October babies. Don't get lost

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what orenishii said zara big un-mumsnetty cuddles for you. It must be so difficult without your DH, how long is it until he gets there?
And the single comment "ooh theres more to come" is enough to make anyones blood boil- smile sweetly and throw the bird at them behind their backs!!! It just makes me want to go "oh FUCK OFF", honestly, if they didn't think we knew that, would we have had children?!?!

yomping had a similar night to you, although not as bad. still fucking tired though. i'm ill too which doesnt help.

poo-maggedon here. I am knee-deep in shit. I almost drowned in it. I've had to throw away one sleep suit, one vest and one towel.

by the way, what nappies do you all use? we use the pampers but I've just bought a trial kit for some reusable ones just to give them a go. I thought it wouldn't be better for the environment because I'd have to do laundry so often, but I seem to do laundry every day now anyway.

Hiya,

Can I join in? I'm a bit late in finding this thread. My DS was born 13 days late on 13th October by emergency c-section.

zara I think smiley put it perfectly. I too wanted to send ds1 back - for longer than 3 months. you are doing just fine in a difficult situation. and those wrinkly idiots are lying, it actually just gets better and easier (with a few hiccups along the way of course! babies are people after all!) so ignore them.

huffle ye gods you're having a hell of a time of it with your business. hope your dh can sort this out in some way for you. big hug.

Sorry. In my rant I read nothing else. Zara I do not thin k you are dangerous or mental. I too had some rage overnight but at least I had DH to yell at. I hope your DH is coming soon?? In the meantime can you possibly speak to MIL and tell her how stressful you are finding this and ask her to be mindful of her comments?? I know it is a big ask but you do seem to get on v well, considering. And she probably blindly has no bloody idea how hurtful she can be. Rant and shout all you can on here and hopefully you have DH soon.

I actually think you are totally brilliant. You travelled halfway round the world when must of us (or maybe just me ) are still struggling with supermarket! You have dealt with a little man literally turning nights upside down, never mind your own body block being on Ireland time. And you had the little man in hospital!!! Holy moly. Girl, you are going great. But do not expect the world if yourself. This is damn hard.

X

Oh God poor peeps, rough nights all round by the sounds of things :( Experimentally didn't swaddle and bean was back to the usual 5 hours (which I know is longer than lots of you had last night!) but stupid cold kept me awake most of the night as I can't take Sudafed / Night Nurse - my usual arsenal of anti-cold medication - because of BFing. Gah. DH taking her tonight.

Zara I don't believe there is one person on this thread who hasn't cursed at / hissed under breath something awful about their baby. Someone made a fortune writing that spoof bedtime book 'Go the fuck to sleep' (or something like that :) ). Crying babies are stressful for anyone but I think being a mum you are so attuned to your baby that the crying is almost physically painful. We've all carried those babies so long and they were literally part of us. Even GPs and DHs are just that step removed that screaming doesn't seem to 'hurt' them as much. On the FFing front does your MIL ever take baby ON so you can get a full night of sleep? Because that is one huge advantage of FF - you can get the odd night off if you want it! :) I'm sure you can't wait for your DH to arrive - then you'll have someone to RL confide in x

Huffle aaaaaaaaagggggggghhhhhhhhh nooooooooo! If your receptionist is leaving anyway and is now being a twat might be better if she goes sooner. What a cow though leaving you in the lurch - not what you need :( Big hug x

October know what you mean about the work thing. I was thinking about going in this week on the last day just to touch base but it's a big drive away and I can't really be arsed getting organised early in the morning. DH is a good political animal and is quite keen for me to go in, keep myself on the radar etc - but I feel like I don't really care at the minute. It was all so full on and important to me when I was there but at the minute still have total baby brain!

Sorry not to NC all but very happy that some of you will be getting to meet up :) Sounds like a lovely idea! Only Huffle and I in NI I think? I've been going to lots of mum and baby things and there are some really nice people around. Am gradually getting to the having lunch / coffee afterwards stage which I think is when you start to get to know people better! :)

Right better go and eat / shower in last sleepy bean moments - have a good day peeps xo

London I use reusables about half of the time. I love them and as she gets bigger I will use them most of the time, I just dont have many in her current size. I beleive it is still better for the environment even with the washing. I wash them at 40 most of the time (60 once in a while) and dry them on the line or on a clothes horse so no tumble drying. I use washable wipes too, as I like to use pure water but cant be arsed with cotton wool.

I am a terrible mother. Thi morning I was cutting DDs nail and I caught the skin on her little finger. She has lost about 100000 pints of blood and she screamed. It was horrible.

We have got to the bottom of the D&V outbreak in our house (no pun intended). It's worms! Oh Joy! I just love being a parent.....

wantan I've done that too and I haven't dared trim her nails since. the problem is that baby clippers are sharp enough to cut flesh but not sharp enough to cut nails! I just keep mittens on her unless I'm interacting with her and can bat her hands away from her face. if I do need to trim one, it sounds gross but I just bite it!

Just had a letter saying that apparently I have underpaid on my pension this year so they will be deducting £130 from my smp for jan feb and march. Fantastic.

Nails: I do cut but mostly use a Leighton Denny crystal nail file! Super soft and smooth and works a treat! DS rubs his face so much, end up trimming about 3 times a week!!

