Strike a light, I'm done in. B was up vomming literally all night. COuldn't keep anything, even water down, and then couldn't sleep cos he was so thirsty. Plenty out the other end too. He's just eaten a single dry cheerio and not vommed since 4am so hoping it's all out of his system. Not sure what it means for going to the hossie on Weds though - anyone know how long you need to be shot of D&V before you can have an op?
BEans I think you've had a lot of good advice (and also handled your conversation really well as you've managed to get some help sorted). I find all this sort of thing really hard, and I end up being fastidious about "fairness" and splitting everything down the middle. I think I go too far, it's often according to the hour that I am demanding extra time. (I blame being brought up where everything was exactly equally shared between my sister and me. I know my mum had our best interests at hear but it has given me a residual feeling of entitlement to exactly my share, even when the situation isn't quite so simple).
I know it's different circs as we are sharing childcare so easier to be equal, but I also am coming to realise that sometimes swing one way and as long as they're eventually made up in some way, you can feel ok about things without being aggrieved. (Incidentally, I am not referring to your sitch in this way, I would have gone ballistic had DP suggested this).
I agree with Indith's advice about going for dreams though, and think that sometimes we need to be clearer about what ours are, and then going about making them happen, even if it temporarily inconveniences our other halves.
I would love to do cottage thing but can't justify it while we have no jobs to speak of, so will have to say no on this occasion 
. In brighter news though, DP has a job interview. It's very competitive and quite poss he won't get it, but I think just being offered the interview will make his feel a bit more positive...