December 2011: They're one Jim, and highly illogical!

[LittleMissFantabulous]

I went with Gary's suggestion, as it was quite awesome and indeed factual!

:o



Onwards?

[ChristmasIsForPlutocrats]

Oh, bollocks, BIG xpost!
Sorry

[mopsytop]

Poor sparkly :(

Things I'm proud of in 2012:

Finished and submitted my PhD
Had first article accepted for publication in an international peer-reviewed journal (previous publications in conference proceedings only)
Was invited for interview at excellent, Russell group uni before I'd even submitted and came 2nd
Brought up a happy smiley daughter for the first year of her life (with lots of help from my fab husband)
Maintained lovely relationship with husband in spire of sleepless nights and much phd stress (also largely thanks to him being brilliant and supportive)
Pretty good year on the whole! But I know how lucky I am!

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

Ooo never realised that acronym. lol

he has come in and apologised big style x

[ChristmasIsForPlutocrats]

Oh, congrats, mopsy! Sorry I missed your Ph.D. submission...

[NorthernChinchilla]

Heh! Brilliant acronym sparkly, even if it was by accident...and glad he's come and apologised.

And welcome back Easily, glad we've got you and Plu back on the thread.

I ventured out into the sales- it was horrific. Incredibly overheated, millions of people (including 5 649 476 344 teenage girls with appalling thick orange foundation, ) and very little to get. Found two pairs of dungarees for DS in the next size, and exchanged some underwear, but that was about it. The less said about the journey back the better, but teenagers smell....

The pruning went well, although it will take me a while to really get the feeling back in my arms, and the back is under a carpet of bay and willow!

In terms of success, I think getting to this point with DS, having returned to work, breastfed, managed far better on crap sleep than I ever thought possible, and with few if any arguments with DP, is pretty good.
The last year has been wonderful actually, just a shame this one's shaping up to be a stinker...

[OiMissus]

It will not be a stinker northern. You'll find your way.
SAHM glad he apologised.

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

He came in and apologised for being a total arsehole and that he knows I do more than my fair share and he will try harder to help out more and take time out to talk to me and let me have some 'me' time. He said that he has noticed I've not been my usual happy & bubbly self and he misses me. So knows he's been an arse. He also cooked us tea tonight and DD1 actually ate it without a fuss

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

Northern it won't be a stinker . 2013 has to be fab

[GaryBuseysTeeth]

Northen, we were considering Bluewater today (DS dropped his afternoon nap) but luckily I was too tired, sounds like it was great(!)
If you ever venture over t'river the Gap Outlet store in one of the Lakeside retail parks is good for boys stuff (still more girls than boy stuff, but meh).

2012 good stuff;
Didn't get PND (people expected me to), haven't been depressed at all
Raised DS alright
Applied for a well paid job I wasn't qualified for, got to the interview stage & cancelled application (was just testing to see if I could still 'make it')
Fantastic sex post baby with DH & in another honeymoon-esque stage
Doing alright with my 'parents', they're still both cunts, but I'm talking to them without calling them cunts for sake of DS.

Looking good for all of us.

SHM, had you been driving the car with puncture? Obviously you should've known then, but if you've not driven it then how are you supposed to know?
You say you're tired with all the arguments, could you do a weekend away from DH/DD's to recharge?

[hawthers]

Going for a name change too as current one too obvious. Right back in a bit....

[Aethelfleda]

Arrgh bobbins

Have been oh so good, healthy see-food diet commenced (can eat anything at all but smaller portions) and did day one of the thirty day shred. Enjoyed it, good endorphins...except developed killer backache and could hardly get to work this morning. Soooo cross as I want to get fit and get the weight off but don't want to damage anything. And back's still bloody sore. Grrr.

On the plus side DS is one tomorrow, my lovely dad baked a sponge (I hadnt enough cake flour at home and couldnt face dragging the three to the co-op) which I have jam-and-buttercreamed, and the DDs helped me decorate it. Tomorrow will be a better day I hope.

Caaaake

[FestiveFiggy]

Shit another pre bed scream fest here .......why!!!??!! shm how do u get sky in bed by 6.30 Danny is usually 7.30 and at moment closer to 8 as we have so much fuss!! What times r everyone's lo in bed?

2 questions for you ladies.....

