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StuntNun · 29/01/2013 12:21

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ValiumQueen · 02/02/2013 10:24

Your husband nearly died. You have 'just' had a baby. That is what people will be thinking. It amazes me that women especially are not more caring towards new mums. Have they forgotten what it was like, as they could not all have had angel babies who slept through at two weeks old. Do you give the impression that everything is fine and dandy? You did well to tell your mum straight, and hopefully the home start thing will help.

PurplePidjin · 02/02/2013 10:45

I'm pretty tough, not in a prison officer, leather boots and spiky hair way Wink more in a persistent stubborn bloody-minded way. So yeah, probably appearing to breeze through things. I use distraction to cope, too, so will happily meet a friend for coffee so they can talk things through without mentioning how I'm feeling beyond the superficial.

I think the nb days are such a blur that people forget and the memory kicks in around 4-6 months when life calms down. Bit like labour - it was horrible at the time, but already a distant memory (i was lucky, long but fairly straightforward with just a little help from some pethidine and syntocin towards the end. Obviously someone with a difficult birth will feel differently). Having A Baby encompasses children up to about 18 months, so these first 3 are a tiny fraction. Ask a mum of a 5yo if they were a good baby and they'll probably say yes, thinking of the 6m+ bit. Am i right or insultingly naive in which case i apologise?

blonderthanred · 02/02/2013 11:29

VQ I think the baby clothes thing would be a great business. If I were crafty I'd do it myself! But would love to have some of our favourite baby clothes made into a quilt or picture etc.

GT do you keep your baby in a cupboard?!

ValiumQueen · 02/02/2013 12:07

PP I think you are right. You are very tough too - you have shown that, but after months of sleep depravation and stress you will be worn down. Thankfully R was a fairly good sleeper at the beginning IIRC. Do take time today to have a chat with your DH. He sounds like a decent sort, and hopefully between the two of you a plan can be formulated to help you up off your knees.

blonder thank you for the positive feedback about the baby clothes thing. I would never stop working as a nurse, that would be a bit silly, but it could be a nice little sideline. I also was wondering if GT keeps her baby in the cupboard.

J is still brewing a slight temp, and I have never seen so much snot come out of something so small. He is smiling through it all which is encouraging.

ValiumQueen · 02/02/2013 12:08

PP any news on the job?

kirrinIsland · 02/02/2013 12:09

pidj do you have a close friend or two you can talk to? The problem with pretending everything is fine is that everyone thinks everything is fine! Even if someone did a couple of little jobs for you it could make all the difference to you without causing them any inconvenience for them at all - an extra couple of portions of something they're cooking anyway for example.

Also, what VQ said ^^ You would think anyone who has ever had a small baby would be rallying round you right now, because they'd remember how hard it was without all the additional problems you have to deal with. I think you are right about people forgetting how hard it is - like with child birth, if you remember these things properly most of use would only have one child!!

On that note, I apologise for my whinging over night - I have nothing to complain about Thanks

VQ I'm sure I saw a website ages ago where you could have baby grows turned into a soft toy and remember thinking what a lovely idea it was. I would definitely love to have something like that. That could be a great business for you.

PurplePidjin · 02/02/2013 12:43

He's coming up 11 weeks, so i reckon we're neatly through the worst. He's been very unsettled the last couple of days and we're into about the 5th hour of cluster feeding today so i think we're on a growth spurt. Dunno how that works with Wonder Weeks, he seems to do things when he feels like it rather than when he's supposed to!

The official closing date is tomorrow. I can't apply because I'm not qualified, however the head was impressed with me and hadn't had any enquiries from anyone particularly fabulous (i am of course spectacular Wink) so he's going to get me in to teach the same lesson as the qualified candidates. If i do better than them, he'll reject them and readvertise for, basically, me.

I've really learned who my friends are, tbh. I'm not the most sociable of beings but have people i trust, then a wide circle of acquaintances. One person who insists she's my great friend hasn't even come to meet R yet, the other has been amazing but has a toddler to look after. I'm meeting people at groups, too, and being fairly honest (not too much i don't want to be boring!) and have got a few other mums to meet for coffee etc now.

kirrin just because I've got problems doesn't mean yours are less valid Thanks

VQ go for it with the baby clothes, you're a braver woman than me taking on all that stretch jersey I'm doing quite well with the hats, sold 5 and 3 in the order book :)

ChunkyChicken · 02/02/2013 12:58

Biscuit Book club I've been told about is only once a month. Can still do it obviously but at the same place, they do something called 'Bitch & Stitch'. I'm not really very crafty but do you think it would be worth a try??!!

TheDetective · 02/02/2013 12:59

I have nothing to say. Shock

You've all said what I wanted to say.

Sending slightly sweaty hugs to you pidj. I think you are wonder woman. Even if you don't feel like it.

GTbaby · 02/02/2013 13:04

No LO does sleep in my cupboard. He sleeps in the bottom draw. Wink His stuff is in my cupboard Smile

ValiumQueen · 02/02/2013 13:10

Stretch jersey is a joy. I love my overlocker.

