November 2012 - By 'eck we can talk

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I am happily chopping up a sports bra to make a nursing bra. Cannot find my hooks and eyes. Grr!

Sadly I remember vividly the day I started my 'period' a year ago - 13/02/12 and about a week after I had a positive pg test :( However, I cannot wish to change a thing, because 1 month later another positive test resulted in my beautiful little man.

glenda I too have a pathologically untidy husband. He literally journeys around the house creating little 'leavings' from the moment he gets in. Keys here, wallet there, coat somewhere else entirely. This is all despite me being quite an organised person and having coat pegs, a key tray, a bookcase in the all for post, wallets etc. I like a place for everything and everything in its place. However, my DH is also a hoarder so the places available get fewer and fewer. Sometimes I take charge and deal with it, sometimes I just relocate the crap, sometimes I just try to ignore. However, not having people over is a shame. True friends won't judge...

I've started on a 'routine' for HW. I do certain jobs during nap time and certain jobs in the evening (nothing really in the morning, other than getting kids up, dressed, fed and out the house). I feel that I can slowly get on top of things w/out spending my whole day cleaning.

Thanks for the advice - will look on fly website but as I sit here looking at all the stuff that needs doing it just seems too much!!!

I know leaving is drastic but im having the same discussion with him as I did 8 years ago and still no change - I left 3 years ago - partly because if this as well as other issues and although the house I moved into was bigger/nicer it had its own problems like constant blocked drains - but at least I could have some girls from work over for lunch and I felt more house proud!

I moved from Norwich and all of my close friends to be with dh and feel like I have compromised sooo much - I have no close friends here just colleagues and college buddies who I beg to meet up for lunch - I'm so frickin lonely - and am hoping uni will help me to meet people and be someone other than wife/mother.

I think dh needs a sahm and I'm not

VQ I turned my maternity bra into an expressing bra last week. I will not be posting the picture on fb.

vq you are amazing!

glenda where are you? Try the fly thing for a week and you will probably feel like you are making inroads somewhere. Xxx

Did I mention I have a hot date tonight?

Do no one have any green eyed DC then

That's the beauty of the Flylady system Glenda, it doesn't matter what state your house is in, you just do what it says in the daily e-mail and that's all. It made a huge difference to my complete tip house and I really noticed the first time someone came to the door and I was happy to invite them in.

Garden, my two oldest have brown eyes. J's are still grey. But eye colour is very complex genetically so green eyes occur unpredictably.

Sophia you are very lucky. Anywhere nice?? I said to dh that we should go out for valentines and he said wanted to bring ds2, that's not really a date in my eyes.

Donna mine was feb 14 and our dc's share a birthday don't they??

Yes Chick they do...what time was your ds born? dd was 5am

Garden, R is half Jamaican and has blue eyes. Dp and i both have green eyes. Lord knows what they'll turn out to be, he's only 2 months!

Garden I hopeforgreen eyes as I have them! LO has grey green currently.

Try a South African DP who had a full time maid and gardener and house boy til he emigrated 5 years ago. Not only does he not do he doesn't know how to!!! To be fairs pays for a cleaner every week as he won't do any of it. He can now work the dishwasher but not the washing machine without a lot of prompting and written instructions.

Garden I have green eyes and was hoping DS would too but currently he has the darkest brown eyes, he gets lots of comments on them. DH has light brown eyes so it will be interesting to see how L's turn out.

(It won't be interesting to anyone but me, obvs)

sophia you have not seen it yet!

blonder go on! Please! You do not need to be wearing it...

DH is fitting the washer. Lots of banging and yowling and swearing. I am staying well away and advised the kids to do the same.

I fitted my washing machine... tell him, if I can, anyone can then run, fast!.

Baby massage was nice. He enjoyed it! Smiles and coos all the way through. Will ignore the fact that DP's phone went off and he ran off mid way though his half of doing the massage and made the door slam. I'm not going with DP again though.

Now I am going to swimming on my own on friday - so, how does that work then?! Can you take the pushchair/car seat in with you I wonder? Otherwise, where the hell do I put the baby to get myself dried and dressed, and get stuff from the locker. Am I thinking about this too deeply?!

Glad I am not the only one getting irritated getting around with a pushchair. I thought I was just being a grumpy cow!

In other news, my bits appear to be in a better state than usual. And I managed to get my pee to a dribble even if I couldn't stop it completely, it's better than what I could do! And the 2 wee's I have done today did not hurt at the end. OMG! Could I be recovering?! PLEEEEEEASE!!! Don't be a fluke!

Re: eye colour, I have green eyes, ex had brown eyes, DS1 got hazel eyes . DP has blue eyes, I think Oscar is going to have blue eyes, they are quite a bright blue now, not as blue as DP's yet though. Time will tell...!

Just joined FLYlady and am off to shine my sink

Oh detective, I have been putting off taking Sinéad swimming for exactly those reasons! I wouldn't have a clue where to start!

I've been thinking about the November 13 mums who will be getting their BFP's soon!! To think that was us this time last year....

We started TTC on christmas eve, and each month I got BFP's 3 days before my period was due, then the next day I got my period. Then the 3rd month, we got lucky! Same thing again, but no period the next day, so with baited breath, I did a clear blue digital... and, well, he's currently snoozing in front of me .

This time next month, there will be a Nov 13 thread! .

If I can take the car seat in, I think I would be fine... but is there anywhere safe to store it?! I should really give them a call and find out what the facilities are. Or I could turn up and if its a pain in the ass, give it a miss?!

Just joined FLYlady (and am waiting for Jonas to stop napping on me so I can shine my sink - ahem )

How come dd's name come up funny then? Am I being thick lol

Donna he was born at 7.55am. The time has just flown.

I want to be a flylady too! You get to do your hair and everything although seems little point given ability of baby to spread bodily fluids

Bit sad I can't actually shine my sink though as it's a strange black, granite effect affair...could just do the tap??

Thanks petite and horsey. I will stop worrying and let him do what he wants!

I was thinking today, this time last year I wasn't even trying for a baby! Started trying first week in Feb and conceived on 6th Feb. Got my positive pregnancy test on pancake day

Saw some work friends today and they were asking me when I'm planning my next baby! I said I can't imagine ever doing this again. I loved being pregnant and I loved giving birth but looking after a baby with colic, reflux and a very bad temper is just so hard.