1 - how many times r u brushing lo teeth? Once or twice a day?

2 - have u introduced a pillow? I know we can at 1 but he thrashes around so much hes usually in his fave at opposite side of bed within minutes do hardly seems worth it.

[GaryBuseysTeeth]

Figgy, I brush DS's teeth twice a day (when I brush mine, he likes the sound of the electric brush), sometimes we forget to in the evening.
DS is in bed between 7-7.30..and awake at 5-6.

Cake looks really good *Aethel!

Night all, knackered.

[raaboonah]

Ta da am back with a new year name change

[jigglebum]

shm glad he apologised - alot more than my DH can manage , who has similar tendencies to yours I fear. My only word of caution to you would be about having DC3 as you mentioned. If your marriage has issues the more children the more issues follow I have found. DH and I were fine pre DS, some issues post DS and since Freya we might as well be separated 75% of the time our marriage is that shite. I know there is a correlation between the difficult stage of crap sleep and non communicative child (ie they have to cry and whinge as cant tell you what they need) and poor relationships in my experience so am hoping for some improvement this year on last and more to follow. If not I think our only option will be to separate.

2012 was not a great year for me but I am proud of how well DS has settled into school and how much he has grown up and is great with F. F has become increasingly hard work and DH near impossible. I feel I have spent some good quality time with friends again which is very important to me.

2013 goals - sleep training for F, save some money, lose another 1/2 stone (which will only happen is sleep training happens as I eat worse with crap food), join a hockey club again (though somewhat worried about lack of fitness and pelvic floor), swim once a week ish, I know it should say work things out with DH but not in that frame of mind at mo.

[OiMissus]

Bad mum alert... The majority of the time his teeth are brushed in the morning only. He often falls asleep with his evening bottle, and I don't want to do it before - to expose his cleansed bare teeth to evil formula from a bottle. I still haven't registered him with a dentist either. I will, then I 'll get some advice!
As for when he goes to sleep, he got out of kilter over the holidays and fought hard to stay awake longer, but generally (and tonight after his 6:40am rude awakening!) he's asleep before 19:30. If he doesn't get a sleep in the afternoon, he'll often fall asleep with his bottle. (He doesn't stay asleep of course. That 'd be way too easy!
He doesn't have a pillow in his cot, but when he joins us in bed he has a very thin pillow. I may put it in his cot. anything to make him stay there!

[mopsytop]

Thanks plu, was just before Christmas.

Re: sleeping, minim generally goes down ok but has started waking loads during the night. Not sure why. Maybe teething?

[mopsytop]

Oh and we only brush once at night. I know should be twice but too rushed in mornings.

[MissRee]

Anyone else watching OBEM? Makes me want to do it again

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

We are and OMG how could he be missing the big red emergency button?

Makes me wonder why I want to do it again tho lol

[MissRee]

Just had the conversation with DP about my labour and apparently I was horrible to the midwife I don't remember! My recollection of labour was sleeping between gas and air contractions.

I do know that my midwife never left the room - is it normal for them to come and go like on OBEM???

[GaryBuseysTeeth]

Went to bed sleepy, now I'm wide awake

I don't think I could watch OBEM...the thought of giving birth in a hospital again terrifies me (to the point of tears), is that 'normal'?
I remember posting back in Jan'12 that my (mental health specialist) MW said it was & give it a few weeks I'll be fine again, that I didn't need to talk to anyone about my 'tramatic' birth as it wasn't that tramatic.

Do DC's 'need' a pillow now?
Figgy, DS throws himself around so much he'd probably end up under it at some point...plus he likes chucking stuff out the cot in the morning so I don't want to whacked with a pillow.

((Jiggle)), glad you managed to keep up with friends in '12, I let a few slide.
Is DH willing to put the work in this year?

[MissRee]

Are you able to speak to the hospital to see if someone could go through your birth with you, Gary? I've seen it mentioned on other threads in MN but not sure if its something all hospitals offer?

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

MissRee I had a midwife with me constantly throughout both my births. DD1 i actually had 2 MWs as I was the only one on the MWLU at the time and DD2 was because I was being induced and they were watching me closely.


Gary, I am sure you can get your notes and ask to speak to someone to go through your birth with them.

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

Back to work for me today after being signed off for a month. Really not looking forward to it, as I normally love my job. Just tired I guess. :(