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November 2012 - Vent, chat or brag

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StuntNun · 29/01/2013 12:21

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1668060-November-2012-Dont-forget-the-tummy-time

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ValiumQueen · 02/02/2013 06:34

chunky sorry to hear DD is poorly. They are quite amazing when ill as they look sooo ill, then are up and about with the first bit of energy, then they flop. My DD has been ill for 8 days now.

kirrinIsland · 02/02/2013 07:09

So N finally went down at 2.45. And woke up at 4.45. And we've been up ever since. She'll sleep on me, but wakes as soon as I move her. Is this the growth spurt? How long does it last? I'm already on my knees.

PetiteRaleuse · 02/02/2013 07:16

Good morning. Was able to sleep in til 8! Yay! Sorry to hear about all these colds :(

zcos · 02/02/2013 07:19

Dixiebell my dh tidies up always asks if I need something when bf but I think that all partners will aggravate from time to time they are not us or psychic that 'we are one" romantic notion is bs communication is the key!

PetiteRaleuse · 02/02/2013 07:44

zcos looking forward to the rugby?

Sophiathesnowfairy · 02/02/2013 07:59

vq if not one is the other! Poor old you, and you seem to keep chugging away with a smile on your face. (Except for the grumpy day you had this week). It won't be forever, lovely, they will all grow up and move out one day.

I had a day completely off iPad yesterday. I thought we were all on them too much inc DS1. So I have declared Monday and Friday's iPad free days. So we did baking and craft and a long long walk. It was lovely.

I have ordered some size 3 teats from amazon as the supermarkets don't seem to have the Avent nauturalteats and I'm not making a special trip to town to get some. O has begun to increase his milk consumption and seems much happier so maybe, just maybe we are through the 12 week growth spurt.

pr at your lie in! I thought we were doing well will 7:10, but 8:00 is MAGNIFICENT!

pass I was thinking about the woman telling her child to look at the bottle, it may have been the other way, she may be struggling to get her own DC to take a bottle and having no joy and be extremely

Just to cheer you up a conversation with DD1 after school on Thurs:

DD1 " I had to look after an Aztec at school today"
Me "Really?"
DD1 " yes, it didn't know how to use the taps"
Me " are you sure?"
DD1 " At one point it even tried to sacrifice somebody"
Me "hysterical laughter" good job there was no cup of tea on go as I would have feared for the floor.

PurplePidjin · 02/02/2013 08:13

I'm just heartily sick of my life being about everyone else. Right ddown to expressing and sorting the dishwasher at 3am. Gave up on the crib at 4:30 and had him on me, shuffled over to the middle of the bed so if R fell he'd be hemmed in by duvet and soft mattress but ended up lying on sleeping dp's elbow. Except he wasn't afuckingsleep he just thought i was comfortable like that. Really then he goes down for his meds at 6 going on about how tired he is (normally this is fine because he genuinely is, today it definitely sounded competitive) and came back up without the usual coffee he makes me, not even cereal - bearing in mind he's brought me coffee and cereal every day. I ask about the coffee and get an Oh Yeah as he settles back into bed

When does it get to be my turn to be fussed over as a new mum? R gets a fuss for being a baby. Dp gets a fuss for being ill. I get all the donkey work, then either ignored or stampeded in the rush to get to them

PetiteRaleuse · 02/02/2013 08:43

Pidj my DH felt the same as you when DD1 was born. Two weeks later I was extremely ill, spent a couple of weeks in hospital and then it was a good six weeks before I was able to carry and look after DD1 on my own. My mum and MIL took it in turns to spend fortnights with us but DH went to work, came home and was handed the baby and did the night shifts, and he was on his knees. Everyone was fussing over me and DD1 and I am sure that sometimes he resented it, in fact once had a what about me tantrum. Which no-one could blame him for at all - he'd been frightened he was going to lose me and was just plain exhausted and no-one was worrying about him at all.

It might be worth you saying what you said here out loud. It's OK to want a break and to want your needs to be put first sometimes, especially after everything you have been through. It's all too easy to forget the healthy people.

Elizadoesdolittle · 02/02/2013 08:51

sophia and pass. I thought the same about the bottle. I've done exactly the same thing myself, to a friend though, not a stranger. I show E babies having bottles and say look at them, they are having a bottle. Why can't you do the bloody same (or something along those lines )

Well DH is excited about the start of the six nations. Although not as excited as he will be about the lions. That's his ultimate favourite. He went to Oz for the tour and we both went to the NZ one so it's only SA to go. Those were the days! Anyway I digress. Will either go up the club to watch it or have people round.

And the sun is shining think i will take DD1 to the park on her bike this morning. Have a good day everyone.

PurplePidjin · 02/02/2013 08:52

I cried and have retreated back to bed with velcro baby. He will only accept me. I can't rest while they're downstsirs because i can hear how hysterical he is. Which raises dp's bp and gives him a migraine. So i have yo just cope. And yes, I'm on my knees.

Dp has a long way to go, so it has to be all about him still.

