November 2012 - sleepless nights aplenty

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Petite - that's common. Big hugs.

Vq - when ds was ill and vomming all the time we were in a similar cycle. Once he got better he ate and ate and ate. And vommed a bit, but not as much. Shifting the mucus was the hardest part. Once that was gone he still ate but this last few days the quantity has calmed down. Obviously j was much worse than e, but I agree with the dr that they need to catch up. Keep going!!

Thank you horsey it just seems to be going on for ever, and when the days all roll into one it seems even longer. I have decided I am going to feed him in the nursery rather than in bed. If he has periods of the night when he is more upright it may help.

Still haven't had a chance to catch up, don't seem to have a minute to myself plus M is being cranky. Not sure if she's coming down with something or if its a growth spurt early.

Just been unpacking the Xmas presents, can feel a rant coming on but I'm trying to hold my breath. All I will say is that after buying M loads of clothes when she was born I said she didn't need any 0-3 for Christmas, if they wanted to buy clothes then get 3-6. Just looked through the ridiculous amount of stuff and the vast majority is 0-3!!
I know I should be grateful but she's got so much 0-3 I doubt she'll have time to wear it all. We'd said they really didn't need to worry about getting her anything anyway....
sorry once I start I won't be able to stop

Hope everyone else is doing well

That's a brilliant tip GT. Thanks for posting that.

J has been asleep all day. He must be tired out from keeping me awake from 3 a.m.

Quick question, has anyone opened a bank account for their LO? We'd like to open a savings accounts to put birthday money etc in. But PILs have also decided they want to open a bank account for DD as well.

fatima can you exchange them? It is very frustrating I agree. Same happened to me.

Fatima - yes plus a savings account for us (for him) which we will use for uni or house deposit or wedding or whatever. His account is for any Money were given for him etc.

To add - I was also thinking of doing some bonds or something which he can have at 18. I had some from my patents and my nan when I turned 18. Was really nice!!

Premium bonds or ns&i are worth looking at for those. Savings accounts for kids you can choose what age they get control (generally from 11-18) at 18 they have control, hence us having two!! One in his and my name, then mine and dh savings account. Hth.

Any money given to the kids in this house gets spent. On clothes, nappies, shoes etc. rarely on toys. This is soon to change for DD1. She is 6 so is becoming aware of money etc. we are starting pocket money in the new year, so she will be able to save or spend this, and the same will apply to gifts. At the moment she has a piggy bank.

is anyone elses baby treating you like a hot rock and they are the lizard? normally baby is happy to go in his basket after a 30 min cuddle but not today. been cuddling between feeds since 0430. not washed/dressed - house crazy

VQ to encourage your child to save, one idea is to give her two 50p pieces or two pound coins (however much her pocket money is) and she has one to spend and one to save in her piggy bank. That way when she wants something more expensive, such as a small toy or a comic, then she has money in her piggy bank for it and you don't have to cough up for it. My DSs get £2 a week which is enough for a Beano but not much else (most comics are £2.50 plus). I'd rather they didn't spend it on sweets so I prefer them to save some up for trading cards or stickers or they can go to the art & craft shop when we're in town shopping. Sometimes they outdo themselves, my DS1 saved up £15 for a remote controlled car in the summer (he had a fiver from my mum at the start then saved his pocket money and did chores for cash) which is pretty impressive for someone with impulse-control issues due to the ADHD. For a long time the money was spent as soon as he got it and he had to spend every last penny before he was happy. Then the next time he saw something he wanted he didn't have any money to buy it.

We are hoping to do a 'shop of mum and dad' kinda thing, with a selection of things she can buys thus limiting sweets, but still allowing them, and having bigger things that she can save up for, but that she can actually see and touch rather than just imagine.

Are there any babywearing experts on this thread? I have put J into my Calin Bleu woven wrap a few times but I just can't get it tight enough so that he slips down away from me over time. I'm wondering if I would be better off with a stretchier fabric so that I can tie it tightly but still get him in and out?

petite I hope your DD gets better soon, sounds like maybe your DH should stay her so you can rest and get yourself feeling better for her too

GT that's a good tip

This thread is so helpful, I never thought I'd use a sling, I now have an appointment at a sling library this weekend and hopefully rent a coupe to try out but I wouldn't have had a clue without this thread so thank you ladies

Popped to a couple of shops today and got DD a few bits in the sales and going to town tomorrow so hopefully we'll all get a couple of bits then, have to go to the doctors tomorrow because I have thrush and lo is starting to get it too

chick I would second VQ on the growth spurt issue. Just feed him lots, both breasts at least once each feed & it will encourage your supply. I don't doubt you had supply issues in the beginning, as you would have had trouble getting him to suckle & a pump doesn't get the same response from your body. Just trust your boobs to do what they need to do!! Good luck.

stunt not an expert but have heard stretchy fabrics are better early on, so you can tie it tight so they're up high on you, but it stretches to get them into it. As they get holder, & heavier, it stretches too much, so other fabrics are better.

I'm absolutely shattered, have spent the day shopping with NO KIDS! Dh has had them both all day. Dd has had formula and it seems to have knocked her out she's been asleep all afternoon. My boobs however are starting to hurt as I haven't fed her since half 8 this morn.

