November 2012 - losing sleep and losing weight

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detective thinking of you . You are strong and like you said , you can do this!

chunky* thanks. Currently have a hot water bottle on it getting ready to feed her. Have the cold shivers at the mo :( wearing a jumper , dressing gown , 3 layers if blanket and two hot water bottles ! :(

Over reacting? No. A cold with a small baby is a big deal, especially with a cough involved. I wouldn't rush him to hospital over it (unless necessary) but a doctor will listen to his chest, see where it's at and either reassure you or warn you on danger signs or get him checked out further.

The jabs don't help but the first ones provoke the least reaction, so his behaviour might be more cold related than you may think.

I'm really laid back about illness etc, but it's always worth getting them checked over with a phlegmy cough.

garden she is 8 weeks old tomorrow. She uses size 2s because the gaviscon thickens the milk. I wonder if she is trying too hard at the vari-flow?

detective whatever happens - whether you get back together or not - you will cope. You are a tough cookie and there were clearly issues needing resolved between you both. I hope you are ok.

Hooray for miniVQ being a mixed-methods feeder.

freddie I was concerned about that too.

Well done J and VQ!

Pass mine used the size 2 from 4-13 weeks. They have been on size 3 for just over a week now. a few dribbling issues but much quicker to do a feed now and no falling asleep.

Those using cloth nappies, how often do you change your LO?

Cloth change every 2 hours or so. Sooner if audible poo. J pees stupid amounts.

VQ awesome chick! It's so handy having a wee one that takes both - but don't worry he'll always prefer you :)

I might be a bitch but if my DH ran to his Mum's after a row I'd struggle to take him seriously too. Have a think about what you want long term - I have no doubts you could do it solo if you prefer. Hope things turn out well in the wash xxx

Just had lovely pals over for a natter before we leave the island - am really going to miss them. Hairy dieters prawn curry for tea!

Middle paragraph above was for Detective

That's great VQ. It is such a worry beforehand isn't it. Should make life that little bit easier.

I am thinking of hiring a hospital grade pump so I can express more and hopefully then I can 'top up' using ebm and also increase my supply. ATM I can only get about 2oz per session on the Swing and it's hard to find the time with the feeding schedule and bloody medical appts.

Hope you are ok Det. Like many others my relationship with DH has been very fractious over the last 10wks. But he does his best to step up, and clearly your DP needs to do the same.

sohpia, I share your pain on the potty training, we are on day 6 with ds1. He's pretty good at peeing when we tell him but having poo issues. We were at RHS gardens yesterday and he kept rabbit dropping throughout the day, DH was dealing and had to keep rushing him to the loo every 15 mins! 3 pairs of trousers/pants down and we gave up and went home. Teddy slept the whole time. Newborns are easy compared to two-year-olds! Anyway, haven't had any spraying issues so can't help there. But do wonder about wiping - we use a seat on the toilet and I can't work out how to wipe, there doesn't seem to be room to get in there but don't want to get him down off the loo with a dirty bum! Oh the glamour...

detective That's shit but good that he's keeping the lines of communication open. Perhaps some space and time to realise what a dickhead he is is what he needs.

I have hardly posted for weeks because after caring for DS, doing literally all the housework and rowing with DP about it I haven't had time to get on here. We came close to splitting this week too for similar reasons. He had a case packed at one point. He will do anything for DS and is great in that respect but he does virtually no housework anymore and I have just about reached the end of my tether. If he on the rare occasion empties the dishwasher or takes the bins out it's like he's doing me a favour! I told him this week he needs to buck up his ideas because it would be easier for me to live alone. At least then I would only have to clean up after myself, not two people. So we will see if he takes any notice.

Are you just a bit sad ywto be leaving? I have been of your isolated island life with extreme weather conditions!

Just remember detective the first weeks/couple of months of having a baby are a bit like a drunken night out!

We often say things that exaggerate what we think because everything is exaggerated due to the tiredness and the fact that you can't really have a break from a newborn, that's it they are there.

Might be a good idea to to have a couple nights apart and then wold you be able to meet and chat on neutral ground for an hour? Would his/your mum keep Oscar for an hour?

It is so important that you at least see if you have something worth salvaging, I know from my last marriage that a happy partnership makes for happy children and time invested, even if it seems to be putting the children down the list, is eventually so worthwhile.

If I lived close by I would be round with the Dominos.

Hi all,
Been thinking about the reflux, and the more I think about it, the more I think he has it. I gave him gripe water as it has anti acid in it, and he seems better for it. I also talked to my mum, and she thinks it is a good idea to talk to the GP. However I need to do it, in a certain way.
Should I ask for a early appointment or do you think it can wait till later???

I'm just going to let him lead tonight and see what happens.
And here we go......
Evil

Evil I would ask for a non urgent appointment for some time tomorrow.

My chest pain is still there but not having problem breathing so hoping it's just a cracked rib or pulled muscle. My ribs are a bit messed up from my riding accident a few years ago.

Well DD1 is being a real PITA this evening so must be feeling better.

Awwww Sophia lovely and wise words. There are loads of things I'll miss about Craggy Island as we jokingly call it - but for us the benefits of Fife (family, weather, transport links, closer to civilisation) win out. DH and I are littlest hobos we've lived all over the world and am so glad we did this. Couldn't have had a better maternity hospital anywhere - we were so lucky - as VQ suggests might come back here for our second on a maternity holiday!!!

VQ as A hasn't taken a bottle but have a few other bottles to try yet... well done j!!

chunky I am very grateful. Hope A soon finds a bottle he likes!

Yay for minivq!

More hugs detective - don't make any rash decisions (as I am famous for doing) in the heat of the moment, take time out for yourself and your boys to decide what is best for you all. How is DS1 taking it?

YW I am VERY happy you are moving back to Fife (our maternity hospital was pretty splendid might I add, although we aren't in any rush to do it all again... )

DP has decided to take M for a bath with him tonight. I told him I sing to her while the bath is running (she gets grumpy waiting) - the pogues wasn't quite what I had in mind! I've left the webcam for the video monitor in the bathroom so he can shout me when they're getting out - watching him try and get her to play with bath boats is hilarious!!

Hope all the unwell babies are feeling better.
VQ-I hope the big smoke will live up to all your needs.

Chunky- I hope he takes to the bottle soon. It's a great relief when you are at wits end and someone can take over.

Horsey- I hope things are going better, and your pony is ok in all this wet weather.

detecive - thinking of you. Im sorry I don't have any adivce.

And to anyone else who is having trouble, I hope it all gets better soon.

Evil

Thinking of you here too detective, I really hope things work out for you.

Another baby here with reflux, but not the silent type. B is sick after most feeds, she gets hiccups all the time, she cries if you don't hold her upright. Last night was particularly bad, she cried until 1.30am when she eventually fell asleep through exhaustion. I'm going to try keeping her upright for feeds and for 30 mins after, did this tonight and she wasn't sick.

Toomany you have my sympathy I hope all of our refluxy wee ones are better soon. I always find holding J upright for 15 mins (crap Mummy!) after a night feed seriously hard - my eyes start nodding from the BFing sleep hormones....

Keep your chin up detective.

So glad I have doctor tomorrow, feeding is mortal agony on one side

Well this is a shock, it's 9 and I'm having a custard pot (only 134 cal) and a hot cuppa. Not deaf yet, too.

Evil

I take back what I said earlier. I can't manage better without DH. I just don't worry about him, when I am on my own I am focused on the kids. So that is something different than managing better.

Xx