December 2011: They're one Jim, and highly illogical!

[LittleMissFantabulous]

I went with Gary's suggestion, as it was quite awesome and indeed factual!

:o



Onwards?

[MissRee]

Didn't that bloke who said about the autism link get struck off because its all a load of bollix?

[GaryBuseysTeeth]

DSM, that's a shit situation to be in
I said to DH when we had DS 'You can either have a perfectly tidy house & a child that gets ignored to do it, or the house is slightly messy but I spend all day playing with DS'.
We divvy up the household stuff, but nothing gets done unless DS is asleep/one of us is looking after him.

I remember you said your income was supplementary; have you got somewhere you could stash some each month until you start SAHM for emergency get-out money?

You could read all ^ that or just know that LMF & Oi said all I wanted to say.
I like Pluto's suggestion of a name change too.

Air, hope to hear from you soon & all is well with you. x

Oi, he'll be fine, hope he doesn't need calpol or anything stronger!
Wakefield is an arse.

[OiMissus]

I don't Plu, but I've read enough balanced articles to know better. I just can't help that little niggling fear created by the few scare-mongering articles saying otherwise, and that Wakefield bloke who did indeed get bollocked for his bollix.
I survived my first day of the year sans-alcool. One day at a time, Vanessa, one day at a time... But please, tell me, why do I have a headache today and generally feel a bit pants?
(probably because I didn't eat breakfast and BOi's leftover breakfast bits this morning. Doh!)

[ChristmasIsForPlutocrats]

Here's a link to some free-access information on Briar Deer's investigation of the MMR scandal.

Why would Wakefield have bothered to falsify evidence if he could properly obtain any sort of meaningful result? Conflicts of interest abound for him: his own single-measles vaccine (ker-ching), ""research director" of the self-styled International Child Development Resource Center, Florida, which sold quack products for autism, including enzymes. He was then installed in a $280,000 a year US job, but in February 2010 was ousted within days of his research being retracted by the Lancet" (ker-ching), and more payments from interested parties (ker-ching again)

Fear-monger and profiteer, methinks.

[FestiveFiggy]

I agree with Plu DSM your name and identity is back to being about other people as were your resolutions to be the best mum and wife what about you? I fear if you were to become a SAHM you would disappear into that even more....though i understand why you want to with your health issues.

Oi Figgyboy is having his jabs tomorrow too, DH is taking him as it is his day off with him and i am at a meeting and cant take him hope it goes well!! They are in their arms arent they? DS hates being restrained in any way pretty glad am missing it tbh.

[EasilyBored]

My New Years resolution is to try and keep up with this thread more!!

Happy One-ness to us all, where the bejezzus did 2012 go? Seems to have passed by in a blur of sleeplessness and dirty nappies and milk breath.

We have semi-successfully dropped EasyBaby's last daytime feed (just morning and night now) by simply forgetting to give it to him. He's not terribly impressed with juice-de-moo in a cup, so I palmed him off with some breadsticks as well.

Will do a proper catch up later - is everyone still on the FB group?

[MissRee]

Hi Easily, welcome back

Can someone PM me their name so I can find them in Facebook??? I have an unsearchable profile otherwise would have done it the other way!

[EasilyBored]

I'm unsearchable too unfortunately!

[MrsDeterminedandSpecialMum]

I don't have the time for me as all my energies go into working & being a mum 24/7 :(

[EasilyBored]

DSM I know what you mean - by the time I've done my days at work, and my days with monkey and my weekends as a family, there doesn't seem to be any time for me. But I try and look at it like this; at work I am Heather, I'm not monkey's mum or DH's wife, they employ me to be me. Yes, I am a mum and I am someone's wife, and those things do add up to a whole person, but they're all just little bits.

We all need to stop beating ourselves up for not being a 'perfect' mum or wife or housewife or whatever. And we need to stop letting others make us feel that way. I would start by giving your husband a gentle reminder of just how good he has got it; stop doing his household stuff. Stop washing his clothes and cleaning up his mess. You are partners, you are a team, do not let him make you feel like shit. People can only let you feel like crap if you give them the power to do that.

