November 2012 - sleepless nights aplenty

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Oh dear blonder about being ill and no TV! Can you access iplayer or something? Hope you and your TV are soon better x

Been out for a nice meal with MIL and dh's siblings and their partners/ children. We were there for three hours and the kids were as good as gold. Had to feed dd twice while there but she went to sleep in the car seat so I got to eat my meal in peace!

Having a quiet weekend. Just food shopping and seeing my mum on sun.

Aw petite your really going through it all, I think VQ is right is there no one you could call or could family come over? You know we're all here for support but may e you need some hands on help

Thanks VQ it's much easier to be poorly with the tv on! Just feeling a bit sorry for myself although obviously not comparable to PR. I would agree, is there anyone who could take a trip over? If it were 'just' one thing or the other I'm sure you could make it work but when everything comes at once you sometimes need an extra pair of hands and it sounds like now is that time.

No, my family can't come over :( my mum has to look after my granny and it is quite hard to leave her. I don't know if there are any MNetters in Luxembourg. Last time I checked there were a few, but people come and go round here deending on the financial market.

I'm going to ask a friend to look after LO for a few hours tomorrow while I stay at home and rest and maybe pop out to the shops as I have run out of kitchen roll of all the bloody stupid things to run out of.

Sunday Oe of DH's colleagues has offered to go to the hospital for a few hours so he can get out for lunch with me, a shower, and some home time. Then if I am up to it I will go to hospital Sunday night so he can sleep (ha!!!) at home with LO. Well, it would be a different type of disturbed night's sleep anyway.

I'm feeling suddenly mroe positive though. Hope it lasts. Needeed to find a grip and I think knowing I wasn't making a fuss about nothing for my cough actually helps me put things in perspective and feel less guilty about being useless as shite right now.

Talking of shite, I have a poosplosion to deal with. LO, obviously. Thanks to all for your kind words.

Just had an SMS from my DH to say she's demanding milk and seems a little better, more alert. Fingerscrossed.

PR be encouraged! Good news. They sure know how to scare us!

Blonder I hope youi feel better soon. It really sucks being anything other than 100% when you have a baby to deal with. I don't know how I'd cope being without the ipad and tv..

not sure about my ribs/chest but i've grown comedy sized, huge boobs, there is a lovely picture of me breastfeeding in hospital - can't believe it's me, my boobs look so tiny with a wee tiny baby feeding - so nice. Now I have huge, wobbly, jelly boobs that wobble as we go over bumps in the road -whilst in the car - i know they are feeding my baby but why so big

My friend is going to look after LO for the afternoon tomorrow and bring me some kitchen roll

That's great PR she is hungry and alert. And that you have a friend to help tomorrow. It must be very difficult sometimes to be away from family and it sounds like your mum has her hands full. Glad you are feeling more positive, all the best.

Damn iPhone app - I wrote a huge post one handed, remembering everyone and must have swiped my finger cos it lost it grrrrrrrrrr!!! Doesn't it know how hard it is to feed baby, bark orders at kids, watch pointless and post on here??

petite glad you've been diagnosed and can now start treatment to get better & dd1 asking for milk is a really good sign - fingers x'd she keeps improving and kicks pneumonias butt!!!!

Hope those who aren't feeling too good get better soon - its hard enough looking after a newborn when we're fighting fit - bloody torture trying to do it whilst ill!!!!!

I need to lose a whole person!!!! I lose weight when pregnant so am better off now than last feb but being a size 26 I've got mountains to lose - but I'm suffering with back/knee/hip problems and if I want to be a midwife I need to be able to get up and down off my knees not to mention leg it down corridors in an emergency so I'm determined to lose slowly by not buying crap, portion control (side plate instead of dinner plate), Paul mckennas hypnotherapy disc and making use of hubbies gym membership!!!

Anybody taking a vitamin supplement suitable/especially for breastfeeding mums?? I keep getting cold sores & mouth ulcers which means I'm run down - though thank dog I've not gone down with anything more!!!

Had a fab night with dots last night - she slept from 12-8 doubt I'll get a repeat tonight!!

PR thinking of you. It's great that she wants milk! Sending good thoughts your way.

