October babies. Don't get lost

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Thinking of you zara, it's horrible being in hospitwl with baby.
Terrible night here again, waking every hour and only settling with feeding. Getting worse at sleeping not better, she's 10 weeks tomorrow and surely this should be improving. No idea what to do.

mummy Afraid no wisdom here. Try to get rest- growth spurt?

Toddler alert here.

Love love love my children - love starting day to 2 yr old calling ' mummy mummy '

Quick question for you ladies. .. I have very sore - tender to touch - boobs. What is this? Not red (therefore not mastitis?). Could it be a forerunner of first period? Or what?

That's rough zara, really hope all is ok and is resolving post-jabs rash.

livvy how long postnatal are you now? I had a period 8 weeks postnatal (stopped bleeding about 3-4 weeks). It was very light, didn't even need a pad.Didn't have any other symptoms tho.

smileymummy that's really hard Thinking of you... try and get as much rest as possible.

Sis in law had a bit of a meltdown yesterday, she is doing so well but has a 3 wk old and a toddler and had a difficult birth and still has a catheter in... she called me and i went over. Was a bit worried she was unwell initially but she seemed better with some painkillers, tlc, and food. I took toddler out to runaround for an hour i think that helped. She has an appt with uro-gynae today so really hopiung she gets the catheter out.

I got home at about 7pm and went straight to bed. I have a rotten cold/sore throat / cough which just came on all of a sudden yesterday afternoon. Boyfriend has the same. Jess is coughing a bit but otherwise happy, feeding and sleeping as usual.... fingers crossed

ugh think i'm just going to stay in bed today! i feel like shit. hope i get better for my birthday (friday)

How are things this morning Zara?

And Smiley as Lisbeth said it does sound like a growth spurt - exhausting.

Livvy could well be period by sounds of things. I seemed to get mine last week, a week after D&C - it probably 're-set' everything hormonally.

Squid sympathy on the cold :( I've escaped so far this year with being off work and away from snot-laden kids but it's only a matter of time... Bean still coughing poor chick although she doesn't seem bothered in between coughs but does make these hilarious world weary sighs after a coughing fit - the kind of noise you hear adults make when they've just had a big coughing fit :) Just hoping it doesn't affect her 2nd jabs next week.

So I have finally stopped bleeding! Only took 11 weeks... Am revelling in my freedom here too as DH took Bean to see Santa at his workplace for an hour - nice as he missed the thing yesterday. Nice for me too as I was able to wash my hair and take my time about it too. Going to go and have a coffee and croissant and savour the peace :o

Yomping glad you are feeling better. Hope the doctor was nice and understanding. It's a tough time and periods of relaxation when you can get them are very important. (I feel so much for people with twins!! or without partners!!)

Any chance of handing baby to DH for an hour and booking yourself a postnatal massage....? I did that the other week it was INCREDIBLE.

Angelico thanks I am normally immune to colds following a ridiculous respiratory job where I had some version of flu for four months... since then have had about one cold in two years! Blah, I just hope jess doesn't catch it, I believe breastfeeding is some protection for her.

Were you mardy about getting a period!? I was, I was like, hang on, I thought no periods were part of the breastfeeding job description!!
Massive sympathies on the 11 weeks bleeding, that is shit!

Flip me. Been up since 6 and Internet only working now. How to push a new mummy over the edge! I felt lost!! Phew......

Ooh, thought of postnatal massage is lovely... Must be even nicer if you are bf, I found that my shoulders felt like they were going to fall off then.

Didn't manage to get all of us out of house in time for DS to have breakfast at nursery, had to do at home. Defrosting the car is the final nail in terms of getting us out on time.,, bloody weather, also wrapping us all up so we can barely move takes time

squid Years since I heard anyone say 'mardy'! Takes me back...

it's it bad that I'm not constantly entertaining my baby? we have the stokke high chair- expensive, bit the most useful piece of baby kit we've bought so far. anyway, there are times during the day when she's quite independent and will happily just sit in it just gazing around the room for half an hour at a time... so sometimes I just pop off and watch telly for a bit. it's that bad? I feel like I should be chatting to her and stimulating her every second she's awake...

we're still in the same room though...

Hope DS is ok Zara. Have they figured out the problem?

Livvy, preggers?! I never knew I'd be getting a period soon, that's all I need.

Hope you feel better soon Squid. Your SIL is lucky to have you, sounds like you're a great help.

Huffle, no Internet definitely counts as a major crisis.

DS did a 4 hour sleep last night. Bliss. I could get used to this!

