November 2012 - sleepless nights aplenty

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Thanks for tge description stuntnun and katkit. Glad to hear you are seeing some improvements though sorry to hear you think the infection is moving around stunt. It sounds a nightmare to get rid of. I think I have decided I am just suffering with paranoia - fingers crossed!

Evening all

detective what a miserable jobs worth!!

Does anyone one else who's bf'ing have a fidgety, fisty piranha?? If I'm not holding her fists out of the way, I'm trying to stop her arching her back and she goes for my nipple so viciously she only takes in the nipple so hurts like buggery and I have to keep taking her off and trying again - then if I get her on properly she pushes her feet off the back of the sofa - I'm gonna have 6"nipples!!!

I'm having a tearful, fed up, want it all over day!!! With hubbie working all but Xmas eve and Xmas night it's dawned on me I have no time with out kids to do wrapping other than when they're in bed and with him at work there'll be no chance of Dottie letting me do it, I also need to pop to sainsburys to grab a few bits I forgot and want to go late at night - and when he's not at work hell be in bed :(

I started this post at 6pm one handed but Dottie wanted food!!!

I've just eaten a whole bar of bubbly mint chocolate

detective of course people would stop and coo. He is not the average run-of-the-mill baby. He is a detective baby. How about mixing baby lotion with your water for cleaning his bits? I find it gets everything off. Just a squirt with a small bowl of water and you can use it for a day or two in a little tupperware container perhaps?

Thanks for the links. I am gonna get one of those bras. I will not be jogging for a while yet.

I am so not ready for christmas. Still have some presents to wrap and not bought any special food. Going to my mum for the day so do not really need any. Thankfully she lives just over the hill.

glenda oh yes I am feeding a piranha too. A possessed piranha. Probably mis-spelt. I am amazed my nipples are not a foot long after his two sister piranhas.

Sorry to hear you had an awful time in the supermarket detcetive
For the good...
I too went to the shops, but I left N with his grandfather. In retospect a good choice. All Xmas shopping done!

For the bad...
N has been VERY grumpy the past few days, and VERY sleepy. He also has been guzzling milk like no tomorrow, downed about 8oz most feeds. Not sure if this is a growth spurt.
Relatives are getting worried about the gift they sent N, on his birth. As they havnt had a thank you card! I've been a little busy, with N and Xmas too.
I'm still getting larger! And putting on weight. Plus most days I feel like thier is ice in my blood. I'm wondering weather it's the new pill the drs gave me.
The MIL is back.

Evil

glenda, mine is like that, I am exhausted as his feeds today have needed my full attention every second - as you say pushing fists out the way, repositioning body, relatching, aaaaargh. And then he starts crying and pulling off as though he's not getting any milk (he is, I can see it in his mouth & squirting out of my nipples!) - is he trying to drive me to distraction?

Mind you on the bright side he had a very good nap this morning at my Mums so DH and I could get the dreaded Tesco shop done (no queues, moderately busy).

I went to a shopping centre with L this week and we got lots of people stopping to admire him too. It's very hard to know what to say but I can't pretend it's not very nice!

Evil - I have now decided babies can be having a growth spurt at any given time.

Detective - tesco was fine here lol and at 5'8 I too struggle to see over the car. I just walk into people!!

I'm annoyed with all the rain. I'm more than annoyed actually. It's not the rains fault. Well it is actually but who's going to say sorry?!

That is all.

Car seat!! I can see over dh car. Mine not as easily!

I'm at my mums! Woop.
LO is not settling in his carry cot. 2 hours of transfer fails. Managed to get him down now straight onto a bed. N seems to be all quiet on the fraggle front. Aww I remember wen I used I call him my lil fraggle. Deff has not sunk in for me.

