December 2012 - the sleep and poo thread (too much of one, not enough of the other)

[PurplePidjin]

Willyou I'm fine. Dh had a sore neck but I think that is cos he was twisting to look around the roundabout when we were hit.

I'm seeing the hv every 5 days or so for weighing but that's just to track his weight nothing more. I think they do come a bit more often first time.

We had HV visit on monday and she's not coming back until the end of Feb . Agree with you WL about HVs, they seem to spout randomness

I think if what they say makes sense to you, go with it, but if not, disregard it. As mama says, there's so much conflicting advice, you could tie yourself in knots so best to follow the bits you like.

I saw the hv on day 10 and then they show up at about the 12 month mark unless there are concerns. I've seen her when i get him weighed but that's not compulsory - once a month is the recommended according to the red book. I'd have thought they'd have been in touch by now, i asked for support 10 days ago at clinic and haven't heard a dicky bird. Will chase with gp on Wednesday when i get the implant put in.

There's a three or four month review round here where the HV comes to see you. So if I didn't get ds weighed that would be the second visit.

Wow Pidg, that just shows HV's are just following a script, can't give you support/advice beyond their set training.

Since F was born I haven't been sble to get him to bed before 11pm, but tonight I put a routine into place and had him asleep at 8pm! I'm so pleased, DH and I had our first evening together since he was born, and I'm in bed now having an early night. Sadly our meal had to be cancelled due to the snow, but still got us time!

....routine eggs?!....

Well done eggs what routine are you doing? We still just put D down when we go to be as he screams of we try earlier. Going to start trying to get him down earlier next week.

All i asked for was homestart and anything else she could think of. She said she'd give me a ring

We come to bed as a family around 8, R feeds then drops off around 9:30, wakes about 2:30 and 5 for an hour each time. Daytime isn't so structured as he only likes to nap in the sling while i walk, whereas i like to crochet and drink coffee... Still, means i get some exercise and dinner prepped! Bedroom tends to be off limits during the day so dp can rest.

Mama it probably was because C was asleep. H has been awake every time so she has been checked every time. I agree though that if you agree with what they say follow it, if you don't then disregard it. I'm quite lucky i like my HV but when she comes i'm worried about saying the wrong thing or having the house to warm. (After the lecture about the heating).

Heidi also had lumps below her nipples (i hadn't even noticed till the HV pointed them out) she explained that they were hormonal and due to the fact i was BF. They lumps have disappeared now.

Oh well no bath for me n Heidi together today, just couldn't seem to find a ideal time. Will try again tomorrow. My mum is staying again tonight, she having H in her room for the last bottle and will being her in when she wakes for her next feed so me and DP can have abit of a sleep. Cannot wait to cuddle up. Hope you all have better nights tonight.

Just marking my place and saying hello!
I've only been on once since birth on 4/12. Our hospital stay, followed by Christmas, then getting used to life with a 2 year old and newborn and then stinking colds this week for all of us =putting off posting/not getting the opportunity to post.
BUT I will start again some evenings and would still like to share my birth story- seems so long ago now!!
I'll need to start by reading the thread so I'm not posting yet!!

I did a routine too to tonight and C was asleep by 7! Sadly, awake since then every hour or hour and a half. Baffling and exhausting. On top of this, my husband has had a hellish work week and his mother (who we just dispatched back to Aus) has been on his back about irrelevant bureaucratic nonsense, to the point that he lost his temper and shouted at her over the phone tonight. This is a man who I have heard shout all of 5 times in 7 years. So none of us having a particularly happy time at the moment. I just came to bed and true to form, C squalling again. I think she's asleep though, and these are tummy/pooing pains as I can hear some intermittent farts.

I am exhausted. These are tough times.

Welcome back cashmere - our little ones are almost the same age, my Charlotte was born on 5/12.

I saw my hv on day 10 then she will come again Monday for a 6 week review before we see gp on Tuesday. Feels a little pointless as I have no concerns plus I'll be seeing the gp the following day.

Well we seem to have fallen into a definate routine, feeding wise. Dd feeds at 6am,10am,4:30pm,8pm,11pm and 3am. It's nice as I know once I finish feeding at 10:45ish I have quite a few hours until the next feed.

Well here's hoping the ds's have a lie in tomorrow as I could really use some extra zzz's.

The Mister has finally given in on the dummy issue. The Little Mister is currently happy sucking on a dummy and I feel vindicated!

FoD how did you manage that i'm trying with no luck to get H to take a dummy.

Waited until he was screaming and pug it in and held it there. He has been comfort sucking a lot and ends up puking when he gets upset.

Hi everyone I've been keeping up with the thread but find it hard to find time to post when I'm working during the day. We've kinda got a routine.

Feed at 6, up at 7.30 dressed and feed again. Then sleep and feed at 9, 12.30, 2.30, 4, all evening, 8.30 then 12 and 2/3.

That seems a lot written down but he is 6 weeks today do I guess we're still in the growth spurt.

Glad to hear people are getting slightly more rest.

I haven't braved a duo bath, but Ethan has bathed with ds1 which is very cute!

we have a kind of routine during the day though today he's been a bit off - possibly getting over cold though. but from 6 or 7 till 12pm it's very hit and miss however tonight slept from 9 till 1:00 with a tiny sip of bottle inbetween. but then he does seem to have a good right routine now, feeding 2 times from midnight till 7 am. we just need to work out the eves. but also 6 weeks here on Monday so probably settle better over next week.

he's found his thumb in occasions though and I stuff it in during screamy changes

changes are odd - some he seems to love then others is utterly furious even if I gear up to it and warn him. was in a huge rage with me for taking him out of the bath!!

Of all of you with some kind of routine. Ds is eight weeks Monday and its as bad as ever. No pattern and feeding every 1-2 hours day and night

He won't sleep

Have you tried the off switch Spotty? must be around here somewhere. J is using his sixth Moses basket detection sense. Fast asleep until you put him down and then ping, play time!

We have no chance of a routine. The Hv actually suggested waking him in the day to make him sleep at night. Surely 4 weeks is way too young for that? It just delays his sleep by 2 minutes and makes him cranky! It won't last for ever at least I fucking hope not

Willyou, at 4 weeks I found less daytime sleep equalled tired baby who slept poorly at night.

I have no idea if C has a routine - I've only just spent some time with her that doesn't involve going out for multiple meals every day. Plus, she's been really different (more difficult) in last 3 days. She is 6 weeks+3 days old but I assumed she'd already had her growth spurt last week... Maybe I lucked out and got 2. Either way, I feel like we're still getting to know each other, plus she's in flux as well.

Touch wood T seems to be coming round to the idea of a dummy. hales I have been offering it on and off since birth and only the last couple of days she has sucked and not pushed it out with Tongue. It has been most successful when a feed has been cut a little short and I think she's had enough milk but still wants to comfort suck for a bit, e.g in the car seat.

We're 3 weeks here and no proper routine but have noticed patterns forming; i.e..very awake/active plus feeding in morning 10-12ish, then fast asleep till 3/4, major feeding till 6 often, and on and off till 9, head for our bead and feeds 12-1, 3.30am,- 4.30; 5.30-6, 7.30-8.30..

Not sure who else i meant to respond to, too knackered!

Or after a night feed when everytime I put her down she wakes but then falls asleep immediately at the boob - sometimes she will accept dummy and face stroking in her basket to settle to sleep. Sometimes of course she just ends up in with me as human dummy!