December 2011: They're one Jim, and highly illogical!

[LittleMissFantabulous]

I went with Gary's suggestion, as it was quite awesome and indeed factual!

:o

Onwards?

Figgy. Sky was in bed by 6pm last night and still asleep now.

I try not to give her a nap past 2pm. Always give her a bath by 5:30pm and bottle for sleep at 6pm.

Last few nights she has been down since 5pm tho as so tired and teething.

(((((jiggle)))))

Ring the hospital you delivered at and ask to speak to the antenatal reception, ask the lady for a number or a contact from the "birth reflections service". If they can't give you a specific number (they should do, every UK unit is meant to have one), then go back to the hospital switchboard and ask for the PALS (Patient Advocacy) service. They will be able to arrange an informal meeting with someone who can talk you through your notes in a sympathetic manner. They will be quite alright with the timing: my friend who had a difficult delivery took a full three years before she felt ready to TTC again and she said the reflections service really helped her.

Back a little better today, still stiff but vive le Ibuprofen. Bit about what I should do re the exercise though. Will have today off and see.

That's where I struggle. We don't get home until about 6pm, and he's too crabby then to put in the bath. So the wind down routine fails a bit.
I watched OBEM last night. Yes it makes me want to do it all again. But safe in the knowledge that I WILL have a cs. I don't want a traumatic birth. The ladies last night seemed to have a pretty smooth ride of it. I know I'd end up with forceps and yanking, so I'm willing to forego the wonder of giving birth naturally. Part of me would like to, but no, the cs was fine, thanks. Next time it will be elected, and not emergency. :)
Oh but to have that little bundle of cuddliness and cuteness. yes please. I'm ready now, I think. I don't know how we'd manage childcare etc, if we could find a good au pair type of arrangement, but things like that just sort themselves out, don't they? (!)
I was induced, and so the midwife was always in the room, monitoring and just being very lovely, generally.
Gary how can anyone else tell you whether something was traumatic or not? How you feel is completely personal to you. If you have a fear of giving birth in a hospital, and it's stopping you from doing it again - or if you have negative thoughts about hospitals now - because you never know what could be around the corner, then I would say do something about it. You can ask for your notes and for a sympathetic midwife to go through them with you, to get a clearer idea of the events so you can understand what happened and why, so that you can put it behind you.
SAHM embrace work. As EasilyBored said yesterday, it is the one place where you can be you. Here, you can be the individual that you are, and not be a wife, or a mum. Here people will value you and respect you for who you are. I hope you have a nice day.
And with that, I'd better beggar orf and get some work done!

Now I am back at work I am enjoying it. I can be me without being mum or wife.

Interesting day tho, our clinical system changed whilst I was off and I've already set the alarm button off.....oopps

Will nip to Tesco's shortly to grab some lunch. Another resolution is to try and eat healthy foods rather than crap!

DH is being very nice to me today, even changed the car tyre at 6am this morning as the other had gone flat again over night!

My bloody car wouldnt start again today had to get DH to give me a lift in and he has taken car to his parents, bus home or bus and train home for me....hence why i drive to work, not that i will be able to soon as we are losing car parking spaces and going on to a rota basis i need a new car and new job!!

Tomorrow my day will be filled with getting my car moving, get to garage and watch OBEM.

I had one to one midwife care, but that's standard practice for the delivery suites at Bolton.

If you felt it was traumatic Gary, then it was. They should be able to do a birth 'debrief' with you and your notes if you request it.

I had a brutal delivery, but an easy labour,and am pretty confident I could get through it again, but we are done at one baby. I love him so much but I just don't have it in me to have another baby. Im only 28 though, so we might think about it again once EasyBaby is at school.

My return to work has not gone smoothly, I feel like im messing up left right and centre and im so busy I can see the wood for the
trees. I need to make a list!

Haven't watched OBEM, but am off to see my three week old niece on Saturday, so on sure that will tempt me towards broodyness!

BOi is asleep. He was tired at 18:00 when I picked him up from mum's, and fell asleep in the car home. I'll leave him in his clothes until 19:00, and then change him and have his bedtime bottle ready for when he gets upset because I've woken him. This does not bode well for the rest of the evening!

Oi I hope BOi goes to sleep ok tonight.

Sky didn't have a nap all day today. So home by 5:45 bath and now tucked up in bed after a bottle. Apart from a little but of up chuck on her duvet ....... Bleurgh.

Drowning in rivers of DD's shit . Mine is not a happy, or fragrant, house at the moment.

I'm also exhausted having spent the night sleeping on her bedroom floor last night, and having to do frequent nappy changes throughout. Not expecting tonight to be much better. Just hoping nobody else gets it. I suppose at least she still fits in nappies and pull-ups, it could have been a lot worse....only one pair of knickers has gone binwards!

Off to give the loo a thorough clean now. Oh, the glamour.

faffin that is not cool

DS is still up

He slept for 40 minutes, I then changed him and gave him a bottle. Then we had a manic run around for 1.5hrs (and brushed his teeth ) and now he's crying and fighting sleep in daddy's arms.

Sorry to hear there are more explosive babies out there again, think you've got the worst of it Faffin.

I have a horrible feeling that we don't have OBEM (is it the 'catching up' series or an actual new series?) on record, so will have to pay for it.