ChunkyChicken · 02/02/2013 08:55

VQ thank you & sorry you are still suffering. Thankfully DH stepped up last night as in my tiredness, I'd slept through any calling out etc & didn't even stir until she was in bed with us. DH gave her meds too. I said thank you to him for that to encourage him, but I never get a thank you from him for getting up with either dc Glad J is doing better too.

Pidjin poor you!! I think everyone feels a bit like that when life after birth settles down into a routine, but your circs are somewhat unique. Do you have any friends or family nearby? Can you go out & vent at someone? Rage at the unfairness of it all for a while & get a bit of sympathy? Obviously you can unload on here as much as you like but sometimes its better to do it in RL. But if it helps, here's some virtual & a for you!!

PetiteRaleuse · 02/02/2013 08:56

Of course it does. I hope you manage to get some rest today.

MissMummy1 · 02/02/2013 09:06

Maxicosi Cabriofix users:

When did you take newborn support out (if you have) ?? M is getting too big for it, but looks tiny without it, so I've put her sheepskin liner in instead which seems to bulk it out slightly. Just curious as to what others have done. She really is too big to have it in I think as I've moved it up as far as it will go and her head is still on top of the headhugger bit. If that makes sense!

BigPigLittlePig · 02/02/2013 09:11

Poor pidg

Woke up this morning and opened eyes to find a teddy right in my face, being proffered by dsd. Nearly had cardiac arrest but recovered composure before I said something swore. It was also 8 though so shouldn't grumble.

Not a bad night in the pig household, LO in her crib and only woke at 2 and 4. Now she's found her fists she tries noisily to self settle, the only problem is sometimes she gets carried away and makes herself gag . Lovely sunny day here today so we're going to venture out.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 02/02/2013 09:16

mm I took the newborn support out at about 6 weeks or so. I thought it looked like it was squashing him down. Next job is to adjust the straps.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 02/02/2013 09:17

We'll fuss over you pidg you are amazing I don't know how I would cope.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 02/02/2013 09:18

Think am going to actually hang out some washing today

capedcrusader25 · 02/02/2013 09:20

mm I took it out when O was about 9-10 weeks. But she's quite small and was only 10lb or so at that point.

PurplePidjin · 02/02/2013 09:38

Thank you

I've finally got through to my mother sent her on a massive guilt trip by being mature and dignified and only slightly tearful that perhaps she could perhaps spend a little more time with her only grandchild and a little less time shopping and having coffee with her friends. She came over yesterday so i could have a bath and is coming later so we can get the house clean. She's retired and lives 3 miles away.

Homestart will hopefully be calling me on Monday, hopefully they can help too. Always thought it'd be the other way round tbh, but hey ho.

Ds came out of his nb insert at 6 weeks and up a strap setting at 8. Should have been earlier but i didn't realise what was wrong that's in a Chicco, though cheap n cheerful

Chicken same here, i automatically say thank you when he does stuff that actually benefits him as much, if not more, than me. Won't stop doing it because i think it's important to appreciate each other, I'd just like it reciprocated every so often!

PetiteRaleuse · 02/02/2013 09:48

That's great. Having a clean and tidy house will do wonders for your morale. Are you able to get out for walks, even with LO?

ValiumQueen · 02/02/2013 09:51

MM I would personally not use a sheepskin in a car seat. It is not recommended to put them in with a coat even because in a crash, these things become compressed thus giving room for movement, potentially hurting them or causing them coming out of the restraint. I would think by now M has sufficient neck control, and the seats are pretty comfy.

PP the only time I have ever been fussed over was when pg with the first. As soon as I popped it was all about the baby and I felt neglected. Subsequent pgs and births, even sections do not seem to qualify for any extra care either. It sounds as if your DH can do a fair amount, which considering what happened to him is really good. Try to think of the things he can do to help and get him to do them. Tell him you are on your knees. Remember you have both had a terrible shock at what should be the best time of your lives. Do you have to express? He could unload the dishwasher, and get onto the GP for some help. Hugs x

PurplePidjin · 02/02/2013 09:57

Dp's physio yesterday suggested a tidy, calm sleep space to help with his insomnia. I laughed in her face when am i meant to do that? Ditto the hv last week telling me to cook extra and freeze some. Ffs. R was 11 days early when I'd expected to go over - first baby - so we're still mostly in a state of disorganisation.

I get out every day pretty much, would be climbing the walls otherwise! Even if only down for a pint of milk or a blast round the park.

ValiumQueen · 02/02/2013 10:00

PP good news about home start and your mum!

PurplePidjin · 02/02/2013 10:12

It's just that there's so much fussing going on, vq, and not even a little nod in my direction iyswim. Dp gets a constant stream if texts and emails to see how he is. I'm assumed to be happy as Larry skipping about in a field of pwetty flowers...

glendathegoodwitch · 02/02/2013 10:19

Morning

pidj awwww honey - don't suffer in silence - speak out to dp, dm and anyone else who can help you - for tha sake of your sanity!!!

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