DD1 is at a trying age, and your DH needs to grow a pair and be a parent.

Rather than talk about resolutions, on another board I'm on we did a whole thread about 'Stuff I Did Really Well in 2012' - what are you proud of doing?

I'm proud of:

• becoming a less selfish person (with DH and with DS)
  
• managing to parent a baby for a whole year without breaking him
  
• reading shed loads of books
  
• going to Zumba semi-regularly

[ChristmasIsForPlutocrats]

It's not a question of "packaged" me-time that costs loads (spas, "pampering", shopping, having hair/nails done); it can be just mental space, such as venting on MN, going to sleep with the baby, etc. Or ringing a childless friend for a chat...?

[MissRee]

Thanks DSM and Gary

[ChristmasIsForPlutocrats]

Ignoring is a technique I use, too! Great for asserting myself when someone is screaming!

[MrsDeterminedandSpecialMum]

In that case 'me' time is when the girls are in bed and I can have a quiet bath and read a book.

I know I should ignore him when he is like it but it riles me and my temper flares think it's because I am exhausted of all the arguments etc.

[jigglebum]

happy new year everyone. We made it till 1 am then Freya woke at 2 and 530 ish. My no 1 new years resolution is to get f to sleep through the night!

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

Testing my name change. Its DSM

[mopsytop]

Nice name DSM now sparkly! I second everything Oi, Plu etc said.

Oi, MMR fine & much preferable to your baba getting measles or other. Link entirely imagined. Media just likes headlines, half the health studies they publish are nonsense. When you look at the actual studies you see how badly they're reported. Think of the recent study that said if you drink between one and six units of alcohol a week when preg it could harm baby, they reported it as one drink a week cd harm baby when the study only looked at 1-6. There is a big difference between 6 gin& tonics and a single gin and tonic!

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

Oi I believe the link with Autism & the MMR vaccine was disproved. I would rather have my DC vaccinated against the possibility of a disease such as measles that could potentially be fatal :(

I feel like I'm not me iykwim. I used to be so outgoing etc but I'd rather be indoors with my girls all most of the time.

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

DH walked in earlier. DD2 had just pooed and he screwed his face up and said what's that smell as if to say you haven't been cleaning today then! :(

[OiMissus]

Nice sparkly name!
Things I'm proud of in 2012... I'll have to have a think about that.
BOi survived the jabs very well. He cried for about 60 secs, then smiled at the nurse who gave him some stickers. (Yes, figgy he sat on my knee, and I loosely held him still - he didn't wriggle too much.)

[OiMissus]

Proud of in 2012:

1. I'm a good mum. I'm so much more patient than I thought I would be. I have not broken BOi - quite the opposite, he is doing so well. (Pfb)
2. I breastfed up to and beyond going back to work full time.
3. I reinstated myself back at work and regained the trust and respect of my teams quickly.
4. I bought (mortgaged) a fabulous house for my fab family (and am not overstretched), and got us nicely settled and fairly organised.

...there's a lot more I didn't do, lots more that need work, and lots of great things that my parents and husband did that allowed me to achieve the above.
I spent so much time away from home in the last 4 months that my poor DH and my parents deserve medals for their care of BOi. I'm very, very proud of them.

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

my car has got a puncture and apparently it's my fault as I should of known. DD1 gave DH attitude with her head as he walked in the door which has put him in a mood and all he wants to do is sit down!

I get the blame for everything that goes wrong, even when it is out of my control.

[SparklyandHappyMe2013]

Proud of in 2012.

Managing to raise 2 children and not damaging them to much.

All I can think of.

[EasilyBored]

Oh s and h m I'm sorry that he doesn't appreciate you

[ChristmasIsForPlutocrats]

Did you realise the acronym of that new name is SAHM2013?! Brilliant subliminal mind control of your husband, to reach your goal, if so