November 2012 - all the babies have arrived

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Hugs to you and Jonas yw - hopefully you'll have your chilled out wee man back soon. Shit news on the dairy front though

I'm in a really shitty mood with OH tonight. He's been a total dick today and decided now I'm more mobile (ie can walk without wincing and drive short distances) that I should be doing everything otherwise "I'll never cope when he goes back to work". How I'm supposed to change/feed my -at the time, screaming -daughter, go to tescos to buy and then cook dinner and empty the dishwasher and washing machine all at once I will never know. He also implied he thinks i'm a crap mum and spun me the "you're in a mood you must be depressed, i'm going to get you help if you dont snap out of it' line - i wasnt in a mood until he opened his stupid mouth! He's made it clear he thinks he is super dad (which he is) and he would be much better at bringing tilly up on his own (which there's no way in hell). Right now I wish he'd just fuck off back offshore and leave me to bring my daughter up myself - however crapply that might be

Sorry for ranting, I'm just so bloody angry with him. He's done fuck all today other than moan about how tired he is (he got 8hrs solid sleep last night) and piss about with his drysuit.

Thanks for heatrash advice, stripped her to 1 layer and it's died right down. Woll get hv to double check it during weighing appointment tomorrow.

Re contraception: if he ever redeems himself and I don't leave him before hand (I'm only part joking...) then it will probably be condoms for us. Miss Matilda is my little pill-accident baby!

Bloody hell Horsey! What a numpty! You don't need to leave kettle to cool anyway! As long as water is above 70 degrees when powder added! It is better to let it cool for 5-10 mins though as less chance of burns or clogging the scoop from the steam! I'd of just given my best death stare! Idiot...! And absolutely it cools quicker the less water! That's why the advice is to put 1 litre of water in kettle and leave no longer than 30 mins to cool! If u put 500ml in it would be leave no longer than 15 mins to cool, surely that is common sense!!!

Oh and if it makes you feel any better, Oscar was born on 2nd centile for weight, 96th for height . He was on 25th at 11 days. His height remains at 96th! I have tall skinny kids... Even though I am not! Both my exs were skinny fuckers til they moved in with me!!!! until their early 20's when fatty gone and got them . Ex dp isn't hugely tall though but my mums side of family is so he does have tall genes! He has always been the tallest in class. He was over the top centile for height. Think his weight was between 75th and 91st. But he is still a skinny twig compared to other children. And yes, he was bottle fed from birth!

Why don't health professionals l

Damn phone! Look at the family and not the figures every time!

The other ones have been brilliant tbh.

I'm not really worried as long as he's on the chart.

Mm - it's early days. You'll cope. Am extra pair of hands is useful but not essential!! You just get on with everything!! People ask how I manage with horses and dogs. I do because I've always had them. So that has always been there, it's no big deal. It can be hard yes, but you get on with it. I guess people with other dc think like this. Life goes on!!

Omg horsey! I'm with detective- she would have been on the receiving end of my best withering death stare. 'Are you aware you need to be sterikising the bottles...?' Well, you'd be a bit fucked if you hadn't noticed that 8 weeks down the line. (Excuse my language!)

horsey words fail me.

I think Js issues are just growth spurt plus post virus snot. He vomited just as I was going out this morning, but I think that was just mucus related. He wakes around 4.30 each morning with a dreadful coughing fit. I think I need to stop feeding him lying down as it is having time to accumulate.

Horsey I'm 99.9% confident I will cope! I've never not coped with any challenge thrown my way. My gripe with him is he expected everything to be done there and then... while he pissed about doing nothing

There you go then :) just keep smiling.

I am obviously meeting all the wiredos this week!!!

Oh the sterilising comment was the best. Along with not leaving with the dogs or sofa and to play music to him.

Do you ever just want to say ' how exactly did you qualify?!'

mm babe....you will be fine. Actually is easier to get into your own Rhythm when you are by yourself and somehow you do manage to get everything done.

It's when they keep deciding to work from home sticks a spanner in the works. Much as I love it when DH is about the house, he messes up the cushion arrangement!

horsey sounds much like my HV, I don't mind advice from someone who is within my age range and/or has kids themselves, when I have someone who's fresh out of nappies asking me 7+ times if I'm happy with bf'ing because D hadn't returned to birth weight!!! Jog on love!!! Not looking forward to our 6-8 week check in January!! Don't get me wrong I'm not down on all HV's - good friend is one and it's her who I'll text/call if I need advice!!

mm why can't your dh go shopping and put the dinner on himself while you see to bubba?? You will more than cope once he is away as you'll find your own routine and not having to worry about cooking/cleaning for dh will be easier!!

