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lisbethsopposite · 08/12/2012 01:11

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lisbethsopposite · 12/12/2012 23:22

Llivvy don't be afraid to go again . It sounds like you have a demanding baby. I've heard mum's comment that no.3 was their hardest. Would you be likely to have 2 toughies? Hmm Paul was easy. Feed and sleep, very little crying.
Also i would recommend you continue whatever childcare arrangements you have for then toddler or at least a few hrs with playgroup .

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squidkid · 13/12/2012 05:14

First night without baby... felt so crap with cold that boyfriend sent me to bed and is sleeping with her in spare room
I know lots of you do this but I haven't slept apart from boyfriend at all, in pregnancy or newborn stage!
So did i enjoy uninterrupted sleep?... no, been waking up to cough and spluter all night, boo. Glad I'm not disturbing them though
My awesome baby sleeps through to 5am, so here i am, expressing off my massive boob! oh the glamour. she'll prob wake shortly.
Got mates over for birthday dinner tonight, just want to inhale steam and sleep! normally not that bothered by colds...
missing my running, didn;t realise how much that helped my mood. yesterday i was all, " i'm a crap mum ", "baby hates me because she's crying", "i'm doing all this exercise and still fat", etc

squidkid · 13/12/2012 05:24

-3 outside this morning... brrr.... don't want to leave the flat!

squidkid · 13/12/2012 06:03

Still awaiting baby... now what? Mum-panic going into overdrive! I haven't seen her since 8pm! What has he done with her? Why hasn't she woken up? Is she crying and is he ignoring her and sleeping through it? Wouldn't I be able to hear that from here? Should I go and wake her up? What sort of idiot wakes up a sleeping baby?

Is it possible she doesn't actually need feeding at 5am every day it's just I'm awake at that time and she's thrashing around so I just feed her because I'm anxious about how long it's been? side point: why am I the sort of loser who goes to bed at 9 and wakes up at 4 or 5, no wonder I have no life if she doesn't actually need feeding at 5 but her thrashing around makes me fret should I put her to sleep in another room? Won't she die of SIDS if I do that?

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Grin
hufflepuffle · 13/12/2012 07:26

I'm thinking other room Squid when we move as I'll be going back to work. But DH says not til he at least 6mths....... He is more a rule followers than me!! Might hav mummy in other room then..... I too used to lift too early due to thrashing. Said thrashing can last 1.5 hrs!!!

DS has his injections at 9.00. He has v v v uncharacteristically woken bloody twice in the bloody night to feed. Not had that since about 4 weeks. I am feckin exhausted. Grrr... Wonder if he knows what is coming?! He is full of bloody wind and it wakes him. Then he thinks he needs fed and wint settle til he is.

Anyone else's baby think waking automatically means feeding?? Will he grow out of this? Particularly annoying for mini daytime naps where might feed, sleep half hr then wake.

Must go get dressed and put face on. No slummy mummy look allowed today!

Londonmrss · 13/12/2012 08:31

haha huffle it's difficult to sympathize when we're still up at least twice and usually more every night! hope jabs are ok.
so... we had sex for the first time last night. it was ok... I guess. it felt different down there. I was a bit paranoid about it maybe hurting so I didn't really let go enough to really enjoy it. I know it still all works because I've had orgasms during other stuff we've done, but I was nowhere near this time. I was really left with the feeling that my body still feels like it's not my own, it's unfamiliar. anyone else feel like this? I hope it passes soon. I want to enjoy my body again. bit depressed about it really.

Zara1984 · 13/12/2012 08:43

october he usually goes twice daily but can easily be one giant one a day. I too was told that as long as they're soft, every 2-3 days is fine!

Poor DS is still all clogged up :( but it's good to be home. Glad they didn't tell me until this morning he got to 39.3... That sounds really high for a little baby? So grateful to amazing doctors.

Midgetm · 13/12/2012 08:45

Running on to all those doubting their ability/desire to have number 2. First al all you are crazy to even think these thoughts so soon. Grin.

I honestly thought having another baby would kill me after my experience with DD. I was in hospital for 2 weeks. So weak I couldn't lift my baby and had a pretty massive blood transfusion after literally making a room look like a scene from Carrie. Anyway. I had number 2 and it was fucking awful too but in a different wayand then said to DH 'never again'. Just a couple of days ago I said to DH ' wouldn't be the end of the world to have 3 (I am in my forties FFS- I'd be like an over bred Staffordshire bull terrier)). Anyway what I am trying I say is we have some kind of Jedi mind tricks played on us about labour. To not repeat the pain, Means also not repeating the wonderful joy the little fuckers bring and joy always triumphs over pain just doesn't feel like it when sleep deprived. oh and cherry taking lecithin daily prevents blocked ducts allegedly - I am taking it now as don't want repeated bastard mastitis and blocked ducts again. Huge waves to all and will catch up properly soon - Christmas has taken me over already and master midge doing an explosive pooh Grin

Midgetm · 13/12/2012 08:46

I got a bit carries away with the strike through there - sleep deprivation and dumbness

Elpis · 13/12/2012 09:04

Please unstrike through those parts of midgetm's message. They are the words of a sane and astute woman.

Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname · 13/12/2012 09:09

Thank you for reassurance - he doesn't seem to have been affected so will stop worrying and find something new to worry about by the end of the day

london it does get better and feel more like it used to. We've been having sex since 3 weeks and has started getting better the past week or so. Still sometimes feels different- not painful but tighter, but generally feels back to pre-baby!

Does anyone else have wonky boobs?