So who is thinking about the next one? Lol. Just imagin trying to keep up with this and another due date thread! Lol. DH bought it up last night. How about we get preg jan feb time. WTF. Lol. Besides the whole too soon issue I asked him how I would cope on our one month trip to India (remember I'm drip feeding details about this soon to b infamous trip). He agreed , n thinks that I should wait n get preg out there. So by the time MS kicks in his PiL will be available to help with LO. Again wtf. I told him there r a few things he needs to change about himself n attitude before I go thro the whole preg thing again.
I really want another, can't wait to have another. But feel like my DH still hasn't grown up enough for the first child let alone another!

(Oh no he is crying. Quick get the dummy)

Anyway. Sucks about, itchy, rashes, crying, punching babies that we have on the thread

Right better get LO night feed milks ready!

I braved tescos with M. In the pissing rain (lots of roads flooded so scary driving - anyone else become a really nervous driver since having kids?). Never again! I cannot get over how rude and inconsiderate the general public are! I swear I'll have bruises tomorrow from all the trolleys that were rammed into me....

DP accidentally got pissed tonight. On half a bottle of wine! His drunk chat is still as crap as I remember...

Indenial about Christmas. Also in shock that dp has not only completed his xmas shopping but also wrapped presents?! Who is he and where is my misery tight sod carefree man?!

I broached the subject of another one tonight (half jokingly) with, "well we've already bought all the expensive stuff" - he wasn't impressed . I'd like to wait till M is past toddler stage after reading all your posts! And maybe try and get my career back on track (don't get me started on hmrc - £27 a week MA because of their fuck up, I'm furious) . But as much as I hated being pregnant at the time, I really miss it! We'll see...

Detective if I'd had to deal with customer services today after the tesco shop I had and wound up with an ignorant sod like that, I would have no doubt totally lost it!!

So while on the tesco rant. Tesco had NO happy Xmas daddy cards. But LOADs of mummy cards.
What does that tell u folks?

Naughty daddy's are not buy us cards! But us mummy's have bought them cards. (Incase the point I'm making isn't clear loVL) except me cos they ran out lol.

i went to asda yesterday with k and i was so shocked by people....they can see you carrying a newborn and still they ram in to you with there baskets and trolleys!!

I had one woman turn round and tell me i was carrying DD wrong and that i was going to suffocate her!! then proceeded to lecture me on how to care for MY daughter...felt like fucking slapping her!

glenda my LO is the same! So much so that I've had to use a nipple shield today for my right nipple! For some reason she larches better with the left but in the right she plays tug a war with it!

horsey I am Annoyed with the rain too. Who do we file our complaint too?! Makes going out which is already a faff even more of a faff when you're trying to transfer baby out of a car seat , into carrycot then putting on rain over and in between trying to make sure she doesn't get wet!

GT must be really nice to be at ur mums. Hope u relax a little now. Can't believe ur thinking of the next one. I joked with dh and said that in 2 years time when I suggest to try for another , he has permission to slap me really hard! Lol. In all seriousness, I think we will wait until this one is at least 2 years before trying for next. I need toget over a dramatic birth first! In an ideal world I would love to have 3.... But babies are expensive so depends in how well dh career progresses! And mm you just reminded me... The pregnancy stage... Yeah , wasn't too keen on that, couldn't wait for LO to come out... I wasn't one of those who loved being pregnant and I can't say I miss it!

Oh today I had to run to the car as ticket was expiring.... My belly was so wobbly .... I really felt it wobbling . Have my post natal appointment in New Year's Eve so once u get signed off (I has. Emcs) ten should start thinking if exercising again.

Also, is everyone bathing LO everyday? We kinda only do it every few days ... Time just kinda run away with me .... Am I a bad mother?! I should really bathe we everyday right?! I do wipe her face and neck daily
And of course her bum area is always clean.....

candy if your a bad mother then so am i as we only bath DD every few days....we just dont get the time to do it every day

Candy me to. Wash every few days.
Hmmm maybe should start building in to a routine? Can u clean baby with a damp flannel? Not to rough?
Also LO always has hands closed up n in mittens. Seems to have sweaty hands because of it. Anyone else?