Am shattered- left home at half 7, in work half 8, left work at half 7, now home at half 8. It's not actually worth me taking leave as the work is just so hideous on my return...I'd cancel my leave tomorrow if it weren't for taking DS to the Doctor's and having the builder round.

And I agree with everyone else Gary, if something is causing you to burst into tears a year after the event, and you're fearful of doing it again, then = trauma. And even if you'd had a happy, clappy, singing, dancing rose-petal birth, and had never had MH issues, then you would STILL be entitled to discuss it with a MW if you wanted to!

We brush once a day figgy, it needs upping to two but DP is frankly shite at teeth things.

Am off to remind myself what DP looks like, and hope DS remembers me in the morning

I spent 2: hrs today trying to get my screeching baba to nap. She eventually did and was like a different child afterwards, happy and smiling. But why the struggle? She was exhausted! but refusing sleep. I'm wrecked- she was basically crying/tantrummy all day until her nap at 3.30.

We got him to sleep at 21:45 by giving him 4oz of milk. He just wanted to play. We just wanted dinner. We ended up with pâté on ryvita.

Hi, aethel! What's the anti-coffee for the babes? And dies anyone think babies might be hypnotised by the haddocks so they don't require thefull adult haddocking?!

Gary I agree with everyone else and think it might help to go through your labour with a mw.

I know everyone has different experiences of labour and sometimes things happen that aren't planned and medical intervention is needed, but I don't think it's right that you've been left in shock :(

I brush DS's teeth in the mornings & DH does it in the evenings. I'm not sure how well DH does it though as there's no fuss....when I do it's practically have to wrestle DS!

Bedtime is 7pm, DS seems to really need his sleep! He has a morning nap around 9am and an afternoon nap at 3pm. I would put him in bed earlier sometimes, but I don't want to put him in bed before DH gets home from work at 6.45pm.

On the subject of labour, mine was about 5.5 hours from waking up to delivering DS. Got to the hospital at 9am and had DS at 11am so the mw was with me the whole time as I was 9cm dilated when I arrived at the hospital :o I found the whole thing very empowering as I didn't know how I would cope with the pain, but I think I surprised us all! My mw was just right for me and kept back and let me get on with it in my own time. She checked DS's heart rate every so often, gave me the gas and air and suggested when to push and four big pushes later he was born :)

I had DH & my Mum and I think Mum found it a really good experience too. She said although she thought she had straightforward births that this was how it should be and the mw was great too. I think in her day they used to shave you, do an enema and stick you on your back with your legs in the air when the advice now is to encourage you to keep active.

I have a question too...what cleaning products do you use to clean your high hairs? I got told off for using cif by my FIL I'm sure DM used Cif when she was staying with us and she's a clean freak!

Faffin that sounds grim. Hope it gets better soon.

Sky slept all night yay! I must get ready for work tho. I'm only in till 12 so not to bad today.

I've been up with Freya since 4am. She just refused to go back to sleep. No apparent reason. Now she's full of beans and I'm flagging.

I'm excited that my new freezer is being delivered today though!

I luffs DH. He is off work to look after the DDs today and he STILL settled DS for me once in the night and did his bum and brek this morning.

Monkey woke up at half four and I couldn't be bothered to get him back down in his cot, so he slept with me till half six. We've got soft play this morning, and a million errands to run this afternoon. We're off down south tomorrow, and im out with the girls tonight. Is a very busy few days coming up.

I've just smelt something suspicious, I suspect EasyBaby needs a clean bum.

We only do teeth at night, but he's only got four of them anyway. I might start doing them in the morning too soon.

Easily where down south are you travelling too?

Surrey, my BIL and SIL had a baby three weeks ago so we're off to visit.

Enjoy your girls' night out. What a lovely idea - and what a distant memory!
BOi did not want to wake up this morning (not surprising after his staying up late shenanigans!). I dressed and changed him whilst he was still asleep. He woke up as I was struggling with his trousers, and then began to whinge at me.
And he cried when I left him at nursery. I hate that. :(
I am luffing my DH too Aethel. We both seem to be on the same page with stuff finally. Our NYResolution to get organised has inspired more teamwork, which helps me relax a bit more and feel less burdened. And I'm inspired to get fit and get thin, and this will help our relationship as I will begin to feel more confident and discard my horrendous pregnancy pyjamas and nighties.
I should fess up here... I bought sizes 16-18 in "loungewear-type" items from M&S when pg. I'm still wearing them, and I'm probably a size 14, so they are baggy and a bit tatty. As a little extra for my birthday last year, DH bought me some surprise new loungewear items (not what I want at all, but bless him for trying), and of course, he checked the old ones for size, and bought size 18!!!
Ideally, I will get more confidence, BOi will stay in his own bed, and I'll go back to sleeping without clothing (also good for relationships, I find). Alternatively, I'll just get pg again and buy new fancy silky pjs. The next time will be more glamourous. although I still can't bloody shift my friendly haemerroid!.

have just signed up to Weightwatchers online.
Am gutted that 1 chicken leg quarter, 2 coffees (with 1 sugar each), 3 ryvitas with butter and pate, a glass of hi juice OJ with lemonade, and a tablespoon of raisins = my daily allowance exactly.
I seriously have to make different choices for WW!