November 2012 - sleepless nights aplenty

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Glad to hear DD is improving PR, hope the antibiotics kick in for you soon

LO has been really upset after every feed today, going all stiff and straightening her legs right out, crying and crying I gave her some infant gaviscon the doc prescribed and when she was crying afterwards it came out of her nose?! I have been trying to keep her upright as much as possible but it's hard to hold her all the time with DD1 needing looking after too feel very helpless and sad about it today. When she cries it sounds like such a sad cry and it's heartbreaking. Don't know what else to do to help her.

Bought a cool air mist humidifier today to try and help with her congestion at night, fingers crossed it works

tits yay v v v good news LO is home xx

VQ you should do your HV training - you have a wealth of knowledge, seem very caring, broad minded and I am sure you would be a huge asset to so many new mums - I'd prefer you!!! than the useless school leaver they sent me who got D's weight all wrong and ballsed up my red book

detective dots sleeps well in the crib at night but we tried putting her down for an afternoon nap the other day - she went bonkers, so so tired but fought and fought going in the crib - I think it's because she associates it with bedtime at night lol, during the day she naps in her travel cot which she is happy to do, try and get O in the pram for his naps each day so he associates it with nap time??? Just a thought

Trying to keep Dottie awake in the hope of another good nit but she's been asleep since 7 apart from me moving her around from travel cot to mat to me lol

Thank you glenda

OMG detective that sounds horrific you must have been so scared. And pissed off.

I have more tentative good news: DD1 ate a fruit puree (first solids in days) and keeps trying to escape her bed. Still on oxygen, but no fever so far this evening. Hoping to see more improvement tomorrow. Meanwhile LO is distracting me with a mahoosive temper tantrum. Tears and angry face, the works. Have slipped her a dose of calpol, it seemed like she was in pain. She has calmed down and lying on me with her hands in my hair so I am typing this with my head on one side.

Yes vq Lux is turn left at France, between France Belgium and Germany. I live a couple of miles into France on the lux/French/German border. Love it here but useful social things like mum and toddler groups and sirestarts are inexistant.

Question for the bf mums out there.... If a bottle of expressed has been in the fridge and then I take it out and into an insulated bottle cooler... What's the max time it can be in there before it has to be drunk? I know it has to be drunk within half an hr normally once in room temperature .... Is this the case when it's in an insulated pouch ?

candy I thought it was 8 hours at room temp or an hour if baby has drunk any. Try kellymoms website for up to date info.

Good news PR it sounds like she is doing fairly well.

Can't help with that candy. I wonder if the pouh gives you a little extra - maybe an hour or so

Fruit purée and escape acts all sound good PR. My heart goes out to you. I hope the new year being your family some health!

Wee P was back at the hospital today. She is a touch down on her weight again - now 3.9kg or 8.9Ibs. That is the weight she was t 3 weeks and puts her on the 9th centile. The doc seemed happy enough though and has formally discharged us because she has been drinking more than average the last few days.

With grandparents and hospital visits today P got to 5:45pm having had only an hour nap all day as two half hours. She was doing a horrendous screamy cry - sounded almost like a bark. It could have been trapped wind or overtiredness maybe? Possible she also has the bug oh and I had - this gave us sore tummies and heads. Anyway, I finally got her down and she has now been sleeping over 3 hours. She has barely moved so I suspect it may be tiredness.

On the way to the hospital my car started really juddering.
On the way back we could smell burning as well. By the time we got home it was smoking and the brake disk was burning red. I am so sick and bloody tired of car problems.

Anyway, it is mean to complain as both sets of parents are amazing but I need to get this bit off my chest . . .

If my dad tells me one more time how many people really want a visit I will explode. These are fit and healthy people - I don't see why I should bundle a 6 week old in the car for a 6 hour round trip for visits.

And . . .

If MIL tells us that wee P is putting on weight despite what the doctors say then I might just pop. She told DH tonight that it was nonsense that P had lost weight as she could tell she was growing. She has met her 3 times and has never weighed her. Aaargh! This is te same woman who decided I was fully engaged and would go in to labor within days just by looking at me. I had been at an appointment the day before an was not at all engaged - p did not engage until I was induced

I don't know why these things annoy me but they do

I am by that post.

How self-pitying of me

passme that's ridiculous - if people want to see the baby they can visit you. I haven't taken L anywhere other than my Mum's and a couple of friends who live nearby. YANBU!

So ur right vq ! Duh I never think of checking on other websites first, my first point of call seems to be with u ladies :)

And vq re ur silly comment on the other thread ... I view you as one of the core back bone to this thread and without ur wisdom and wise words it just wouldn't be the same. We don't give a monkeys of what size u r and those who judge ... Well I'll personally slap them for u

pass I concur with blonde* no one expects u to travel to show them ur LO . Don't cave! I would just say it outright and say if they want to see bubba then they can pre arrange a visit at yours .

Pass it didn?t sound self pitying. Better to vent on here than RL. Your P and my H are centile buddies. He is on 9th too now they work to corrected age. l bet they will both end up as 6 footers!

Pr so glad it sounds like your dd1 is making progress.