We have had a very grumpy, and tired N. he is teething, but hasn't worked out the teething ring will help.

he is 3 months today!! I'm a bit worried as he hates being on his tummy, he just cries all the time. Any idears on how to get him liking it?
Evil

evil DS is not keen on tummy time either. He copes better when I lie next to him so he can see me.

glenda I am envious of you training to be a MW but I have no idea why. I am looking into HV training. I had a place 5 years ago, but gave it up to move for DH and his career.

I sympathise evil - Saul's teeth started coming through at 2 weeks and he now, at the grand old age of ten weeks, has five teeth trying to come through. Two at the top and three at the bottom. One's almost through at the bottom!

Neither of mine like tummy time. Makes them miserable. Eldest DS took a picture of them this evening while I had them on the floor- I'll stick it on FB. They look like they are racing

Thank you for the DP advice! Horsey, he is 22 and a half but isn't your typical lad at all. Bit of a geek really . He wanted a baby, and although I really really really did too, it took him convincing me that he was ready for all it entailed. I told him all the horror stories on how bad it was with DS1 in the first year - and bad it was, he was a crier, a real crier all the bloody time! I told him how bad it would be in pregnancy with me likely to have hyperemesis again. He was adamant that none of this put him off. It took 2 years for me to feel ready with him. So now I'm a bit as he seemed to be the one more mentally prepared for this baby. It didn't hit me til he actually arrived.

All I want is for him to put his brain in to gear. Tonight has been better. He has come home from work and got on with what needed to be done, and is now sat cuddling grumbler. I know he has the ability - he can pull it together, I've seen him do it, he just needs to do it consistently now!

We managed to have tea with a sleeping baby tonight. Result! Doesn't happen often!

We seem to have conquered the basket for night time sleeping, but the day is just a disaster! The pram doesn't bring any better results either. He has managed 2 stints of 7 minutes and 15 minutes in the bloody basket today! Yet will sleep for much longer if left on me. I don't get it! If he sleeps so well in it at night, then why not in the day! Anyone else got any tips for day time sleeping if the basket/cot won't cut it?!

PR Oh no :( What utter shiteness. I've been in a shitty situation too, DS1 (aged 4) with suspected meningitis in hospital, next day ex dp collapses - admitted to same hospital with bloody pneumonia (yes that bastard again!). DS1 was released home the following day but not discharged, he had a cannula in his arm, and his arm bandaged straight. He was not allowed to leave the house. He was having 3x daily visits for IV abx. DS1 and I had returned home alone with out ex DP as he was still an inpatient. I was on the anti retroviral meds in case it was meningitis. These made me violently bright bloody orange sick. And not one bastard came to help us. I cried for 2 days and nights. I couldn't go and visit ex dp, so he had nothing with him, no clean clothes, underwear, nothing. I asked for help and got told everyone was too busy! I didn't even have any fucking food in the house. Twats.

Sorry - bringing memories up there! It was before the days of social networking. These days, I am sure someone would come to help us!!! And no internet food shopping either!

Am glad to hear a friend is coming to the rescue! I'd be round like a shot, I won't see anyone struggle in that way! Shame we are, um, thousands(?!) of miles away! Geography never was my thing!

Another tummy time hater here Evil, I can only get him to spend any time on his tummy if he's on my chest or arm etc. He's good at lifting his head but doesn't have much arm strength so if anyone has any tips bring them on.

Detective daytime naps are a challenge for us too, the car seat works but obviously I don't want him in it too long. However he will often fall asleep on DH's shoulder enough for a transfer (only if DH is walking around) so that could be a job for your DP if you want to encourage him to help in a non-dangerous fashion?

I think Luxemburg is turn left at France. I also am shite at geography.

DS sleeps on the changing table. With supervision obviously. It is the Ikea fabric one, and is like a hammock.

He also sleeps in the cot, pram, car seat, any bloody where in the day! I would happily swap detective

I think our babies need a chat VQ . They can teach each other!

Good idea

VQ and detective I think your babies should have a word with my babies in the vain hope that they might convince my little non sleep needing feckers cherubs that sleeping is a good thing at all!