I got a few new tops/ jumpers but nowhere near as much as I wanted to get. I still look like a frumpy sack of shite anyway. The diet starts now! (Well after the fancy meal tomorrow!)

Any tips with helping lo take a bottle? She has had a few and had one last week and took it absolutely find nut is refusing now, the hv has basically said leave her to cry and shell take it when she gets hungry, surely that's not right! Incouldntbjust leave her to cry and DPngets so stressed out when she refuses

Belated Merry Christmas everyone ! Came down with flu on Christmas Eve, only just feel human again, dh had an old back issue flair up, dd was under the weather and l?m guessing H was too as we had 2 sleepless nights before going back to every 2 hours last night. Despite all this l think the 2 older dcs enjoyed Christmas, which is the main thing.

Pr hope your dd1 is doing well and gt that you got your issues with dh sorted.

thechick is your LO?s corrected age around 6 weeks? H was 13 weeks, 6 corrected on Monday and seemsto be never satisfied after a feed, constantly rooting, sometimes feeding both sides. twice! I was wondering if he was having his 6 week growth spurt to his corrected age iyswim.

Belated Merry Christmas lovely ladies and gorgeous wee ones!

DH is just dropping off PIL at Kirkwall airport and we are preparing to relaaaaaaaaaax. It was v lovely to see them, to see how thrilled they are by Jonas and tickled by everything he does (it's lovely seeing how much someone else loves your baby isn't it?! - not something we're used to with family being so far away).

Having said that after days of being cuddled nonstop overstimulated is an understatement! He had his worst ever night's sleep on Christmas night up at 2, 3, 4 and 5 - deaf FIL bellowing across the room whilst I'm trying to settle him didn't help - and having the TV on max volume!!!! Thank god he seems to have calmed down back into his previous pattern - we managed midnight til 6.30 last night and then 7 til 9.30am. I was worrying the GPs had broken him!

Also hearing, whenever he cried 'his lungs work well then' or 'let him cry it's good for their lungs' did grate a wee bit. But a lot less than I'd thought - so I feel a bit mean for bitching about them in advance! They kept saying what a good baby he was so I was beaming with pride! Anti BFing PIL clearly had been lectured by DH in advance, as every time I (discreetly) got my boobs out - DFIL piped up 'lucky lad', 'best start in the world', 'can't beat it' and beamed really freakily at me which quite put me off!!!!

I'm still on the dairy free diet (something the inlaws didn't get - kept getting offered baileys, quality street, and trying to fight my dairy free snacks out of the hands of my obese FIL - kettle chips and pistachios were all I had for treats and he couldn't get enough of them after scoffing everything else) - and after a Christmas of eating so much meat (it feels like I'm on the Atkins) we're cooking a few veggie meals this week. Fitness efforts start in January when we move to Fife and I can get out and about for long walks with the pram without sub-arctic gear.

Anyway I just wanted to say thanks so much for being such wonderful company and comfort over this last year ladies - wishing you all an amazing 2013!!!!!

A late merry Christmas from me to all you lovely ladies!
Sorry I have been absent for a while, J ended up spending 2 weeks in the hospital, he just wouldn't give up that O2 flow! Finally he randomly chucked it our his nose himself and went from a 1ltr flow to being 'in air' straight away and stayed there perfectly happily so they discharged him.

He is nearly 8 weeks old now, still exclusively breast fed but mainly because I'm too lazy to get an expressing routine in place and I'm a soft touch and can't resist when he starts snuffling at my chest with his cracking smile
It's easier now though although we both have thrush again so I'll need to revisit the GP surgery soon.
J is blardy huge now, he's gone from wearing tiny baby clothes to 'up to 3 months' size stuff, he fills his baby chair now too, DP is already desperate for another dozen baby....

I hosp everyone is getting on well and enjoying their weeuns.

Yey Tits!!! Great news. J too is now 9 weeks EBF and I think we've got it cracked - now it's like I've always done it!

To those worrying about sizes - J has only just outgrown the last of his newborn stuff, mostly fits up to 1 month and can fit a couple of 0-3 months but is mostly drowned by them.

As for another one, I would seriously have another tomorrow. But I don't think we'll try for another 6 months to a year to give ourselves some chance to get to know him on his own if that makes sense? I do want them close in age so that they can be close, it's got to be the next best thing to being a twin?

tits two weeks? Good lord!

YW if you have twins next time you may wish you left a bigger gap I have spent over 2 years feeding. The novelty wore off a long time ago.

Haha yes VQ I actually would really not like twins with a singleton as he'd feel dead left out :( Great to hear your cosleeping cot is working out - our worst night this Christmas was staying at a pals without our bed nest - I couldn't be without it now!

Am loving all of the photos on the FB page what a beautiful gaggle of babies we've made! - I must put a pic up of Jonas - especially seen as MM got him such a lovely reindeer outfit.

mm bogof was toys r us. I went yday n today they have run out

Other half managed to get a few boxs few days ago but he got last two. So call before u travel a long distance! It's a brill offer. Just wish we had got more! It took all day of me naggin OH to go get them, he didn't think they wud finish! He will know better nxt time