Work: crisis averted. Lovely calm DH talked her down and resolved issues. I cannot cope if she leaves as is only one person there on floor at time. Replacement will need to be trained in tandem before she leaves as knowledge is very specific to job and can only be learned on jon with help. I better get advertising ASAP. How the hell do I book days of job interviews with a BF baby without any daytime routine?

DS is finally sleeping. Bet it is only a catnap tho.

Nappies: we use pampers baby dry now. They seem to seal better around legs so less leaks there but when truly explosive still shoots up his back...... To date I have binned 3 vests and a babygro. Disgraceful, I know. Would like to try Aldi but don't have any here!

Muchly but nicely jealous of proposed swim meet!! Hav not ventured to any mum and baby events as due to my job and business in this town I really would find it so hard to mix. I should really explore what is available in new town we moving to and drive to some groups there. Not good for me to not meet other mums. I do feel so alone at times.

Right, off to check Christmas presents and see what we still need. Really and truly Christmas could fuck the fuck off. I so cannot be bothered. And I know I'm not even getting anything as DH is so busy with his stupid mucked up dad and I've said no, I don't need anything, we are moving, only more stuff to pack. And he really feels guilty but I don't want him wasting time or money in town.

I usually love Christmas!
Christ, I need some cheerful pills today, don't I?

Sorry for the downer, hope u all feeling more positive!
X

smiley I had a similar situation as my boss realised I'd been overpaid for about 8 months and was going to take it back from my mat pay. Spoke to my union rep who wrote a letter to HR gently hinting that this was going to cause undue financial hardship and btw was discrimination as it was a situation that couldn't happen to a male colleague. So now they're going to deduct it at the rate overpaid when I return to work. So might be worth a letter back?

Nails - I make dh cut them while I'm feeding her but have had a go at biting them too, she mostly scratches me now rather than herself!

Are you a GP huffle? You've got me intrigued now!

No Bora. Optician. This poor lot had to listen to a whole lot of problems when I was to start my maternity and Locum cover took ill. You all don't need to hear another load of crap.

Just chilled myself right out by wrapping Christmas presents. I bloody love wrapping Christmas presents. And i am very good at it. They look like something from a posh boutique!! Unlike running a small business while having a baby. Im obviously shite at that. And actually looking after a new baby. Not so perfect at that either.

Think I'll run away and become a professional gift wrapper! Sigh.

On the positive tho, said gifts have only been wrapped as DS has been asleep for 2 hours. I've even sat down and had lunch. Wow.

hi Sams! welcome.

Ah, that makes sense Huffle. I often wonder what my life would be like if I didn't live in big anonymous London. I'm a psychologist so I can imagine my presence at the village Christmas party in some tiny place would not be welcome

Yes Bora, you get it! The thought of whipping my boobs out at the local mums n toddlers to feed my child would cause a tidal wave of gossip fit to reverberate for weeks!!!!! Never mind the social bloody niceties and smiling. I want to just be DS's mummy in a room, not the local optician! I hav been here for a decade and am looking forward to the anonymity of living in a large town!!!!

huffle I know exactly what you mean. Went to baby group last week and someone who I must have seen as a patient started telling me everything that had happened with her medically and socially since I'd last seen her. Wanted to shout that I wasn't there as a bloody dr, just another mum. Sigh.

I totally get it. Just bumping into patients in sainsbury's is bad enough, and I don't usually have my boobs out then

Gah Smiley!!!! How uncomfortable! Yep. I get accosted with symptoms and queries in the street, the supermarket, the park..... And this is only eyes. I cannot imagine what you might be bombarded with! Lol Bora if you DID have your boobs out in Sainsburys you might need to refer yourself to a colleague for some considerable help......... !!

Oh huffle can I join your gift wrapping service? I too am very anal good at wrapping presents and I specialize in odd shaped ones! It's the slight autism that does it and the raging perfectionist side of me. Sounds like a great job!

Zara, I cried when I read your post as I recognise myself in what you said. I get similarly angry and may not have been able to stop myself throwing the muslin. I sometimes pat DD's back too roughly when winding her overnight when she just won't settle . Then I feel absolutely awful. I talked to my HV who put me onto my doctor who gave me a web address with self help books (link upthread somewhere) and I'm finding the Controlling Anger one really useful. The doctor also put me forward for counseling, in fact I have a telephone assessment for that in half an hour, so they can work out how screwed up I actually am what help I need. Please talk to your GP. I feel so much better a week later, after seeing GP. And forgive yourself, you are in a stressful situation and doing the absolute best you can. Love yourself for that. Xx

Normally it's people looking goggle-eyed at DH, I'd hate to have that for DD. because of boundaries we give very little away about ourselves (not being precious, it's just not helpful for patients to know), so they like to have a good gawp in your basket of gin

That's great Yomping. Don't be afraid to be as honest as you can during your telephone assessment, it'll help you get streamed to the right place as quickly as possible.

Is anyone starting to think about losing weight? How much do you have to lose? I've got two shift two stone - AMAZING considering I had hyperemerisis

Yep Yomping! We shall join forces! Tho given my recent employee ishoos let's keep this business small shall we?? I've got boxes and boxes of ribbons and bows- u got lots of ideas????!

Hee Hee

Good luck on that call
X

Bora, I've seen me turn round and leave the off licence when I see who may be in there!! And fall out with DH cos he being silly in public if someone sees.....! Look forward to DS being anonymous in new town too!!!

So now he has fed and sleeping again. Ffs......

On telly is automated robot dairy for cows who 'don't necessarily know what they are doing'. Think I could get one of those to milk me?????