Anyone any tips for getting rid of a tickly cough and head cold. Minor l know but driving me mad as come on straight after flu and l just don?t feel l?ve got much energy left (esp as dh was back to work today and both dcs are going hyper on trashy tv and selection box goodies).

Not self pitying at all and I find it useful to talk things through on here, you're all so much nicer than RL people. I cried on the phone today and the person I was talking to told me to "get a fucking grip, take some benelin and pull yourself together for your DH's sake"

People on here are far more supportive

yes, I hung up, but not before using some very rude words

My flabber is utterly gasted petite! What an utter arsehole. You are right that this thread is a bit of a safe haven.

Thank you daisy, candy and blonder. I would be astonished if P turned into a 6 footer daisy but you never can tell! Dr wasn't concerned but I feel like MIL dismisses fact for her own version of it because it suits her better. I know it is only because she cares an doesn't want anything to be wrong but it doesn't help at all.

My dad is just proud and wants people to see his granddaughter.

Blimey I am in a foul mood. I am sitting watching DH feed p and just getting tetchy. Both of them are staring at the telly and the occassional time Dh look at her he curses because she has dribbled milk all down the suit we have just put her in.

I am blaming hormones!!

DH watches tv while feeding LO too and then wonders why she dribbles. I can't talk. I MN while feeding.

Can't remember everything so here goes...

Glad things are looking up PR.

My DD went from 9th to 2nd then 9th centiles by 16wks then gradually progressed upwards, until solids & being a greedy little monkey who ate Xmas pud at 8mths old got her to the 50th for both height & weight. She has a lovely figure now.

I just ordered some little lamb breast pads & asked the nappy lady for cloth bum recommendations as we've had lots of poo leaks lately, despite moving up to size 3 nappies today. DH is not convinced but I thought its worth a try; if disposables are leaking & requiring lots of washing to be done, & we're already using reusable wipes, what's the harm in asking/trying something else?

Have just

On the subject of DHs not concentrating, why can't mine change a nappy without ending up with a full clothes change? It should not be a surprise by now that DS likes to have a wee once his nappy's off. We've got cotton wool there to catch it but he just balances a pad on DS's willy which inevitably falls off or gets pushed off by the jet. Just bloody hold it in place! And push his clothes up a bit higher first, it's not rocket science.

It is always the night changes too, the neighbours must think we are torturing him from all the screaming (he hates having his clothes taken off & is usually hungry at this point).

I don't usually moan about my DH as he does work hard and is a good, hands-on but I snapped tonight. Ffs!

I've got up and come downstairs, given in and put J in the swinging chair he WILL NOT go in his cot without screaming and if I'm being totally honest I'm finding myself resenting him and more so DP because I'm glued to J all night or he won't settle, looking over at DP fast asleep made me want to walk out which is a massive over reaction, I'm not even that tired, I've had sleep with J attached to me but its just not the same.

I know the swing chair isn't ideal, it's certainly not teaching J to settle in the cot but its the only time I can get to be not stuck to him. He didn't bat an eyelid about sleeping thru every single night we were in hospital, we ave everything the same here.

Reading that back makes me sound shockingly heartless, some people would kill for a healthy baby, needless to say I love him to the end of te earth and back but atm I feel like I don't knw where I end and he begins :(

Sorry to hear you're feeling like that tits I know what you mean about them being attached to you constantly, sometimes you just really need a break and not to be touched for an hour or so!

Woken up by LO's noisy breathing, she sounds so blocked up and congested when she breathes through her nose at night, but she's not got a cold, so what's making the noise? She seemed really distressed for a bit but had a little feed and is now sleeping on me, taking her to the walk in centre tomorrow

Tits it's impossible to be rational at 5am I have discovered. Even when DH isn't getting clothes covered in wee, I find myself getting angry at his sleeping form while I wrestle with DS. You have been through an ordeal with the hospital stay so please don't be too hard on yourself. Your baby might need that extra contact for a while but it will pass (I know that doesn't help when you are feeling shitty at 5am but it's all I've got).

Another one whose DP is fast asleep while I'm up with baby here

Blonder my DP can't concentrate on nappy changes either cos he gets distracted by the tv or his phone and they take twice as long as they need to. Despite me asking him to hurry as LO likes being kept upright. Really annoys me!

I have to whinge at DP to put his glasses on during night time feeds/changes. His vision is appalling! Rx is +8 in both eyes! I keep finding bits of poo under his balls... . Just put the sodding glasses on!

I've also twice screamed at DP to turn the fucking tv off as I'm rescuing HIM from a projectile vom, cleaning up the baby and he is sat there wide eyed at the tv. Oh, and what makes it worse is that he tells ds1 off for the same effing thing!

Currently got Ewan going off down one lughole and DP 'peacefully' snoring down the other.

DP has developed a 'line' he uses when other people MIL ask him if he's been helping enough in the night, he's opted for the wanky

"oh I'm in tune with DS's crying and now my body doesn't wake me for his hunger cry because I can't do anything to help that"

Even mil told him to stop being a arse and to provide food/drink when J is feeding, this never came to fruition, generally I spend the night times wailing that as of morning I'm off down tesco for formula and DP can start bloody well helping at silly o'clock in the morning. Although come morning I'm usually ok again

I would be fine if he'd just sleep in the cot!