt. Afterall the vast quantity DH splashes on to his pillow but reach DS as he's still in with us.

Sympathy on the house front YW it is fraught with difficulties, not least the stupidity & greed of some!!

Not sure the dream feed worked. He fed quickly but briefly, & is now squirming around in his cot, grunting.

Anyway, fc. Wishing everyone a good night...

4 hours (does a little dance)

With subsequent babies some things are a lot easier - you know they will not break if you put a vest over their head, and your nappy changes would rival the F1 team. You are not so worried about various illnesses and ailments, and if you have breastfed you are more confident having already done it once.

The hardest thing I found going from 1 to 2 was the emotional stuff - how could I possibly love another child as much, keeping no.1 happy etc. Not so hard going 2-3 as you know you will love the new baby, and you know the other two will cope.

As more come along things get more tricky logistically and you cannot nap the same, but the joy of seeing the siblings interact is (mostly) wonderful. If I were younger, could afford it, and was better at pregnancy and birth, I would have more.

Managing illness becomes harder as each one wants your undivided attention, and juggling the vomit can prove tricky.

Do not be put off having more, kids are the best thing ever.

Fucking 1230? Are you taking the piss? :(

Last 2 nights he has woke 30 mins after we've fallen asleep.

And he's having an insane tantrum like I've never seem him do.

Yeah. What ^^ she said.

Except now. Now I'm all grrrrr. Bad mummy. But I can't help it. Frustration because he isn't even hungry. He just wants an ounce. And the teat in his mouth for 30 mins. Dummy is spat out.

I wish we could have 2 kids a decade. Have 2 closish together, then a good 10 year gap, then start again. And keep doing it over and over. I'd have 6 kids if I could do the above. I possibly could actually. Well, 5 anyway. Didn't have one close to DS1!

Why is everyone talking about having other kids and broodiness? Is it because of the anniversary?

I'm not feeling broody, in fact I don't think I ever have, as much as I love my DDs. definitely. No. More.

So, what am I doing up at 3 am? Well DD1 woke up thirsty and with an awful temperature, she's breathing really fast, but that's normal with a temp. So have calpoled her up but in all the activity LO has woken up, demanded a feed, and now thinks it is time to laugh. I guess this is the 4 mo sleep regression. W've been up for an hour already, and I can hear DD1 talking to DH so looks like the whole family is having a shite night.

I'm not going to complain about sleep deprivation else I'll get booed off the boards, but they'd better not make a habit of this.

detective I think we're having the same night you're having :( N slept at 12, for just under an hour; then slept from 2 til 2.40 and is now up again. Doesn't need to feed, just wants chew on me for a bit.

Ffs. Dream feed did NOT work. 3.5hrs. Awake earlier than w/out the dream feed yesterday. Why? Why??!!

VQ has it spot on. The emotional stuff was the shock this time around. I knew I'd love LO but didn't realise how I'd miss the old dynamic with DD. I wasn't broody with DD (it was DH that instigated having a baby) but I was desperate to have DS - I put off TTC as long as I could after having my appendix out (just under 3mths) but then was determined

PR think its because mm (I think) asked about another Valentines baby for people, & I, for example, responded with hell no, but I'm actually broody...

And all that for a max of 10mins feed??!!! Grrr.

Love him really my little squishy squidgy bum. But maybe not quite as much at 3.40am...

Hey all
Hope all is well, I'm many pages behind. Thanks for the info Det so it is because he's early. I didn't know that.
On the pancakes debate, sugar and lemon or Nutella and banana and ice cream. Mmmmm.
LO seems to be on the other side of his cold, thank goodness. It looks like steamy bathrooms and this Vicks like stuff have worked.

I give up. I don't know what N wants every hour but clearly she's not getting it from me. I was just starting to feel vaguely human again and now we're back to this shit again

detective I think O is doing pretty well considering he is fighting a cold. A cold is a big thing to one so small.

J slept a further 3 hours after taking an hour to feed and settle. Not bad my son! Mummy is very proud of your progress.

pr sorry DD1 is ill again. Poor little scrap and poor you.

Well done J that's great news VQ!

Kirrin it could be the 4 month sleep regression if so it could be over as quickly as it started. We had a week of disturbance out of the blue and now we're back to one waking again - please may it continue..... Its so frustrating when they change their patterns and don't send you a memo!

Right about to transfer back to the bed nest...

Yes YW it is! We play guess the sleep pattern before we go to bed. Since it's usually one good one bad, tonight was supposed to be good. I think someone forgot...!

I know VQ it's just frustrating as he seems fairly well now, the snot has dried up, coughing down to minimal. Was hopeful he was on the mend!

Still not settled after an hour. If he is better already detective you are extremely lucky. It is snot keeping boy awake tonight. Fucking hate snot.

Hope so YW Though it's a bit early. A memo would have been lovely - why don't they do that?!

pr think the having another baby thing was me when we were talking about babies being different and individual ... someone said very poetically like snowflakes.
I just said it worried me as I thought it worried me as I thought I would know what I was doing next time around and you can predict what baby you will get.