Right. Will incorporate into wake up routine. Face, neck, ears n hands.

Ahem, bathing every other day? DS2 is currently getting bathed every other week!!! He gets topped and tailed every morning if that makes it better? Evening routine is being introduced on the 2nd Jan after Christmas and new year out of the way!

Am going to catch up on thread now - hope nobody mentions the winner of strictly as I had to get to bed before the results show. Hope Louis won, loved his show dance!

GT one redeeming feature in dh - he did get me cards from moonpig from Dottie and Tallulah with best mum in the world on it compared to his ex I'm bloody super nanny

candy bath D maybe twice a week and wash every day - have just got D's dry skin under control with oilatum and bathing dries skin out not to mention baths involve military precision with both me and dh

Would you rather LO slept 12-7 am or put to bed earlier say 9pm and then feed at 4am and thengo down again until 9 am ish??

I'm so glad D is my last one -I'm 37 and getting too old for this malarkey and looking forward to being able to go on holidays to Cuba and Maldives with just hubbie in 15 yrsbor so

I only bathe L every two or three days and just wash him in between times. Little babies don't get that dirty, just a bit grubby around the edges!

For those planning their second I recommend having the first one toilet trained before the second arrives so you don't have to change two lots of nappies. I wish I didn't have such a big gap (mine are 9, 6 and 0) because DS1 and DS2 won't have much in common with DS3. That makes me think I should have another but I'm running out of time fertility-wise. It couldn't be helped though as we couldn't have handled another one earlier because of DS1's special needs. We'll just have to wait and see what the future holds.

Having two under two isn't always that bad. It's hard work but the hilarious things DD1 does and says cheer me up when LO has colic, and LO's cuteness makes up for DD1's more challenging moments. I would do it this way again, even though it's hard, as I had too big a gap with my siblngs and as a result our relationship isn.t perfect.

Plus I know several people who have stopped at one because by the time their child is four or so they realise they don't want to go back to nappies and permanent feeding and being up all night. I have a friend who is currently pregnant who two years ago was saying just that, but now her dd2 will be eight years younger than dd1. She's regretting leaving it so long. That said it will be easier for her when the bay is born coz at 8 her first child will be that much more independent.

Balls. DS2 has just projectile vomited on me. Twice.

He soaked himself, me and the bed.

He's had a nasty cough for over a week now and has just had his worse coughing fit - he can't stop coughing even now which seems to have made him sick.

I went for 2 close together (22 month gap) on the basis that the first year or so would be really hard but that after that, when they are both a little more independent, it would be easier for me and nice for them. They are more likely to be into the same sort of thing and will hopefully be good friends. Of course, there is always the possibility they'll be like chalk and cheese but the theory is good!

I liked the idea of having 3, even whilst pregnant with N - which I can't say I enjoyed. But now she's here I feel strangely "done" , like my family is complete. Perhaps I'll change my mind but at the moment I think I've had my last. Part of it is that I've been lucky twice - straight forward pregnancies and healthy babies - so perhaps i shouldn't push my luck?

I remember that 'I can't believe I have a baby' feeling from ds1. It was a good few months before it went away. When he was about 3 months, I managed to lose balance as I was getting up from the sofa holding him. I toppled right over, dumped ds1 on floor and whacked my head on the coffee table. One of the first thoughts that went through my head was, there you go, I knew it wouldn't last (having a baby to care for) - I seriously thought I'd killed him for a split second. he was absolutely fine actually, but was weird the feeling that I had that I knew it wasn't real. It's all too real now he is 2 though! I do get moments like that with Teddy too, wow I have 2 of them!

4.5 hour stretch of sleep tonight - feels like success even if I don't get any more tonight!

I have decided that I too would like a soft warm boob to lie my head on to sleep .

Ok will with also incorporate handmade as well as face

Just ha a nipple bashing feed ... Very sore nips now even tho I tried to re latch her so many times :(

Handwash*