He's been a bit grouchy today though. We went Christmas shopping in the city, and he had a major meltdown in one building. I didn't think he was hungry as had fed not long before, but just wanted somewhere to sit to sort ourselves out and maybe feed if nothing else worked. But there was nothing in the whole building, no seats, no baby room, not even a decent size toilet. I was pushing the pram, with loads of shopping and carrying DS, sweating hot and stressing out big time. Ended up feeding him sitting on the stairs. So pissed off.

On the other hand, all the department stores have great baby rooms, with BF cubicles, bottle heaters and sinks for FF, loads of changing tables, toys etc. They even have baby weighing scales. DS weighs 4.8kg

Oh GOD cherry, the same fleeting thought did occur to me. The horror.

DF says he doesn't want any more kids as I wasn't coping with one. He told me at night he was wondering at one point whether he'd have to give up work to look after DD as I wasn't coping. I was stunned that he'd even think about that. I was coping (in that DD was being looked after) but filled with misery and unhappiness. I'm so much better now, even after nights like last night when I had four hours sleep. I think it's because I don't feel so overwhelmed and clueless, and I'm also gradually getting my head round the fact that this is my new life. I still have times when I feel sad that my life, as I previously knew it, is over (like when I heard someone clip into his cycling pedals last night...made e so sad I won't be competitively cycling again for years) but mostly I'm getting on with it, meeting more people and DD is getting more engaging too.

Anyway, sorry for self centred post. Ow my boobs. Tis like little needles in there.

Och Livvy that is big. We do not know how we will cope, the ideal is certainly not reality. I have been shocked by how clueless I feel too. I hav said from day 1 I cannot do this again. We hav told ourselves to stop thinking about it. For now DS is our son and only child and no point thinking about another. I am 35 and usually so organised and in control. I do think this is relevant. You hav had such a majorly hard start, perhaps 2nd time it would not be so alien. I don't know. I think if we were younger and could leave a bigger gap, but the thought of toddler & baby are hideous. I admire anyone on here who does it.

Watch those sore boobs. Don't assume period! Any other symptoms seek advice. Keep check on your own temp. Sorry to be a pessimist!! Just fed up with infections myself!!!

Again, intended to catch up, single reply!!! So much I wanted to respond to...... Laters! X

I blabber too much Livvy. What I was trying to say is I hav had harder start than most. Glad u feeling better and decision to say no more kids seems reasonable. But it is early days.

Hopefully DP sees that too.

Keep up the good work.
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I am 37, huffle, so even less time available. But actually am quite keen on the idea of two. Perhaps because I have such a bond with my sisters, I wouldn't want to deprive her of that. And to not have more cos I can't cope? I'd feel like such a failure. But you are right, toddler plus baby is terrifying. And lots of twins in my family so we could end up with three... Eek.

Really glad things are looking up for you Livvy. I suppose it must have been hard for DH to see you so unlike your usual self, too. Totally agree I things seem brighter now there's more interaction and "reward".
Sorry for the inappropriate joke!

livvy I took a pregnancy test a few weeks ago

I'm sorry you were rattled by what DF said... it is such early days, in the whole life of a child, though. It is pretty hard to be cheery when sleep deprived.
Far too early to think about whether you'd have a second, even if you feel due to age that you couldn't leave it years and years - right now, far too early!

huffle interesting what you say about control, I feel I have managed ok which is maybe because I am naturally quite chaotic Well not to the extent of some people, but certainly tendencies in the opposite direction of OCD. I still found weeks 3-5 REALLY hard though. And I had an easier birth than most.

Cherry that feeling when they are screaming in public is the absolute pits, isn't it!? Even though logically you've heard a baby scream in public loads of times and never cared or noticed.

R there any front facing baby carriers that are praised? We have baby bjorn air. He hates looking at my chest.....! Boring! Not quite old enough bit feel he would prefer looking out. But I've read too much negative press on Bbjorn now. :-(

londonmrss I don't do much entertaining either! That's why I like having visitors who can distract her for a while! I'm never sure what I'm supposed to do when she's awake during the day. I always worry that if she naps too much during the day (going out in the car or in the pram will send her off to sleep) then she won't sleep at night. She has a vibrating bouncy chair and a baby gym mat thing and luckily loves both so I just sort of alternate between the two. Never remember to do tummy time. In between feeds and nappy changes it's pretty much the blind leading the blind... What is everyone else doing?

firsttime I'm ff DS, generally 6-7 bottles of 180ml although not all finished. He is 8 weeks. I'm getting him weighed this afternoon but he was 10-1 a fortnight ago. I was v concerned about over feeding but the hvs have all assured me that this isn't too much. I think the recommended amt is 150-200ml per kg.