Does anyone have a song they sing to their LO? When Dottie was a week old and going nuts in the car while we went to get Tallulah from school I turned the radio up and sang to Bruno mars - I think I wanna marry you - since then when ever she gets stroppy and needs a cuddle we all sing it to her and she calms down - sooooo cute watching ds & dd singing to her!!!

Got some infacol so going to see if that helps settle her down and get her wind up better - for a bf baby she does get lots of wind - is it something I'm eating??? Nothing spicy or unusual!!!

Day out at lakeside tomorrow with a sneaky lunch at yo sushi with the hubster - hope to get everything done then we can hibernate!!!

Ok. So. A contraceptive that doesn't put me in a bad mood, doesn't make me bleed in between periods, doesn't make me put weight on and doesn't require fumbling around before DTD or knowing when the deed is going to happen?

It is.............???

horsey- my HV said the same, make it up as you need it, and wait 30 mins for the water to cool. Err.... But I can't let my baby cry for over 30mins waiting for the milk to get at 70 and then cooling it I just sat their and nodded.
Oh and always add the powder to the water. Not sure why as long as its mixed properly!

A good day today, awake and alert for most of it, and very talkative. I love talking with him. :)

pass- I'm glad your LO is back home, and things are on the up.

Evil

sophia sterilisation. For him or her.

Or becoming a lesbian.

vqROFL

I was thinking about sterilisation. Do you still have periods? You do don't you? Mine were fairly irregular and could be light one month and super heavy the next would I still have those problems after sterilisation?

Reason I ask is I am having my six week check tomorrow and wanted to chat about it.

We DTD, and it was ok, after 10 weeks I had hoped there would be no pain. Dr has but me on a different type of pill and I've put on a ton of weight i just feel hunry all the time, and I forgot a pill yesterday. Why can't I have that implant now? What else can I have?

glenda - I sing to him all the time! It's a great excuse!

My LO is 11,6.
Evil

Olly like Violet Hill, Cold Play. Because Violet is always playing it!

This lady was quite old. About 43 I think (actually about 60 before vq hits me). As I said the first useless one I've met.

evil you add the water first to get the accurate measure of water. It's always slightly over once the powder is added. I guess it's how it mixes initially. Interestingly in kitchens we will not send anything out if it's below 75 degrees so......I tend to use hotter water than cooler. I probably leave it 5/10 minutes before decanting.

Oh I have no idea wrt contraception. The pill was fine, but I had a tough time coming off it. Will speak to the gp when I go. My periods pre ds had only just got regular, but were still very very light (as in lasted a day.

I've still not had a period. Perhaps I should do a test?!!!

Fuck arse fuck arse crap arse fuck

I am such a total moron.

I woke p from a sound sleep to feed her at about 6. She took 60ml straight off which is great. Then she got a bit gringy and I couldn't get the wind up so I thought "I know, I'll try gripe water" Big mistake. I dribble a tiny bit in her mouth, she whines then starts gagging. And yes, at least half of the feed landed down her and me. What a complete fanny.

Then she was utterly beyond herself while I try to bath her blah blah blah. I eventually get her calm, she took a bit more food which made up for the lost stuff and I manage to put her down. Ok. Not so bad. So I start tidying up. I pick up the wee pot of gripe water and just drop it. I just drop it on the carpet . . . So, I am still covered in puke and the carpet smells of bloody dill.

Sigh.

Ah, oh well. I always add the powder first cause I get the powder every where! It easier to get it in a empty bottle than one full of boiling water, and I don't sterilise my fingers

Evil

Personally, I find chuffing reflux the perfect contraception!

Seriously, lat night I thought we might get jiggy but P took so long to settle that by the time I got into bed and DH said semi-hopefully "are you sleeping?" I said "yes!"

Poor soul. He'll have forgotten where to put it.

I think you should add the water first because only then will you get an accurate measurement of water. I measure out 90ml of water but with 3 scoops of formula it looks more like 100ml.

My HV is useless. She only ever talks about pelvic floor exercises.

I bought a food thermometer with DD1, and mixed freshly boiled and ooled boiled water till it was 70 degrees and then added the powder. Cool under the tap and serve - (nearly) instant bottle and mildly no screaming baby.
I think the reason you add the powder to the water is so the ratios are right?

6 week growth spurt in this house. Constant feeding - it's really quite dull!