PurplePidjin · 02/02/2013 13:18

Chicken join the hookers i can coach you from here and you can make some Woolly Hug squares :o

My mum just spent 3 hours cleaning and tidying my kitchen

Sophiathesnowfairy · 02/02/2013 13:21

Have just been to a craft fair and seen the most gorgeous cushions and scarves and wraps with the most beautiful colours the patterns were deconstructed fair isle Confused sounds weird but it made sense when you saw them. Aya they were gorgeously gorgeous and I just wanted to share that.

We went to have the boys prints done at the smallpring stand for some cuff links for DH and thus I caouldn't spend any more money. Sad

TheDetective · 02/02/2013 13:22

DP just rang me to ask what his own child's DOB was. Hmm

Well, don't know about you dear, but that date will be etched on my mind forever.

Hmm 'Was it the 20th?'. No. It was not. Grrrrr.

TheDetective · 02/02/2013 14:40

Oi! where is everyone! Not off having a life I hope! Grin

Bored. Baby has just had a full hour of entertainment. Now he is pooped and is self settling in the swing!

Am off to scour eBay for stuff.

ValiumQueen · 02/02/2013 15:29

No such luck Detective I am here. DD2 has a sodding rash now! Pretty sure it is post viral urticaria but she was just breaking out in front of me and I called NHS24 Still waiting to be called back mind. They are going now, but in my fragile state scared the crap out of me.

Grumpy day again sophia I had the fingerprints done for Daddy when I thought my family was complete. I will need to get another one done. I also have charms for my bracelet although I have yet to get them welded on. Never wear it anyway.

I have seen an awesome job that I could apply for. Around £60K and would mean moving to England. I think I will apply, and worry about it if I get it. More than doubling my wage overnight would be nice.

PetiteRaleuse · 02/02/2013 15:33

Just back from a fraut afternoon at the park. Seems like all my lot including DH are in awful moods and I am currently debating buggering off and leaving them to it for a few days.

PetiteRaleuse · 02/02/2013 15:33

*fraught

Catbag · 02/02/2013 15:36

I'm here. Thought I was about to sell my old car on ebay (4th farking time it's been listed), but with six minutes to go before the end of the auction the bidder sent me a message asking to retract his bid. Apparently he had justchecked how much it was going to cost to tax and insure and it was too much. WHO DOESN'T CHECK THAT FIRST, BEFORE FARKING BIDDING?! Idiot. It's a 1.6 petrol Escort, ffs. What is most annoying is that it is a really nice car. I have looked after it and it is lovely to drive. Got a year's MOT too. I'd still be driving it if I hadn't had to get Grand Voyager to put the 15,000 children in. Meh.

Rant over Grin

TheDetective · 02/02/2013 15:37

Poor VQ :(

You know you are due some luck. I think the job is your luck!

I am currently reading various child development websites. I am finding it quite amusing! Oscar is very behind with some things, and astronomically advanced with others. Bahahaha!

I think I'll just stop reading and carry on my own sweet way! He is a sociable creature who is at his happiest naked in a warm room!... wish he would laugh though. I love baby laughing! He did a funny laugh/squeal at DP a couple of weeks back. Nothing since. Mummy is clearly not funny.

Damn it!

TheDetective · 02/02/2013 15:40

Hmmm. I have just guessed at using my microwave to defrost something. This could all go wrong.

I have never defrosted anything in a microwave. Ever!

Catbag · 02/02/2013 15:42

vq That's worrying- my dcs have had the post viral urticaria, but have usually got up with it in the morning. I would be concerned too if it was happening before my very eyes. Hope she's ok.

Job sounds good too. Definitely be applying for that one.

pr If I could get away with it, I'd do the same Grin

PetiteRaleuse · 02/02/2013 15:48

DH is giving up smoking and finding it very stressful. Turns into a real git when he gives up smoking until I end up sending him to buy fags just so he'll stop being a stroppy git and then we start again a few months later.

VQ go for that job!

kirrinIsland · 02/02/2013 16:01

money job sounds good VQ and England's not that bad! I'd definitely apply and worry about the details later.

N had a rash appear on her face in front of my very eyes a few weeks ago. I took her to the doctors but they weren't worried and just gave me some gloopy moisturizer to put on it. Glad I checked though. I think I'm definitely on their "paranoid mother" list even though I was right about the breathing and she was admitted after my sixth visit

catbag that's frustrating :( Selling on eBay can be stressful.

Do it PR Grin spa hotels used to have no appeal to me whatsoever - now I dream of disappearing off to one for a few days, just me and a good book :)

BigPigLittlePig · 02/02/2013 16:02

Oh pr you have my sympathies, dh gave up smoking when I was pregnant, he was a miserable shit but has done v well if we ignore the minor lapses the past few weeks

I saw the link for that lady on fb who makes old baby clothes into soft toys, they were beautiful. I'm so envious of anyone who is capable of making things like that. I have the ideas but a definite lack of ability.

We had a lovely few hours in town today, and not too many screams (from lo) or tantrums (dsd or dh). Have any of you who are bf'ing managed to feed in public successfully? I ended up retreating to the toilet Blush. It probably doesn't help that at home I literally let it all hang out so have no practice at being discreet.