Honeycantthinkofanxmasnickname · 13/12/2012 09:09

I mean from a feedin perspective,
Not just in general!

FirstTimeForEverything · 13/12/2012 09:57

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YompingJo · 13/12/2012 10:15

Mine are a bit wonky anyway but as I am block feeding I regularly have one comedy massive boob.Grin

First evening away from baby tonight. Gulp. Got tickets to see Alan Davies and throw my knickers at him. Have been undecided about going but am being firm with myself. It will do me good and baby will be fine. Can't bear the thought of her needing me for comfort and me not being there, but being rational about it, it's only 3hrs max, I am leaving DH expressed milk to feed her with a syringe or from a cup (bottle feeding not an option as bf still problematic for her) and he can put her in sling or take her for a drive. Even if she does cry for a bit it's not going to do her any long term damage and it's only a one off. Right?

Londonmrss · 13/12/2012 10:36

of course yomping! it's healthy to have the odd few hours apart!
have you tried finger feeding? you tape a tiny tube to your little finger and then they suckle on that- it's the same jaw action as breastfeeding so shouldn't cause any problems. you can get the tubes from a midwife or bf counsellor.

squidkid · 13/12/2012 11:06

I have spent the morning having a meltdown about stupid trivial shit like the fact I feel rough as fuck and have cancelled my best mates (inc jess's godfather) coming over for my birthday tonight. Then I whinged so much about my size/nothing to wear for meal out on saturday boyfriend got fed up and demanded to weigh me, which i hadn't done since 40 weeks, I guess he thought I would be surprised and pleased, but i weighed loads more than either of us thought, still more than 1.5 st over pre-preg weight and only a st less than 40 weeks, which coupled with the daily running i've been doing for 6 weeks now and being super careful what i eat and exclusively breastfeeding, made me cry loads. like a stupid girl.

I know i have no right to be upset about any of this, but can't stpo crying and hate myself. I feel like I have tried so hard and totally failed and will be like this forever. And i hate myself for even caring.

Jess is ill too and is dealing with it much better than me.

hufflepuffle · 13/12/2012 11:19

Right Yomping! Perfectly right! Enjoy yourself, you deserve it!

Jabs fine. 2 big screeches, totally new sound but settled on mummy's shoulder. Then we went out for breakfast!!! Yay!!!! First meal out!!!! Mummy grinning ear to ear over her sausages. I'm sure I looked a bit demented.......

Hope little man has ok day. So far so good post- jabs.

WantAnOrange · 13/12/2012 11:40

Arty slept through the night! Shock

That is all. Grin

hufflepuffle · 13/12/2012 11:53

Yay for night sleepers Cherry & Wantan!!!!! Have I swapped my baby with yours???!!! No seriously, that is great!! May it continue!! And sorry Londonm, I always feel bad commenting on poor sleep when I know it is par for the course for so many. Xmas Blush

We have just had 2 minutes of constant stinky farts follows by explosive poos!!! Honestly, the farts were like a sketch show, they would hav made us a fortune on You've been framed...... But a much much much happier baby!!! Fart away my precious little dude!!!

Cherrychopsticks · 13/12/2012 11:59

Must be something in the air Wantan, DS did too! Congratulations, hope it's a sign of things to come.

Of course it won't Yomping. Have great time, I'm v jealous.

Oh Squid, please don't do this to yourself. I'm sure you look amazing. Treat yourself to some new clothes, even if you don't plan to stay this size. It made me feel so much better. You really don't have to be thinner to look and feel great.
Are you feverish? On the rare occasions I've had a fever, I've also gone a bit...loopy. (Not saying you're loopy of course Grin)

hufflepuffle · 13/12/2012 12:00

Midget thank you for your wise words. Know we are being nobbers talking about DC2 when DC1 barely focussing his eyes........! Lol at over bred staffy.......Shock

First cannot believe you home from hospital so soon!! You are amazing!! Birth similar to mine and I was bed bound with transfusions for 2 days, hospital 5 days total and was completely and utterly weak and pathetic!!!! Do blame a lot on 2 days pre labour without sleep and hours of fruitless pushing, but still........ You make me feel like a woos!! Much praise to you!!!

Cherrychopsticks · 13/12/2012 12:02

If you have Huffle, I'm keeping him! Grin
Hope you enjoyed your breakfast, sounds lovely.

hufflepuffle · 13/12/2012 12:04

Squid don't panic. I'm quite sure you look great. I too am gaining weight again, tho for me I bloody need to. Perhaps we go up in weight again to help us with BF energy stores? Go out and get some new lovely clothes for the interim, you will feel better. My torso is most difference. Old bras were 32. I need 36 for comfort. Find this odd.

Not being flippant but please try not to be too hard on yourself. X

hufflepuffle · 13/12/2012 12:11

Actually DC1 focusses rather well! Follows me round room. Wish I could remember more from vision development at uni, but am intrigued by how well he does seem to see, it is changing so quickly!

londonlivvy · 13/12/2012 12:47

Oh squid. Hugs. Hugs. Hugs. Sounds like your evil cold has really taken your mojo away. You've been such a cheerleader for everyone else and I for one have really needed that, and appreciated it.

On the weight thing, for starters, I wouldn't mind betting that your boobs are bigger, so that accounts for some of it. And I'm told that breastfeeding needs you to have some fat, so folk often can't lose the last amount until they stop breastfeeding. Also, most importantly, your body is doing a terrific job of feeding jess and helping her grow. You are exercising and doing all the right things, so it will come good. This too shall pass.

Perhaps a good film and a snuggle and snooze on the sofa would help? And hopefully you can make like the queen and have an official birthday later.